Savvy Raj

Live Life Lovingly!


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Embody Love

A personal mantra…

Live the life you love and love the life you live!

What happens to you when you embody love…

You realise your self worth in awareness

You start to give and receive in gratitude

You gradually become a kinder human being…

Your actions gradually turn compassionate.

Your respect for life increases leaps and bound.

You value the power of love in life at large.

You begin to see the larger picture

You know you are born for a purpose.

Your movements become life affirming

Your positivity spreads beyond yourself

You begin to generate joy and thrive in goodwill and gratitude.

You begin to see the meaning in celebrating life and living in the now.

Savvy

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Gift of Listening

Giving your attention without fear or favour and caring to understand what another is saying, before responding says a lot about the person who is listening…

Here is a true incident…

Viktor Frankl, one of the great psychiatrists of the twentieth century, survived the death camps of Nazi Germany. His little book, Man’s Search for Meaning , is one of those life-changing books that everyone should read.

Frankl once told the story of a woman who called him in the middle of the night to calmly inform him she was about to commit suicide. Frankl kept her on the phone and talked her through her depression, giving her reason after reason to carry on living. Finally she promised she would not take her life, and she kept her word.

When they later met, Frankl asked which reason had persuaded her to live?
“None of them”, she told him.
What then influenced her to go on living, he pressed?
Her answer was simple, it was Frankl’s WILLINGNESS TO LISTEN to HER in the MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT.

A world in which there was SOMEONE ready to listen to another’s pain seemed to her a world in which it was worthwhile to live.

Often, it is not the brilliant argument that makes the difference. Sometimes the small act of LISTENING is the GREATEST GIFT we can GIVE.

How can we choose to listen well?

What are the barriers to effective listening? How can we improve our listening abilities.

A few issues in listening well….or what is called Ineffective listening.

Distraction caused by the difference between speaking and thinking speeds in humans. So if the speaker speaks too slowly or too fast, the listeners may lose the plot.

At times the appearance or personality quirks or the environment changes can create distractions.

Distraction also causes the listener to show a lack of interest through body language like in posture of loss of eye contact.

Overcoming distractions requires keeness to improve and interest in personal development as much as a sense of commitment to the task at hand.

Here are a 5 tips for improving listening skills.

1. Restating . Pay full attention so as to be able to restate or paraphrase in your own words every once in a while, what it is that you have heard so as to make the speaker feel listened to.

2 Prompting . Use short and positive prompts by interjecting them in the pauses … to show interest like .. And then ? So ?or I know…

3.Validating .Express your empathy . Show that you understand what another is saying or going through. Acknowledge the issues faced by another or the feelings as they are speaking. It shows you are sincere in your concern.

4.Pausing . Allow for some gaps in the conversation.. it helps buy time to think for both the speaker and the listener . As it helps process the information. Silences are great tools to let go the unnecessary gibberish and loose-ended talks which may be counter- productive.

5.Shifting . Redirecting a speaker when needed by shifting the topic gradually changes the tone of the discussion which can at times get too aggressive or violent for comfort.

There are so many ways that develops the GIFT OF LISTENING .

Have also found that in practise, the art of listening well involves all of our senses.

After all the art of a great conversation lies in the ability to listen keenly and respond well than simply react.

Savvy

Personally speaking I have often been a good listener… yet I must confess that there are a few close friends to whom I have spoken who are such great listeners that they put me at ease.

It is truly wonderful to be listened to as much as to listen. There is so much healing in the listening as much as in the sharing. I take this opportunity to thank those friends and readers who cared to give me a listening ear and time.🙏


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Gentle is the Way!

Walk as if you are kissing the earth with your feet. THICH NHAT HANH

Words of wisdom from the gentle soul!!!

Gentle is the Way

Yes you are born into this world

But how must you be

Now that you are a part of it?

Your time is preordained.

Yet your destiny is in your being

So be kind and gentle with this world

And be the gift that you are meant to be.

Your gifts are in awakening your senses

So be in harmony with the living you

Flow with the now and just be

To receive what this moment offers you.

Tread carefully, hurt no one

To feel the flow of grace in and around you

Yes, Gentle is the way!

Savvy


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Dawn after the dusk

Kindness and compassion are way beyond words.

It is the conversation of souls.
A consoling touch, a supporting hug,
An unconceited hand of help,
A heartfelt look to show that ” I’m here for you”
Can heal a hurt.

It has the magical power to convert
The curve of the mouth upwards.
To strengthen the heart ,

To induce the power to fight back,
To erase the dark clouds of the mind,
To view hope in the horizon,
To see the brilliance of happiness shine again.

Tomorrow is Another Day.
Another step to move forward.
There is dawn after every dusk.

Anjana

Tommorow is Another Day indeed!

This is a reflection that came my way as a response from my dear mother after reading my yesterday’s post on Power of the Human Spirit.

I simply had to share… the power of hope.


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Building peace

My recent poem ‘The Middle Path of Peace‘ evoked many responses. The following verses are my musings to a comment … Especially the one by a reader on the necessity of war.

I propose here a moment in peace

Through the following verses…

Hate is never meaningful, love is

War is never meaningful, peace is.

To confuse war to be the answer for peace
Is the greatest fallacy of mankind
For the war never truly ends once begun
It sprouts the seeds of hate before it is over.

Yes there are wars fought
When equality and freedom is forfeited
As a privilege of a few
When oppression and chaos reign
When pushed beyond resilience
When backing down is not an option
For it is then a matter of self preservation and survival.

To confuse victory in war
Is the mark of inexperience
No war comes away unscathed
Casualties are a heavy price to pay
Let alone the truth of anguish and scars
Wars are never the answer.

Pain and hurt leaves the vengence behind
And revenge brews in spurts to
to strike someday

The heart of man is like a sponge
Ready to absorb that which flows
Allow the light of love to flow in
Let thoughts of peace seep in
Through every vein.

For love heals the hurt and pain
And empathy helps move beyond revenge
Make an Art of life and living
For War is just a never ending tragedy.

Wars are fought for business sadly

There are no ethics to war.

To fight is not bravery.

True bravery is in finding a way

To avert the war & build peace.

Savvy

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Nature of nature

The nature of nature…

Nature is full of vibration.

Never truly silent

For it is alive with pure energy.

Always a wise companion.

In moments that you need

Some respite and understanding.

Its very nature shows the way.

Seek nature to energize your being.

Seek its freshness of spirit

When the world gets too weary

Every once in a while.

Nature never competes.

It is never in a hurry.

Nature never rushes you

It continues on its path

As it seems meant to!

Allow your own nature

to blend with the bliss of nature.

Sense its synchrony

Envision its endurance

Marvel its magnificence

Wonder at its wisdom

Connect with its composure

Understand its inate balance.

In itself by itself with itself .

In and around you.

Know you are nature

And nature is you.

Ultimate Oneness in the diversity

Such is the nature of nature.

Savvy


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On usefulness

The search for meaning

Is never in vain

There is always a meaning

To life and living.

One or a million reflections

May be more

At times can lead

To a miracle in the making.

One or a million drafts

May lead us to a perfect design

One or a million words

May be more…

Can bring on the inner genius

One or a million works of art

May be more…

Delivers a masterstroke.

Each step is of value

And somehow significant

To some one somewhere

As much as…

To the utimate whole!.

If something seems to be useless to one person, there is always a possibility of so many who may find it useful.

Savvy

Often profound meaning arrives from the most mundane and the so called ordinary moments in life and living. For the truth is out in the open but our overworked brain often misses these simple truths for it chooses to search for meaning in the complexities. But what is wonderful to know is that all is never lost… for every step makes a difference matters to the whole some how somwhere.