Savvy Raj

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Gift of Listening

Giving your attention without fear or favour and caring to understand what another is saying, before responding says a lot about the person who is listening…

Here is a true incident…

Viktor Frankl, one of the great psychiatrists of the twentieth century, survived the death camps of Nazi Germany. His little book, Man’s Search for Meaning , is one of those life-changing books that everyone should read.

Frankl once told the story of a woman who called him in the middle of the night to calmly inform him she was about to commit suicide. Frankl kept her on the phone and talked her through her depression, giving her reason after reason to carry on living. Finally she promised she would not take her life, and she kept her word.

When they later met, Frankl asked which reason had persuaded her to live?
“None of them”, she told him.
What then influenced her to go on living, he pressed?
Her answer was simple, it was Frankl’s WILLINGNESS TO LISTEN to HER in the MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT.

A world in which there was SOMEONE ready to listen to another’s pain seemed to her a world in which it was worthwhile to live.

Often, it is not the brilliant argument that makes the difference. Sometimes the small act of LISTENING is the GREATEST GIFT we can GIVE.

How can we choose to listen well?

What are the barriers to effective listening? How can we improve our listening abilities.

A few issues in listening well….or what is called Ineffective listening.

Distraction caused by the difference between speaking and thinking speeds in humans. So if the speaker speaks too slowly or too fast, the listeners may lose the plot.

At times the appearance or personality quirks or the environment changes can create distractions.

Distraction also causes the listener to show a lack of interest through body language like in posture of loss of eye contact.

Overcoming distractions requires keeness to improve and interest in personal development as much as a sense of commitment to the task at hand.

Here are a 5 tips for improving listening skills.

1. Restating . Pay full attention so as to be able to restate or paraphrase in your own words every once in a while, what it is that you have heard so as to make the speaker feel listened to.

2 Prompting . Use short and positive prompts by interjecting them in the pauses … to show interest like .. And then ? So ?or I know…

3.Validating .Express your empathy . Show that you understand what another is saying or going through. Acknowledge the issues faced by another or the feelings as they are speaking. It shows you are sincere in your concern.

4.Pausing . Allow for some gaps in the conversation.. it helps buy time to think for both the speaker and the listener . As it helps process the information. Silences are great tools to let go the unnecessary gibberish and loose-ended talks which may be counter- productive.

5.Shifting . Redirecting a speaker when needed by shifting the topic gradually changes the tone of the discussion which can at times get too aggressive or violent for comfort.

There are so many ways that develops the GIFT OF LISTENING .

Have also found that in practise, the art of listening well involves all of our senses.

After all the art of a great conversation lies in the ability to listen keenly and respond well than simply react.

Savvy

Personally speaking I have often been a good listener… yet I must confess that there are a few close friends to whom I have spoken who are such great listeners that they put me at ease.

It is truly wonderful to be listened to as much as to listen. There is so much healing in the listening as much as in the sharing. I take this opportunity to thank those friends and readers who cared to give me a listening ear and time.🙏

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To dance is to…

To Dance is to live in the moment joyfully!

Happy New Year 2019 Keep Dancing

& Enjoy Living!!


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 On transformations.

Awareness and Alterations

Your body is a temple, but only if you treat it as one.” ~Astrid Alauda

The thoughts we think…

The nature of our thoughts, our choices of food intake and nutrition for sustenance, our associations and our activities and our rest patterns are all interconnected in the conversion of energy to conscious awareness.

The mind and body connection is prevalent and the signs of repeating patterns of stress show significantly on our bodies in time

Alteration is a process of transformation that can be gradual, tiring and taxing to lead and follow. For example to rid the body of a chronic condition the behavioural patterns that created it in the first place are rooted in the system and hence to nudge a root one needs to work the underlying layers of emotions that associate and accumulate and elevate the conditions of its existence and growth.

The cleansing process is then definitely natural and non-invasive. A supportive and strength giving initiative would be ideal as alternatives to follow.

Alternative natural cures are best environments to work towards in treatment and eradication of root cause than just attacking the symptoms.

The part can never be well unless the whole is well.” ~Plato

The wisdom is in our observation of our own pattern of being as we are, as we behave and feel.

The thought reflections getting imprinted on the body and our ability to intervene are both significant. So to significantly alter the nature of our existence we need to be present in the now.

A few thoughts…

Thoughts come and go but the choice of what to steer it towards rests with us.

Our positive orientated thoughts are our bridge to transform ourselves for the better.

They are available to link ourselves and connect with our deepest truth.

Every interlink in positivity is a step towards personal transformation as much as the power of spreading expansive goodwill and wellness into nature.

Savvy


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The Gift of Life

To dance is to acknowledge the living you at this moment
In every move, the heart and mind is looped in joyousness
In every flight is the beauty of lightness.

To dance is to realize

The sensation of living

And to energize the self

As well as the surroundings

With this gift of life!

Savvy


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Creative Enrichments

WordPress certainly has its unique ways
Of appreciation and encouragement
To support the writers on this platform
There are stats that show up on screen.

So I am told one morning by WordPress
That I am on a three-day posting streak
At first, I was amused and a tad bit confused
For hadn’t I been posting literally every day… for so long…

But guess WordPress took its own sweet time
To catch up to my blog amongst the millions
So I too decided to play along…
Every day since then I have been publishing

A poem written afresh, simply inspired
A continuation from my previous post
In creatives emerging in thoughts.
Perhaps from a readers comment
Or better still in its contemplation.

Today as I complete a 10-day streak
I want to share these published posts
Here together in an attempt to string
These beads of thoughts together

Poetry can be the jewellery of language.
Pearls of fresh thoughts bonded into words.
Creativity strung together in a form.
Like a necklace that is adorned in appreciation.

Creativity is there within
Us all for the taking
And all it needs is a step in
In reflection and action…

It was a joy to play along
Connecting the dots,
Stringing the words,
As they came along.

Kudos to WordPress

Stats for the supportive inputs
And my amazing blogger friends

For inspirations along my way.

Savvy

Here are the links of the last 10 day Post streak that I will simply call Creative Enrichments

A few observations …

These ten days I had a purpose steeped in creative enrichment. The idea was to be receptive and responsive to whatever that these posts brought forth.

And I sensed how these Inspirations came my way on its own.

A special thanks to a few WordPress writers who are involved without their own knowledge… that I want to thank here.

Dr Sridhar from

https://philosophyviaphotos.wordpress.com

for sending that poetry challenge up my alley and asking a profound question that made me write some more.

Efi from

https://efisoul63.wordpress.com

for mentioning and sharing some interesting links that inspired me along the way.

Sadje from https://lifeafter50forwomen.com

a new friend I made in these few days for her kind and generous words of heartfelt appreciation.

Dutch from

https://onthepathleasttraveled.wordpress.com

for being there with words of encouragement and sharing apt and brilliant quotes in goodwill every step of the way. They are truly thoughtful insights. Do keep them coming.

Annie from

https://anniegoose.wordpress.com

a new friend thanks to this writing streak

and my friend from

https://thereluctantpoetweb.wordpress.com

both whose shares and reblog of these posts, spirited my writing with their kind gestures.

And to all my fellow readers who liked shared and commented in these posts every day.

Thank you all.🙏

Any act of creativity is a collaboration of thoughts and ideas that spring forth from everywhere .

Savvy

Day 1
3 Day Lyrical posts Day I

https://wp.me/p6a0yZ-2St

Day 2
Lyrical Challenge Day 2
https://wp.me/p6a0yZ-2Sm

Day 3
Lyrical Challenge Day3
https://wp.me/p6a0yZ-2Ss

Day 4
Sunflower trait
https://wp.me/p6a0yZ-2S3

Day 5
Creativity and Humility
https://wp.me/p6a0yZ-2QJ

Day 6
The Potent Now
https://wp.me/p6a0yZ-2TB

Day 7
On Expressions
https://wp.me/p6a0yZ-2TS

Day 8
Perspective
https://savvyraj.com/2018/09/28/perspective/#

Day 9
Waltz of the words
https://wp.me/p6a0yZ-2Uu

Day 10
Windows of the Soul
https://wp.me/p6a0yZ-2Uc


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The Potent Now!

Every moment matters
As every moment is dancing
In the potency of the now.
Pulsing and vibrating
With life in the movements

Stillness is but a dance
In the dynamics of flow
In betwixt& in between
Pause rest and action

This now has reflections
Of both past reminiscences
And future possibilities
Wrapped up in its being

What you see in this now
What you intend in this now
What you choose in this now
Is what you receive in this now!

In every now
Simply care to…
Think well!Choose well! Do well!

Do the best you can! Because You Can!

Savvy


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Be all that you truly are!

In the inclusive and expansive attitude towards love for the self and fellow beings we emit a vulnerability that is actually the power within us all to heal and mend and shape us for the better.

With every hurt that scars the soul perhaps we may end up in restraints of our own doing. We fear to think beyond the boundaries, like the frog in the well … trying to seclude and exclude and end up confining ourselves within the walls we sadly create.

We are so afraid to express ourselves that,with our measured movements, of what might happen, or what others may think, we live in cocoons choosing to exist in doubt and insecurities. Perhaps, we may be stepping in our own way, instead of unfurling with all our innate potential the magnitude of our being.

Our life’s journey cannot not be about fear and doubt… for they will not allow us to take a step. And life is about movement, about understanding in discovery, why should life be suppressed in any way?

Think well
Walk with intent respect the space within and around you.
Speak with clarity and with conviction.
Express the self in faith and confidence.

Choose to see life unfolding positively
Allow space for spontaneity in trust, acknowledge it as the expression of your unique self.
Sense your potential and envision the future in hope.
To be all that you truly are.

Savvy