Many times in our lives, many of us are at times challenged and confounded by these moments, that I would prefer to call ‘ What if ‘moments. Like for instance ‘if only I had done this , if only I had said that, if only I had the sense to think this way and so on and so forth!!!
The main reason I feel these feelings occur is that when we are faced with a trying situation for e.g. sometimes some of us buckle under the pressure, maybe to conform with the norm or worry about what is the ideal way to behave that we don’t focus on what is necessary for the moment and fail to capitalize on our strengths.
A few of us feel threatened enough to attack the offender or be brutal enough verbally or physically and regret later about our lack of discretion and control.
Still others who are so numbed by what is happening end up being dumbfounded that they don’t know what struck them… And there are those who are quite indifferent to the situation so much that you wonder if they are human at all only to realise later that there is an emotionally charged outburst long after the stressful event.
Basically when one is feeling pressured or during extreme stress of a new situation with a feeling of being pushed to a wall , we need to be aware of it , but the force of what is coming must be cleverly deflected from our path and neutralised.
If only this learning is valued, taught and applied many of us will be much happier souls. This means we must learn to be present in the moment, for which we first need to develop a keen sense of balance and control in all areas of our life. In thoughts words and deeds. This in itself is a powerful tool to calm a person enough to handle any so called crisis. When we are in a state of balance we are clearer in what we want and our existing resources.
This opens up possibilities of channelling the strengths of our resources positively to the common good of all.
Daily we could simply strive to imbibe at least some of these in our lives…..
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To reduce our impulsive reactions
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To balance our needs and expectations
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To conquer our ego but value ourselves.
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To focus on the present moment
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To cleanse the mind by thought awareness
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To cleanse the body by healing movements
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To learn to be patient and develop perseverance
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To understand the importance of
equanimity and composure
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To control anger and other sensory indulgences
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To be kind, generous, open minded and tolerant
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To believe in equality
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To conquer our unnecessary fears and inhibitions
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To live our lives lovingly, completely being in every moment of it without passing it up for another time!
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To develop a sense of respect for self and equally respect another.
Finally to be grateful for all that we have at this moment…
When we have the grace of gratefulness we will possibly be more balanced and composed to deal with situations wisely and life’s moments will turn to be positively enriching experiences.
Savvy Raj
