Savvy Raj

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No room for I, Me & Myself

In a world that is literally shrinking globally,
In a world where respect for cultural diversity,
Is paramount to humanity.
In a world where inclusivity is a necessity,
In a world where businesses are adopting empathy driven approaches.
In a world where love, kindness and faith is needed much more than ever,
In a world that is changing states quo…

There is need for all of us to come together.
There is need to value connections.
There is need to understand each others vulnerabilities.
There is need to be inclusive in the diversity.

When we move beyond the I
And envision the Us
When we see the world as ours than mine.
When we care to collaborate together,
In mutual respect of the differences
When we acknowledge the strength of unity in the diversity.
When the, Me and Myself
Shifts to Us beyond the Mine.

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The world will evolve for the better of all.
Let’s know, how interweaved we are!
For that’s where our true strength lies
In this very interconnectedness.
No matter the distance of space or time.
So, in a world where it is right now
There is no room for the I, Me & Myself anymore.

Savvy


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You Matter.

A true story I came across which is worth reading…

“I boarded flight from Bangalore to Mumbai, economy class. I put my hand bag in overhead bin and took my aisle seat. There was an old person sitting next to me on the window seat.

I had a presentation in Mumbai, so took my documents and started going through them for the final time before the presentation. After 15–20 minutes I was done with my documents, so I put them away and started looking out of the window, and suddenly I looked at the face of this person sitting next to me. I thought I have seen him somewhere.

He was old, his face, the suit was not very expensive, and he was replying to some mails or going through some documents. I exactly don’t know. I noticed his shoes, they were average quality.

Something stuck me and I asked him:
*“Are you Mr. Narayana Murthy?”*

He looked at me, smiled and replied, *“Yes, I am.”*

I was shocked !
For one second I had no idea what to say next. I looked at him again. His shoes, his suit, his tie and his specs. Everything was average. This guy was worth $2.3 Billion and co-founded Infosys.

I always wanted to become super rich so that I can buy all the luxury and travel business class. He could buy the whole airlines and yet he was sitting next to me in economy class!

I again asked: *“Why are you travelling in economy class and not business class?”*

He replied:
*“Do Business class people reach early?”*

And then introduced myself, “Hello sir! My name is ***** and I am a freelance corporate trainer and I work with many MNCs PAN India.”

He then put his phone away and started listening to me, he also asked few questions and answered the questions I asked. We both went down deep into the conversation until I asked a question which was about to change my life entirely.

I questioned:
*Sir, You are so successful and have made so many good decisions in your life. Is there something you regret?”*

He got intense look on his face, thought for a while and answered,
*“Sometimes my knee hurts, I should have taken better care of my body. When I was young I was so busy working that I never got time to take care of myself and now even if I want to work more, I can’t. My body doesn’t permit.”*

*“You are young. You are smart and ambitious but don’t repeat the mistake I made. Take proper care of your body and take proper rest. This is the only body you have got!”*

That day I learned two things, one that he told me and another that he showed me!”

Being rich is not about owning things.
I had got what I needed.
What a great and down to earth human being he is, no doubt he is so successful!


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Art of Management

Art of Giving Feedbacks

There are many types of feedbacks given and solicited in a typical corporate environment.
In the art of management the topic of critical appraisals and sharing feedbacks is a nerve wracking process on both sides. For the truth is feedbacks at work take not only a whole lot of in- depth analysis, but it takes courage and common sense deliver. And often they can be the toughest of conversations to have.

Are you feeling uncertain about how to confront a feedback session.At work there will be time where you might have faced a feedback session .

If you have been the one who is giving feedback to your team or a member of your team here are six tips that can help you master the art of giving feedbacks.

Prepare

Keep the perspectives clear of what was expected and agreed upon earlier and the issues that is evident. Give a clear picture of what has been observed to the receiver. Remember you are addressing the work issues, dont get personal.

Proper time and place

Ensure you are slotting a feedback time that is mutually least distracting.
This will ensure there is the required focus and  necessary attention to the discussion at hand.

Ask and listen well

Contrary to what is understood about feedbacks time the reviewer needs to hear more and speak less often to deliver objective feedbacks to resolve issues.
Avoid letting your own ego from taking too much space. Instead Inquire more into why certain things are not going well. Speak less ask more open ended questions and let them speak and ask for feedbacks and own up to their mistakes. That way you will not be crushing egos but resolving issues you are facing as a team .Avoid bombarding. Be empathetic but assertive.

Sandwich

Choose your words and sentences well.Feedbacks and  critical analysis involves being mindful  of the words  you choose and conveying the criticism in a well meaning way so that you are not directly attacking the receiver. This will ensure they are able to digest and understand what is going wrong and not stagnate by becoming defensive.
Remember it is not a war of egos and ensure  you avoid making it one .

Be clear & concise

Vagueness is not going to resolve anything. Be objective in your feedback . If someone is a perpetual latecomer then mention specifically how many times they are late in the last month .
This will make them more accountable and lead to ownership  and better productivity  at work.

See the Bigger Picture

When you giving feedback address the issue and do not attack the person’s character. Try your best to see  things in  the larger frame . Avoid being petty and leave your own ego aside before you begin.Remind yourself always to envision the bigger picture. And remember that it is not personal.

Feedbacks in general can be  a very valuable tool for  companies.and there are many types of feedbacks.

Have you given or received  feedbacks recently.

What  are your expectations  and experiences on feedbacks?

Savvy


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The Art & The Artist

The above clip is my dedication to my dear mother. They are a compilation from her own set of artworks dated around 55 years back in time or more.

The reason I share this is to encourage people to see possibilities in creativity and how it can soulfully connect us all, through creative enrichments.

To give you the background…my mother had and still has a fine sense of design and her drawings always had an artistic flow. But unfortunately the daily grind of life and living took its toll and art and creativity was pushed into the background perhaps not realizing the innate talents. But the truth is, a lot happens in appreciation than in indifference.

So her skills were lying untapped and unrecognized. In time as I grew up and while on a visit to my maternal grandparents home in the village, I chanced upon her collection of drawings and paintings stacked in the attic gathering dust in complete ignorance.

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The moment I saw them I knew they have to be brought out to see the light of the day… although sadly it was personally disheartening, to see many of the beautiful pieces made on paper, crackling and crumbling in time.

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I brought them back with me to the city and took pictures of what was left of it and tried to salvage it piecing them together.

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By then I was encouraged by friends and relatives who saw and deeply appreciated them too.

I hit upon the idea of creating a video clip using technology to enhance her original design sense. Yes, they are not as good as her original artworks, for technology is way too perfect to bring out the joy of uniqueness in the human hand.

Yet it is my humble attempt to value the time spent in creating by her own hand with the limitations of the resources available to her in those times.

There are far too many paintings, so I pieced them like a kaleidoscope of sorts to get a sense of her artistic endeavours.

Many times we fail to see the hidden talents in our loved ones. We relate with them for years and hardly know the depth of who they truly are.

Art has a way of bringing out the brilliance of the light within us by bridging gaps in our understandings but also opening new perspectives of thinking.

Today is the day I was born, and one of the ways I choose to celebrate it, is by dedicating this post to my dear mother Anjana.

Thank you, mom, for the beauty you create, being who you are! God bless.

Savvy


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Synergy of energy

Have share this beautiful song earlier in another context.

But here the song emotes to me…

In these curated clips of tangos shown to time with this beautiful song I share my reflections…on the dance form Tango.

Born in the dark alleys of Argentina

The stark truth emerges of murky beginnings in the 18th century

Frequented mostly by slaves,immigrants in the ports of Buneos Aires and even Uruguay.

There were even bans on many of these tango musical gatherings.

The dance form began with countless influences of European and native culture.

Argentine Tango is both energetic and enigmatic

It has the strength and soul to show.

Equally exotic and evocative

Intriguing and beguiling

The lead and follow is beyond genders

For connection is beyond the physicality

For beside the passion play plain to see,

There is something quite alluring & attractive in the movements.

Two people apparently moving as one

The footwork entices and enthralls

The feet move with a mind all their own

But articulating a drama through the feet.

Slow, steady or sharp and staccato movements

Each pair of feet, teasing the other

Challenging into a seemingly deadly duel of the feet.

Hitting all the right notes

Never missing a beat

Never stepping unto another

Except for a flip a dip or a show stopping lift thrown in.

If you want to see the drama of life and living,

Watch the synergy of energy playing

In a soulful yet spirited tango of two dancers.

There is rivetting romance,

Yet strikingly serious and sombre in notion.

Depths of emotion & unbridled passion

Emanating in an artistry of motion.

Today there are so many versions of the Tango

Off shoots and diverse cultural interpretations.

That created new interpretations of the way the dance is danced.

In hold, in form, in stance and in steps. That it’s almost untraceable.

Tango today is alluring as ever with dark days remaining just a history.

Yet retaining the mystery and appeal, Captivating with its intensity.

The connects so rooted in the embrace and hold, that makes the fancy footwork so effortless.

Tango truly speaks eloquently more than ever before…

Savvy


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And refill as you go…

I start my day with a smile

Feeling thankful from my heart

For another day of being alive

And be a better version of me.

I start and end my day with hope

For a brand new beginning

Of things I can do & people I can meet

Of things I can learn from and share

And see the good that I can do

In my own little ways.

Life manifests itself

From our deepest intentions

Every moment can be made better.

Have a great start to every day!

How do you start your day?

Savvy


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When the odds stack high…

Life throws curveballs at you when you least expect. Sometimes it may be your own expectations that are set high. Simply adjust your attitude to life and let go of unnecessary expectations.

Choose instead, to keep the faith, trust in yourself and hope for the better. 

Life begins to shape up differently.

When you are feeling downhill
When you are feeling demoralized
When you feeling disappointed
When you feeling demotivated

Just remember everything is meant to change.

What is today lasts not forever.
What is hurting today will become a faint memory in time.
What seems to be important will lose its significance.
What is stressful will begin to ease in time.

When the odds are too high
They must even out soon enough.
Trust time to keep moving
Have faith, for one makes way for the other.

The circle of life goes on.
Hope is here to stay!

Savvy


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Art of Discernment

Our thoughts and our intentions create the possibilities and our will manifests it . Truly then awareness of actions its approach and the consequences start to matter. Every bit of creation has a purpose and the trick is to steer it towards the purpose of being . But the path is the journey of our life and is rife with challenges along the way.

Common sense, balance & equanimity of our thoughts & intentions, all begins to matter then. Yes, moderation is the key but be mindful of moderation as well.. You never know how things slowly get out of hand .

There is not much time that passes
When the glass in hand reaches the lip
The sip becomes a gulp
What’s one becomes two
And two becomes four
And so it goes…

Or when the thoughts in our heart gets spoken
When old habits surface & shape out of no where
Without your intentions, inspite of you
When what’s in you gets truly out of hand!

Be aware to be mindful
Be mindful to be heartful
Be mindful to be moderate
But be conscious to be mindful.

In throes of life and living
Emerges many facets of being
From meagre to excess
Both, two ends of the spectrum

To live life well
Is to understand
The necessity of discernment
Between what is need & what is want

Anything in time can become excess
Everything in time can become redundant.
Something always changes
Nothing stays the same

A life of excess
Will never find contentment
For you will tire
Sooner than you know

A life of lack
Will keep you in dearth
In angst for a silver lining
In the misery of poverty

But again what is little to one
Is much to another
What is complex to one
Is too simple to another

What is beautiful to one
Is ugly to another
What is extravagance to one
Seems a norm to another

What is a subject to one
Becomes an object to another
What is absurd to one
Becomes perfection to another

To each his own really
In this life that is given
Sometimes it’s easy
At times it is truly challenging.

So if in life you are ever flummoxed
Just remember
Nobody is perfect
But you are almost there!

Savvy


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A price to pay!

Everything I want
Comes with a cost
So ring me up, Put it on my tab
Whatever the cost I’m good for it!!!

A recent series on Netflix Spinning Out starts with these above lines from the song In the water by Jay Downer.

In reflection perhaps it is something every one of us can identify with at one point or the other.

In times of chaos and changes
Where lines get blurred
Between the future and past
In the now that yesterday brings us to
And the moments that can design itself to be
All our intentions are the reason
That things begin to happen
And then when it does
All our truths start to matter.

Life stares at you before you blink
And you got to learn to keep your eyes open.

No more is it make believe
For when reality dawns
It is reciprocal arrangement all the way!
You pay for what you want,
It comes to you with a price to pay!

Savvy


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When Love Matters Most.

LETTER FROM A MOTHER TO A DAUGHTER …

” My dear girl, the day you realize that I’m older, I ask you to be patient , but above all , try to understand what you ‘ll be passing by . When we talk , I repeat the same thing dozens of times , do not interrupt me saying : ” You said the same thing a minute ago .” Just listen , please. Try to remember the times when you were a child and I read the same story night after night until you sleep . When I do not want to bathe , do not be angry and not encabule me . Remember when you were a kid I had to run behind you making excuses and trying to put you in the bath ? When you realize you have difficulties with new technologies , give me time to learn and not look at me that way … remember, dear , how I patiently taught you many things such as eating right , getting dressed , fix your hair and give you with the problems of everyday life … the day you see that I’m older, I ask you to be patient , but above all , try to understand what you ‘ll be passing by . If I occasionally get lost in a conversation , give me time to remember and I do not, do not be nervous , impatient or arrogant . Just remember , in your heart , that the most important thing for me is to be with you . And when I grow old and my legs do not allow me to go as fast as before , give me your hand the same way that I offered him my much in its infancy . When that day comes , do not feel sad. Just stay with me and get me while I finish my life with love . I will love and thank you for the time and joy we share. With a smile and always had immense love for you, I just want to say I love you my dear daughter. “


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Every Face Tells A Story

A story plays on in every face.
Every face fascinates me.
I love to understand what the face expresses
A face is like an interesting book to me
Linger a little longer and you are hooked.

There is a reason for every line & dot.
Every thing connects to their story of life.
A face speaks volumes about the person
Beyond the many masks it may have on.

A face emotes the truth of the being
Eyes may shine a light of their own
The nose may crinkle
The brow may arch up
The forehead may crease
And the mouth may shape itself in myriad ways

There is much there to fathom
And unravel the depths of the being
Every contour has a reason to be
Every flinch & every twitch tells more.
So much more to learn
Every face tells a story.

Savvy


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Dance baby dance…

Dance Baby Dance…

As simple as that!

Delight the soul

Lighten the heart.

When you move freely

Beyond fear and apprehensions

Beyond self doubts & restrictions

Beyond assumptions & judgements

You are in tune with the spirit within.

Stay tuned in & keep dancing!

Savvy


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Ethics & Conscience

To get ahead no matter the consequences

Not bothering to care

Not caring to understand

Not understanding to reach out

Not reaching out to help

Not helping as there is lack of knowing how.

Fumbling through life without focus

Fudging grades in education

Feeling one as more important than another.

Favoritism nepotism

Ego raising its ugly head.

Corrupt practices, red tapism at work

Muddling & messing with others

Lack of knowledge of what matters

Until it all comes back to haunt

This is the truth of life lived without ethics.

This attitude is the root cause of the collapse of a collective conscience of a community.

Interestingly while writing this post I happened to come across this beautiful quote below by Mahatma Gandhi in a post by Beth

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What is the answer?

Educating hearts as much as educating minds.

As there is no one without the other.

Savvy


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On Sharing Beyond Limits

A beautiful video came my way today

Please do watch it fully.

There is so much of learning in sharing

But when you share beyond your comfort.

When you give beyond your means.

When you choose to care beyond your own abilities.

When you help irrespective of your disabilities.

When your action speaks much of kindness emanating from the heart

You choose to make light of your own discomfort.

You have surpassed all human foibles

You show the strength of your true character through your compassionate ways.

Savvy


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When Creativity Dares

Today I complete my 500 days of writing consecutively here on WordPress, with my 500th post. Special and heartfelt thanks to all my readers and followers who have supported me in this journey of writing.

I would like to mark this day by writing about one of my favorite topics Creativity.

Creativity is fueled by the fire of passion. Often instinctual and deeply captivating, it is an expression of your innate potential. With it you are in touch with your deepest core. You are consciously awakening to the infinite abundance within, in every channelling.

Creativity spurts in the most unexpected ways.

It surges forth a river of possibilities

It amplifies the potential within

It leads you to rethink and challenge the norms.

It dares to question the accepted and projects perspectives.

It explores and creates paths for evolution.

It defies conventions to envision out of the box ideas.

It justifies the necessity of freewill through the art of movements

To create resolutions in times of confusion and chaos.

To manifest simplicity in times of complexity.

To innovate and change the statuesque in times of staid compliance.

To design and redesign towards efficiency and effectivity of purpose.

When creativity dares it is in communion with infinite abundance.

It is creativity that stokes the fire

It is creativity douses the flames.

Creativity has a solution for every problem.

Savvy