Savvy Raj

Live Life Lovingly!


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Gift of this now

This now is full of infinite possibilities

For every day is replete with potential

Whatever the path you take

Your life’s moments are a gift

You are meant to sense

So care to take a moment

To acknowledge the gifts

Of this moment as it is

See how everything connects

To every thing else.

And if you truly wish

You can create more moments

Of joy and light in & around u

Start simply by a practice

Of acknowledging this moment in this now..

Make today count!

Savvy


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Happy Women’s Day

Stories from Life and Living

In this series I share stories that are thought provoking, inspiring, motivational or touching our lives in some way or the other.

Better late than never

My mom had a lot of problems. She did not sleep and she felt exhausted. She was irritable, grumpy, and bitter. She was always sick, until one day, suddenly, she changed.

The situation was the same, but she was different.

One day my dad said to her:

– I’ve been looking for a job for three months and I haven’t found anything, I’m going to have a few beers with friends.

My mom replied:
– It’s okay.

My brother said to her:
– Mom, I’m doing poorly in all subjects at the University …

My mom replied:
– Okay, you will recover, and if you don’t, well, you repeat the semester, but you pay the tuition.

My sister said to her:
– Mom, I hit the car.

My mom replied:
– Okay daughter, take it to the workshop, find how to pay and while they fix it, get around by bus or subway.

Her daughter-in-law said to her:
– Mother-in-law, I come to spend a few months with you.

My mom replied:
– Okay, settle in the living room couch and look for some blankets in the closet.

All of us at my mom’s house gathered worried to see these reactions.

We suspected that she had gone to the doctor and that she was prescribe some pills of “I don’t give a damn about 1000 mg.”

She would probably also be ingesting an overdose.

We then proposed to do an “intervention” to my mother to remove her from any possible addiction she had towards some anti-tantrum medication.

But what was not the surprise, when we all gathered around her and my mom explained:

“It took me a long time to realize that each person is responsible for their life, it took me years to discover that my anguish, my mortification, my depression, my courage, my insomnia and my stress, did not solve their problems but aggravated mine.

I am not responsible for the actions of others, but I am responsible for the reactions I express to that.

Therefore, I came to the conclusion that my duty to myself is to remain calm and let each one solve what corresponds to them.

I have taken courses in yoga, meditation, miracles, human development, mental hygiene, vibration and neurolinguistic programming, and in all of them, I found a common denominator: finally they all lead to the same point.

And, it is that I can only interfere with myself, you have all the necessary resources to solve your own lives.

I can only give you my advice if you ask me and it depends on you to follow it or not.

So, from now on, I cease to be: the receptacle of your responsibilities, the sack of your guilt, the laundress of your remorse, the advocate of your faults, the wall of your lamentations, the depositary of your duties, who should solve your problems or spare a tire every time to fulfill your responsibilities.
From now on, I declare all independent and self-sufficient adults.

Everyone at my mom’s house was speechless.

From that day on, the family began to function better, because everyone in the house knows exactly what it is that they need to do.

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A HAPPY WOMAN!!( pls feel free to share)


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On thankfulness

Feeling thankful is an authentic part of being alive.

Every life has something to be thankful for

What is in your list?

There is so much more to thankfulness

Your mind body and spirit

Are integrated in the emotions

Your life becomes more abundant

Your health improves along the way

For you hold not expression or suppress feelings

You appreciate what needs to be appreciated

You create circles of light hope and joy in thankfulness.

Make sure to add yourself in your list of thankfulness.

And watch thankfulness transform your world and you.

Savvy


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On listening

There is the power of sounds
Discovered in Silence
In meditative stillness
In contemplative introspection
In expansiveness  of understanding
In the depth of listening
There is then  the power of words
Of vision in the verses
Or expressions of the uniqueness
All mere vibrations in resonance.

Thank you for the depth of your empathic listening.

Savvy


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Worth cultivating…

A skill is only a rumor until it becomes a muscle memory

But beyond the skills we choose to cultivate in life…

There are certainly abilities worth cultivating for a lifetime.

Ability to see the good in life.

Ability to respect the people for who they are.

Ability to acknowledge diversity of thoughts and opinions.

Ability to coexist in peace and harmony.

Ability to generate goodwill whenever we can.

Ability to laugh and bring humor in conversations.

Ability to dance in the rain

As much as move with a  lightness of being.

We all have the ability to live life lovingly

All it needs is embodying in our lives.

Savvy


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On togetherness

Hand in hand

We walked

Sometimes me ahead of you

At times you ahead of me

Hands held together

No matter the test of time

Two hands of two hearts

Still together as one.

Savvy


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The way ahead

In every now

Is a choice

To enhance life

Within and around you

Whatever path you take

But how you live your life

What you feel in the living

What you choose to notice

What you are listening

And what you understand

From it all defines the now

And charts the way ahead.

Savvy


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When Art Speaks…

Allowing the art to speak and acknowledging its flow is of essence, to sense and enjoy the art itself.

Learning to dance & dancing socially comes along with many lessons and learnings…

In any partner dancing its important to respond than simply react to the movement direction from the partner in the flow.

The cultivation of the ability of any dancers acknowledgement & appreciation of their dance partner or other dancers, differences in movement speed or artistry not merely as tolerable, brings on the required humility and grace in the dance.

This is in itself the essence of a rich and rewarding social dancing experience.

Savvy


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Taking a decision

Decision is often the difference between greatness and mediocrity. In every man’s life there comes a time when he must search for a cause, a work, an ideal to which he can give himself. Whether he says ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ to the challenge will determine his future.”

Wilferd Peterson

Taking any difficult decision

Without sitting on the fence

Is not always easy

For it may take all of you

More than what you are ready to commit at times

And yet its liberating

Once you have a decision made

For there is clarity in thoughts

To set things in motion

Leading you to your purpose.

Savvy


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On Leadership

Succinctly expressed simple truth of life and living…

Do your best and live life with conscientiously.

You will be valued for who you are.

Savvy


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Power of Belief

It all begins with belief

In believing you can

And that there is always hope

For the better in every way

For it takes you places

And makes things happen

Such is the power of belief

Profound and precious

Every move in self-belief

Allows you to get closer

To the truth of you!

Savvy


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What’s going to matter?

What’s going to  Matter
Is the way we use our skills
Each of us is uniquely  blessed
But how we choose to be
Is in our hands
Skills are just tools
But your emotions  and thoughts can alter life
Let it guide you to do better
Transform your attitude  to life and  living
Life evolves for the better.

Savvy


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On Freedom

On Freedom

Freedom is being able to be all of you

But remembering the rights

Of other lives to be all of them

When we understand…

Our Freedom ends where another’s freedom begins.

So then

How free do you feel in this now

How important is freedom to you?

Can you sense your life flowing

Or is there restraints that bound you

Can you express yourself without hesitation?

Can you speak your mind without fear?

Can you write without worrying if the words may reveal your nature?

Can you walk alone without a care where you live?

Can you wear what you want without fear of ridicule?

Can you dance the way your spirit moves you?

In short

Can you flow in harmony with the spirit in you?

If you have answered more yes than no then consider yourself closer to being truly free.

Freedom is not for giving

Freedom is there for taking

Freedom is being you

As you truly are

Freedom is living

Without facades.

Wherever you sense

You are most you.

Now…

How free are you feeling

In this now?

Savvy


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Wisdom of life & living

Grateful  for a powerful caption that caught my eye

Don’t bite more than you can chew.’


Denotes the wisdom of  moderation in life and living. To know a cut off point
Is to know where to draw the line between  exhaustion  and excitement.

Simply taking on more work or responsibility  or trying  to multitasking beyond  your abilities and capacities is self defeating.
So only commit to what you truly can deliver .
Not less not more.
So grateful to have read this many years ago. It struck a deep chord in me and must say I  have been trying consistently to  practice this advice in lifeand living.


Happy to share this simple yet profoundly impactful learning.

Savvy


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Self Management

10 Life Skills that you need to master.

1. Managing Changes

Change management is an important component of life skills. Often loneliness is felt at different phases of life
Overcome the fear of being alone. Life teaches many challenging lessons. But most of all know that nothing is permanent Change is the order of nature And if you ever find yourself at crossroads feeling deserted lonely or lost without any loved one , fear not, as there are many who may be feeling so amidst company.
Develop hobbies and a sense of purpose that you are passionate about. And you will never feel alone a single moment in your life .

2 Art of patience:
Everything has a time and reason. Like nature teaches us time and time again, nothing can be hurried without a repercussion. And all comes in course of time.

Cultivating Patience is the key to mastering burden of procarasitation by others.

3 Letting go . Let past go and do not dwell on it. Work to balance the holding back & the letting go with discretion and discernment.

4 Managing Expectations
The world does not owe you anything infact you owe it much.Managing people’s expectations  and your own  requires some clear boundary setting by you for your own sanity. Dont expect immediate results and ease up to master expectations.

5 People Management

All cannot be pleased by you and neither should you try pleasing all. Managing Self involves learning to say no when you feel it deeply. You cannot live a life pleasing others . Putting your health and self care on priority is a duty to the life within you. You have every right to be happy and healthy. Self care is never a selfish act.

6 Self Control & Self Discipline

Both help and aid you to progress towards Self control than to control all around you. You may not be able to control everything and every one’s behavior. But remember you are completely in charge of your own behavior.

7 Empathy :

Empathise with your problems but there is no need to over sympathize and feel sorry for your yourself. Accept that you may have emotionally weak moments which may drain you but know it moves on. So you dont need to stay there in your thoughts hurting yourself.
You may feel and go through bouts of tears envy anger jealousy and they can be at times to heal you through or counter productive for you depending on the intensity but these self pitying moments in your thoughts come as you are only human, but you have free will and intention on your side and it is duty and right, for you owe to yourself to let these go as they came and not drown yourself with these thoughts. So pull out yourself out of the down spiralling thought road.

8 Responsibility :

Being responsible includes making an effort to finish work entrusted in a timely manner as well as in an efficient manner. Strive to improve your potential. Know where, why, when, how and for what to use your own personal energy and strengthen yourself engaging and involving in worthwhile company and causes.

9 Moderation :

Moderation in behaviour
Your thoughts result in actions
Strive to cultivate a balanced approach in extreme circumstances which may seem truly challenging.
Express your opinions tactfully address the situation mindfully & he(artfully) as you integrate the wisdom of the heart and mind conciousness.

10 Resilience

Life is different for each of us. So move ahead knowing that every day challenges come for a reason that is best not revealed now . Have faith hope belief and trust in your being. There is always a reason why things happen the way they do . Do not give up hope in your failures as they are harbringers of hope and wisdom to create a more evolved you.


Remember every failure is a step to chisel and sculpt away to a better you.And most of all make your life worth living.

Savvy