Very nice article by Late Khushwant Singh. Preserve this . 😊
How To Live & Die
I’ve often thought about what it is that makes people happy—what one has to do in order to achieve happiness.
1- First and foremost is good health. If you do not enjoy good health, you can never be happy. Any ailment, however trivial, will deduct something from your happiness.
2- Second, a healthy bank balance. It need not run into crores, but it should be enough to provide for comforts, and there should be something to spare for recreation—eating out, going to the movies, travel and holidays in the hills or by the sea. Shortage of money can be demoralising. Living on credit or borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one’s own eyes.
3- Third, your own home. Rented places can never give you the comfort or security of a home that is yours for keeps. If it has garden space, all the better. Plant your own trees and flowers, see them grow and blossom, and cultivate a sense of kinship with them.
4- Fourth, an understanding companion, be it your spouse or a best friend. If you have too many misunderstandings, it robs you of your peace of mind. It is better to accept the differences than to be quarrelling all the time.
5- Fifth, stop envying those who have done better than you in life—risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame. Envy can be corroding; avoid comparing yourself with others.
6- Sixth, do not allow people to descend on you for gossip. By the time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and poisoned by their gossip-mongering.
7- Seventh, cultivate a hobby or two that will fulfill you—gardening, reading, writing, painting, playing or listening to music. Going to clubs or parties to get free drinks, or to meet celebrities, is a criminal waste of time. It’s important to concentrate on something that keeps you occupied meaningfully.
8- Eighth, every morning and evening devote 20 minutes to meditation or introspection. In the mornings, 10 minutes should be spent in keeping the mind absolutely still, and for listing the things you have to do that day. In the evenings, five minutes should be set aside to keep the mind still and 10 to go over the tasks you had intended to do.
9- Ninth, don’t lose your temper. Try not to be short-tempered, or vengeful. Even when a friend has been rude, just move on.
10- Above all, when the time comes to go, one should go like a Person without any regret or grievance against anyone.
A Sufi Tale: A merchant from Baghdad entered a Sufi’s shop, which had essence jars on the shelves. Marveling at the beauty of the place, he asked, “Sir, what is sold here?” The Sufi replied, “The gifts of God”.
The merchant was surprised with the answer, & asked, “And how much do they cost?” “Nothing, here all is for free”, said the Sufi, observing carefully, that the traveller could see the labels: “Jugs of Love”; “Jars of Faith”; “Packages of Hope”.
The merchant said, “A big jug of love, all the packages of hope & three jars of faith for me, my friends & my family”.
The Sufi carefully prepared the order & handed him a small box. Surprised, the merchant exclaimed, “But, but…. how can everything I have asked for, be in this tiny box?”
Smiling, the Sufi replied, “In God’s store, we do not sell fruits, only seeds. You have to sow them. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I turn to self reflection and solitude walking in contemplative introspection, when I need to rebalance and align myself , as in doing so I am able to understand and reconsider how difficult it has been, given the circumstances and I comfort myself by acknowledging that I have done my best.
I am grateful for this ability to write and paint my heart away, and express myself through arts, just as much as being kinder and compassionate with myself. For in every such moment, I am learning to be a better me.
I also find great solace in meditative movements and soulful dancing that help me bounce back to normalcy.
Whenever I come across a heart touching action, or a prose ,a poem or quote I will be sharing it here in this series…
Some people make the world a better place by their thoughts words and deeds…
Some people, tell it like it is without mincing anything
And the truth in all its profound simplicity tugs your heartstrings…
Beautiful words
Written by
Sophia Loren (Actress)…
_” When I got enough confidence, the stage was gone….. When I was sure of Losing, I won……. When I needed People the most, they Left me……. When I learnt to dry my Tears, I found a shoulder to Cry on…… When I mastered the Skill of Hating, Someone started Loving me from the core of the Heart…… And, while waiting for Light for Hours when I fell asleep, the Sun came out….. That’s LIFE!! No matter what you Plan, you never know what Life has Planned for you…… Success introduces you to the World……. But Failure introduces the World to you……. ……Always be Happy!! Often when we lose Hope and think this is the end… God smiles from above and says, “Relax Sweetheart; It’s just a Bend, not the End..!”_
Worthy reminder indeed!
Worth taking a moment to be inspired by the truth of life and living in her words.
Here is another recent share about her … Sophia Loren is returning to cinema after an 11-year absence. Loren, 86 stars in upcoming Netflix drama The Life Ahead, which is directed by her son, Edoardo Ponti. At age 83, Oscar winner, Sophia Loren remains the epitome of la Dolce Vita and glamour. Although recognized as one of the most beautiful woman in the world, the Italian Icon is equivalently known as the woman who dared to challenge traditional conventions of beauty in the 1950’s.
Whether it is today, in these times of uncertainty or other… a positive approach to life and living is deeply rewarding.
This is indeed wonderful as an attitude to cultivate towards living life. Being positively enriching & encouraging is truly the best way to help make a difference.
But the trick is in fine balancing the emotions that manifest along the way.
Embodied Practice of Empathy
When you practice sharing positive vibes consistently, you are putting a lot of hope and faith out in the world.
Yet you need to be empathic to yourself, care to understand your own emotions as well, by accepting and acknowledging them, without getting embroiled in them .
Make sure to acknowledge what is happening with your own life.
Speak from the heart.
All that is happening in the world today can be disheartening . So when you are out, sharing positive vibes make sure that you are internalizing them too. Sustaining a spirit of hopefulness is the key driver for a positive mindset . The world needs doses of positive attitude in thoughts words and deeds.
Authenticity of Attitude.
Making sure to feel from your own heart before you share these words of hope is a worthy practice to adopt.
Whatever said or written,words are mere words But when you begin to respect and respond to the emotions sensed in the feelings that arise you begin to see the world in its most vulnerable state.
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