a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance.
“he needed a boost to his ego”
the part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity.
PHILOSOPHY
(in metaphysics) a conscious thinking subject.
A few musings…
Ego & the Dance of Buoyancy
In the case of a human being
The ego is a dance of buoyancy
In the weight of thoughts words & deeds
The being is able to function optimally.
As long as the effect is balanced all is well.
If there is too much flutter
Its perhaps the behavior is creating a stir…
In every human interaction
A discomfort or a delight, talks of ego at play.
Is the ego that is overwhelming
An ego that is self sustaining?
Or is it Self destructing?
All depends on the movements
The trick is to continually balance oneself to stay afloat
Ego is both a boon & the bane of life.
If it is too less life becomes unobservable
If it is too much life becomes unbearable
Life is a dance of buoyancy
Of balancing the ego at play
Every thing has a reason to be.
Dance is one of the most revealing forms of expression. Body never lies. Movements unmask the truth within. And that is precisely the way it heals you.
Healing Art of Expression.
Self awareness through self-expression articulates the suppressed emotions. It unravels the depths of your being. Dancing can lift you from where you are and transform your heart and mind to seeing beyond the bare visible. It reflects the profound truths within. Dancing awakens the spirit of life.
Movements matter...
Often it is the neglect and disconnect with our body, as we grow that alienates us from ourselves.
Dancing works to stay aligned body mind and spirit. It is one of easiest, practical and effective ways to connect with oneself.
Dancing regularly alleviates stress anxiety disease and depression. Dance integrates and invigorates every cell in the body and consistency is the key to great health and happiness.
Movements matter.
When you dance you sense who you are.
Savvy
Personally in my life, my way to deal with lifes challenges has been with movements ranging from walking to dancing.
Post a good walk or a dance session most of our so called brewing unrest in the mind and body settles down.
Our body provides us tools through movements for self expression but it needs sustaining and support.
Our body needs acknowledging acceptance, respect recognition recovery and regeneration time as much as stimulation and activity.
Dancing movements presents itself in many forms and every form has an advantage worth exploring.
Do you love to dance?
What kind of dance is your kind of dance?
Do you feel different after dancing?
How so?
Have you experienced mood changes post dancing ?
Are you ready to dance at any given moment?
Do you need to have a particular music or a partner to get up and dance ?
1. Intelligence Quotient (IQ): this is the measure of your comprehension ability”, solve maths; memorize things and recall subject matters.
2. Emotional Quotient (EQ): this is the measure of your ability to maintain peace with others; keep to time; be responsible; be honest; respect boundaries; be humble, genuine and considerate.
3. Social Quotient (SQ):
This is the measure of your ability to build a network of friends and maintain it over a long period of time.
People that have higher EQ and SQ tend to go farther in life than those with high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Most schools capitalize in improving IQ level while EQ and SQ are played down.
An individual with high IQ can end up being employed by a person with high EQ and SQ even though the person has an average IQ.
Your EQ represents your character; your SQ represents your charisma. Give in to habits that will improve these three Qs but more especially your EQ and SQ.
EQ and SQ make one manage better than the other.
Pls don’t teach children only to have higher IQ , but also to have higher EQ and SQ.
Now there is a 4th one :
A new paradigm
4. The Adversity Quotient (AQ):
The measure of your ability to go through a rough patch in life and come out without losing your mind.
AQ determines who will give up in face of troubles and may abandon their families.
*To parents*:
Expose children to other areas of life than academic. They should adore manual work (never use work as a form of punishment), sport and art .
Develop their EQ, SQ and AQ. They should become multifaceted human beings able to do things independently of the parents.
*Finally*, do not prepare the road for the children. Prepare the children for the road.
To keep my heart
Healthy and happy
To keep my mind relaxed and attentive.
To breathe easy and practice the let go as much as I can.
To nourish my body & mind with self-care and choose balance in thoughts words and deeds.
To nurture, heal and replenish the self
With positive intentions reflections and contemplation.
To keep a good company of friends.
To steer thoughts and cultivate humility, kindness, and mindfulness.
To choose to pause and speak with awareness in response than reaction
To respect and value life in this body.
To respect another’s right to be.
To sense the spirit of freedom.
To value the freedom of another being.
To create and acknowledge peace and positivity within and around me
To spread goodwill at every opportunity.
To learn and understand more and help by using my skills for the greater good.
To be conscious of the preciousness of life and living.
To sense the truths of creation, the infinite abundance.
To see the beauty in the ordinary.
To never forget to be humble, grateful, and thankful
For this life in this now!
To live and let live
To enjoy the living me and live than just exist.
And most of all to Live life lovingly!
These are a few of my promises to myself that I could think of that resonates deeply… hope to keep working towards them with all my heart and soul.
What are your promises to yourself?
Do share.
Have the kindness to see the good
Disregard and cast off the negative
There will be much that may cloud
your vision.
There is much we do not know
We all have our own stories
Of trials and tribulations
It’s not easy for any of us.
And for some it may just be
A little extra tough these times.
Truly it takes nothing from you
To choose to stay positive
And stay nice no matter!
Our world is having it rough already
Let’s try and make it better
Each of us one kind gesture in time
Let’s leave imprints of kindness
In hearts and souls
Let us empower our spirit
To be hopeful and happy
All is meant to be well
So be kind and do good!
Purpose of life is to evolve for the better. Wherever we are, however we are, humanity always finds a way beyond the trials and tribulations.
We are meant to thrive beyond the adversity.
Enhance your self
Self isolation can be challenging but need not be as difficult as it seems.
A few things that can make isolation easier to bear and productive as well.
PLANNING
Creating a schedule. Writing down things to do or learn in a day is a great start.
Having a routine planned, help a great deal.
Keeping channels of communication open.
Speak to people , listen to others well.
Express yourself through arts , pick up a book to read or a hobby you can learn in this interim period.
Care for your self. It makes you feel good about yourself.
Arrange your wardrobe.
Do all the things that you feel you never had time for.
LISTENING
Listen to some soulful or foottapping music.
Start a conversation on the phone. Many are feeling lonely or overwhelmed and overburdened. Offer to listen and empathize. One of the important aspects of doing this exercise is it changes self perceptions and brings an understanding of the world beyond the limited self.
ACTIVITY
Take care of your health, eat healthy.
Be engaged physically mentally emotionally & spiritually.
Look up at the stars at night.
Watch the blue expansive sky in the day.
Hear the sounds of waves, if you can.
Even in a recording…waves gives a repetitive, soothing rhythmical relaxation experience that can smooth out the creases on your brow.
Ease in, to time your breathing with the waves.
Try this one .
These are a few ways to create a personal space for yourself in your mind and heart spirit and soul no matter where and how you are.
Hopefully it may help in some way to ease through this phase we are in.
Here are some interesting observations from office group meetings.
Office meetings are no different
From groups of human getting together
Human behaviour has an extensive range.
From shy to extroverted, bold to introverted
Myriad patterns of personalities
Manifest in business meetings.
There are those totally in charge
Setting the tones driving the agenda
There are those who are out to showcase skills at every opportunity.
There are others who are peacebuilders.
There are facilitators who are also great delegators.
They are resourceful in the absence of a leader.
There are those brimming with enthusiasm.
They are the ice breakers who reduce tensions.
There are the creativity enhancers.
They step beyond the box and think.
They can bring tangible and intangible to light.
They can be ambiguous or realistic in views.
There are contributors who just say a few words which make people rethink.
They may have voiced their opinion only after much thought.
There are those who blether on and on without consideration for others.
For, they love to be the centre of attention.
They forget it is a meeting with a time & agenda.
Then there are the team players who actually enjoy meetups.
They are adaptable, versatile and happy to help.
They are the bond that binds one and all.
They are juxtaposed with the reserved and silent ones.
They are those who are uncomfortable with the attention.
They are the wallflowers who may have many views but are quiet in a group.
They are great to tap into to hear alternate views.
Have you noticed those who are physically there in a meeting but yet not there?
They are lost in a realm of their own
They are wanderers who are free spirits actually.
They hate to be restrained in one space for even a while.
There is just one issue they hardly pay attention and hence may be unproductive at meetings.
Have you also met the pessimistic who always think it won’t work?
They can bring down the spirits and the morale of an entire team.
There are also the argumentative who always have a counter view without thinking.
Then come to the detail-oriented
Who never leave anything to chance.
They come prepared and are diligent.
They are at risk of seeming too intense.
They, however, can pinpoint the errors.
Their questions can bring clarity to the team.
Finally, there are those who rarely attend.
They saunter in without an agenda.
They have no idea what the meeting is all about.
They have never bothered to find out either.
They still can be channelised through proper directions.
Lastly, let’s watch out for perpetual latecomers.
They always may come in full of excuses but with the right interventions & time management skills.
They can be great contributors…
How many of these types have you observed in your office meetings?
Every person is unique, & likewise, every meeting is thus equally unique.
Through a positive approach, when utilized in the right way for the right skills…
Everyone can then, greatly contribute to the productivity of a meeting.
AN ARTIST’S RELATION TO SOLITUDE
An artist must make time for the long periods of solitude
Solitude is extremely important
Away from home
Away from the studio
Away from family
Away from friends
An artist should stay for long periods of time at waterfalls
An artist should stay for long periods of time at exploding volcanoes
An artist should stay for long periods of time looking at fast-running rivers
An artist should stay for long periods of time looking at the horizon where the ocean and sky meet
An artist should stay for long periods of time looking at the stars in the night sky
Marina Abramovic
I loved the poem enough to share it, yet felt there is something much deeper to reflect there.
Is solitude the road to stillness … afterall there is often stillness in the movements and movement in the stillness as well.
So I would like to ask an artist…
Do you really want solitude or stillness ?
Sometimes in deep solitude there is no stillness.
And that is perhaps the reason for the need of staying away from it all.
Staying away is not the answer but just a change to alter and arrange thoughts.
For thoughts run amuck sometimes and have a speed all their own
Touching the nerve of truth
It is not an easy task to confront
Cause to confront is to be ready for conflict
Be it any kind…
From mental social or physical and more
Conflicts are always unwanted.
But change is the only constant
And life moves on creating itself.
In any art and creative endeavour
Say even speaking & writing for that matter, there is much scope for influences and perceptions.
It is the nature of truth to transform
But not without chaos and confusion
Such is the nature of human frailty.
There in lies the strength of human spirit. (Contd)
The teacher who says he is a master
Is no master at all.
A teacher is the one who teaches
What he has learned in life…
To teach is to learn some more!
To teach is to simply impart the learning in the sharing there is learning to imbibe.
Life is after all a great teacher
As it is the nature of life that masters it all.
All are but students in the way of life.
No one is perfect
No one knows it all
No one has mastered it all
Wisdom flows from living life
Everyone is a teacher in a way
Every one is a student in a way.
Let’s all remember
To own up to ourselves
The way we are
Flawed or not
Scarred or not
But thankful as we are.
Gradually we are strengthened in gratitude.
Acknowledging the preciousness of life.
And Life thrives…
