Clear lines Not walls that break But gates that define Your edges in space And anothers beginnings.
Setting a boundary Creates safety & value And is respectful to one another.
Be it your time & energy Or for mental stability Protecting personal space Creates a sense of peace.
Truth is relationships are healthier in the long run with clear lines that protect your own unique sense of space, privacy & comfort levels.
In professional relationships often the fear of conflicts, or being misunderstood as unempathetic, can make people skip setting them early on only to find themselves challenged.
Actually, setting healthy boundaries is an act of clarity…
It is the nature of rain To wash away the dust Until it’s clean and green. Yet, too much rain Floods and destroys. Such is the truth of nature.
Each element of nature Is balanced with the other. The dry lands help sustain the wetlands… One supports another To sustain and thrive. Such is the truth of nature.
Desert
Desert sand blows in the wind… Winds carry the dust Across the world, Over lands and water, Finding new settlements.
The truth of nature Is the interconnections. The kind that keeps us alive, The kind we may not realize, The kind we need to emulate In this now and for our future, To survive and thrive.
Just think…
If nature survives through quiet reciprocity, perhaps our own survival depends on learning to receive what is given, and giving what is needed.
Todays freeverses are inspirations that arrived from contemplations with Anjana, my dear mother.
It’s a conscious choice to write more, yet streamline my work.
So you may find me posting erratically every once in a while. Although I continue to write every day as I have for the past couple of years .
I simply started to switch to writing on paper, and I shall post one here regularly, but perhaps not every day. I sense great joy in picking up a pen and writing. It connects me up wires my hand brain coordination a little more than tapping on digital keys.
I already find myself relaxing into it as now I can write anywhere anytime with or without internet . This is simplifying as much as satisfying to me.
To talk about the day I first picked up the pen to write, I wrote a few words and found how strange it felt to be actually inking on paper after so long . It was a missing action piece in my work. Typing is not the same thing. It takes away the flow of continuous touch of the pen on paper.
Although I have written every day digitally over these years. I realise how important it is to never lose touch with writing by hand.
Writing digitally may be faster but fine muscle coordination and postural stability improve when you write with a pen.Something I want to work on again…
The simple joys of flowing with a pen and looking at your work right before you, a tangible piece that connects you with yourself in the touch. It’s hard to replace.
My writing, which seemed erratic at first due to lack of practice, has seen much improvement. Hope this art is not forgotten by other writers.
A point of reflection:
When was the last time you took time to write with a pen on a page ?
I have often seen the perils of burnout up close in professional and personal life over many years. As a coach and mentor it has been often clearer to me that having the blessing of many interests and hobbies like dance and art and sports in my life, I have steered away from burnout with a perspective shift. It helped balance my work and personal life.
But over the years watching people of all ages moving towards burnout due to many factors some avoidable and sometimes due to relentlessly challenging situations in their lives, occurrence of burnout is a reality sooner than you know.
Workaholics are the worst hit as often as Type A personalities. People in power positions founders challenged by their own hamster wheel climb , running their race, stressed and distressed between the managing and funding of their enterprises. To people who are intrinsically overt perfectionists trying to outdo themselves beyond abilities and suffering physically emotionally and mentally thinking that in doing so they have proved their worth. Likewise young students with extreme pressure from parents to perform well in something that they are not interested in. Have seen cases of students in engineering stream, forced to take it when their heart is in arts and humanities .
The difference is between enjoying the work and overworking is in feeling exhausted by the work you do to such an extent that you cannot connect with your self anymore.
When your passion turns in an obsession,
When you are pushing yourself over the brink without consideration for your own health.
Your absence affects your family When you think you are giving it all, but what you are giving is, stealing a loved ones time with you.
Imbalances you create in your life have a way of finding you and testing your life. Make sure to live life when you have it, with all of you.
Every moment is a cornucopia of sensing Fleeting thoughts in the making Feelings and emotions reveal themselves. Between action and inaction
And in the stillness in between Like the ebb and flow on the tides While at times amplifying & complicating situations By tilting the tuning of the body and mind.
Sometimes overpowering almost self defeating Sometimes compelling to release the stress withholding To ease up the being & free up some space Between thought and action.
Think of your emotions As a bridge in between To pause and reflect a while And then to respond.
Respect your self and own your emotions. For all your emotions make you, you. Feel good that you can express In so many shades and tones.
Emotions are interlinked In every moment of life and living All the while authenticating and revealing The person you truly are.
Every moment is a cornucopia of sensing Fleeting thoughts in the making Feelings and emotions reveal themselves. Between action and inaction And in the stillness in between Like the ebb and flow on the tides While at times amplifying & complicating situations By tilting the tuning of the body and mind. Sometimes overpowering almost self […]
An interesting quote on relationships I read this morning…
The relationship between commitment and doubt is by no means an antagonistic one. Commitment is healthiest when it’s not without doubt but in spite of doubt.
Rollo May
As I reflected on the above words a few thoughts came to me…
On life and relationships
Is there an interplay of doubt and commitment?
Is there commitment when in doubt?
What happens when doubt creeps in the committed?
Whenever they intersect there are conflicts
Whether at opposition or not
Both are in thoughts
Dashing from one extreme to another
At times contradicting at times rationalising
And returning back to apparent normalcy
When doubt dances in, commitment feels the burn
When commitment is strong, doubt rests on the back burner.
Have always felt there needs to be trust in a relationship as much as compromise else even the strongest of relationships fall apart.
Savvy Raj 
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