Grateful for a powerful caption that caught my eye
‘Don’t bite more than you can chew.’
Denotes the wisdom of moderation in life and living. To know a cut off point Is to know where to draw the line between exhaustion and excitement.
Simply taking on more work or responsibility or trying to multitasking beyond your abilities and capacities is self defeating. So only commit to what you truly can deliver . Not less not more. So grateful to have read this many years ago. It struck a deep chord in me and must say I have been trying consistently to practice this advice in lifeand living.
Happy to share this simple yet profoundly impactful learning.
“Sometimes we’re fractured by the choices we make; sometimes we’re shattered by things we would never have chosen. But our brokenness is also the source of our common humanity, the basis for our shared search for comfort, meaning, and healing. Our shared vulnerability and imperfection nurtures and sustains our capacity for compassion.” — Bryan Stevenson
There is something touchingly tender in every instance of humanity in action be it in thoughts words or deeds.
Our humanity makes us touch the true purpose of our being alive .
Blending in If you visit a new place as a tourist Would you prefer to blend in Such that you are almost invisible… Or would you be someone Who would prefer to be noticed, For your differences And draw attention of others
Being able to blend in can often be a blessing in disguise. As you look like you have been there and are aware of their ways of life. You don’t stick out like a sore thumb. Or behave as if you are out of place. You tend to draw less attention perhaps, but there in is your safety in new locales. You are adaptable and accepting of the new culture. For some it’s really easy For some it’s truly difficult For they are by nature noticeable Whether they like it or not!
What is your take on this… Have you ever tried to blend in or stand out from the crowd
How has your experiences of traveling been so far ? Do share.
When progress is a possibility Perfection is a fleeting moment. An idealistic illusion perhaps of what’s in the offing. There is always scope for more For no one can be perfect all the time and in everything. Growth is about progress, not perfection. As perfection is constricting, Whereas progress is liberating. Perfection may be sensed and applauded every once in a while. But it is progress which gives a confidence through continuous improvement.
True sense of balance is achieved. In aiming for perfection, but in realizing it is an unending journey of progress. In knowing while there is always more without discounting achievements.
Perfection of any kind is like the tight rope walking performer The mere fraction of second when moments seem perfectly orchestrated with no lose of Balance Glimpses of perfection are points of motivation And progress is about a never-ending journey of improvements For life goes on…
Change management is an important component of life skills. Often loneliness is felt at different phases of life Overcome the fear of being alone. Life teaches many challenging lessons. But most of all know that nothing is permanent Change is the order of nature And if you ever find yourself at crossroads feeling deserted lonely or lost without any loved one , fear not, as there are many who may be feeling so amidst company. Develop hobbies and a sense of purpose that you are passionate about. And you will never feel alone a single moment in your life .
2 Art of patience: Everything has a time and reason. Like nature teaches us time and time again, nothing can be hurried without a repercussion. And all comes in course of time.
Cultivating Patience is the key to mastering burden of procarasitation by others.
3 Letting go . Let past go and do not dwell on it. Work to balance the holding back & the letting go with discretion and discernment.
4 Managing Expectations The world does not owe you anything infact you owe it much.Managing people’s expectations and your own requires some clear boundary setting by you for your own sanity. Dont expect immediate results and ease up to master expectations.
5 People Management
All cannot be pleased by you and neither should you try pleasing all. Managing Self involves learning to say no when you feel it deeply. You cannot live a life pleasing others . Putting your health and self care on priority is a duty to the life within you. You have every right to be happy and healthy. Self care is never a selfish act.
6 Self Control & Self Discipline
Both help and aid you to progress towards Self control than to control all around you. You may not be able to control everything and every one’s behavior. But remember you are completely in charge of your own behavior.
7 Empathy :
Empathise with your problems but there is no need to over sympathize and feel sorry for your yourself. Accept that you may have emotionally weak moments which may drain you but know it moves on. So you dont need to stay there in your thoughts hurting yourself. You may feel and go through bouts of tears envy anger jealousy and they can be at times to heal you through or counter productive for you depending on the intensity but these self pitying moments in your thoughts come as you are only human, but you have free will and intention on your side and it is duty and right, for you owe to yourself to let these go as they came and not drown yourself with these thoughts. So pull out yourself out of the down spiralling thought road.
8 Responsibility :
Being responsible includes making an effort to finish work entrusted in a timely manner as well as in an efficient manner. Strive to improve your potential. Know where, why, when, how and for what to use your own personal energy and strengthen yourself engaging and involving in worthwhile company and causes.
9 Moderation :
Moderation in behaviour Your thoughts result in actions Strive to cultivate a balanced approach in extreme circumstances which may seem truly challenging. Express your opinions tactfully address the situation mindfully & he(artfully) as you integrate the wisdom of the heart and mind conciousness.
Life is different for each of us. So move ahead knowing that every day challenges come for a reason that is best not revealed now . Have faith hope belief and trust in your being. There is always a reason why things happen the way they do . Do not give up hope in your failures as they are harbringers of hope and wisdom to create a more evolved you.
Remember every failure is a step to chisel and sculpt away to a better you.And most of all make your life worth living.
Silence reveals the truths in time Silence speaks volumes without a word Silence is the recovery period between two breaths Silence dwells in every moment waiting for acknowledgement. Silence ensures the moments of discernment when emotions rule. Silence hears the unspoken words and feels the unexpressed thoughts. Silence hones the wisdom within Respect the freedom of silence as much as the freedom for expression.
If we walk on a thorn slipper , however soft the pathway be, we will be in pain. Neither we nor the path or surroundings , only the thorns are the reason for our pain which do not let us enjoy the other beauties of journey.
The negativity in our mind are like thorny slippers. If we have negativity in our mind , whatever be the situation, the accumulated negativity will not let us enjoy & will make our life miserable for both us & others surrounding us.
Our mind has a habit of searching and storing such negativities, making a strong imprint in the brain. To come out of it is entirely on individual’s efforts . Our thorny thoughts & the chain of memories it brings along has to be cut off by our intentional effort to remember the pleasant & positive thoughts that gives us joy.
Momentary change is also the capability of the mind if we intend. After all everything is transient in this life. Pleasure or pain, how long it will last is not in our hands. But the effort to make each moment happy is something we can try.
Spoken words and harsh actions cannot be taken back. We have to be careful with the words we utter. Do not get carried away by the momentary emotion which will make us regret later.
Peace is what everyone seeks. Sound will not come with one hand. No one is without fault. The sadness is everyone of us thinks we are perfect and others are faulty. There lies the problem.
Another way is putting ourselves in other’s places & think what I would have done in such situation. May be we may have behaved worst.
Letting go of the past should be a continuous process. If we want peace, mere knowledge is not enough, consistent practice is necessary.
If our vision is not clear the fault is not in the eyes or the visuals. Just cleaning the accumulated dirt on the glass will make everything clear. Start cleaning the tarnished memories.
Remove the spiky slippers, cut off the horns , fangs and claws that troubles you . Bring out the positivity and the goodness in you.
No one to be blamed. Destiny sometimes puts us in hard situations without our faults. But That too will pass in its own time.
Patience & faith are the need of the hour. Compassion & kindness we give ,will come back to us when we need them.
Some times as you read you pause in reflection, to ponder over the memories and to sense the meaning just one more time …
Here is one such read …
There are perhaps no days of our childhood that we lived as fully as the days we think we left behind without living at all: the days we spent with a favourite book. Everything that filled others’ days, so it seems, but that we avoided as vulgar impediments to a sacred pleasure — the game for whose sake a friend came looking for us right at the most interesting paragraph; the bothersome bee or sunbeam that forced us to look up from the book, or change position; the treats we had been forced to bring along but that we left untouched on the bench next to us while above our head the sun grew weaker in the blue sky; the dinner we had to go home for, during which we had no thought except to escape upstairs and finish, as soon as we were done, the interrupted chapter — our reading should have kept us from perceiving all that as anything other than obtrusive demands, but on the contrary, it has graven into us such happy memories of these things (memories much more valuable to us now than what we were reading with such passion at the time) that if, today, we happen to leaf through the pages of these books of the past, it is only because they are the sole calendars we have left of those bygone days, and we turn their pages in the hope of seeing reflected there the houses and lakes which are no more.