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5 Tips on Anger Management
A story share on Anger Management
There was a saint, who was never affected or angry at anyone, how much ever anyone ill treated or insulted him.
His disciple was intrigued by this nature and wanted to know the secret of his calmth.
When he asked the saint, the saint patiently explains how he conquered his anger.
“I had this long time habit of meditating while sitting in an empty boat on a lake. While doing so, once when I was in deep meditation suddenly another boat hit my boat . I was so angry to know who was so careless to disturb my meditation. But when I opened my eyes in anger I saw an empty boat which was moved by the blowing wind and hit my boat. I realised my anger was unaimed as it was an empty boat .
So when ever I get angry I remembered it n think this is an empty boat too and became quiet.
Our anger affects us in 3 ways.
1.It affects our wisdom
2.It affects our body
3.It affects our behavior.
Now you know the secret of my calm nature.”
The truly strong person is not the one who controls others by physical strength, but the one who can control himself from his anger.
This simple story elucidates the necessity of self reflection and awareness of the negative effects of anger on oneself as much as others.
Anger is often a result of frustration and feeling blocked . The reactions can escalate out of control in time.
Uncontrolled Anger ruins life and living.
Anger is damaging and destructive.
It is important to break free from its vicious cycle.Here are 5 tips for breaking free of Anger cycle.
1. Taking some ‘ me time out ‘ everyday.
2.Thinking before Speaking
3 Practicing Forgiveness & Letting go.
4 Using Humor to Diffuse Tension
5 Using Relaxation Methods for Calming
There is a need to acknowledge anger patterns and work on the triggers that affect. So more than prevention by suppression it is better to understand the loss of control of words and actions and channelize it well.
Like a little time out for self could be about engaging in physical exercise, dancing , music gardening, any hobby or reading a book, regular meditation or simply witnessing nature .
All are very helpful in bringing back a sense of balance in our perspectives of thinking and creating a space between our steps.🙂
Always remember, it is important to know it is completely ok to seek professional help to manage anger when it is affecting our life and the lives around us.
Savvy
5 steps to Self Care.
Feeling Enmeshed?
1Are you feeling enmeshed in life and living?
2 Do you feel you are often taken for granted?
3Are you feeling you are giving more than you are receiving?
4Are you trying to do more than you actually can?
5Are you feeling criticized for everything good you do?
6Are your kind and benevolent intentions disrespected by your loved ones?
7Are you feeling threatened into submission?
8Are you feeling tightened by your own net of people whom you love?
9Are you gasping to breathe free?
10 Are you feeling a loss of control and confidence in daily life?
If you have answered more yes than no then chances are you are truly enmeshed and need help.
You need to redefine boundaries and clarify your stance.
Often creating boundaries is confused with being unapproachable and seen to be controlling and limiting.
But often it is about creating a space for the self, as much as to draw a line for others so that they dont tread all over you.
Caring for the self matters and one can be empowering and empathetic at the same time.
So it is important to know your needs matters and that it is not necessary to say yes to every thing and every one. You need to to learn to take a stance and set your boundary that allows another to respect your being.
Only when you establish your stance you create healthy boundaries for others to take you seriously and not take advantage of your kindness.
It is important to know where you end and another begins.Then you learn to be in relationships and yet be yourself fully as you are and not full of yourself.
Expanding your sense of self can be challenging as well. Simply understand all of life is valuable in it’s own special way including you . In respecting life and living you convey the value and responsibility of mutual coexistence.
5 Steps to gaining control of your life begins with you.
1.Know you are alive and not simply existing.
2. Be assertive but not arrogant
3. Be confident and speak with clarity.
4. Remember your purpose in life and communicate intently
5. Build on your strengths to thrive.
Savvy
Finding a friend…
Do you work yourself too hard, Searching for a friend
Fear not, for there are many sailing in the same boat.
Finding a friend in another
Is seeing a mutual joy of being
With one another whatever the interest
In seeing not necessarily eye to eye
But sensing the heart to heart in life and living.
Blessed are you to receive a true friendship
And the onus is on you to truly appreciate it.
For no matter the years, friendship never die
If there is value for the friendship
Treasure the blessing of a good friend.
Nurture the relationship the best you can.
Have spaces in your togetherness
So that you gather life experiences to muse upon.
A good friend listens and speaks from the heart and mind.
A true friendship is often blatant to the point of being brutally honest.
All for the sake of evolving for the better
And such are the friendships that withstand the test of time.
Finding friends is wonderful
But staying friends makes all the difference.
Savvy
The Essence Of The Art of Dance
The Essence of the Art of Dance
To dance is to honour your body in every move.
To dance is to sense the freedom of the spirit.
To dance is being human to value all that you love.
To dance is to breathe in the soulful connects.
To dance is to tune in to every new moment.
To dance is to inspire another to unleash their shackles.
To dance is to meditate with creative intent.
To dance is to breathe in the wisdom of the creative spirit.
Ms. Savvy Raj
Member International Dance Council
UNESCO
On Caring
The motto …”Behave with others as you would want them behave with you ”is a great way to live life developing a reflective and compassionate attitude and is essential to evolving in the being. The very purpose of life’s experiences is to transform for the better, however our perspectives are often the manifest of our experiences…
A strong focus towards career and finances is no doubt important as well as necessary for life but extending beyond the self is about caring to see beyond the illusions of limited existence.
Every birth is a manifestation of hope love and care for life itself. To live denying it with overtly materialistic motives amounts to nothing at all … as in the end none can ever carry their hoardings and ferry it across. Materialistic life must give way to a more meaningful existence… that’s the way of life as it goes.
The most successful people on earth care about their journey than just the incentives…they enjoy their learning and sharing despite their obstacles because they look out to adding meaning to their lives.
As we respect life and value it enough to care for it , gradually there is the realization that we are never alone .. and that being self centered never works.
Remember…
Life is meant to be lived with love and care not just to exist.
Savvy
On Thinking Thoughts
Thinking is open to possibilities
Thought is already channelled
To be fair and square
Thinking is about the now
Emerging in this moment.
Thought is the past
Over and done.
Yet every thought matters
As it may enable new ways of thinking…
And so it goes
Until these loops form a pattern
And hit a sweet spot of light
Illuminating a new path way!
Savvy
