There is always space to learn and understand more
Space to grow and evolve
And it all starts with a little shift in perspective.
A little rebalancing from the way things are…
Work & life
It often amazes me to see the adulation that certain people have for being the first to arrive and last to leave their workplace. I wonder if anyone has cared to check how their families feel about this?
Many on the so called respected and admired list, are people who are workaholics, burning out by the minute.
They are there, working beyond the call of duty perhaps out of personal passion, sense of ownership and responsibility or even perhaps because they feel they can’t afford to fail, may be even because it gives them an edge of pride to be known as some one who is committed.
However life is about balance and simply put, more of one leads to less of another. The trick is the wisdom of balance and steering clear of extremes.
To every workaholic out there here are few reflections…
☆Avoid stretching yourself too thin.You are already on razors edge and you are hurting one part of your life, if you continue to do what you do. Reclaim your life. Find other passions and take care of your health. Stay safe than sorry.
☆Your personal life is at stake and is also your responsibility.
☆Bringing home the money and comforts is just one half of the whole. Your family is best nurtured by your loving presence in their lives.
☆Your absence at home and family/ social affairs is missed at first and then adapted with along the way to a point of being indifferent to your presence in time. Because you are never there for them.
☆ At a certain point in life, lack of care and connection begins to show and no amount of money can be valued over time .
☆Money cannot buy love they say and it certainly becomes true, as people begin to use you for your money and you will never feel fulfilled and content after spending it.
☆Everything around you becomes materialistic to the point of manipulation and its your own doing as you threw in the money and comforts where ever and whenever your time was required or requested.
☆Relationships become meaningless without a sense of togetherness. Missing out time with another in the excuse of being busy for years will take a toll on personal life. People will get used to you not being around for them and then expecting them to be there for you when you need them is a selfish ask.
☆Your children will be affected by your continued absence . Your presence in their growing years is very important for their holistic well being. Your partner will be angry or isolated with you. And expecting things to be different as you continue your ways is not going to change anything.
☆However in recognizing the signs of workaholic and your choosing to balance different aspects of your life will start making a meaningful difference.
☆For starters acknowledge your value for your time and energy.
☆Speaking of your energy , if you have spent most of your day at work , how will you find yourself able to give more of you as you have exhausted yourself
☆Recognize where it’s slipping away and start to chalk out a balancing plan. It can transform your life and those around you.
☆Find moments that are solely yours and use it for your personal development.
☆Your career is only one part of your life. It helps you sustain your life but the relationships you have nourishes you. Without it you have no true sense of purpose.
☆If you are one of those who are thinking of grabbing opportunities and climbing the corporate ladder acknowledge that you may possibly often have an unsatisfactory family relationship at the end of it all.
☆Your passion for your work may begin to affect your health watch out early signs of strain and stress and care to take help .
Thankfully today the world is more aware of work week and many countries are Consciously doing something about it. How it affects productivity in time will be seen and how much it could contribute to work life balance, but it definitely is time reclaimed for family.
The truth is its about prioritization of what’s important for well-being in life. Personal and professional lives both are important and have demands that need your time. So balance is the key.
Passion or profit It’s a juggling act If you put one before the other You are bound to feel displaced Between loving what you do and earning to your potential Between self expression & economics. Both have the due place in our lives. To sense harmony is to find your own balance Between the two!
Life lessons ( Translated by my mother from tamil forward) The 9 laws of Karma
Whatever we do in this Universe will come back to us.
Nothing will come to us by itself. We have to work to get what we need. 3 when we learn to accept certain things then only change will happen. 4 when we change ourselves Life will also transform. 5 We should realise that we only are responsible for whatever happens in our life.
Past, Present and Future all are interconnected. 7 We cannot think of two things at the same time.
Our behaviour should reflect our thoughts and actions
If we keep on thinking the past, the present will pass without living it.
Let there be peace and happiness everywhere. Let all prosper and live a fulfilling life.
It is not about what we are having or doing. It is about how we are feeling. It is about how we make others feel.
It is not about where or how we are staying It is about with whom we are staying.
It is not about where and what we have studied. It is about what we are speaking. It is about the tone of our talking.
It is not about the form or attire we are wearing. It is about the approach & attitude we are having.
We live not with the luxuries of life But with the state of our mind , our constant companion.
One word, or one stare has the power to change the whole state of mind, irrespective of the surrounding. Being aware & having the right attitude in this ever changing life and making them positive ones is within one’s reach.
All it needs is the effort to make even the harsh moments to consoling n soothing moments with the right words & approach.
Yes. It needs a lot of training n conditioning to change the mind set, to walk the right path. Yet it is worth trying as it brings peace n happiness to self & others.
Ultimately it is what we all are seeking. Right? Ok to work. Better being silent is the best answer.
Never get hurt of insults. Take it as a way to move forward in life. It will strengthen you.
If you are not ready to adjust in life sometimes, you may have to suffer for a longer time.
Never be in awe of anyone.if you are awestuck you will be always a step behind them.
Never wish to live like others. You will loose your peace in the process.
Never compare yourself with others. It will end up in hating yourself.
Do not give much importance to other’s criticism. Then you will never live for yourself.
Being practical in approach makes life easier.
Sow the seeds of love, happiness, trust & success. They will come back in plenty. That is Nature’s Law.
If you want to know the value of your parents, live with your relatives for some. If you want to know the value of relations live without money with them.
Never hesitate to try again. If you win it will take you to the next level. If you loose it will teach you a life lesson. Perseverance makes everything possible.
You have to cross many rejections to achieve success.
You become what you consistently think about. Would you agree?
From since I can remember I have been fascinated by movement and dance. With its power and applications in grace and dignity.
I had no plans to become a dance educator but decades into dance and training here I am still thinking and writing and dancing whenever I can.
Yes, you may have many other professional careers and experiences in varied fields but the things you are deeply passionate about, you become and becomes you.
Be it any form of art of science or anything in between yet unnamed… You draw energy and purpose from it… You feed from the very energy in reference and reflection. You transform yourself and your environment with the very same energy within in enthusiasm as you come from heartfelt abundance.