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The third tilts the tide!

When in friendships two is company and three a crowd…

A small story.
Recently my young cousin shifted to my city to work. She had found a suitable job and her first step into settling herself was to find a place to stay on her own.

Although she stayed with us initially, being independent by nature we knew soon that she would be keen on finding her own place.

Understanding her need for an independent living we helped her scout one hostel which seemed all fine except the time and cost of a commute as it was a little distant from her place of work.

Soon she realised she was wasting money and time. She started networking with her colleagues and she landed an offer from one.

The girl in question was staying in a tiny non-descript place barely enough for two but pretty much close to her office. She asked her to move in with her and share her rent and other expenses. Realising the convenience of proximity to her place of work as she could simply walk to the office and the fact that the rent was truly affordable my cousin agreed to shift in.

Being a very careful spender my cousin was all excited. Moreover, she was elated in fact that she happily shared how good it would be, to not have to spend so much time travelling as well.

We too were glad she found a place near her workplace and decided to help her shift on a suitable day which happened to be yesterday.

Now life is known to be unpredictable.
Between the then and now many things can change. Such is the nature of life and living.
But a young girl coming away from home and hearth with a suitcase full of dreams in her heart would hardly be the one to realise the vagaries of life and living.

It so happened, that after all the eagerness of finally making it to the new home, a rude shock awaited her. The girl who had offered her to share the flat brought in one more colleague to stay. But it wasn’t never discussed mutually between. This gave rise to a lot of tension between them. My cousin felt cheated that there was no transparency in the dealing. Moreover, there was no space for the third person in an already cramped room.

Now my cousin was braving tears trying to tell me the whole incident this morning. Although I don’t suspect her tenacity to tackle the situation one bit and find a solution to her problem I couldn’t help but feel sorry for her. My heart reaches out to her as I write this. I wish her God speed in finding the right home for herself in this city.

A few reflections on Life and living

So much about trust issues here
To trust another is about believing
But a belief that must be valued by the one you place your trust one.
Think twice to read the signs and place your trust in people carefully.

  • (My cousin decided to vacate her hostel even before the actual date of vacating to save her travel expenses).Sometimes not doing things on an impulse but waiting it out by observing the developing situation and then taking move helps.
  • Life can be challenging moment to moment. So much for erratic development and behaviour changes in a person. But people are different by default and sooner one acknowledge this the better it is.
  • A great lesson in being careful. So before taking things and people for granted no matter how close it makes sense to set certain things straight on record.
  • Living independently at a young age can certainly be challenging but the wisdom is to sense the challenges as they come and be strengthened by it.
  • When I shared this story, there were three new perspectives.
  • Firstly the introduction as the centre line becomes a connecting line that gives shape to the 2 semicircles.
  • Secondly, while 2 dots can only make a line the 3rd one can give it varied forms.
  • Thirdly any duel cannot be judged without a 3rd referee.
  • The entry of a 3rd person ( child) makes the family complete.
  • All is truly in a shift of perspectives. The 3rd is a PowerPoint. It can balance or tilt the whole to one side.

As for my cousin, it is a valuable lesson learnt for a lifetime in hindsight. And I believe she is only stronger by it. Wishing her the best of luck!

Have you had any experience where the third person has changed the course of your friendship?

Do share…

Savvy

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The handshake

The handshake

The world betwixt and between

You and me are united in a handshake

An extension of hand is a reaching
Conveying a power in the vulnerability

Accepting the reached out hand is readiness
To blend in thoughts and amalgamate the differences.

Both a beautiful deed in summation
In acknowledgement and acceptance

Lies the evolution of peace and sanity
Without weapons of war, and in clarity.

In union of thoughts is the confluence
In wisdom of the heart and maturity of the mind.

Of knowing the futility of factions
And sensing the value of peace and goodwill .

Global need of times today
Is not seperation but unity in diversity.

A handshake is a step towards in forwarding
The value of the strength in the interconnects.

Together we are strong to surmount every storm.
Earth needs to consolidate and come together

A hand shake today can lead the way!

Good to see a handshake that warms the soul.

No idea of its repercussions in regression.

But two hands linking together is always a sight to behold.


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Explore the Ocean of Peace

On Life & Living

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On Nurturing : 3

Gamut of Nurturing : Mind body Integration

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Nurturing is an integrated spectrum of experience and it is highly recommended in todays times of survival  of the fittest to embalm the body spirit and soul.

What can be nurtured … well almost everything…

From a thought to an idea to a habit to a passion and more . When nurtured , in hope and goodwill there can be transformations in the transitioning of time .

Nurturing is a very vast ocean of unconditional love and support which can perhaps make the nurturer extremely compassionate and even exacting for the good of the nurtured . But perhaps the concept of nurturing needs to change as well with the changing sensibilities of time. 

In such scenario as it presents itself nurturing needs a relook like a time stamp and check on where it is heading often keeping the iterations going to evolve further.

There is a dignity in nurturing

With understanding that arises

In patience tolerance and perseverance

Beyond an attitude of indifference

Nurture in trusting

Heart over mind

Or mind over heart

Is not the question at all …

Nurture  in spirit and soul

With all of your being

In every communication

Or crisis confrontation

 

Nurture in conscious awareness

Accepting the interconnects

Acknowledging the interdependence

Arising to evolve in life and living.

Nurture knowing truth is eternal

In Spirit, knowing it  is for you to kindle

In Empathy knowing you are because they are

In compassion sensing the suffering and pain.

Nurturing is not an on off act

It is a never ending journey

It is a lesson in  unconditional love

It is a life time of learning in the caring.

 

To nurture is to arise to any occasion

In hope and goodwill

In strength  of positivity

In light beyond passions.

Nurturing is an art of living

In bringing to light the hidden good

In surfacing with dignity and grace

In knowing the  infinite truth of being.

Nurturing is  in the unfolding resurrection

In transpiring to regeneration

As in such an reviving emergence

Life begets the vital resurgence.

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To nurture is allow hope to permeate in all

To nurture is choose to better from before

To nurture is to raise the bar of accomodation

To nurture is to instill faith and bond in trust

To nurture is an emergence of a boundless bond.

A nurturing heart supports and nourishes

A nurturing nature provides care and comfort

A nurturer cultivates and lays the foundation for roots to grow strong and spread .

A nurturing soul is the key to a better future.

Savvy Raj

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On Compassion 

 


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The Healing Touch

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Have you really touched someone today

Have you been embraced with expansive love

Have you felt like reaching out with all your heart

Have you held another’s hand in your hand…

Great is the healing in a caring touch

One handhold can lift a broken spirit

One hug can heal another soul

One step to reach out can tug another’s heartstrings

One touch of kindness can make all the difference….

Great is the healing in a caring touch                            

Both life and living can at times turn cold

When the children grow and empty their nests

When life becomes too busy to be

When relationships start to lose their meaning

When tired bodies, leaves one forlorn

When thoughts seem to turn anxious

When moments seem to drag

When a sense of utter loneliness prevails

Whenever there are feelings of helplessness…

Remember to reach out and hold a needy hand…

As the power of healing is in a caring touch.

Savvy Raj

 

About the Author:

Ms Savvy Raj is a Member of the International Dance Council UNESCO the official worldwide organisation for all forms of dance. As a Dance Educator and Corporate Wellness Trainer, she conducts workshops in Social Dances, Holistic Well-Being as well as Personal Effectiveness. She is a certified adult trainer who uses the creative medium of dance towards bringing empathetic consciousness in her students. Using International Social dance forms and a variety of improvisational techniques as well as creative movement exercises she brings forth the human connect in it all. Working towards the development of an individual through dance applications and nurturing in the learners an enthusiasm to see and live life positively.

Savvy is also Certified Graphologist who pursues this as a hobby in her spare time along with a passion for writing, painting, poetry, drawing, sketching and designing.

A few related posts

https://savvyraj.com/2015/09/23/circles-of-compassion/

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20141120124350-232760496-dancing-magic-of-movements