# Empathy #Motivational writing

October 4, 2022
by Savvy Raj 1 Comment

What is life?

Sharing my mother’s poem today.

It is not about what we are having or doing.
It is about how we are feeling.
It is about how we make others feel.

It is not about where or how we are staying
It is about with whom we are staying.

It is not about where and what we have studied.
It is about what we are speaking.
It is about the tone of our talking.

It is not about the form or attire we are wearing.
It is about the approach & attitude we are having.

We live not with the luxuries of life
But with the state of our mind , our constant companion.

One word, or one stare has the power to change the whole state of mind, irrespective of the surrounding.
Being aware & having the right attitude in this ever changing life and making them positive ones is within one’s reach.

All it needs is the effort to make even the harsh moments to consoling n soothing moments with the right words & approach.

Yes. It needs a lot of training n conditioning to change the mind set, to walk the right path.
Yet it is worth trying as it brings peace n happiness to self & others.

Ultimately it is what we all are seeking. Right?
Ok to work. Better being silent is the best answer.

Never get hurt of insults. Take it as a way to move forward in life. It will strengthen you.

If you are not ready to adjust in life sometimes, you may have to suffer for a longer time.

Never be in awe of anyone.if you are awestuck you will be always a step behind them.

Never wish to live like others. You will loose your peace in the process.

Never compare yourself with others. It will end up in hating yourself.

Do not give much importance to other’s criticism. Then you will never live for yourself.

Being practical in approach makes life easier.

Sow the seeds of love, happiness, trust & success. They will come back in plenty. That is Nature’s Law.

If you want to know the value of your parents, live with your relatives for some.
If you want to know the value of relations live without money with them.

Never hesitate to try again. If you win it will take you to the next level. If you loose it will teach you a life lesson. Perseverance makes everything possible.

You have to cross many rejections to achieve success.

Anjana

September 28, 2022
by Savvy Raj 5 Comments

Acknowledge as is!

Today morning I happened to read my mother’s musings… which was written back in time on life. I share it here for I think it comes across as a relevant reminder for a pause in reflection.

No one is without faults.
To err is human, to forgive is divine.
Perfection in our speech, appearance, behaviour & habits are all our wants. But is it possible? Being wrong, doing wrong things, saying inappropriate words,-intentionally or not -is all in our nature. Do we realise, we too can be wrong sometimes , before pointing others.
Forgiving, if not forgetting is also in
in our nature. But how many of us are ready to do that. It is because of our ego and pride, putting ourselves first, comes before everything.
There is a proverb in Tamil. ” Even elephants can slip. ” How much ever perfect, one tends to be, mistakes happen many ways knowingly or unknowingly. If we keep this in mind , forgiving others, accepting people with their faults becomes easier.
Each is born & brought up differently. Values & principles change as per their culture , beliefs, situations and circumstances. Being stubborn & sticking to our thoughts , narrows our outlook of the world.
When we widen our spectrum, understanding & accepting others as they are, becomes much easier.
When we shift our perspective a little & start looking from other’s eyes, our shortcomings will become visible. Let’s be true n honest in our judgements.
We all need to co exist . Criticism, unless asked, distances us. Instead of accusations , appreciation & acknowledgement will bring us closer to each other. After all peace is what all of us want.
Above all we all are born with different nature by birth which is hard to change. We cannot change the stripes of a zebra. Acceptance & adjustment to a certain level is the road to peaceful co- existence.
So to have good relationships
Forget.
If not forgive
Accept
If not adjust.
We need not be divine. But need not be fault finders too. As fellow human beings , with erring in our nature, let’s all strive to live peacefully & happily acknowledge each other as they are.

Anjana

September 27, 2022
by Savvy Raj 3 Comments

On Love & Inclusion

A poignant tale of a little child sensing the favoritism by her own father was shared by my friend Ali Anani in his post….

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/ali-anani-phd-15305319_love-experience-empathy-activity-6970262610063589376-9Fbe?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop

Here are my reflections on this post… which I had initially shared with him privately but then realized that perhaps it needs to be read and understood in the larger context of the trials and tribulations in life and living..

Truth has a way of baring open the wounds of the heart and mind on its path of healing the hurt.
For truth is on its own path of self correction in this world.
For unfairness and
Injustice has to somedayfind justice
Exclusion to inclusion
Doubts to clarity.

When truth speaks
In one way or another
It is important to listen
In empathy without judgements

Truth speaks as it is
In all of innocence
Or in wisdom of awareness.

And yet…
Innocence can be daunting to handle . But addressing the truth one way or the other
Leads to discoveries of how little we know or of what is sensed & perceived.

In the story that my friend shared…here are instances of lack of inclusion in a family

Where in one day there is marked difference in the way the father speaks,
When the child says
Why are you speaking to me…

Interesting to note that you perceived the young child as witty
Whereas another may perceive it as defiance,or even an evidence of an awareness of lack of inclusion and discrimination at this household in the young child’s mind.
And that she is voicing it in all of innocence.

What would be of significance is how the father addresses this brewing disconnect.

Lack of love can be a difficult phase at any age especially for a child.
Let’s trust the universe to show the way for this child to receive what she is yearning for one way or another.
May every life be able to sense love and live life lovingly.

Savvy

September 25, 2022
by Savvy Raj 5 Comments

Truth is truth

Words have immense significance.

In the way we think speak, in the tonality, the choice of our words, we are influencing how we come across in every communication.

In saying…

I know everything -Ego

You don’t really matter so you are not worthy of my time & attention – Indifference/ Disrespect/Seclusion

How can you come in my way?
Domination

Stay silent and speak only when I tell you to.- Control

Who are you to advise me? -Pride

How dare you speak this way?
– Arrogance

If we only knew
The preciousness of life
We will begin to realize
How much of life is wasted
In arrogance and egotism.
In anger and doubt
Over things that hardly matter
In the larger plan of life
Can we choose to value
The preciousness of being
Place value for life over things.

This world is getting indifferent
Discarding truths nonchalantly
For it is difficult to swallow
But truth is truth
It finds its way ultimately
To make all the difference.

Savvy

September 22, 2022
by Savvy Raj 1 Comment

On Humility

Humility is a conscious practice in awareness.
Until it becomes a way of life.
In knowing that there is always more
Than what the eyes can see
Or the spirit can do

The soul knows
To reach beyond knowing
It is important to acknowledge the space
To allow learning to take place
Humility is dormant
When ego is dominant.
Humility is patience in waiting
A practice of humility
In thoughts words & deeds,
In listening to understand,
In letting go in faith and fortitude,
In making way for gratitude
In being hopeful in trust
In moderation and measure
Can unlock the inner potential
For humility is full of possibilities.

Savvy

September 21, 2022
by Savvy Raj 5 Comments

Conscious circles

This post is stemming from reflections to my post by a reader on LinkedIn. I simply choose to delve a bit with the insightful thoughts.

And these verses birthed along the way.

The wall of the mind
Is in each of us to forge through
In valuing the space between
Two thoughts two steps or two notes.
In choosing harmony of synchrony
In conscious awareness
In discerning thoughts
In response than reaction
In connecting the dots
In realizing the grace of unity.

In sensing the strength
Of the circle of conscious connections.

Savvy

September 18, 2022
by Savvy Raj 5 Comments

Changing Times

Our moments in life

Can be hell or heaven

Joyful or boring

As the way we see it

And in the way we take it.

The meter of time is on

Ticking away in its own way.

For every life.

To make use of time or lose it

It’s choice

To see hope in faith

To be accepting of changes

Savvy

September 14, 2022
by Savvy Raj 6 Comments

Another day!

The day we learn to be light and live in lightness and not take things so seriously, we start truly living.

After all the sun will rise and set in its own course, life will flow in the river of time, why not think of living it cruising along knowing nothing lasts forever.

Whenever life feels a little too weary..

Know tomorrow is another day

And there is always a sun awaiting to shine…

Savvy

September 11, 2022
by Savvy Raj 8 Comments

Make space

All the good in the world

Flows in to your life

In a simple act of making space

For positive intentions

By subtracting the negatives

In mindful awareness

And consistent practice…

Life begins to shift for the better.

Make a positive intention now!

Savvy

September 7, 2022
by Savvy Raj 1 Comment

Wisdom in the waves

To dare as much as to retreat
In the ebb and flow of life
Waves teaches us much!
To reach the pinnacle of success
Is one thing
But truth of nature is, it changes.

So the glory must recede in humility
Such is the way of balance.
There is no gain the holding on
There is grace in the letting go!
Such is the circle of life .

Savvy

August 30, 2022
by Savvy Raj 5 Comments

A little story

Sharing a story with a beautiful message

U will love to read this ❤️

Every day early morning a little girl would come to the temple and stand before the idol, close her eyes and with folded hands, murmur something for a couple of minutes.
Then open her eyes, bow down, smile and go out running.This was a daily affair.
The temple Poojari was observing her and was curious about what she was doing.
He thought, she is too small to know the deeper meanings of religion, she would hardly know any prayers. But then what was she doing every morning in the temple?
Fifteen days passed and Poojari now couldn’t resist but to find out more about her behaviour.
One morning, the Poojari reached there before the girl and was waiting for her to complete her ritual.
He placed his hand on her head and said, “My child, I have seen since the last fifteen days that you come here regularly. What do you do?”
“I pray,” She said spontaneously.
“Do you know any prayers?” asked the Poojari with some suspicion in his voice.
“…No” Replied the girl.
“Then what are you doing closing your eyes, every day?” he smiled.
Very innocently the girl said:“I do not know any prayer, but I know “a,b,c,d….up to z.” ‘I recite it five times’ and tell God that, “I don’t know your prayer, but it cannot be outside of these alphabets.” Please arrange the alphabets as you wish and that is my prayer.”
And she ran, jumping on her way out.
The Poojari stood there dumbstruck, staring at her for a long time as she disappeared running in the wilderness.

This is THE UNCONDITIONAL belief in God that we pray.

August 28, 2022
by Savvy Raj 3 Comments

Trust you.

I read these two lines by Stan Smith today…

Experience tells you what to do
Confidence allows you to do it .

Will also add…

And patience paves the path.
For all that you need
Will reveal itself in time.
Trust yourself to deliver.

Sharing my photo of a beautiful bloom from my garden…for who better than a flower to express this truth of life.

Think well & trust you.

Savvy

August 27, 2022
by Savvy Raj 3 Comments

Thoughts Matter…

On thinking well

The way we think has much to do with the way we feel . In the interconnections and interlooping between the way we act and react and the way think feel ,there is much happening in our body mind and spirit.

We are unique in our thoughts as much as in the way we are nurtured and reared in life and living. Our experiences reflect in our ways of behaviour . Hence to impact any transformative change in our actions it is imperative to move beyond thoughts and feelings and try to understand our inner engineering and its significance in the stream of flow from reaction to response.

The energy within is dancing through every cell of our bodies . In sending and receiving impulses as signals of communication there are electrical mechanical and chemical changes occuring within us . The resultant reactions of our body is interconnected to whatever changes are occuring in our psyche and our overall health.