Sometimes life makes you teach yourself many things…
Giving the benefit of doubt
There are many crossroads in life be it in a career with any organisation or in partnerships, or even personally between people or teams, where point of views are different and clash of perspectives on decisions are bound to occur.
Can you agree to disagree?
For most, it is challenging as its not always easy to come to terms with what affects you or makes you emotional. Yet learning ways to give the benefit of doubt, calls for development of strategic skills.
It is important to process any conflict of interest, you may have with others , first with your own self.
Check if you can find the root of your disagreement with a particular decision.
What is it that you are not aligned with?
Why are you feeling this way?
Empathic Perspectives
Then begin to imagine if you are able to bring empathy by setting aside your feelings on what you are yet unable to accept and think from the other persons perspective, does the view alter then? Does it change your thoughts a bit?
If you can alternatively, also think if you choose to agree, in the larger interest, does it benefit or can it make your team bond together.
Let’s also not discount the possibility of you having less information about the reasons for any decision taken.
Ultimately, whatever way you chose to think or act is your choice to take. But sometimes when it may seem impossible to make sense of things do remember, there is always more than what meets the eye!
Here is what I imagined in the dance of these words…
When Love is Destiny
Emerging in eternal time Destiny twinkles on stardust Garnering connections of hearts Voyaging free in the spirit of freedom. Gathering abundance in the depth of love.
My friend Destiny highlighted a comment of mine on her comment on my yesterdays post Sensing
It felt as if we exchanged a moment of poignant connection that jumped time. For in that one moment words touched heartsfields. where feelings are relatable. In empathy or synchrony…
It is certainly not something new, for it is something we all undergo as writers and readers. A connection, through mere words but that which feels you know… the spirit, and soul of the hand that pens the verses or the heart that emotes in the reading.
As a Life Coach one has the opportunity to positively impact and influence another life and its ripples can be felt miles around. It is huge responsibility.
Thriving as a Life Coach
Every life is unique and a life coach needs to keep ideating and integrating approaches and interventions that make way to transformative changes. It can challenge the very best.
To thrive as a life coach and be effective it is necessary…
Approachability : To be approachable and open to feedback, which helps to foster trust and respect within the clients
Patience : To empathize with others and understand their perspectives before offering solutions
Resilience : To adapt & to bounce back, no matter the challenges.To be able to bend and not break under pressure.
This calls for a great amount of emotional intelligence, consistency, creative thinking & resilience. A resilience that comes from experience and one that is honed in flexibility & adaptability.
What matters most is how a life coach can instill confidence and trust in another to make a meaningful difference.
Anger is like a storm rising up from the bottom of your consciousness. When you feel it coming, turn your focus to your breath. Thich Nhat Hanh
Healing through breathing…
Here is one of the many techniques that can be practiced in awareness.
Box breathing
A Breathing technique to destress an agitated and tense mind to calm state and improve the mood.
A good practice for all and especially for those with depression, anxiety disorder and PTSD managing pains and insomnia.
The technique is simple and very effective.
1. Sit upright & Start with exhaling air out of your mouth slowly counting 1to 4.
2. Hold for four counts
3. Inhale deeply filling air section by section till it reaches the lungs & abdomen for four counts through your nose.
4.Again hold for four counts
5. Exhale for four counts from the abdomen and lungs slowly.
As a beginner choose a quiet place to begin this mindful practice. You can start by repeating for four times in one setting. Initially it is advisable to gradually take it up. In case you feel a little dizzy go back to your regular breathing and build it again.
The slow breathing and holding is the most important aspect which activates the para sympathetic system and thus helps reduce stress.
You can practice box breathing couple of sets in a day as needed to calm down.
Speaking of intentions, I intended to find some time to try something new today. I created this digital art using an app. It’s truly amazing! So many ways to express your creativity!
What do you think of it?
Adapting to the changing world requires keeping up with the times, doing the things you love and loving what you do… And most of all living life lovingly!
Every beat of the heart matters Every heartfelt intention makes a difference. Every moment of time is precious. Every blissful heart knows!
Every time you connect With nature in any form You realize… You are part of something bigger That there is so much more Of spaces between the steps You acknowledge… The light of life and living The strength of the interconnects.
You become aware In feeling & sensing the mystical in you… And the potential of you in the universe How much you matter… You are part of something bigger!
Are we actually simplifying complexities or complicating simplicity?
Simplicity dwells in complexity,
And complexity is just tangled simplicity
In the designer’s intelligence.
Both dance hand in hand.
The meaning we choose to perceive,
The connect we choose to establish,
The intention we choose to deduce,
At a point in time
Can make it irrefutably simple
Or irrefutably complex to understand.
The simple truth holds all the complex potential
In an untangled arrangement.
The very arrangement is fodder for imagination
For continuity in ingenuity.
In the momentum of thoughts,
The complex gives birth
To new pathways in the patterns,
Promoting in the propelling
A curiosity in exploration
Of simplifying the confounding complexities.
History is replete with stories
Of complicating the simple truth
Of the being… in the boggling for answers
In refuting and relegating
Our beautiful ball of blue.
This Circle of nature was assumed
Once as square in shifting perspectives.
Meaning perceived in perspective dimensions,
Unfolding with the understanding of that era,
Moving on in time to deconstruct the construction
Of breaking down codes of assumption,
Of restructuring in the resurrection,
Of recognition and the refuting
To understanding the circles of yin and yang,
The dance of polarity,
The duality of nature,
Death and birth
As part of the circle of oneness
Of life and living.
The simple resides in the complex.
The complex is just simple turned upside down.
Perhaps as the humankind increased in numbers,
The simple was too profound
To answer the multitude of mulling thoughts.
In different directions
Due to the innate nature of man
To wonder in awe
And thus, the simple no longer seemed simple.
To solve the emerging enigmas,
Delving into the simple,
Intelligent design was questioned
In scientific temperament,
In philosophical propositions,
Until creativity created connections
And new expressions in the exploration
To deduce, deduct and denote
Infinite patterns of potential,
Making sense of uniqueness in the self-similarity
As the irrefutable simplicity of it all.
In the search for answers
To simplify the complex
Or to complicate the simple,
Many paths present themselves.
Every path is infinite in possibilities.
The question is are we ready to walk the path,
And what we evolve into while walking the path of choice.
In search of simple truths, we encounter the magnitude of complexities underlying simplicity. Simplicity elegantly serves itself, but the paradox of simplicity is in the complexities of finding meaning and accepting such simplicity as the ultimate truth of being.
1. Acknowledging another as they are 2. Being mindful of boundaries 2. Caring to confirm 3. Listening with Attention 4. Having patience 5. Sharing in authenticity 6. Allowing space for curiosity & growth 7. Behaving respectively 8. Being present & available 9. Respecting personal space 10.Valuing emotions in resonance 11.Holding space for perspectives 12. Showing care and offering comfort to another.
You may find a few empathic faces coming up in front of you after reading this… People who have been showing some or almost all of these signs.
Hold on to them. Learn from them Respect their ways… They have understood much about life and living and valuing the strength of the interconnects.
When you are exhausted and tired and you want to revive your mood play on
Music is therapeutic and the healing nature of sound energy can be tuned into to change your mood & manage emotions and lift your spirits.
Take some time to create an upbeat playlist that perks you up and engerizes you and get up from your chair to move arounda bit.
Take a short walk every once in a while. with some great music for company..It will bring a spring in your step and smile in your heart.
In fact for every part of the day, you can have a playlist of your own choice. Take time to create yours… if you haven’t already and do listen… The right music makes a powerful difference.
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