Life as a couple
Has its own challenges
Yet what matters is trust
In a loving relationship.
Trust that makes you feel safe
That makes you sense security
And value for being you.
To be heard, & loved as you are.
Often expectations from one partner
To toe the line and accept everything
Brings in uncomfortable silences
Or unwanted arguments and conflicts
Breaking a relationship gradually.
Perhaps it is about negligence
Or lack of consideration & care
Perhaps it’s about lack of empathy
Or even inequality that creates a gap
That widens in time and cracks
The strongest of partners.
Compromise or need
May keep them staying together
Just existing not living a life.
The show goes on…
Until it one day becomes unbearable.
And the inevitable truth tumbles.
These words above are deeply interlinked in the flow of thoughts that arose after I read a translation by my mother from a Tamil quote forwarded on Social media.
Interesting to note it is from a divorced husband after 10 years of realization.
‘Don’t show your pride before your wife.
She came to you just believing in you
Not your relatives.
My property
My earnings
My will
Then who is she?
What is the meaning of her life with you?
Can’t she have her dreams, her desires, to be fulfilled with you?
On reading this message
Something more rankled my mind
The question of expectations
To be fulfilled by the partner.
It’s never about needs
Being fulfilled by the other
But with one another.
In todays world
It’s about finding time
To be present in the now
With one another.
How many agree?
Savvy
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