Savvy Raj

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On Dancing…

To dance is to be able to glide as if you are as light as the air and soar in grace, as you feel the wind enveloping yet beckoning you to scale new heights of harmonious effusion’.

Savvy

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Gift of Listening

Giving your attention without fear or favour and caring to understand what another is saying, before responding says a lot about the person who is listening…

Here is a true incident…

Viktor Frankl, one of the great psychiatrists of the twentieth century, survived the death camps of Nazi Germany. His little book, Man’s Search for Meaning , is one of those life-changing books that everyone should read.

Frankl once told the story of a woman who called him in the middle of the night to calmly inform him she was about to commit suicide. Frankl kept her on the phone and talked her through her depression, giving her reason after reason to carry on living. Finally she promised she would not take her life, and she kept her word.

When they later met, Frankl asked which reason had persuaded her to live?
“None of them”, she told him.
What then influenced her to go on living, he pressed?
Her answer was simple, it was Frankl’s WILLINGNESS TO LISTEN to HER in the MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT.

A world in which there was SOMEONE ready to listen to another’s pain seemed to her a world in which it was worthwhile to live.

Often, it is not the brilliant argument that makes the difference. Sometimes the small act of LISTENING is the GREATEST GIFT we can GIVE.

How can we choose to listen well?

What are the barriers to effective listening? How can we improve our listening abilities.

A few issues in listening well….or what is called Ineffective listening.

Distraction caused by the difference between speaking and thinking speeds in humans. So if the speaker speaks too slowly or too fast, the listeners may lose the plot.

At times the appearance or personality quirks or the environment changes can create distractions.

Distraction also causes the listener to show a lack of interest through body language like in posture of loss of eye contact.

Overcoming distractions requires keeness to improve and interest in personal development as much as a sense of commitment to the task at hand.

Here are a 5 tips for improving listening skills.

1. Restating . Pay full attention so as to be able to restate or paraphrase in your own words every once in a while, what it is that you have heard so as to make the speaker feel listened to.

2 Prompting . Use short and positive prompts by interjecting them in the pauses … to show interest like .. And then ? So ?or I know…

3.Validating .Express your empathy . Show that you understand what another is saying or going through. Acknowledge the issues faced by another or the feelings as they are speaking. It shows you are sincere in your concern.

4.Pausing . Allow for some gaps in the conversation.. it helps buy time to think for both the speaker and the listener . As it helps process the information. Silences are great tools to let go the unnecessary gibberish and loose-ended talks which may be counter- productive.

5.Shifting . Redirecting a speaker when needed by shifting the topic gradually changes the tone of the discussion which can at times get too aggressive or violent for comfort.

There are so many ways that develops the GIFT OF LISTENING .

Have also found that in practise, the art of listening well involves all of our senses.

After all the art of a great conversation lies in the ability to listen keenly and respond well than simply react.

Savvy

Personally speaking I have often been a good listener… yet I must confess that there are a few close friends to whom I have spoken who are such great listeners that they put me at ease.

It is truly wonderful to be listened to as much as to listen. There is so much healing in the listening as much as in the sharing. I take this opportunity to thank those friends and readers who cared to give me a listening ear and time.🙏


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What makes the dancer dance?

What makes the dancer dance?

There is a invisible pull of passion
That speaks to the dancing soul
In no uncertain words
That the realm to create is within you

In the draw of movements
Is the pure fascination
Of sensing feeling and knowing
The pulsating dance of energy

As the dancer emotes through movements
Waxing in eloquence and ease
For the viewers at large
There is another story waiting to be told

Blurred in the sidelines those memories
Of passionate, perseverance and focus
Of dedicated determination and dare
Of trustful knowing…

Of the strength of belief
That every move made
And the steps taken
Is with utter faith & grounding.

Every muscle in the body flows
Through the symphony of movements. To move to the music in harmony
Tuned in the divinity of expression.

Savvy Raj

Member International Dance Council

UNESCO


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One life

Just one heartfelt move… makes all the difference!

One who knows the worth of life cannot afford to waste even a single moment of life… Take a step towards a more meaningful life for you ….

Savvy


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The Gift of Family & Friends

Your true source strength in every living moment!
Friends and families are your circles of protection

What is family?
Relationships that bond through a lifetime
Through the winds of changes
In hopes and hurt
In challenges and conflicts
In confusion and chaos
In the circumstances and consequences…

Healing and helping
Caring and consoling
Being there throw the thick and thin
In support and encouragement
Amidst the pain and pleasures
Of life and living

Families and friends are strength giving
Value and nourish them
Through attention and time.
For only they will stand the test of time
In moments of despair desperation.

And after all what use is happiness With no one to partake the joy?

Keep your friend and families close to your heart.

Savvy

Touching Peace in the Middle path.

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Her likes were not the blatant and ĺoud
Not the one to shout out
Her kind of songs were of melody and rhythm
In synchrony with her heartbeat
Her type of books were all of an understanding
The soothing and sagacious kind
Of healing and harmony.
Her friends were far and few
Not much would escape her lips
Her speech was guarded.
None had really stepped into her inner world
In fact, her family too knew little about her
Her words were simple, not stormy
In fact, she chose the middle path in life …
A road safe and steady
Not for her the bane of fame and fortune
Not for her the choppy waters of high tides
She preferred the smooth sailing in serenity
She was a lover of grace in simple things
She never was the seeking kind ever
Neither love nor laurels, pleasures nor pain
She lived a life content, she never craved too much

She knew the price of desire only too well…

Awakening the self, the way bearer in the wisdom of living.

Want of wealth, never brings balance of needs

Hoard nothing and healing begins Living intentionally is not about living selfishly…

She was privy to the clasping clutch that ambition brought

She witnessed the sacrifice of lives barely lived

She grew in the unfolding drama that power portrayed.

She was torched by emotional upheavals, to rise in fortitude

She amassed the wisdom in the power of silence

As she knew and sensed the peace in the middle path.

Savvy

This is an interpretation of my own painting I have shared above. I choose to delve a bit on the nature of the central character in the painting…

Who is she?

What makes her who she is?

What guides and motivates her?

What brings her peace and contentment?

What makes her grateful?

To every evolving question there is always a reason to be…

And to each their own path to be!


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It’s just a matter of time!

Time heals it all they say
And its so very true
So when we are in throes of torment
Trust time to pass to a better moment

When life throws a googly at you
And you are left flummoxed
That you just have no certain way
Trust time to move you on along the way

In trying moments of despair
When you are left fending for yourself
Know the answer is around the bend
Trust time to let itself mend.

For time is the answer
Be patient to let it pass
For no two moments are alike
Such is the eternal mystic of time.

Savvy