Savvy Raj

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We are meant to survive

From the age of innocence
To the age of advancement

From unraveling of the mysteries
Of the mind the body and the being

Emerging from the depths of darkness
To exploration in light & space.

Diving into the ocean of life
Living in the extreme conditions

With just the will to dare
And discover the unknown

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We humans have traveled through time
Leaving imprints of consciousness

Both successful and otherwise
Every century has it’s own stories.

Yes we are living through troubled times
Calling in for tough measures.

A subject of huge debate
With confusion and chaos.

But survive we have and we will
Through calamities and war.

Inspite of impending darkness
We will keep moving towards light

Upholding hope beyond despair
Let’s help keep love alive in our hearts.

We will overcome the passing storms
We will survive the unsurmountable

We will persevere and thrive
For we are meant to survive.

Savvy


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The Path to Resurrection

Mental /Emotional abuse in relationships:

Domestic abuse happens and it need not be only physical abuse.
In my career as a dance educator and teacher spanning two decades now, I have come across many situations of mental abuse that some of my female students experienced and shared with me in the course of time. Believe me, it is a lot more rampant than we choose to accept. Some time ago I had written an article extensively on the Dignity of the being

Back then I had brought forward a true story of my own poor house help and how she stood strong in spite of continued physical torture in the hands of an abusive alcoholic husband.

Consider this a continuation of the exercise to bring up another much undercover and consciously veiled topic… of the shades and degrees of mental and emotional harassment in the name of relationships.

Age, education, class or culture does not seem to matter. It could happen to just about anyone. In fact, some very educated women, students who were affected by such partners cut a very sorry and disheartening figure, privately after the class.

Hoping however best I could use abilities in my capacity would help, I used to hold some space and time free for them to share and express what is going on in their lives. And to make them realise the power of positive expression, in helping them know that they are not alone and helpless.

We as dance educators can be if need be and when required, a great source of support to our learners in our understanding of movement. For the body never lies, we can probably be tuned in to see which of our students needs our gentle guidance and support as well from time to time.

It hurts to see a seemingly brilliant and confident woman breakdown under the weight of abuse and harassment at home. Often they would break down to share their issues with me for want of support. In the course of listening and understanding of their frustration my abilities to counsel strengthened as I started offering supported listening for their unique predicament.

I ended up realising how no two situations are the same. And besides a dominating and subjugating nature of an individual, how alcohol or substance abuse ( even chewing tobacco)are often factors that cause aggressive behaviour other than work stress and financial worries.

Often the woman finds herself in a predicament when the aggressor’s behaviour differs like chalk and cheese between day and night. There may be mental torture inflicted under the influence of a few drinks. The reasons no matter but when words and tempers spew, unfiltered and uncontrolled especially at the fag end of the day, the victim often is clueless as to how to deal with the situation.

Often drained by sporadic and incessant attacks they end up weakened by sleeping less, tossing and turning through the night wondering what they did to hear so much insinuating words. Health issues crop up in time as the body cannot cope with the confusion. And probably without any physical evidence to show, mental torture is difficult to prove. There are not many readily accessible support groups she could go here in India as yet and for the fear of judgements she prefers to suppress her hurt.

For example…

A dominating husband has a bad day at work. He gathers up all the rage and is seething inside.
His vent becomes his wife and family and often he comes home late night in a foul mood and spews venomous hate over his loved ones. Often it may be a time when all at home are asleep at night.

The reasons or the trigger to get angry could be just about anything.
It could be about a deal that did not come through at office… which he may carry forth on the home front… it first converts to deep-rooted rage and lack of patience and tolerance in general. It could be about anything …like, not picking up the phone when he calls, it could be about the lunch sent from home, which he found had less salt, it could be about not opening the door on time, it could be about a credit card swipe at a supermarket which irks him.

After such attacks especially at night most often there is regret in the morning for the words said, but it cannot be taken back.. And pride and ego stops him from feeling or saying sorry and taking help for amending his ways. The patterns continue. Cold silence ensues on both ends for want of peace. Until things settle in the course of time only to rise again another day.

The victim is often clueless about how to help in such a situation as she is continually bombarded with her weaknesses and told that all problems arise because of her. She often takes recourse to silence as there may be extended family members staying with them or for the fear that the children would hear and get hurt further.

Dealing with anger and rage and temper tantrums.

If you are ever at the receiving end of unforeseen anger you need to brace yourself from getting hurt and affected due to sensitivity.
Especially when you are confronted with a situation where you are taken aback by someone spewing anger all over you, showering you with mean and unnecessary words and raining abuses over you for something you did not do, as well as creating a ruckus about silly things… remember your best weapon is non-retaliation.

Try as they might to get you to say something by provoking with crude words … do not engage.
There is nothing like nonengagement for handling mental and emotionally abusive relationships.
It does not mean that you accept the pain and hurt rather you are aware of what works and how it is a more sensible way to tackle such a circumstance.

Also, it helps to understand that the aggressor is perhaps suffering and doesn’t know to channel and deal with the issues at hand and perhaps takes the path of bullying, manipulating, attacking by verbally insinuating and insulting to counter the situation. Know and accept they need help too. If they have any sense left they ought to get it for their own self. Remember the saying, you can only take the horse to the water but it has to drink on its own. So accept that you are doing your best and let go of worries.

Yes, it amounts to a great degree of emotional maturity to be silent and not succumb to such provocation.

A few tips…

If you find yourself identifying with any such predicament, allow yourself to express yourself.
Take help, speak to an emotionally mature member of your immediate family

Do not suppress in the morning for you know deep inside that this can and will happen again. It is just a matter of time.
Let them know there is so much that you are going through and that you need help.
Sleep as much as you can for you might often be sleep deprived.

Take interest in what you are feeding your body, avoid junk for you might just be nutritionally deficient with all the mental tensions and conflicts.
The body needs a vent to release the contracted pain, exercise well as much as you can.

Breathing consciously deeper with awareness can calm the agitated mind.
If you can write, regularly try to maintain a journal of gratitude for all the good things that are happening with you.

Look around and notice your blessings. They will be in the form of children, friends, pets, your skills, your faith, your inner resilience or your never say die attitude.

Realise you are meant to live not just exist.

Remember there is always a way!

Remember you are full of inner strength that you can harness even in your vulnerability.
Trust that this faith in yourself will take you through!

Because you are enough for you!
Savvy

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Dynamics of Power

Read On Domination Part 1


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Love : A gift of grace


What is life if not sensed with the tenderness of the heart

What is life if not sacrificed at the altar of love,

What is life if not moved from the depth of the soul.

What is life if not loved beyond the shackles of time.

What is life if not consumed sublime by the arrow of the heart

What is love if not coached into nature of life by the nurture of love …

What is life if not cleansed through tears of yearning.

What is love if not set aglow through the embers of passion

What is life if not basked in the warmth of love

What is life if not pining in the patience awaiting

As love conquers you it blesses you in the knowing.

Make not a mockery of love

Serenade love and allow it to speak truth

Love surfaces from the depth of emotions

To mend you and this world to a better place.

As true love is eternal

Free as bird in flights of oblivion

Travelling in the abandon

Of the wilderness of the spirit

Yet bonded in the boundless infinity

Endless love a gift of grace

Acknowledge this treasure

Blending two souls in one.

As a life loved is well lived… such a rare sight!

What a blessing it truly is….A love like that!

Savvy


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Acceptance

When life pans out
All the colours of the spirit and soul
Just as much as the joy’s in the hues and tints.
There are many shades and tones that challenge…

The path is interspersed with light and dark
Reflections of light
Dance and disappear
Like the passing clouds…

At times an incessant downpour of density
Like unrelenting thunderstorms
Even flashing lights through without respite
Excesses have a way of wearing itself out.

Like the colours of nature
Are known to balance themselves out…
Accept to blend and flow
In the seasons that change

And yet stay clearly distinguished
Maintaining the beauty in their vividity
Know the night moves on to the day
All is in flow in the circle of life.

Savvy


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Are you where your feet are?

Are you where your feet are?
Can your heart and mind meet as one?
Can your thoughts & deeds mean the same ?

Are your words from the heart?
Are you comfortable in your own skin?
Do you feel one with yourself?
Are you grounded enough?

Are you where your feet are?
Are you truly in this now?

Savvy


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Once upon a time

Once upon a time

Long long ago

In a far away land

Was a sweet little child

Who used to have a fairy tale book

Read to her by her dear mother

Every night as she was tucked into bed

She would hear a story from her mom

But there were clauses to this plan.

It was a given thing between the two

The story had to have a happy ending

The story includes people and animals

Or even a garden of fruits and flowers

Enchanting stories of courage and dare

Of compassion and care

Of humanity at large

In goodwill and love

Or even seemingly silly stories

Of life and living in general

Of fun and frolic.

But there was a pact between the two

Which her mother followed to the tee.

Simply there was one area

The story must not go to or be

Of things above in the sky.

Although her mother was too drawn

To explore the mystery of space…

But the little girl felt a little too lost

To fathom space and beyond

May be it was just her nature

Or perhaps there was more to it

Of why she was uncomfortable with unknown space!

Leaving a few musings in contemplation…

Are fears rational or just an illusion in the making?

What are irrational fears?

Are they there for a reason?

Do fears manifests from past lives?

Do fears eventually help us someway?

How does one overcome these fears?

Can we grow out of our little fears?

Do you have any experience of fears as a kid?

Have you chosen to outgrow them?

Have you managed to face your fears?

For life awaits on the other side of fear!

Savvy


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Cosmic Dance

Across the star spangled space ….
Where eternal time seems to standstill
Is the dance of cosmic lights
In a celebration of universal consciousness.

Hear the sounds of music
Humming through the cosmic strings
Witness the patterns shaping
In the spacing of the stars at night.

Sense the rhythm of rhapsody
In the sounds between the silent spaces
In the sacred patterns of creation
See the evolving circles of life…

Savvy


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In this now

Imagine each moment in this now
Is brimming with possibilities
Each moment is in a choice you make
The way you feel, the attitude you carry
Its charts its course of how it impacts you.

You are immensely powerful
In making the most of the moment
Your intent to see and visualize
Can change the moment for you
For moments are as you see them.

Choose to see life with a love-filled heart

Choose to see hope beyond despair

Choose to see the joy reflecting through you

Choose to shape and sculpt the moment.

Choose to smile from the heart

Choose to channel the energy of this now

Choose to steer in positive thoughts

Choose gratitude for this now

For all that you are, were and can be.

Savvy

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Untold stories

So many stories

Echoing through the eras

Etched in the sands of time.

So many patterns formed in the living

A proof of things that were

And shaped by the situations

In the challenges of life

That was, is and will be.

“The patterns are never random but a part of a history signifying the survival mode.”

Savvy


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Live life lovingly! 2

If you truly seek

You will find yourself

A heart full of love

Kindness and compassion

A kindred spirit full of passion

Is awaiting your discovery.

If you choose to neglect

To disown and be indifferent

To let go without a care or concern

What is left is lost in time

Nothing remains of it anymore.

Value the gifts of life in living

Like true love and honour it.

You have all but one life

To sense know and care

And intend to make time to live

The blessing called love.

Savvy

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Flowing in harmony

Flowing along is a sign of strength

Misconstrued to be a weakness

It is an instrument in awareness

Of awakening to the potential.

In respecting the harmony in nature

There is so much to understand

In the path of non resistance

In letting go doubts & fear of the worst.

To thrive in the flow of possibilities.

In between the pressure of momentum

In between the dance of forces

Occurs the buoyancy of being

A self adjusted neutrality

A Flow in harmony.

Steer away from impulsive resistance

Whatever you resist persists

Yes while resistance is natural in life

Resistance may create tension

Yet it can be a signal of change

In channelling this very resistance.

In allowing to let go completely

Soon tension eases in the flow

In perseverance & patience.

In response than reaction

Creating positive transmutation.

In thoughts words and deeds

Sifting & sailing through your perspectives

Till harmony becomes you.

Savvy


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On Change

You are not the same

You are changing

In every moment

The change is creating you

That changer is within you !

You are the change, the changer and the changing you seek.

The wisdom is in…

Seeing the structure in the chaos and relate to the rhythms in nature.

Following along the infinite beginnings all leading to the same place :’Your true self’.

And in a knowingness that allows you to exercise choice in free will to be who you truly are.

Savvy Raj

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Life thrives in nurture.

On the interconnects of nature and nurture.

I am fond of nature. I enjoy witnessing and understanding the development of life and its interconnectedness. I also happen to love reading and reflecting about life and its potential possibilities. It provokes thought on the origins of nature and nurture. Be it life in a seed or a plant or a fruit or a human and the relationship with the environment.

Seeds that are sown and reaped depend on many factors Those are what induce the nature of seeds its distinct characteristics.

Yet at times these very factors also play truant that even with the so called right conditions and everything under control, the consequences are devastating.

They may detoriate or stay stunted or stagnate and wither on their own without a clue. So what is it about seeds that never grow…Perhaps they are just not ready as yet and need more time or they are exposed to more than they can handle!
Or they are just nutrient dense which clogs, or even conditions like too much water and sun . Or they are preys to parasitic predators as we speak .

On another parallel speaking of parents and children here I am reminded of what is called helicopter parenting style the kind that almost end up hovering over their children, which just doesn’t leave any room for kids to grow on their own.

Everything needs space and balance of elements to grow and sustain well.
To germinate on its own and explore possibilities in trial and error.

The sweetest of fruits may hold the truth of their upbringing.
The bitterness in fruits could have developed along the way in the way they were handled or induced with pesticides that makes them poisonous to the consumer .
Difficult conditions leave an imprint on them that in time could alter their very nature and characteristics. But it is simply clear that the effects of good nurture in nature yields positive results.

So many questions we could pose to ourselves in our search for a better tommorow for us all!

  • How can we nurture ourselves as an individual, as a community or even as a nation and beyond as one world intentionally.
  • What are the paths to prosocial behavior and relationships.
  • What are the ways to bring about transformational changes that help in thriving beyond simply existing.
  • How can we build on hope and a sense of optimism for positive outcomes from the grassroots levels
  • How can we think beyond and take responsible actions that will help heal ourselves and our world.

Our wellbeing is our responsibility as life is a gift . Let us find collectively work at finding solutions that work in evolving our selves for the better than self destruct our beautiful world .

Just care to remember

Be it a flower, a tree an animal or a human being
Life thrives in nurture with the cultivation of right care and attitude.

Savvy

The seeds of this post were sown from a very inspirational post I read by my dear friend Ali Anani’s recently https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:6518769709775679488


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Birthing Creativity

On chaos and order in birthing creativity!

Chaos is a precursor to order
It is the law of nature
Disorder and order are cyclical
All a matter of generation and regeneration.

Yet in all these complexities
There is a spark of simple brilliance
As in the flux of nature there is always
a stillness of consistency
Of interdependence in the interconnectedness

To accept change as a given
Creates an acceptance of a flow
Bringing forth new frontiers
In perspectives and ideas
Allowing ease of the flow.

The truth of creativity
Is that it is infinite and expansive
It is free flowing without fixation
It is boundless and unique.

Acknowledging the chaos as much as the order
As they are and meant to be….
Creates a conducive environment
For the birth of new creativity.

Savvy


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An invitation to dance…

A good dancer invites you on a journey

You choose to flow along if you wish

Never in compulsion but in emulsion

Of the spirit of the moves

In unison from the heart of the art

In emulation of the joy of the dance

That frees you into acknowledging

The rhythm within so divine.

Listening to the melody in reverance

Tuning to the beat of the distant drums

Movements in momentous vibrance

Then all is harmony in the symphony.

Savvy