Savvy Raj

Live Life Lovingly!


Learning from a free spirit

Today I write about my dear and very loving father…

Perhaps the most uncomplicated man.

A paragon of the free spiritedness of a child.

He has an uncanny ability to be happy like a child.

What he desires are little things like a child.

Yes, he knows how to get what he  desires

But the happiness he feels & expresses, in the most ordinary things

That is his blessing of simplicity.

Life can be an epitome of adventure and adaptability.

It can challenge you & test your resilience & reserves

But to be able to be in touch with the inner child in you.

No matter how  life takes its toll on you

Is the strength in the vulnerability.

I dedicate these musings today to my eternally ‘young at heart’ father.

For from him, I have imbibed many beautiful learnings
Will share three, especially relevant here…

  • To be able to find happiness in the ordinary things.
  • To be able to stay hopeful, light & positive, no matter the density in the moment.
  • To think well of all and make way for happy thoughts and share goodwill.

  • God Bless You Dad!



    Stepping out of our own way!

    We are Magical beings in the flow
    Such is the truth of creation
    Yet often we are blinded by our own self
    Clouding  our minds with density
    Of thoughts and doubts
    For we are so full of ourselves
    Our illusory pride and prejudices
    Out  assumed notions and convictions.
    That we forget we are part of the infinite abundance.
    With immense potential in the possibilities.

    If only we can believe 
    In our being and choose to trust
    In the purpose of our being.
    Acknowledge with awareness
    The spirit of life and living
    Choosing to thrive in the flow.
    Learning  to allow and accept
    The unfolding cosmic patterns
    By stepping out of our own way!



    Nature fascinates

    We explore it in unique ways
    Some of us lookup at the sky
    Admiring the infinite vastness
    Of spaces above and beyond

    Some of us look down  at the ground
    Preferring  to  dig deep into nature
    To witness the foundation  of living
    Exploring the very roots of the life

    Some choose to dream and envision
    What might be, in  hope for the morrow
    Some sit in stillness  witnessing their breath
    Knowing all the truths of life is within.

    Some prefer to dance with life
    In this now as it unfolds
    Accepting nature as it appears
    Preferring  to make best of its moments.



    Boomerang Effect

    Love boomerangs
    It is the very nature of love.
    For love generates more love
    In the sharing is creating
    In the creation is the spreading
    Of this heartfelt expansion called love.

    Love is meant to flow
    For life to be sustained.
    Love flows its course
    In its own time.
    Such is the power of love
    Love when channeled
    In goodwill transforms the world.

    In this love, life is lived
    In this love writers write
    Dancers dance,  artists  create
    Poetry flows, Singers sing
    All in the resonance of love.

    Love envelopes the whole spirit
    Without fear or favor
    For love boomerangs
    Such is nature of love.
    Sweet Love!💙💜💙



    On Attitude

    Our perception
    The way we see
    Changes the way
    We take action
    Our attitude
    Can make or break
    Our way of being. 

    Its all in us
    The ability
    Of changing
    Our ways
    Towards understanding
    Towards realizing
    Towards learning
    There is always more…
    Than what we choose to presume
    The way we express
    The way we carry ourselves
    Our attitude says it all!



    On Seeing

    When you look at other people through a lens of compassion and understanding rather than judgment and jealousy, you are better able to see them for what they are—human beings.” ~ Unknown

    The way we see the world

    Changes our experiences

    Lesser expectations

    Greater contentment

    Lesser assumptions & doubt

    Greater trustfulness

    Lesser hopelessness

    Greater possibility

    Lesser the complexity

    Greater the clarity.




    The way of the Waves
    Nature teaches us in every way
    We learn the way of being…

    One of the biggest learning
    From the waves is knowing 
    How to let yourself go…

    Being free of baggage
    And accumulation.
    Not withholding.

    In learning to let go
    You find yourself at ease

    In the lightness of being.



    Stay nice no matter!

    Stay nice no matter!

    Have the kindness to see the good
    Disregard and cast off the negative
    There will be much that may cloud
    your vision.
    There is much we do not know
    We all have our own stories
    Of trials and tribulations
    It’s not easy for any of us.
    And for some it may just be
    A little extra tough these times.
    Truly it takes nothing from you
    To choose to stay positive
    And stay nice no matter!

    Our world is having it rough already
    Let’s try and make it better
    Each of us one kind gesture in time
    Let’s leave imprints of kindness
    In hearts and souls
    Let us empower our spirit
    To be hopeful and happy
    All is meant to be well
    So be kind and do good!

    And please stay nice no matter.



    On Awareness.

    Moving in Awareness.

    From chaos to clarity

    Swimming through it all

    From peaks and troughs.

    Every thought sets a pattern
    In fact in a loop
    Of interwoven scenes
    Some that seem relatively strange
    And some unidentifiable
    Every loop jumps and lights up another
    In the intersection

    Is thought quantifiable at all?
    Thoughts come and go
    But what if we reflect on our thoughts
    Like witnessing our breath, as it goes on
    Thoughts may manifest on their own.

    When we are mindful of our thoughts.
    May be just for a bit of time every now and then
    We flow along and cultivate an awareness of its nature
    We become gradually mindful of the now.

    In time, a sense of connect develops
    In conscious awareness of our intentions.
    We are creating spaces between our thoughts
    And pauses in our reflections.

    When shift is known by the mind
    And felt in the heart
    Then every thing moves
    In conscious awareness.



    Every life is precious

    Every life is precious
    We humans, are just a speck
    In the multitude of creation
    Every life, is valuable in itself.

    How egotistical can we get?
    To think our life is more important.
    Humans are not the only life form.
    Pity how ignorant we are!

    Life is in all of us
    Let’s begin to understand
    The interdependence of life and living
    The rights of all sentient beings.

    High tme to educate ourselves
    To accept and acknowledge
    The value of every species
    For each has a right to be!

    Truth is, nature can survive
    With or without l us.
    But we need nature
    More than it needs us.

    Each life has a purpose
    To fulfill for itself
    Who are we to decide for it?
    Life is meant to flow its own course.



    On Gratefulness

    A forward doing the rounds on Social Media caught my attention today.

    Worth taking a moment to read and contemplate.

    💦 After the 93 year old man in Italy got better in the hospital, he was told to pay for the ventilator for one day, and the old man cried. The doctor advised him not to cry over the bill.

    What the old man said made all the doctors cry.

    Old man said, “I don’t cry because of the money I have to pay. I can pay all the money.” *I cry because I have been breathing God’s air for 93 years, but I never pay for it. It takes €5,000 to use a ventilator in a hospital for one day. Do you know how much I owe God ? I didn’t thank God for that before.”*

    The truth of the news can’t be verified, but the old man’s words are worth our reflection.

    When we breathe the air freely without pain or illness, no one takes the air seriously. Only when we enter the hospital can we know that even breathing oxygen with a ventilator costs money!

    🙏🏽 *Cherish the time when we can breathe freely..!* 💐👏🏽

    It is certainly true for we take nature for granted. The Sun, the moon, water, air, glaciers mountains trees rivers animals and humans all have reason to be.

    Let us learn to live and let live.

    Let us live life lovingly!



    Appreciation Matters.

    “A man sat at a metro station in Washington DC and started to play the violin; it was a cold January morning. He played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, since it was rush hour, it was calculated that 1,100 people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.

    Three minutes went by, and a middle aged man noticed there was musician playing. He slowed his pace, and stopped for a few seconds, and then hurried up to meet his schedule.

    A minute later, the violinist received his first dollar tip: a woman threw the money in the till and without stopping, and continued to walk.

    A few minutes later, someone leaned against the wall to listen to him, but the man looked at his watch and started to walk again. Clearly he was late for work.

    The one who paid the most attention was a 3 year old boy. His mother tagged him along, hurried, but the kid stopped to look at the violinist. Finally, the mother pushed hard, and the child continued to walk, turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. All the parents, without exception, forced them to move on.

    In the 45 minutes the musician played, only 6 people stopped and stayed for a while. About 20 gave him money, but continued to walk their normal pace. He collected $32. When he finished playing and silence took over, no one noticed it. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.

    No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the most talented musicians in the world. He had just played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, on a violin worth $3.5 million dollars.

    Two days before his playing in the subway, Joshua Bell sold out at a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100.

    This is a real story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste, and priorities of people. The outlines were: in a commonplace environment at an inappropriate hour: Do we perceive beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it? Do we recognize the talent in an unexpected context?

    One of the possible conclusions from this experience could be:

    If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, how many other things are we missing?”

    Share if you took the time to read this 🙂


    Beyond Judgments

    Art of living 

    Truth is
    Life thrives 
    In nature

    All we need to do
    Is to not stunt
    But let it bloom.

    Only remember
    To Nurture life
    Move beyond judgements

    Without  discrimination
    What emerges will be
    The truth of the being.

    As it was
    As it was
    As it is
    Meant to be!



    The Path to Resurrection

    Mental /Emotional abuse in relationships:

    Domestic abuse happens and it need not be only physical abuse.
    In my career as a dance educator and teacher spanning two decades now, I have come across many situations of mental abuse that some of my female students experienced and shared with me in the course of time. Believe me, it is a lot more rampant than we choose to accept. Some time ago I had written an article extensively on the Dignity of the being

    Back then I had brought forward a true story of my own poor house help and how she stood strong in spite of continued physical torture in the hands of an abusive alcoholic husband.

    Consider this a continuation of the exercise to bring up another much undercover and consciously veiled topic… of the shades and degrees of mental and emotional harassment in the name of relationships.

    Age, education, class or culture does not seem to matter. It could happen to just about anyone. In fact, some very educated women, students who were affected by such partners cut a very sorry and disheartening figure, privately after the class.

    Hoping however best I could use abilities in my capacity would help, I used to hold some space and time free for them to share and express what is going on in their lives. And to make them realise the power of positive expression, in helping them know that they are not alone and helpless.

    We as dance educators can be if need be and when required, a great source of support to our learners in our understanding of movement. For the body never lies, we can probably be tuned in to see which of our students needs our gentle guidance and support as well from time to time.

    It hurts to see a seemingly brilliant and confident woman breakdown under the weight of abuse and harassment at home. Often they would break down to share their issues with me for want of support. In the course of listening and understanding of their frustration my abilities to counsel strengthened as I started offering supported listening for their unique predicament.

    I ended up realising how no two situations are the same. And besides a dominating and subjugating nature of an individual, how alcohol or substance abuse ( even chewing tobacco)are often factors that cause aggressive behaviour other than work stress and financial worries.

    Often the woman finds herself in a predicament when the aggressor’s behaviour differs like chalk and cheese between day and night. There may be mental torture inflicted under the influence of a few drinks. The reasons no matter but when words and tempers spew, unfiltered and uncontrolled especially at the fag end of the day, the victim often is clueless as to how to deal with the situation.

    Often drained by sporadic and incessant attacks they end up weakened by sleeping less, tossing and turning through the night wondering what they did to hear so much insinuating words. Health issues crop up in time as the body cannot cope with the confusion. And probably without any physical evidence to show, mental torture is difficult to prove. There are not many readily accessible support groups she could go here in India as yet and for the fear of judgements she prefers to suppress her hurt.

    For example…

    A dominating husband has a bad day at work. He gathers up all the rage and is seething inside.
    His vent becomes his wife and family and often he comes home late night in a foul mood and spews venomous hate over his loved ones. Often it may be a time when all at home are asleep at night.

    The reasons or the trigger to get angry could be just about anything.
    It could be about a deal that did not come through at office… which he may carry forth on the home front… it first converts to deep-rooted rage and lack of patience and tolerance in general. It could be about anything …like, not picking up the phone when he calls, it could be about the lunch sent from home, which he found had less salt, it could be about not opening the door on time, it could be about a credit card swipe at a supermarket which irks him.

    After such attacks especially at night most often there is regret in the morning for the words said, but it cannot be taken back.. And pride and ego stops him from feeling or saying sorry and taking help for amending his ways. The patterns continue. Cold silence ensues on both ends for want of peace. Until things settle in the course of time only to rise again another day.

    The victim is often clueless about how to help in such a situation as she is continually bombarded with her weaknesses and told that all problems arise because of her. She often takes recourse to silence as there may be extended family members staying with them or for the fear that the children would hear and get hurt further.

    Dealing with anger and rage and temper tantrums.

    If you are ever at the receiving end of unforeseen anger you need to brace yourself from getting hurt and affected due to sensitivity.
    Especially when you are confronted with a situation where you are taken aback by someone spewing anger all over you, showering you with mean and unnecessary words and raining abuses over you for something you did not do, as well as creating a ruckus about silly things… remember your best weapon is non-retaliation.

    Try as they might to get you to say something by provoking with crude words … do not engage.
    There is nothing like nonengagement for handling mental and emotionally abusive relationships.
    It does not mean that you accept the pain and hurt rather you are aware of what works and how it is a more sensible way to tackle such a circumstance.

    Also, it helps to understand that the aggressor is perhaps suffering and doesn’t know to channel and deal with the issues at hand and perhaps takes the path of bullying, manipulating, attacking by verbally insinuating and insulting to counter the situation. Know and accept they need help too. If they have any sense left they ought to get it for their own self. Remember the saying, you can only take the horse to the water but it has to drink on its own. So accept that you are doing your best and let go of worries.

    Yes, it amounts to a great degree of emotional maturity to be silent and not succumb to such provocation.

    A few tips…

    If you find yourself identifying with any such predicament, allow yourself to express yourself.
    Take help, speak to an emotionally mature member of your immediate family

    Do not suppress in the morning for you know deep inside that this can and will happen again. It is just a matter of time.
    Let them know there is so much that you are going through and that you need help.
    Sleep as much as you can for you might often be sleep deprived.

    Take interest in what you are feeding your body, avoid junk for you might just be nutritionally deficient with all the mental tensions and conflicts.
    The body needs a vent to release the contracted pain, exercise well as much as you can.

    Breathing consciously deeper with awareness can calm the agitated mind.
    If you can write, regularly try to maintain a journal of gratitude for all the good things that are happening with you.

    Look around and notice your blessings. They will be in the form of children, friends, pets, your skills, your faith, your inner resilience or your never say die attitude.

    Realise you are meant to live not just exist.

    Remember there is always a way!

    Remember you are full of inner strength that you can harness even in your vulnerability.
    Trust that this faith in yourself will take you through!

    Because you are enough for you!


    Dynamics of Power

    Read On Domination Part 1


    We can…

    There is always something we can learn to do…

    We can learn to be more understanding and empathetic.

    We can learn to be caring and not controlling.

    We can learn to love than be lackadaisical of another’s needs.

    We can learn to be trustful.

    We can learn to believe in evolving together.

    We can learn to see the wisdom in the challenges.

    We can learn to trade our fears for faith.

    We can learn to stop those bullying another into submission.

    We can learn to live and let live.

    No one owns us and we certainly do not own another.