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The third tilts the tide!

When in friendships two is company and three a crowd…

A small story.
Recently my young cousin shifted into my city to work. She had found a suitable job and her first step into settling herself was to find a place to stay on her own.

Although she stayed with us initially, being independent by nature we knew soon that she would be keen on finding her own place.

Understanding her need for independent living we helped her scout one hostel which seemed all fine except the time and cost of commute as it was a little distant from her place of work.

Soon she realised she was wasting money and time. She started networking with her colleagues and she landed an offer from one.

The girl in question was staying in a tiny non descript place barely enough for two but pretty much close to her office. She asked her to move in with her and share her rent and other expenses. Realising the convenience of proximity to her place of work as she could simply walk to office and the fact that the rent was truly affordable my cousin agreed to shift in.

Being a very careful spender my cousin was all excited. Moreover she was elated in fact that she happily shared how good it would be, to not have to spend so much time travelling as well.

We too were glad she found a place near her workplace and decided to help her shift on a suitable day which happened to be yesterday.

Now life is known to be unpredictable
Between the then and now many things can change. Such is the nature of life and living.
But a young girl coming away from home and hearth with a suitcase full of dreams in her heart would hardly be the one to realise the vagaries of life and living.

It so happened, that after all the eagerness of finally making it to the new home, a rude shock awaited her. The girl who had offered her to share the flat brought in one more colleague to stay. But it wasn’t never discussed mutually between. This gave rise to a lot of tension between them. My cousin felt cheated that there was no transparency in the dealing . Moreover there was no space for the third person in an already cramped room.

Now my cousin was braving tears trying to tell me the whole incident this morning . Although I don’t suspect her tenacity to tackle the situation one bit and find a solution to her problem I couldn’t help but feel sorry for her . My heart reaches out to her as I write this . I wish her God speed in finding the right home for herself in this city.

A few reflections on Life and living

So much about trust issues here
To trust another is about believing
But a belief that must be valued by the one you place your trust one .
Think twice read the signs and place your trust on people carefully.

  • (My cousin decided to vacate her hostel even before the actual date of vacating to save her travel expenses).Sometimes not doing things on an impulse but waiting it out by observing the developing situation and then taking move helps.
  • Life can be challenging moment to moment. So much for erratic development and behaviour changes in a person. But people are different by default and sooner one acknowledge this the better it is.
  • A great lesson in being careful. So before taking things and people for granted no matter how close it makes sense to set certain things straight on record.
  • Living independently at a young age can certainly be challenging but the wisdom is to sense the challenges as they come and be strengthened by it.
  • When I shared this story, there were three new perspectives.
  • Firstly the introduction as the centre line becomes a connecting line that gives shape to the 2 semicircles.
  • Secondly while 2 dots can only make a line the 3rd one can give it varied forms.
  • Thirdly any duel cannot be judged without a 3rd referee.
  • The entry of 3rd person ( child) makes the family complete.
  • All is truly in a shift of perspectives.The 3rd is a PowerPoint. It can balance or tilt the whole to one side.

As for my cousin it is a valuable lesson learnt for a lifetime in hindsight.And I believe she is only stronger by it. Wishing her the best of luck!

Have you had any experience where the third person has changed the course of your friendship?

Do share…

Savvy

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Stay You

On Self Identity

A sense of self

Gives wings to your dreams

A path to your own way

Every life is a unique journey

Others are taken, Stay You

And be on your own way!

#Beyou #SelfConfidence #Lifecoaching #Mentoring #Beyondlabels


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Stay humble

On Humility

Stay humble and grounded
Remember your roots
For they are your strength
To know tough times move on
Leaving you solid in the rooting_
Yet flexible to flow and adapt
Knowing the wisdom of humility.

Savvy


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Stay!

Stay between
the glancing back and gazing forward.
Lessons are learnt from past.
Time teaches us all
Yet look ahead in hope
For life is lived forward not backward.

Savvy

(On equanimity & present moment awareness.)


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Strings of love

 Sharing this  beautiful story that touched a chord in me. 

Mother  is  flying  a  kite. 

Her son is watching her carefully. 
After some time son says “mom. 

Because of the string the kite is not able to go any further higher.
“Hearing this, the mother smiles and breaks the string. 

 The kite goes higher and then shortly after that,  it  comes and falls on the ground. The child is very dejected and sad.

The mother sits next to him and calmly explains: 

“Son, in life we reach a certain level and then we feel that there are certain things that are not letting us grow any further like Home, Family, Friends, Culture etc. 
We feel we want to be  free from those strings which we believe are stopping us from going higher. 
But, remember son.”That our home , family, friends and culture are the things that will help us stay stable at the high heights . 
If we try to break away from those strings our condition will be similar to the kite.”we’ll fall down soon..
*Moral:*

*”Never try to cut  away  from Home  Culture,  Family, Friends  and  Relationships as they help keep us stable while we are flying high…”*
      *Life is Beautiful*

      *Stay connected*

So much truth in these lines 

 

 The bonds of love are there for a reason 

To be nurtured and cherished by its sheer presence .

As to be lovingly supported  is a blessing of grace!

Savvy 


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The Gift of Life 

Had shared this post on social media back in time called The Gift of Life !

Would like to share this message again , as it has personally been a great excercise in Gratitude and contentment besides empowering positivity… 

“When I was a little girl I often have witnessed my dear father see and give great value and acknowledge every little good that is or that happens, however small they may seem to others. It could be a with a gentle word , a tiny appreciation or a little compliment. He taught me one of most important lesson for a lifetime ….to notice, respect and reflect on the good in and around us … and to live positively and think of life always as Plus++++es. 

Savvy 

 Life is beautiful as it is and it is in us to see it so …”  Savvy Raj


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Circle of thoughts: 9

Circle of thoughts 9

A vision a verse by Savvy Raj

http://wp.me/p6a0yZ-1hZ 

Contd…
A task that calls for dedicated discipline

Art of thought  is in the making

To connect itself to its highest potential

To trust the thoughts in the sensing.

Savvy Raj

 This above  digital artwork  Titled ‘Circles of thoughts:9 is a creative interpretation of encircling thoughts, The verses that follow is the ninth  part of my series of micro poems on interconnecting thoughts.  Savvy 



To be contd … 

Related links to read more…

/https://savvyraj.com/circles-of-thoughts/1

/https://savvyraj.com/circle-of-thoughts-2/

https://savvyraj.com/2017/06/03/circle-of-thoughts-3

https://savvyraj.com/2017/06/06/circle-of-thoughts-4/

https://savvyraj.com/2017/06/08/circle-of-thoughts-5/

https://savvyraj.com/2017/06/08/circle-of-thoughts-6/

https://savvyraj.com/2017/06/08/circle-of-thoughts-7/

http://wp.me/p6a0yZ-1hZ

Also published on

https://medium.com/@savvyraj/circle-of-thoughts-91169f939c0b

#Micropoetry 1#tetrastich #visual verses

Circleoflife #wisdom of change#A sense of it all#subtlety of consciousness #inside outside

Artwork by Savvy Raj

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