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Find peace within

Yesterday was my mother’s birthday. And I came across this reflection of hers by chance and started reading it, Although she is living far away in another city, I deeply connected with her in every moment as I was reading this. Wishing her a beautiful blessed day!

Finding peace

Happiness is an abstract state which gives us high,
makes us feel positive about everything,
makes us forgive peoples faults, brings a smile in our face n laughter in our mind,
gives us strength,
brings love to our heart,
makes our surroundings beautiful, makes life worth living,
radiates our being irrespective of the outside effects.

Happiness is the real state we are born with. That is our real form, shrouded by the clouds of acquired and induced qualities as we walk along this long path of life. In due course, it gets overshadowed by outside influences that we forget how to be really happy. We start seeking happiness from outside sources forgetting our own storehouse inside us.

Thus starts our dependence. Whether material, emotional, physical, or spiritual, for everything we start seeking help from other people or substances which gradually grow from need-based to the necessity which we cannot live without. In the long run, the very source we think gives us happiness adds nothing but misery. The more u seek outside the more ur inner light dims.

How to come out of this self-induced predicament. Really very hard as the acquired dirt must have become layers of solid sediments. A little Viveka n Vairagya are the tools God has provided us with, to unearth the hidden treasure, of Happiness Within.

Viveka means right understanding, discriminating knowledge n true wisdom.

Vairagya means detachment, dispassion, maintaining a state of mental equilibrium.

Developing both these qualities help us to be in a peaceful happy state irrespective of outer influences knowing their transient nature. The more we delve in these, the nearer we go to our inner self which is the abode of ultimate BLISS.

The ever-changing face of the sky
The dancing flames of the fire,
The soothing flow of the air,
The flowing waves of the water,
The surface of Mother Earth
All just set to put in our mind the transience of Nature.

The rising and setting of the Sun,
The waning and waxing of the
Moon,
The revolution and rotation of the earth,
The cycle of the changing seasons
Just to remind us nothing is forever to stay.

The karmic cycle of birth and death,
The changing phases of lives,
The changing moods of the mind,
The swaying patterns of wealth
Aren’t enough to teach the human mind equanimity and humility?

How many more lessons does one need?

Anjana.

This piece ‘ Finding Peace’ resonates deeply. Especially so in these chaotic times.

Savvy


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Create light, feel light, live light!

Always have something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.

It will make you a happy person.

And yes the potential to create that beautiful ‘something’ is in each of us.

It simply needs to be acknowledged

As it flows, choose to channel it with love.

Create light, feel light, live light!

Savvy


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Joy of Giving & Sharing

Every ask has a reason.
Every give fulfills a reason.
What reason it fulfills is another story!

Joy of giving & sharing

When can you give and share with joy?
And what happens when you give and share …

When your cup is overflowing !

A state of abundance
This is an extreme state where you are having so much to give. You are overflowing with possibilities in the potential.
When you give from here,
You may not miss anything.
You may not know the joy of sharing and giving as you have so much more.
Maybe you are giving because you want to get rid of whatever you are giving.
Maybe you want to self balance.
Maybe you want to share with those unfortunate.
Sharing the good always helps.
But do u know if the one you share it with truly wants it or uses it well.
Or do you give no matter
Even if it goes to waste
Because you are overwhelmed. Then that is not giving but discarding.

When your cup is half full!

When you are having some and then you share some, then you are sharing from your heart and brain.
Youunderstand and feel for those in need.
You share because you have something to share, may be not much but you know in your heart
That as you keep sharing you create space for more to come. You are balancing yourself between needs and wants.
You are careful in what you give but you give from your heart, from a space of love.
Such a giving arises from equanimity.

When your cup is almost empty!

When you give from nothing much to give maybe you are hyper extended already.
You may know but choose to ignore it
Else you may be unaware that there is not much left.
In both these cases the giving takes more out of the giver, so much so that it may soon cease.
What can u give when there is nothing to give?
You will give may be beyond your ability but then you will tire soon, feel used and exhausted.
This is a state of tilted balance not a great way to give.

We all may have experienced this at some point or other in our lives.

While giving from a place of love and trust it never goes wrong. We do need to feel the joy in giving. As long as your heart says go on, you must, else notice what’s making your hearts feel different and pay attention. You may learn something more on it!

When the giving & receiving complement each other it is truly ideal. But most often that is not the case.
However, giving is best shared when it comes from a place of trust faith & confidence in the giving that there is always going to be something to give.
When giving is mutual there is a flow and there is abundance.
When giving is from contentment there is gratitude and vis versa.
When giving feels enough it’s best to assess why it feels so!
In greater understanding, the giving flows…

Life is never stagnant
Its meant to flow
Be a giver
Giving always finds itself receiving
Life is a circle.

Savvy


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Enhance in every now.

Purpose of life is to evolve for the better. Wherever we are, however we are, humanity always finds a way beyond the trials and tribulations.

We are meant to thrive beyond the adversity.

Enhance your self

Self isolation can be challenging but need not be as difficult as it seems.

A few things that can make isolation easier to bear and productive as well.

PLANNING

Creating a schedule. Writing down things to do or learn in a day is a great start.
Having a routine planned, help a great deal.

Keeping channels of communication open.

Speak to people , listen to others well.
Express yourself through arts , pick up a book to read or a hobby you can learn in this interim period.
Care for your self. It makes you feel good about yourself.
Arrange your wardrobe.
Do all the things that you feel you never had time for.

LISTENING

Listen to some soulful or foottapping music.
Start a conversation on the phone. Many are feeling lonely or overwhelmed and overburdened. Offer to listen and empathize. One of the important aspects of doing this exercise is it changes self perceptions and brings an understanding of the world beyond the limited self.

ACTIVITY

Take care of your health, eat healthy.
Be engaged physically mentally emotionally & spiritually.
Look up at the stars at night.
Watch the blue expansive sky in the day.
Hear the sounds of waves, if you can.
Even in a recording…waves gives a repetitive, soothing rhythmical relaxation experience that can smooth out the creases on your brow.
Ease in, to time your breathing with the waves.

Try this one .

These are a few ways to create a personal space for yourself in your mind and heart spirit and soul no matter where and how you are.
Hopefully it may help in some way to ease through this phase we are in.

Every positive step matters a great deal in

Praying for the world to heal and recover.

Stay safe stay healthy where ever you are.

Savvy


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Art of Management

Art of Giving Feedbacks

There are many types of feedbacks given and solicited in a typical corporate environment.
In the art of management the topic of critical appraisals and sharing feedbacks is a nerve wracking process on both sides. For the truth is feedbacks at work take not only a whole lot of in- depth analysis, but it takes courage and common sense deliver. And often they can be the toughest of conversations to have.

Are you feeling uncertain about how to confront a feedback session.At work there will be time where you might have faced a feedback session .

If you have been the one who is giving feedback to your team or a member of your team here are six tips that can help you master the art of giving feedbacks.

Prepare

Keep the perspectives clear of what was expected and agreed upon earlier and the issues that is evident. Give a clear picture of what has been observed to the receiver. Remember you are addressing the work issues, dont get personal.

Proper time and place

Ensure you are slotting a feedback time that is mutually least distracting.
This will ensure there is the required focus and  necessary attention to the discussion at hand.

Ask and listen well

Contrary to what is understood about feedbacks time the reviewer needs to hear more and speak less often to deliver objective feedbacks to resolve issues.
Avoid letting your own ego from taking too much space. Instead Inquire more into why certain things are not going well. Speak less ask more open ended questions and let them speak and ask for feedbacks and own up to their mistakes. That way you will not be crushing egos but resolving issues you are facing as a team .Avoid bombarding. Be empathetic but assertive.

Sandwich

Choose your words and sentences well.Feedbacks and  critical analysis involves being mindful  of the words  you choose and conveying the criticism in a well meaning way so that you are not directly attacking the receiver. This will ensure they are able to digest and understand what is going wrong and not stagnate by becoming defensive.
Remember it is not a war of egos and ensure  you avoid making it one .

Be clear & concise

Vagueness is not going to resolve anything. Be objective in your feedback . If someone is a perpetual latecomer then mention specifically how many times they are late in the last month .
This will make them more accountable and lead to ownership  and better productivity  at work.

See the Bigger Picture

When you giving feedback address the issue and do not attack the person’s character. Try your best to see  things in  the larger frame . Avoid being petty and leave your own ego aside before you begin.Remind yourself always to envision the bigger picture. And remember that it is not personal.

Feedbacks in general can be  a very valuable tool for  companies.and there are many types of feedbacks.

Have you given or received  feedbacks recently.

What  are your expectations  and experiences on feedbacks?

Savvy


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Art of Dressing Well.

Every person has a certain style of dressing. They have their own preferences on what to wear and an idea of what looks and feels good on them.

Some are safe players and some are extremely adventurous.

Corporate wear.

When it comes to the world of corporate wear, there is good reason to understand how to dress for success and make it work for you.

Here are a few tips on dressing well at work.

Dress well. It matters.

Feel good in the clothes you wear , remember its for yourself, not for others.be confident in what you are wearing.

A Matter of Details.

Attend to the smallest of the detail ensure that you are clean and organised
Avoid shabby and grunge looks while at work.

A Matter of Choices

Avoid going overboard spending for clothes or accessory.
Teach yourself to be well mannered, as how you behave is not only a reflection of yourself but also the company you work for.

A Matter of Decorum

Pay attention to your behaviour that all time
Maintain decorum and adhere to the set company culture.

A Matter of Comfort.

Choose closed shoes with practical heels. Avoid uncomfortable stilettos if they dont allow you ease of movement. Alternatively you carry your work wearing a shoe bag and wear comfy shoes while traveling to work. Or you can opt for comfortable block heels.Do remember your health is above all else.
Ensure what you wear is comfortable.

A Matter of Professionality.

Avoid distracting bling and bringing unnecessary attention on yourself.
If you wish to you can adhere to
global monochromatic tones at work grey black blue beige etc with the right accessories. It may makes you look and feel professional. It helps to accessorize with hints of colour to make the look interesting.

Make sure to work well at what you do as much as you dress well. Be a thorough professional at work.

A Matter of Grooming.

Keep your makeup minimal and fresh.

Be well groomed. Let your hair, nails speak for themselves remember to wear neat and ironed clothes.

Keep jewellery simple avoid too much skin show.

Avoid dangling earrings. Keep them for a party.

You can try matching your footwear to the attire or go for contrast.

Avoid following the trends of fashion blindly.
Wear what suits your personality and be yourself.

A Matter of Poise & Posture.

Regardless of what you are wearing ensure that you work on correcting your posture. If you find yourself slouching pick up your head & shoulders align with your back and breathe easily. Remember that a good posture shows confidence.

A Matter of Attitude.

Keep good attitude. To be the best you can paying attention to clothes you wear but more importantly remember it’s the whole package.

A matter of planning

Think what you want to wear next day. A simple practice of selecting and keeping your clothes ready for the next morning saves time.
A little planning goes a long way.

Remember it is not superficial it is an investment to your own self and career.

Dressing well is not about the brands you wear. It it about how wear what you wear.

It is about your expression of you.

And it is also about how it makes you feel.

And the positive impact it can leave on others.

So keep a good attitude and stay at ease.

And always remember to wear a smile.

Savvy


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Reach beyond knowing.

Artwork  by  Russian  Surrealist Painter Vladimir Kush




How are you going to reach the tree of knowing?
The climb is not a cake walk
It is tough to balance  on the way up or down.
You are at the base.
And yet you are not grounded.
In the knowing that sets you free.
At times you climb almost all the way.
But think twice about entering  its core
For it is demanding.

Life never comes with a planbook
All happens in the living.
All is meant to flow along the way.
Things refine or distort
To change or transform 
Into new paths of purpose.
All, a leap of faith
To reach beyond knowing.

Savvy


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To Dance…

“To dance is to move with the strength of earth below you, sensing and knowing the grounding beneath you of your convictions.

To dance is to freely be able to improvise your physical and emotional self with the quality of fluidity like the flowing water.

To dance is to ignite the power of passion and fire up your creative movements.

To dance is to be able to glide as if you are as light as the air and soar in grace, as you feel the wind enveloping yet beckoning you to scale new heights of harmonious effusion while dancing with a conscious awareness of your edges and spaces that you occupy in this beautiful amazing world”

Savvy


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5 steps to Self Care.

Feeling Enmeshed?

1Are you feeling enmeshed in life and living?

2 Do you feel you are often taken for granted?
3Are you feeling you are giving more than you are receiving?
4Are you trying to do more than you actually can?
5Are you feeling criticized for everything good you do?
6Are your kind and benevolent intentions disrespected by your loved ones?
7Are you feeling threatened into submission?
8Are you feeling tightened by your own net of people whom you love?
9Are you gasping to breathe free?
10 Are you feeling a loss of control and confidence in daily life?
If you have answered more yes than no then chances are you are truly enmeshed and need help.
You need to redefine boundaries and clarify your stance.
Often creating boundaries is confused with being unapproachable and seen to be controlling and limiting.
But often it is about creating a space for the self, as much as to draw a line for others so that they dont tread all over you.
Caring for the self matters and one can be empowering and empathetic at the same time.
So it is important to know your needs matters and that it is not necessary to say yes to every thing and every one. You need to to learn to take a stance and set your boundary that allows another to respect your being.
Only when you establish your stance you create healthy boundaries for others to take you seriously and not take advantage of your kindness.
It is important to know where you end and another begins.Then you learn to be in relationships and yet be yourself fully as you are and not full of yourself.
Expanding your sense of self can be challenging as well. Simply understand all of life is valuable in it’s own special way including you . In respecting life and living you convey the value and responsibility of mutual coexistence.
5 Steps to gaining control of your life begins with you.
1.Know you are alive and not simply existing.
2. Be assertive but not arrogant
3. Be confident and speak with clarity.
4. Remember your purpose in life and communicate intently
5. Build on your strengths to thrive.

Savvy


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On writing

Grateful for this moment
With this day I complete 300 days of writing continously and publishing my works on WordPress.

Gratitude for the creativity from within and thankful for the experiences that allowed me to go into witness mode.
As a writer there is a space for thoughts to collect and flow as and when you feel like it.

This gathering of thoughts is moments of reflections in ruminations
Of life experiences
Of circumstances
Of happenings
Of situations
Of silences
All resounding reverberations in the responses to the resonances.

Writers need to be grateful…
Writers without pressure
Are at ease to allow thoughts
To seed as they germinate
And settle as they arise in time.

A far cry from spoken words
That simply must happen
When the speaking happens
For it its often relentless in the flow
Unchangeable and undoable

My gratitude extends

To writers and my readers alike

For in the flow of these words

Forged are many friendships

Linked in through these inked expressions.

For the buds of creativity blooms and thrives

In support and appreciation

So grateful to be able to write.

Savvy


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A dance of infinite wonder

A bird, a tree & a mountain

Far above at the top of the tree
The birds perch themselves on the branches
Ready to fly on moments notice
They are light and free

Deep in the ground the roots of a tree
Growing in the thick of things
Amidst the densely packed earth
Digging deeper in stability.

On higher ground the mountain rests Gradually building upon itself.
Or chipping away itself to erosion
Witnessing it all as the world whizzes through…

As the birds fly away
In search of food or when predators strike
And the trees bears fruits
As roots grow strong.

Life and living have a reason to be.
Witness the wisdom playing through
Every whiff of the wind, every bit of stillness
Every sway every bend every move
Every thing that is was and will be
For all is a dance of infinite wonder.

Who are you like

The bird

The roots of a tree

Or a mountain

What do you resonate with?

Savvy


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Moves from the heart!

When the heart is glad, the feet are ready to dance, when the feet dance, the heart is glad!

Dancing is the joy in being awake to the miracle of being alive.

And dancing hearts know it best!

Savvy

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Life is calling

Life is calling
Whatever we are meant to create, collaborate, to do or accomplish with our lives… we will.

All of us meet with different facets of envisioning.
And as we move on to connect we take in different aspects of understanding.

Our life is changed & continues to change
In every intersection of interaction
Sometimes it’s a feeling, a thought.
At times it’s a drive so full of intentions.

Life is meant to churn out the truth of it’s own existence
It is meant to evolve in the changes.

So important to know the value of every life.
The power of every contact
The force of nature in every connection
That leaves imprints for posterity.

Each exchange, every dialogue
Every word, every letter
Is energy unleashed with emotions
The intentions carry them through.

Value the intuition you sense
In every connection
The purpose clarifies itself to you.
Every life is meant to make a difference
To someone somewhere
It could be you.

Savvy


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Thinking Thoughts

Thinking is open to possibilities
Thought is already channelled
To be fair and square
Thinking is about the now
Emerging in this moment
Thought is the past
Over and done.


Yet every thought matters
As it may enable new ways of thinking…
And so it goes
Until these loops form a pattern
And hit a sweet spot of light
Illuminating a new pathway!

Savvy


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Where every move matters…

Isnt life like a game of chess
Where every move matters
Where every step creates opportunities
Where without a plan we may be flummoxed

Where a sense of direction creates progress
Where there is anticipation of possibilities.
Where there is a passion for purpose
Where dedication and perseverance.

Where attentive alertness makes all the difference.
Where awareness and keen observation matters much.
Where every decisive move can impact profoundly
And yet with all the planning one could be checkmated.

Life is meant to be played on for there is no looking back.
Where having a goal is important to fulfillment of living.
Yes life is like a game

Where joys of the journey is greater than success and failures.

Savvy