Savvy Raj

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The Unburdening

I came across this story and it touched my heart … do take some time to read.

“I hired a plumber to help me repair an old farmhouse.
He already had a rough and tiresome day.
* a flat tire
* his electric drill fault
* his old car broke down.
* his tiffin was spoilt
* he lost his wallet
* his bank was calling for loan repayments

In all the tension and stress he finished my repairs.

Since his car broke down, I drove him home.
While I drove him home, he sat silently, but I could mark his agony and restlessness.

On arriving, he invited me in to meet his family.
As we walked toward the front door, he paused at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands and closed his eyes.

When the door opened, he was smiling and happy.
In seconds he underwent an amazing transformation.

He hugged his two small children, gave his wife a kiss, laughed, and never even slightly made them feel the troubles that he had encountered that day.

I was astonished and curious. Seeing my inquisitive eyes he said, “Oh, that’s my Trouble Tree. My best friend. My trouble carrier for the night”.
He replied. “I know I can’t help having troubles on the job, but one thing’s for sure. Those troubles don’t belong in the house with my wife and the children. So I just hang them up on the tree every night when I come home and ask God to take care of them. Then in the morning I pick them up again.”
He smiled and shared a secret. He said, “when I come out in the morning to pick ’em up, there aren’t nearly as many as I remember hanging there the night before!!”

Life may be a burden of worries, but there is a way to keep our loved ones untouched from these worries.

Time will heal every wound.

Whoever is tensed today,
look for a tree 🌳

Great advice indeed!

Feel like sharing a few reflections on a tree..

The tree symbolises the supportive grounding in the rootedness.

A tree is a friend for life.

Always there by you growing with you through the trials and tribulations.

A tree has few needs but gives so much.

It’s shade protects and it’s bearings nourishes.

There is much depth to this wisdom of being in touch with nature especially a tree … but more of it in my next article.

Have you ever taken the time to embrace a tree for a while . If you haven’t I suggest some time off with just you and a tree. You will certainly feel more collected in your thoughts connected in your heart with yourself in time.

So care to spend some time nurturing a tree if you can . Your life will be better for sure!

A few reflections of life and living…

Life is truly unpredictable!

Vagaries at work is part and parcel of life. Stressful living and tensions seem at an all time high. Sometimes we all need a shoulder of support.

It takes consistent effort by one and all to build a thriving atmosphere in the family.

On power equations:

A gentle reminder to those who bring home the moolah! Simply ensure you do not take the loved ones at home for granted and use them as punching bags to vent out your own frustration from work .

There are many so called powerful people who seem successful in professional and social circuit who get on by downloading their insecurities and problems to their families. Nothing wrong in it. In fact the family is your strength and support and they will truly care and pray genuinely but as long as there is no violence attached.

Often domestic violence can be traced to a failure in a profession as much as a faulty upbringing or most often triggered by influence of alcohol. And as for alcohol well it cuts through barriers the rich and poor divides.In fact the addicted know no class under its influence. Then there is remorse and regrets but the memories of deeds done cannot be forgotten. At best perhaps, they may be only be forgiven.

An angle not much talked about is of the emotional and mental wounds… for such torture is inflicted especially on the financially dependent . As in knowing that the family cannot escape because of societal pressures there is more power to the aggressor in question.

What is relevant is knowing how to steer clear of passing the baton of worries to one and all and creating chaos confusion and at times utter despair. Besides developing patience to bear the inevitable truly one needs to learn the strength of equanimity in all situations.

Time heals all.

The truth is we will get on by in time. The pain and problems of today become small matters tommorow. And new experiences will occupy our thoughts and vie for attention. Such is the circle of life.

Savvy

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Giving Matters!

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Faith is…

Faith is all there is

For without faith nothing is!

Savvy

A few more reflections…

When faith speaks it helps to listen
For faith conveys the depth of knowing
In simplest of ways.

Call it a belief in trust
Call it a feeling in the gut!
Call it a sense of intuition.
All a certain knowing in the sensing!

Savvy Raj

#micropoetry #life&living #inspirational


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You are enough for you!

A few words of strength and support

to manage and motivate your self …

I wrote these words as a part of one of my lectures that I was invited to deliver at a MUN conference. But it has always been there with me as my personal affirmation .

Truly you are enough for you!

Savvy

#Motivationalspeaks


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What choice would you make?

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Be a lamp or a lifeboat or a ladder

Help someone’s soul heal

Walk out of your house like a shepherd

Rumi

Precious words from Rumi which are empowering, to say the least, awakening in us to respect the innate potential we all possess to reach out to help another …

To help is to empower the mind body and spirit of another.

Empowerment is a powerful factor in building lives. Given the choice of transforming lives with the abilities, you own…if you are ready to help another…
What would you choose to be?

Being a Lamp :

A lamp lights up itself to light the way for another It is selfless and expansive . The light of a lamp lets you envision the strengths within the self as much as the others For to enable sight is to allow the envisionment. Being a light enables and empowers, as it throws light without fear or favour.
It is simply the quality of light to shine graciously!

Being a lifeboat:

It is the very purpose of a lifeboat to help save lives to allow another to hold on, to never fail in protecting from drowning in the voyage of life.

The lifeboat is a survival tool and is built to weather the storms without giving way. It floats on relentlessly without giving up to reach to safety.
Being a life boat in an emergency is like a godsend!. To save a life is to value its preciousness of the being.

Being a ladder:

Allowing the self to be utilized for another is the very nature of a ladder. In fact to be a ladder is to allow another to reach and aim higher to develop and evolve further.
A ladder is constructive in its very core essence, to build up another towards a goal.

Being a builder of another’s dreams and helping propel another to a cause greater than the self is the sign and strength of being a ladder. Being unmindful of the treading over of another in their attempt to reach their aspirations is a tall order indeed. The ladder provides the way without any personal gain.

Here are 3 beautiful sayings worth remembering always…

HANDS THAT HELP ARE HOLIER THAN LIPS THAT PRAY!

HELP EVER HURT NEVER.

ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS!

Self-empowerment &healing :

To help transform lives is to empower from the heart and make a difference!

However, it is about healing the self-first enough to let light in that helps others to see!

A friend in need is a friend indeed! ;
Whatever is your way to reach out and help, what is truly significant is the one who helps in time and need. For such a help is a hand of God in divine grace.

So make a choice to reach out to the world in your own unique way for it needs all the help it can get!


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Let go! 

Sharing a beautiful story that will make us sense and acknowledge our inner feelings and help channelize its expression in a more evolved way with deeper understanding.

*The Empty Boat -A Story of Anger.*

A monk decides to meditate alone, away from his monastery. He takes his boat out to the middle of the lake, moors it there, closes his eyes and begins his meditation. After a few hours of undisturbed silence, he suddenly feels the bump of another boat colliding with his own.
With his eyes still closed, he senses his anger rising, and by the time he opens his eyes, he is ready to scream at the boatman who dared disturb his meditation. But when he opens his eyes, he sees it is an empty boat that had probably got untethered and floated to the middle of the lake.
At that moment, the monk achieves self-realization, and understands that the anger is within him; it merely needs the bump of an external object to provoke it out of him.

From then on, whenever he came across someone who irritated him or provoked him to anger, he reminded himself: ”The other person is merely an empty boat. The anger is within me……”
In reality, we all have the anger within us, all the time, All it needs is someone, like the empty boat, to provoke it.

 

This story makes us think on many levels especially so on anger management.

Is our anger innate?How deep does it delve?

How much is our responsibility in acknowledging our true selves.

 

Acknowledgement is a step towards a response than reaction .

Acceptance leads to  greater self-awareness.

Savvy

 

The question is not only why feel provoked with anger but how to manage it. How can it be circumvented? Is there a way to do so?

Every time we recognize where the anger resides we will learn to accept the source is the self than others. And then make an effort to not suppress or repress but channelize it in more productive ways.

In our wheel of human behaviour and emotions, Anger sits in the opposite spectrum of joyousness. It is a negative emotion that propels further negative thoughts. There arises the backlash of discontent and disorientation in various degrees depending on the level of anger that manifests.

Anger truly serves no purpose than destruction

For true peace, it can be a bone of  contention

So let go of all anger and false pretensions

And value the calm that you actually are.

Savvy

 

 

 

 

On a lighter note here are a few reflections towards channelling arising negative emotions in awareness

and some amazing quotes from the great souls  to go with it !:))

 

Think Humorously:’ If red is the colour of anger it is the colour of love too!’

Think Happy: ‘For every minute of anger you are losing 60 seconds of happiness ..’.Ralph Waldo Emerson 

Think Creatively:’The Greatest remedy for anger is delay!’

Think  Practically: ‘He who angers you conquers you’.

Think Logically: ‘You will not be punished for your anger but by your anger…’ Buddha

Think Peacefully: ‘Anger is the ultimate destroyer of your own peace of mind’. Dalai Lama

Think Kindly: ‘Bless those who curse you and pray for those who mistreat you…’ Bible 

Think of changing the wavelengths:’ Anger  makes you smaller while forgiveness forces you to grow

 beyond what you are!’ 

 

Paying attention to your breath: Breath in the now…to  release resentment 

In the inhale and exhale.:  Pause to respond  and  delay a  reaction 

Express Positivism: Let your past make you better, not bitter

Express  Humility: ‘Angry people are not always wise…’ Jane Austen

Express Gratitude: ‘ Anger won’t make your problems easier but gratitude will make you stronger.’

Whenever you can …

Because you always can!

 


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Life is to Live!