Savvy Raj

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The third tilts the tide!

When in friendships two is company and three a crowd…

A small story.
Recently my young cousin shifted into my city to work. She had found a suitable job and her first step into settling herself was to find a place to stay on her own.

Although she stayed with us initially, being independent by nature we knew soon that she would be keen on finding her own place.

Understanding her need for independent living we helped her scout one hostel which seemed all fine except the time and cost of commute as it was a little distant from her place of work.

Soon she realised she was wasting money and time. She started networking with her colleagues and she landed an offer from one.

The girl in question was staying in a tiny non descript place barely enough for two but pretty much close to her office. She asked her to move in with her and share her rent and other expenses. Realising the convenience of proximity to her place of work as she could simply walk to office and the fact that the rent was truly affordable my cousin agreed to shift in.

Being a very careful spender my cousin was all excited. Moreover she was elated in fact that she happily shared how good it would be, to not have to spend so much time travelling as well.

We too were glad she found a place near her workplace and decided to help her shift on a suitable day which happened to be yesterday.

Now life is known to be unpredictable
Between the then and now many things can change. Such is the nature of life and living.
But a young girl coming away from home and hearth with a suitcase full of dreams in her heart would hardly be the one to realise the vagaries of life and living.

It so happened, that after all the eagerness of finally making it to the new home, a rude shock awaited her. The girl who had offered her to share the flat brought in one more colleague to stay. But it wasn’t never discussed mutually between. This gave rise to a lot of tension between them. My cousin felt cheated that there was no transparency in the dealing . Moreover there was no space for the third person in an already cramped room.

Now my cousin was braving tears trying to tell me the whole incident this morning . Although I don’t suspect her tenacity to tackle the situation one bit and find a solution to her problem I couldn’t help but feel sorry for her . My heart reaches out to her as I write this . I wish her God speed in finding the right home for herself in this city.

A few reflections on Life and living

So much about trust issues here
To trust another is about believing
But a belief that must be valued by the one you place your trust one .
Think twice read the signs and place your trust on people carefully.

  • (My cousin decided to vacate her hostel even before the actual date of vacating to save her travel expenses).Sometimes not doing things on an impulse but waiting it out by observing the developing situation and then taking move helps.
  • Life can be challenging moment to moment. So much for erratic development and behaviour changes in a person. But people are different by default and sooner one acknowledge this the better it is.
  • A great lesson in being careful. So before taking things and people for granted no matter how close it makes sense to set certain things straight on record.
  • Living independently at a young age can certainly be challenging but the wisdom is to sense the challenges as they come and be strengthened by it.
  • When I shared this story, there were three new perspectives.
  • Firstly the introduction as the centre line becomes a connecting line that gives shape to the 2 semicircles.
  • Secondly while 2 dots can only make a line the 3rd one can give it varied forms.
  • Thirdly any duel cannot be judged without a 3rd referee.
  • The entry of 3rd person ( child) makes the family complete.
  • All is truly in a shift of perspectives.The 3rd is a PowerPoint. It can balance or tilt the whole to one side.

As for my cousin it is a valuable lesson learnt for a lifetime in hindsight.And I believe she is only stronger by it. Wishing her the best of luck!

Have you had any experience where the third person has changed the course of your friendship?

Do share…

Savvy

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Paradox of Emotions

Every moment is a cornucopia of sensing
Fleeting thoughts in the making
Feelings and emotions reveal themselves.
Between action and inaction

And in the stillness in between
Like the ebb and flow on the tides
While at times amplifying & complicating situations
By tilting the tuning of the body and mind.

Sometimes overpowering almost self
defeating
Sometimes compelling to release the stress withholding
To ease up the being & free up some space
Between thought and action.

Think of your emotions
As a bridge in between
To pause and reflect a while
And then to respond.

Respect your self and own your emotions.
For all your emotions make you, you.
Feel good that you can express
In so many shades and tones.

Emotions are interlinked
In every moment of life and living
All the while authenticating and revealing
The person you truly are.

Savvy

#mindbodyconnection #selfrespect #selfacceptance #wellbeing #beingyou


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Stay peaceful

On Peace

Stay calm and contained
Your purpose is in the larger picture
Flow with thoughts lightly

Dwell not in fear and favour.
Life is beautiful when you see it so!

Savvy


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Life.

A journey so unique

Magnitude of creation.

Whole and complete.

When luck favours

Path of choice

Changes destiny

Opportunities galore.

When luck runs out

Opressive and intolerable

Insecurities abound

Trying times drying out resources.

And yet…

Times moves on it’s course…

Coffers empty to be filled again.

Luck charms it’s way back.

Such is the way

Of the cycle of life

Circle of life and living

Savvy


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Being a Witness…

The unabashed beauty of this world is but an illusion.

Marking time in the constancy of change.

Whatever good is in this moment is a gift of now

To wonder in awe and receive in gratitude…

And when reality bites as the seasons change.

It is in us to learn to witness without want but with understanding and patience.

As all is in the turning of time.

The appearance to disappearance of beauty and the the bounties is but an illusion.

What is today beautiful can be barren tomorrow in the resurgence

Making space for new life to emerge for life continues beyond, in the grand plan of things

In hope, trust and belief of a beautiful morrow…

Follow the dictates of nurture.

Covet not what is not yours.

Be grateful and express gratitude for life.

And value the beauty of this now!

So much intricacy in the evolving artistry.

So much wisdom in the moment to imbibe.

So many lessons in nature to nurture.

Seek to live learning and growing.

Striving to be in a witness mode.

Sense and be one with the flow

For you are the flow!

Savvy

Whatever there is in this ever changing world, all that is enveloped by the Lord.

With this understanding renounce and enjoy ( without owning) what is due to u .

Do not covet for the wealth of other. ( Ishavasya Upanishad 1)

So much wisdom in these lines


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The Tree Remembers & How!

The Axe Forgets
The Tree Remembers.
…African Proverb

The surging pain of the strike
The slashing that seethes the soul.
The emotions deepen the wound
Such is the exacting nature of the hurt.

But learn you must
To gradually evolve
To let go the past
To grow anew
Arise from the scars
Forget you may not
But forgive you can!

Like the barks of the tree
Although scathed and bruised
By the cuts of the axe
Growing out new branches
And blossoming into spring
Flowering in fortitude…
Strengthening the Soul
Renewing the spirit

For the Bark of a Tree …
Tells the tale of sheer grit
And strength in the grounding.

Your life’s scars are patterns
Life has drawn on you
While you held ground.

Replenish &Regenerate. Only to bloom again in time!

Be proud of who you are.
You are amazing! !

Savvy


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What choice would you make?

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Be a lamp or a lifeboat or a ladder

Help someone’s soul heal

Walk out of your house like a shepherd

Rumi

Precious words from Rumi which are empowering, to say the least, awakening in us to respect the innate potential we all possess to reach out to help another …

To help is to empower the mind body and spirit of another.

Empowerment is a powerful factor in building lives. Given the choice of transforming lives with the abilities, you own…if you are ready to help another…
What would you choose to be?

Being a Lamp :

A lamp lights up itself to light the way for another It is selfless and expansive . The light of a lamp lets you envision the strengths within the self as much as the others For to enable sight is to allow the envisionment. Being a light enables and empowers, as it throws light without fear or favour.
It is simply the quality of light to shine graciously!

Being a lifeboat:

It is the very purpose of a lifeboat to help save lives to allow another to hold on, to never fail in protecting from drowning in the voyage of life.

The lifeboat is a survival tool and is built to weather the storms without giving way. It floats on relentlessly without giving up to reach to safety.
Being a life boat in an emergency is like a godsend!. To save a life is to value its preciousness of the being.

Being a ladder:

Allowing the self to be utilized for another is the very nature of a ladder. In fact to be a ladder is to allow another to reach and aim higher to develop and evolve further.
A ladder is constructive in its very core essence, to build up another towards a goal.

Being a builder of another’s dreams and helping propel another to a cause greater than the self is the sign and strength of being a ladder. Being unmindful of the treading over of another in their attempt to reach their aspirations is a tall order indeed. The ladder provides the way without any personal gain.

Here are 3 beautiful sayings worth remembering always…

HANDS THAT HELP ARE HOLIER THAN LIPS THAT PRAY!

HELP EVER HURT NEVER.

ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS!

Self-empowerment &healing :

To help transform lives is to empower from the heart and make a difference!

However, it is about healing the self-first enough to let light in that helps others to see!

A friend in need is a friend indeed! ;
Whatever is your way to reach out and help, what is truly significant is the one who helps in time and need. For such a help is a hand of God in divine grace.

So make a choice to reach out to the world in your own unique way for it needs all the help it can get!