Sense Confidence… It matters! Savvy Raj www.savvyraj.com
Change is the only constant. Highs and lows are part of life and living but very often when they are internalised subconsciously they get projected outward by your behavioural traits. They are then one of the parameters of how you are perceived in the world.
Developing an attitude to grow and evolve is a commitment to the self and valuing the importance of awareness. In an extremely competitive and complex world that we live in today, our attitudes and behaviour can make or mar our personal growth. Often we are witness to dwindling self-confidence and self-worth and self-esteem issues in life.
Realising personal strengths and working with them by cultivating a great attitude is the key to imbibing self-confidence.
And Yes You Can!
1: List your strengths:
Yes make an effort right now and make a list of your strengths. If you feel there is none that you can see on your own then ask your close friends and family to mention it to you. CREATE THE LIST.
2: Stop comparing & believe in yourself:
Realise that you are different and that is often your best strength. Comparing oneself to another is travelling on a hopeless road to destruction. Latch on to your best self and believe in your authentic nature. Notice, nurture and know your good points. You are not in competition with anyone but yourself.
3: Learn to say no:
There is no room for emotional blackmail and self-sabotaging behaviour by agreeing to everything and everyone in order to keep them in a happy space all the time. Your life matters and your happiness counts. Remember always you are important for you.
4: Approve of yourself and stop self-criticism:
Take steps to care for your well being. Indulge in some free time just for yourself and choose the way you wish to spend it. Being assertive about your needs gives you an edge of certainty.
Self-empowerment is the key
Take care of your body mind and spirit. Trust yourself more. Choose to celebrate your accomplishments But keep that head of yours firmly on your shoulder and walk knowing you are in touch with the ground. Be balanced and learn to be assertive whenever needed, it empowers you with confidence. And you will soon be projecting it.
5: Adopt a positive body language:
Accept yourself with your shortcomings remember no one is perfect. Then decide to avoid negative self-talks and choose to self-motivate yourself every day! Spend time with positive-minded people. Avoid sentimental bullies. Do not mull in loneliness.
Live every moment the best you can. Because You Can!
It is often said that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”…. as beauty can be a very subjective and a personal choice and experience of life. This attraction or admiration, after all, is an interpretation of harmony, of proportion in the features attributed to a culture for beauty.
Is beauty measurable to a certain standard? Well according to the Golden Ratio, the ideal result for an attractive face would be 1.6. Greeks believed a beautiful face is 1.6 times longer than its width. But then it has been refuted by attributing it simply to the ability of pattern recognition by humans. After all cultural differences have strange ideas of what is beautiful and they seem poles apart from each other. Such is the paradox of beauty!
From smooth skin devoid of wrinkles, a long neck and flowing hair, to face tattoos and body scars, long earlobes, shaved heads, pale skins to small feet, to full figures different countries and culture have different standards of beauty.
Take the case of some Eastern countries where straightened hair is considered beautiful and many are turning to chemical hair straighteners and flat ironing for holding up to standards of beauty. Girls in Mauritania, West Africa when shown an article about liposuction, laugh so hard in disbelief as it shocks their concepts of what is beautiful. In fact, this goes to extreme measures like ‘Leblouh’ the practice of force feeding girls to have heavy figures and stretch marks like in Mauritania, to the overwhelming numbers of rhinoplasty in Iran and where women wearing post-surgical bandages consider it as a badge of honour and wealth.
The human capacity to appreciate beauty has perhaps radically evolved with the species and men and woman see and process beauty differently. Humans are complex beings and if beauty were a language, its expression would be unique to every individual with respect to their nature and nurture.
So in the quest towards understanding the beauty and the ideals of beauty, there are many questions …
Is there a possibility of greater survival of what is considered beautiful.?
Or is the reverse true?
History is replete with numerous wars on account or on behalf of desire to possess own nurture, save and protect beautiful people animals or things.And beauty becomes a victim of situations and often is the cause of chaos and destruction.
The very beauty that emits an utter of exclamation of awe in the admiration of the exquisite creation can extract emotional outbursts and create and spread hate and malice, upheavals that can mar the course of peace in history and cause wars.
Beauty can thus become a two-edged sword.
Is there more to the reason there exists for the quality of beauty and its perception.The genetic codes that determine beauty can be there for the purpose of an evolution of the species and refinement in the subtlety of consciousness….
There is beauty in a soul that is kind without prejudice
There is beauty in choosing to transform to a better person inside out.
There is beauty in words spoken and deeds of generosity
There is beauty in making people feel valuable
As after all beauty is in the way you make another feel.
Image Credits: An Artwork by Savvy Raj from a series Titled: ‘Faces’
Titled: ‘Transcendence– Clarity amidst the chaos in the Interconnects ‘.
From circles in the spheres
And shapes unknown
Of thought to imagination
You to me is a continuum
Of expression in life and living.
As you and I see it
In unique ways.
Creates shifts in space
To accommodate every emergence
And all matters
In the infinity of being
Beyond scale or count
And boundless beyond measure.
Every single flicker in participation
Every bit of intention
Every action is your contribution.
Impacting the world for you and for me.
Leaving imprints in time, altering the energy
Such is your value in the synergy.
Care to sense the responsibility
In making sense of it all!
All our insights and shares in understanding and the uncertainity, in clarity amidst the chaos, create the shape of things to come and therein is the reason to continue on the path of shaping ourselves by chiselling at a transformation towards transcendence. Savvy