Dance Baby Dance…
As simple as that!
Delight the soul
Lighten the heart.
When you move freely
Beyond fear and apprehensions
Beyond self doubts & restrictions
Beyond assumptions & judgements
You are in tune with the spirit within.
Stay tuned in & keep dancing!
Domination is the root cause of inequality.
What is it to dominate?
Have you been ever at the receiving end?
To think of ones right over another
To assume another as valueless
To believe one has the power over another all the time
To try and stifle another’s perspectives.
To drown another’s voice from speaking out.
To choose not to hear what another says
To distance oneself in superiority.
To show the strength of money or status etc
To disrespect and disregard, another’s space.
To blame another for every little thing
To demand attention all the time.
To throw temper tantrums and have constant mood swings
To bully another into submission.
To be arrogant and egotistical.
To only think of the self and no one else.
To hurt another with criticism.
To be rude and overbearing
To be sarcastic in every conversation
To pull down another’s self-esteem
To harm another with physical strength
To manipulate another’s mind or heart
To devalue another’s efforts.
To demotivated another from self expression.
To kill another’s spirit for life.
Many of us may have been subjected to dominance in some form or another
It can be a trying time.
To be in a situation where there is truly no freedom to be.
There are many forms of domination and control. It could occur as there is financial dependence or in case of having health issues that limit mobility.
Most arise from deep insecurities that need constant assurance of power and control over things and people.
Domination happens at the workplace at schools and colleges at gyms at playgrounds and very often in relationships at home.
Often the majority of victims are women and children. Sometimes they are subjected to harassment through both physical and mental torture.
Often in the inability to make room for another in accommodation and in complete lack of tolerance…
Domination doesn’t end with one person sometimes the entire family is dominated by a single vile individual.
It is truly a difficult environment to live in under the threat of constant control.
Often times the dominant partner will manipulate subtly that others will not notice. And gradually take control of everything.
Life doesn’t seem yours at all.
It takes a strong will to break free.
To reclaim your life back again
The lesson to remember…
Never back down!
The assertion for self liberation and freedom is a journey towards resurrection.
Read Part 2: Path to Resurrection
Happy International Dance Day!
A true incident in dedication!
Just a casual conversation with a dear friend on Facebook threw open a facet of her innate personality, she loves to watch others dance and probably would love to learn too, but may be a complex of how it might be perceived, or so has kept her from trying. She also believes she has two left feet…
Well this is a notion held by many people, who may be basically shy or introverted by nature, or even perfectionists , or perhaps have some conditional experiences that makes them uncomfortable in daring to dance.
We went about talking as to how this can be helped.
Some simple yet profound movements that can help as starters.
A few things to remember:
It’s important to give yourself permission to begin movements, in whatever way you think best… a bow in prayer, a call out to yourself, or simply start with watching the dance of your breath in passive awareness and feel energized, with your in-breath and with every out-breath sense the release of that which needs to go …respect begins at home!
Sense, observe and feel one with any movement that you make, accepting the strange and the beautiful, the harmonious and the shaky moves … as part of the same source and believe there is a reason why they are what they are .
Take your time! There is no rush to prove anything so go with what works for you.
Allocate a time and place for yourself in the day at home. Clear the space and rearrange some furniture so that you have some moving space, without any obstructions. Option to have a mirror in front is totally yours as and when you want to allow it to happen. Mirrors reflect our actions so it helps to have one as a silent guide.
Make sure to remove jewellery, watches that may obstruct movement & avoid chewing gum as it is distracting.
As you begin moving on your feet it’s better to wear cotton socks for ease and flow of movement and preferably wear stretchable or loose clothes that don’t restrict body movements.
Remember the first time need not be the last time, just don’t give up! As with everything else, practise dancing from the heart and soul and be open to the changes in the flow.
With every movement we create energy in the room or space we are practicing. Each session is different. Sometimes exhausting, energizing, calming, stimulating, etc depending on a number of factors . Try to be receptive and accepting of that energy.
To find yourself as you dance, accepting yourself as you create expressions through movements. Sensing the power of letting go & the power of Dancing as you move.
Take yourself a little less seriously. Enjoy Yourself!
My friend questioned me about how to actually start dancing. Having shared endless conversations completely whimsical or tremendously uplifting with her over the years I know her, I simply wanted to reach out to her and remind her, how much she has already moved with her unique experiences, dancing through the tunes of life. How many movements she already has explored in silent rapture and conscious presence. And how many times she has been supportive, constructive, connective ,caring, loving, giving, tender, gentle & corrective in her movements towards the ones she cared. People like me! Well it was time to gently remind her of her own innate creative flows…
Dance to your own tunes.
Depending on what suits your mood at the moment, let yourself hear some tune, that vibrates with the inner you. Knowing her soft and gentle nature, I suggested some soothing music to be played in the background without it being too overbearing. Since she was wondering how to begin… I suggested her to sit down and allow just her fingers, then her hand and then the arms to begin to move with the music, just yielding, flowing as she felt like from the depth of her soul.
Neutralizing the rest of the body allows the ease of tension of perceptions. With just the hands in front of the person as they move, one could draw a circle with each individual hand. trace a simple pattern, write their names in cursive , using the pace and flow that seems right for them. Many who don’t physically dance much in the open are self- conscious of their physical body. So its important to be gradual in the movements. Once the hands start getting comfortable to move from an inner calling of the rhythm, it’s time to allow the sway of the shoulders or even allow the foot to take a step ahead.
Soon the rest of body joins the dance gradually as you allow and acknowledge the presence of the creative dancer in you.
Movements may seem shaky and erratic at first and as you persevere you begin to see the changes.The movement starts getting connected with the inner you and you begin to merge with the tune and the movement.
After all there is a teacher in you for the disciple in you!
Member International Dance Council
Work is not all of life
And life is not all work
All is in a days work ?
I wonder if the world could see
The simplest truth of life and work.
Work has its place in life
But it must not takeover life
Treat work well meet and greet
On its terms but dont get bound by it.
The canvas of life is expansive
And yet inclusive
And work is not all.
Many facets of life bring on the shine
Each facet carrying its purpose of being.
An experience of each begets the wisdom
Make time for it all.
Work is work only if work is treated like work.
Dont abuse it. dont disregard .
Treat it with dignity own up to it
Value it as an opportunity .
Give it your best shot
Take nothing for granted
For every bit matters.
Respect work as it t comes as it is tough to live without work
Life is life only if you care to live it well
What use is life if you are not even able to
All you have is one life.
Heartbeats in every now
Every moment matters for its your life
To do all that you truly can
Every day is fresh with all the possibilities
Make life work for yourself
As you gear up to step up to life
Life will open up the path for you.
Presentation is about a sense of aesthetics that makes the difference between a job done and job well done.
Often the drive to succeed in an increasingly complex world leaves little time for the aesthetic endeavour, as it is often about rushing through to deliver than about commitment, care and connection to the work we do beyond the delivery.
Creativityis enhanced with a passion for artistry in any field of work.
In life, there are many ways to live…
To live fully and deeply, a richer life that is inspiring and empowering to follow.
Or to live drifting along to whatever comes your way.
To each their own!
But if one wishes to leave a footprint, make a mark that is felt, then the idea is to be present to every moment that presents itself.
Value life and consider living every moment artfully.
That will change our present and future to degrees we may not even have imagined.
All is in the consistency of presentation
Consider the self for a moment…
Look closely at how we are sitting at this moment.
What is our posture like… can we work on bettering it. And try to be more aligned?
How is the breathing? Rushed? Or have we held our breath in any way …
Breathe in and exhale deeply and lovingly.
Consider the clothes one wears
Our clothes tend to reflect our own state of mind .
Dressing well is a form of good manners.
Caring to dress neatly and looking and feeling comfortable at all times shows in the way we carry our self.
It is also wise to check our sense of grooming and hygiene. It matters.
After all we are presenting ourself…. every day to the world.
It is would be good to make sure we feel like getting introduced to ourselves,
and be presentable as we would want someone else to be with us.
In paying attention to where we are in this moment to our surroundings and
seeing if we could make any positive difference always matters.
If we can get ourselves to make even tiny changes step by step, we evolve in time.
The words you speak has the power to influence more than you can imagine.
Your voice is a gift you own in life. your thoughts matter and they begin to matter even more when you start to speak well .
A few tips on speaking…
- Speak with clarity and with conviction in what you are saying.
- Speak when you have something to say and saying it with confidence makes it matter.
- Speak surely with certainity without garbling the end of the sentence.
- Speak slow and pause to breathe in and sense the words spoken.It creates interest.
- Speak well and in goodwill knowing the potential power of your words.
Art of Management: Managing WorkSpaces
A Few Essential Tips to Spruce Up Your Work Space.
If you are already a part of the growing population of the work from home employees, there is a high amount of organisational skills that you may already possess. Yet in the rut of routine the chances of feeling weary and disillusioned the dip in productivity increases alarmingly.
Are you feeling overwhelmed stressed and frustrated take a moment to stop and look at your space right now what you feel do you think it is cluttered and chaotic or needs a bit of sprucing up?
Do you think that your work life is a little out of control and maybe having a more manageable and productive space to work from can make all the difference to you right now?
Then maybe it is time to simplify your work area and enjoy life working from home.. here are a few tips to start you up!
Take a few pictures of the work area :
When you need perspective it often helps if you can use your camera to take a shot of your workspace to see the amount of clutter for yourself. There may be many unwanted items which are lying unused for a long time unnoticed.
De-clutter to essentials:
Check whether you are using the things laid out on your desk regularly and if not try to remove them away from your desk make sure only the essentials are placed on the desk.
If there is just too many things on your desk set a priority on what stays. Start from your desk space take a look at the clutter and if there are just too many things around to distract you try to use the principle of 1 in 1 out. So for every item that you have chosen to keep on the desk make sure to discard one out.
Get a fresh perspective :
Often it is very difficult to notice and see the clutter in our working spaces by ourselves in the pace of monotony that we are caught in.So how about inviting a few close friends over to your home… and try to take stock of their opinions and acknowledge their perspectives as you see it through their eyes.
Create an ambience that is suitable for your line of work when you start throwing away the unwanted items and minimize. You will feel lighter and your room opens up.
Setting time to de-clutter: You can try to clear your desk area as you finish your work every evening for it takes maybe about 5 to 10 minutes to straighten things up you will end up having a clean desk every morning.
It is important to find a space for everything in your work area, if you have trouble in keeping things in place you will find a desk all the more cluttered and difficulty in locating things. Use the idea of small storage trays or store away the least used items in closed drawers. You can try to keep your work area clean by using magnets to mount supplies and using coloured labels as well
Extra storage options:
If you find you have too many things on your desk which don’t fit it is time to think of extra storage. In a small room, you can make space under your desk by raising the monitor a level up and making sure to use your space wisely by using by enlarging your workspace vertically and by using every inch of the space you have to your advantage.
Remember the sooner you start getting organised the better you feel at work.
Simplify work area live life well!.
Moderation is the key:
Every once in a while we all need a bit of serious organisation time but it is important to not try to overdo it for it can be a huge detriment to being productive. For sometimes there is the case of delight in disorder for some. So choose your own way to what stays and what goes!
Or someone else… ????
Your real life partner
is Your *Body*
You and your body
stay together from
the beginning of your
life till your last
You enjoy each
relationship in this
world that you feel
is good for you..
But you also play an
important role with
What you do to your
body is your
that will come back
The more you care
for your body, the
more your body will
care for You.
What you eat,
What you do for being fit,
How u deal with
How much rest you
give to it..
Will decide how your body gonna respond
in your day to day
body is the only
where You live.
What your body
Your body is your
You are Your real
Sharing this above message as they certainly are words to remember!
The Body has always been at the receiving end.
Then there are always issues with the body we have , too thin too fat too muscular too lean too angular too buffed to wiry … sad for we are what we feed ourselves .
Instead of gratitude for the gift of life that gives us our body we focus on actual nonissues, without being able to be content and add to our stress levels ourselves.
Nurture your body.Value the residing space of our living spirit.
Respect the body
Our body is not a machine it needs more than regular fuel in the form of food .
Because we are a web of interconnected cells we thrive in the integration and interdependence of the body mind and spirit .
We need to think well to feel well
We need to eat well to be well
We need to choose well to live well
We need to behave well to thrive in wellness
This is the strength of the interdependence that keeps us going.
Feed the body with love:
Take care to eat right and respect its state of being
Be polite and honest in your ways. Every body can be listening . You are responsible for you can be influencing the apace around you. You are emitting your intentions and thoughts outwards subconsciously
You must remember to rest and care for your body whenever needed.
For whatever way and however you can, it is certainly like turning back the clock into a more productive you!
In an age of self obsession bordering on extremes of behaviour from starving to binging, from wearing those uncomfortable hip breaking harmful high heels to choosing crazy outfits that fool you in the name of fashion, to wearing outrageous clothes without it actually suiting your personality, just to fit in and feel accepted I find a lot of people youngsters especially finding themselves at odds with their natural body and having issues with who they truly are. It reflects in the clothes they wear as much as in their attitude to the fast convenience food they choose to eat.
Here in this article I address this very insecurity and deep need to measure up to the so called dictates of trends and fashion in the name of modernity and suggest ways to work with yourself to help yourself shine your best inside out. For, a comfortable and relaxed confident body is the best outfit you can wear.
A positive body image brings optimism into your life and makes it easier to manage stress.
Stir swirl and swivel your passionate self.
Just dance your heart out!
#dancelove #heartspeaks #dancingsouls
Yesterday I happened to revisit this very strong yet contemplative piece of writing by my dear mother. And I knew I just had to request her to share this because of its significance as much as the sensitivity of content which I felt is very relevant to the times we live in.
My mother writes a lot on and off and I want to share this as I feel she should put out her writings in a blog but she simply hasn’t done so yet for reasons best known to her. So while I try convincing her to write and share more, here is this post from her that touched my heart💙💚💙
Making someone feel badly about the way they look is the worst thing that one can do to another individual. It has the power to make someone feel unlovable. It creates so many insecurities and unwanted feelings. That is something we shouldn’t do or inflict upon anyone.
Body shaming has to stop. We have to stop tearing people down just because they don’t fit to the standards created by another in the first place. We also have to stop judging people based on their appearances. There is no meaner phase of being than hating oneself for the looks and it is not fair that we are pushing people to that point. We need to be accepting of all body types.
We need to encircle each other rather than bring each other down and we have to understand that every one is different, both physically and mentally. Anjana
We are created to be different, and we need to learn to love those differences.
Body shaming, a term that has become all too popular recently because humans are obsessed with appearances. We criticize the way that others judge us yet never hesitate to pass comments on others in a sarcastic friendly manner. We have separated ourselves into categories based on the way we look and it is wrong.
Effects of body shaming
What people don’t understand is what body shaming really does to an individual. It gradually breaks their confidence. Instead of holding their head high — they scan the floor because they don’t want people to notice them. Instead of feeling beautiful, their self worth decreases and feel like an alien in their own skin.
Body-shaming is a serious issue that’s secretly and silently ruining the lives of many out there. It’s high time we addressed it. And equally so for both women and men and children.
Those who are born fit or beautiful or intelligent didn’t do anything great to achieve it . It is the way they are born genetically.
What use is physical beauty if the mind is ugly? Let’s learn to value individuals for the values they hold, their character, their goodness and compassion, their talent and in general as a fellow human being who are all equal to one another.
As it is the society has created large gaps based on caste, creed, status and richness. On one side as educated and civilized people we are trying to eradicate them and on the other side creating new dividers between individuals.
Respect and value individuals for what they really are.
Instead if seeing others as
Being short or tall,
Being fair or dusky,
Being fit or fat,
Being beautiful or ugly
Being rich or poor
Being modern or simple
Let’s learn to see others as
Being kind or cruel,
Being adaptive or adamant,
Being compassionate or egoistic
Being selfless or selfish,
And above all
Are they humane enough ?
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.
Nature need not have to create so many different species to co exist, it could have easily made an assembly line of similar looking robots.
Value the differences.
That is where beauty is hidden.
Dare to explore the magnitude of your being
Unlock the infinite wisdom you hold within without knowing
You have the answers you are seeking
You have to just try to be, all that you choose to being
Ignore the pitfalls… Ignore the naysayers
Increase the threshold to one that bears
Increase the ability and be the one who perseveres
You are in the right place at the right time that adheres
To make the so called trivial in you valuable.
So make every moment preciously accountable
Strengthen your being
Know you are sufficient and self sustaining
You are enough for you!
Change is the only constant. Highs and lows are part of life and living but very often when they are internalised subconsciously they get projected outward by your behavioural traits. They are then one of the parameters of how you are perceived in the world.
Developing an attitude to grow and evolve is a commitment to the self and valuing the importance of awareness. In an extremely competitive and complex world that we live in today, our attitudes and behaviour can make or mar our personal growth. Often we are witness to dwindling self-confidence and self-worth and self-esteem issues in life.
Realising personal strengths and working with them by cultivating a great attitude is the key to imbibing self-confidence.
And Yes You Can!
1: List your strengths:
Yes make an effort right now and make a list of your strengths. If you feel there is none that you can see on your own then ask your close friends and family to mention it to you. CREATE THE LIST.
2: Stop comparing & believe in yourself:
Realise that you are different and that is often your best strength. Comparing oneself to another is travelling on a hopeless road to destruction. Latch on to your best self and believe in your authentic nature. Notice, nurture and know your good points. You are not in competition with anyone but yourself.
3: Learn to say no:
There is no room for emotional blackmail and self-sabotaging behaviour by agreeing to everything and everyone in order to keep them in a happy space all the time. Your life matters and your happiness counts. Remember always you are important for you.
4: Approve of yourself and stop self-criticism:
Take steps to care for your well being. Indulge in some free time just for yourself and choose the way you wish to spend it. Being assertive about your needs gives you an edge of certainty.
Self-empowerment is the key
Take care of your body mind and spirit. Trust yourself more. Choose to celebrate your accomplishments But keep that head of yours firmly on your shoulder and walk knowing you are in touch with the ground. Be balanced and learn to be assertive whenever needed, it empowers you with confidence. And you will soon be projecting it.
5: Adopt a positive body language:
Accept yourself with your shortcomings remember no one is perfect. Then decide to avoid negative self-talks and choose to self-motivate yourself every day! Spend time with positive-minded people. Avoid sentimental bullies. Do not mull in loneliness.
Live every moment the best you can. Because You Can!
You have but one life … make it your best!
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