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The third tilts the tide!

When in friendships two is company and three a crowd…

A small story.
Recently my young cousin shifted into my city to work. She had found a suitable job and her first step into settling herself was to find a place to stay on her own.

Although she stayed with us initially, being independent by nature we knew soon that she would be keen on finding her own place.

Understanding her need for independent living we helped her scout one hostel which seemed all fine except the time and cost of commute as it was a little distant from her place of work.

Soon she realised she was wasting money and time. She started networking with her colleagues and she landed an offer from one.

The girl in question was staying in a tiny non descript place barely enough for two but pretty much close to her office. She asked her to move in with her and share her rent and other expenses. Realising the convenience of proximity to her place of work as she could simply walk to office and the fact that the rent was truly affordable my cousin agreed to shift in.

Being a very careful spender my cousin was all excited. Moreover she was elated in fact that she happily shared how good it would be, to not have to spend so much time travelling as well.

We too were glad she found a place near her workplace and decided to help her shift on a suitable day which happened to be yesterday.

Now life is known to be unpredictable
Between the then and now many things can change. Such is the nature of life and living.
But a young girl coming away from home and hearth with a suitcase full of dreams in her heart would hardly be the one to realise the vagaries of life and living.

It so happened, that after all the eagerness of finally making it to the new home, a rude shock awaited her. The girl who had offered her to share the flat brought in one more colleague to stay. But it wasn’t never discussed mutually between. This gave rise to a lot of tension between them. My cousin felt cheated that there was no transparency in the dealing . Moreover there was no space for the third person in an already cramped room.

Now my cousin was braving tears trying to tell me the whole incident this morning . Although I don’t suspect her tenacity to tackle the situation one bit and find a solution to her problem I couldn’t help but feel sorry for her . My heart reaches out to her as I write this . I wish her God speed in finding the right home for herself in this city.

A few reflections on Life and living

So much about trust issues here
To trust another is about believing
But a belief that must be valued by the one you place your trust one .
Think twice read the signs and place your trust on people carefully.

  • (My cousin decided to vacate her hostel even before the actual date of vacating to save her travel expenses).Sometimes not doing things on an impulse but waiting it out by observing the developing situation and then taking move helps.
  • Life can be challenging moment to moment. So much for erratic development and behaviour changes in a person. But people are different by default and sooner one acknowledge this the better it is.
  • A great lesson in being careful. So before taking things and people for granted no matter how close it makes sense to set certain things straight on record.
  • Living independently at a young age can certainly be challenging but the wisdom is to sense the challenges as they come and be strengthened by it.
  • When I shared this story, there were three new perspectives.
  • Firstly the introduction as the centre line becomes a connecting line that gives shape to the 2 semicircles.
  • Secondly while 2 dots can only make a line the 3rd one can give it varied forms.
  • Thirdly any duel cannot be judged without a 3rd referee.
  • The entry of 3rd person ( child) makes the family complete.
  • All is truly in a shift of perspectives.The 3rd is a PowerPoint. It can balance or tilt the whole to one side.

As for my cousin it is a valuable lesson learnt for a lifetime in hindsight.And I believe she is only stronger by it. Wishing her the best of luck!

Have you had any experience where the third person has changed the course of your friendship?

Do share…

Savvy

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5 Tips To Breakthrough The Rut of Routine  

Rut of Routine

Are you feeling you are living a routine life

You get up and you do things mechanically without a trace of being alive to it.

Do you feel life is boring and just another day to rise and do your duties as a chore?

Do you sometimes wish for the day to end before it even begins?

Do you feel life is too complicated and desperately want a change of scene…

Perhaps then you are passing through the path of nowhere.

Life often hands you wisdom at the time you are in the path of least resistance because it wants you to listen keenly.

It wants you to understand you are your own path maker and path breaker, you are your own teacher and tutor.

You are your best friend and guide.

It wants you to sense the futility of living so that you can finally bridge over and honour the living you. And perhaps then strive to nourish the moments of life left with you willingly.

Going berserk in helplessness, sensing pain or loss and loneliness are part of phases we may all move through…. at some point in our life. The choice is with us how to find ourselves than lose ourselves. Some find solace and comfort in others along the path when the going gets too tough. Some are givers and some takers in the interbeing of life and living And travellers we all already are.

Here are 5 steps you can take to shake free from the rut of routine.

1: Work on Self-observation:

Observe more of your environment. Develop healthy interests in the world you are living. Care to understand more. Be open to learning.

2 Value & acknowledge one another:

Many times life feels like a standstill and as if its caught in a rut of routine and mundane because it is truly how one is living. When moments are given value over things, when people around start to matter, life starts to change and evolve for the better. Make an effort to greet people extend polite courtesies without expectation and acknowledge another as they are. Life starts to transform vividly as you start showing interest.

3 Love your self & cultivate gratitude:

Balance the relationship with yourself and others. Show self-respect and care to love the person you truly are. Cultivate the habit of being grateful for the blessings of life …. it holds you in good stead.

4 Trust yourself more:

Develop your sense of self-worth and self-esteem as you value your thoughts you will learn to trust yourself more in your deeds.

5 Share more. Reflect the positive:

As you learn and engage with the world you will come across much that inspires and intrigues you. Share the positive messages from the universe and send the world your goodwill in care.

Someday when you truly need, the world returns it back to you manifold…such is the way of this circle of life and living as we are strengthened simply is raising of our positive interconnects as travellers in the interbeing.

Savvy Raj


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Strength of Interconnects

A circle of thoughts. http://www.savvyraj.com

Every one of us has the ability to create the strength of the circle within us and it can start with movements in grace of connectedness to the powers within.

Every thought can be chosen to reflect a flow of hope and goodwill . Every deed that follows then will someway reflect that very thought and that would be the strength of the circle amplified.
When there is harmony in our thoughts and the core intention within…Peace and Goodwill reigns in our hearts .

Savvy Raj


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Value the Pauses.

Value the power in the pauses!

To pause is to respect the moments before and after the pause as much as the pause itself.

For in understanding the value of every moment, we learn to reflect and respond than react thoughtlessly in the spur of the moment.

In doing so we gradually learn to graciously engage with the now as a way of being.

#Positivevibes #Mentoring #lifeskills #freetips #nowmatters

Savvy


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 Moments

Breathe in this moment

Enjoy the spaces between the steps

Value the power in the pauses

Value the moments not things

For someday these moments become

our lifestory.

Care to enjoy the life in these moments!

Savvy


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Stay Stable

On Stability

Stay stable

A tree is a fine example of stability in life…
Take strength from it , adopt its values nourish it, nurture it.

In the knowing that all your needs and neccessities are met as you cultivate within you this tree of grounding in the stability .

Savvy


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Stay True

On Honesty and Integrity

Stay true…
To your words and deeds given and done.
For they are who you truly are.
Backing out in both, after promises
Remember is not an option.
For it shows up poorly for the self.

Savvy