Clear lines Not walls that break But gates that define Your edges in space And anothers beginnings.
Setting a boundary Creates safety & value And is respectful to one another.
Be it your time & energy Or for mental stability Protecting personal space Creates a sense of peace.
Truth is relationships are healthier in the long run with clear lines that protect your own unique sense of space, privacy & comfort levels.
In professional relationships often the fear of conflicts, or being misunderstood as unempathetic, can make people skip setting them early on only to find themselves challenged.
Actually, setting healthy boundaries is an act of clarity…
Life is a series of interconnections.The conversations and dialogues make life meaningful.
Life is meant to be expressed and experienced.You are healthier as you speak create love and listen.And you are even healthier if you feel heard. Being heard and understood feels like a boost for the body mind & spirit.
The cost of loneliness is a heavy price to pay.And so is the cost being ignored, undervalued, humiliated.And equally heavy is the price of indifference.
When voices are minimized and presence dismissed, the direct effects are loneliness and isolation.The body remembers and reacts to the rejection showing up in symptoms and diseases, for the emotional walls manifests itself in inexplicable ways…
Restoring the sense of self is about creating sharing opportunities fornot just personal expression but about being heard & feeling understood.
It’s not about the space we occupy, but the life we live.
Teach children to be open to new perspectives, nurture in them the ability to appreciate, it not only transforms them but also the way they interact in the world.
It makes a world of difference in a ‘ever busy world’ that’s always checking time. Giving time and energy to understand another with empathy will help shift perspectives for the better.
As humans we are always exploring and discovering possibilities. Sometimes we understand much in no time, and take the right steps, and at other times we mis the bus.
Acknowledge the wins & the misses.
Every step missed is brimming with a lesson.
If we choose to pay attention every failure teaches us something.
On where we want to be,
On how far we are, from where we want to go.
Question is are we ready to acknowledge failure as a part of the learning process?
Every success can be attributed to the many experiences that may have had many lessons and the effort taken to succeed.
And if there is propensity and determination to take the effort, there are many pathways that lead us beyond failure.
I like this saying by Mary Ash, I came across recently which presents a fresh perspective on failure.
‘For every failure, there’s an alternative course of action. You just have to find it. When you come to a roadblock, take a detour.’
In the course of my career over the years handling teams of various departments, people management became my forte while experiencing many instances which needed agility in communication.
Here are few pointers…
If you can help it thoroughly prepare yourself with research so that you are prepared to handle any objections well.
Try to choose when and where to have a difficult conversation.
Always start with a positive mindset and speak with concern without blaming .
Make sure you are clear about what you want to communicate. And deliver your stance clearly without any ambiguity.
Speak in the right tone as per the situation.
Listen actively well to acknowledge emotions and understand so you can respond than react.
If there is too much tension or another impasse it is alright to pause, take a short timely break to diffuse tension and then recoup
Be focussed on what you wish to communicate and steer the conversation if it veers off topic.
Be open to alternatives and perspectives and see if you can find common ground to stay flexible to foster collaboration.
An interesting quote on relationships I read this morning…
The relationship between commitment and doubt is by no means an antagonistic one. Commitment is healthiest when it’s not without doubt but in spite of doubt.
Rollo May
As I reflected on the above words a few thoughts came to me…
On life and relationships
Is there an interplay of doubt and commitment?
Is there commitment when in doubt?
What happens when doubt creeps in the committed?
Whenever they intersect there are conflicts
Whether at opposition or not
Both are in thoughts
Dashing from one extreme to another
At times contradicting at times rationalising
And returning back to apparent normalcy
When doubt dances in, commitment feels the burn
When commitment is strong, doubt rests on the back burner.
Have always felt there needs to be trust in a relationship as much as compromise else even the strongest of relationships fall apart.
Savvy Raj 
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