On Kindness Kindle the kindness It’s the springwell of love For love is limitless Kindness generates Heartfelt abundance From one to another Creating magic in action Be it in words thoughts or deeds.
That best portion of a man’s life, his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love. William Wordsworth
Respect is an understanding Of another life right to be. To express and be acknowledged. Respect is deeply entwined in true humility . To be humble enough to accept that there is always something more to learn. To explore, know & acknowledge.
In my stints, as a Consultant & Mentor I have been privy to many interviews for Senior leadership positions I have noticed often enough that the decline of respect is directly proportional to higher job titles. And so is incline for the need for self respect. Let me explain, in the years of experience garnered over the years often there an increase in self – confidence so much so that the need to be seen as important takes over in conversations.
I witnessed an interview to hire a VP Human Resources by the CEO. The candidate was a lady in her 40s and the CEO interviewing her in his fifties. Age apart the interview exchange veered in the direction of Corporate Culture. In her steering the communication in the direction of her association with brands and people, throwing out top industry names than her personal achievements, she also began calling the CEO by name , without checking if it was fine by him. The fact was 250 employees of the company used to greet & address him respectfully and here this candidate, choose to address him directly by first name without a proper professional salutation ahead of the name.
While it was fine as she didn’t know anything about the culture of the company, it was a sign of lack of acknowledgement by the candidate of the cultural hierarchies and shows the inflexibility and rigidity to align with others. A sign of ego and need for value for self but lack of empathy for another.
So inspite of the candidate ticking other boxes on the requirements list she was rejected. Don’t get me wrong it was not because she did not care for professional salutations but more importantly because it was a sign of defiance to protocol and authority.
A team needs one leader and like too many cooks spoil the broth, too many non compliant leaders will wreck havoc in any organisation. For work is worship as the saying goes…and the ability to respect the work one does and the workplace that is inclusive becomes paramount in list of best work practices.
For even if the candidate had been onboarded the team would eventually sense a lack of cultural fitment in her soon. So no matter the degrees the education in reputed universities, the travel abroad and working in MNCs a simple life’skill of giving due respect wherever necessary is a valuable skill. For no ones loses anything by it. Actually respect given, is trust gained.
After all every part of the world has its unique culture practices, it would be good to be safe than sorry by treading with care & respecting and acknowledging the differences.
After all respect is not taking another for granted.
We are strings of matter Asserting ourselves in the giant spindle of time.
A string Is meant to connect It is also to be a bridge of bonding Like a string of pearls To string is to align with a purpose.
We are divinely connected in the subtler realms To the infinite strings of matter.
Yet in the physical realm We hold the strings to many We pull these strings at times too lightly or forcefully And what was meant to be for alignment , instead creates imbalances.
The strings we hold or latch onto The strings that are passed into our hands And the strings we want to control All have a deep significance to the way we were are, we are and what our future will be…
Care to acknowledge our stringed existence in the interconnects. Aspire to untangle the threads yet value the rootedness therein.
Aim to reach beyond the shackles of being Unlearn to learn Reach beyond knowing.
Life heals as its aligns and manifests the truth of its own potential.
Try to make at least one person happy every day. If you cannot do a kind deed, speak a kind word. If you cannot speak a kind word, think a kind thought.
Count up, if you can, the treasure of happiness that you would dispense in a week, in a year, in a lifetime! Lawrence G. Lovasik
Loved the message in the quote…Build a treasure of happiness.
Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent then the one derived from fear of punishment. Mahatma Gandhi
We dance to let go, To enjoy this now. And celebrate it and find ourselves again. In awareness is a flow, that merges in harmony to synch in with this now, in artistry of the moves… this is the truth of what it is, to dance!
I think if you exercise, your state of mind – my state of mind – is usually more at ease, ready for more mental challenges. Once I get the physical stuff out of the way it always seems like I have more calmness and better self-esteem.Stone Gossard
Well said and true for it only shows how much our mind and body is integrated.
Creativity thrves in an open minded approach with an ability to trust and try.
To take a chance is to take a step into the unexplored unknown dimensions of potential possibilities.
The creative spirit is replenished in such an atmosphere.The forays into the unknown can be a pure game of chance.
A dare unto beyond that may or may not pay rich dividends. But in those trials and tribulations a creative soul is nurtured. And new paths are created to journey on!
In any organization When leadership listens Empathy is nurtured Safe space is created Conversations connect Teams bond in trustfulness Productivity rises In balanced motivation Both intrinsic & external Work becomes less dense In collaboration & cooperation Valuing diversity of potential Possibilities are explored Challenges gets simplified Structure becomes systems Protocols are in place Change is acknowledged In faith goodwill and trust That we are stronger together There is unity in diversity As respect becomes culture. Trust becomes the way.
In this world of metaverses and advanced technology where emotional connects brings us closer, no matter the actual physical distance, building & sustaining trustfulness, integrity becomes paramount benchmarks for buisnesses in digital space. Companies that can understand this need and work around it by providing clarity of information and create experiences with strong data securities will have an advantage. Even terms and policies on user data needs transparent communication.
On the other hand the question remains how the world will adapt to new ways of work with avatars taking prominence over actual humans. The lines of real and virtual are truly interweaved. While this generation born in a digital world is synced in with the changes like AI storming in to our life, the earlier generation is still reeling with trust issues with digital technology.
Changing Times…
Times are changing and how, from a generation that grew up without phones & computers… to a world that knows not to be, without a mobile phone & laptops!
Trustful Connections
In all this change, there is still one element of truth that is consistently evident. The need for human connection. As development improves the way we interact with one another it is getting extremely important to feel a sense of trust.The way of work has higher need for transparency along with the responsibility.And that is creating more interdependence and collaborative styles of work. Autocracy has to move to meritocracy for trust to be formed. For we are in one way or other coming to terms of living in a world where everyone can function from anywhere at the touch of button and can be informed and aware in real time.
Sustainability
Challenges are plenty but solutions are also clear.Leading the change building trust. Creating and sustaining better relationships.It’s all in us, the way we behave interact and live each moment. Trust takes time to form and be instilled. Once trust is gained it becomes a gamechanger. In any successful relationship be it professional or personal, it is important to understand the need to cultivate and sustain efforts towards trustful connections.
In this series I share stories that are thought provoking, inspiring, motivational or touching our lives in some way or the other.
Better late than never
My mom had a lot of problems. She did not sleep and she felt exhausted. She was irritable, grumpy, and bitter. She was always sick, until one day, suddenly, she changed.
The situation was the same, but she was different.
One day my dad said to her:
– I’ve been looking for a job for three months and I haven’t found anything, I’m going to have a few beers with friends.
My mom replied:
– It’s okay.
My brother said to her:
– Mom, I’m doing poorly in all subjects at the University …
My mom replied:
– Okay, you will recover, and if you don’t, well, you repeat the semester, but you pay the tuition.
My sister said to her:
– Mom, I hit the car.
My mom replied:
– Okay daughter, take it to the workshop, find how to pay and while they fix it, get around by bus or subway.
Her daughter-in-law said to her:
– Mother-in-law, I come to spend a few months with you.
My mom replied:
– Okay, settle in the living room couch and look for some blankets in the closet.
All of us at my mom’s house gathered worried to see these reactions.
We suspected that she had gone to the doctor and that she was prescribe some pills of “I don’t give a damn about 1000 mg.”
She would probably also be ingesting an overdose.
We then proposed to do an “intervention” to my mother to remove her from any possible addiction she had towards some anti-tantrum medication.
But what was not the surprise, when we all gathered around her and my mom explained:
“It took me a long time to realize that each person is responsible for their life, it took me years to discover that my anguish, my mortification, my depression, my courage, my insomnia and my stress, did not solve their problems but aggravated mine.
I am not responsible for the actions of others, but I am responsible for the reactions I express to that.
Therefore, I came to the conclusion that my duty to myself is to remain calm and let each one solve what corresponds to them.
I have taken courses in yoga, meditation, miracles, human development, mental hygiene, vibration and neurolinguistic programming, and in all of them, I found a common denominator: finally they all lead to the same point.
And, it is that I can only interfere with myself, you have all the necessary resources to solve your own lives.
I can only give you my advice if you ask me and it depends on you to follow it or not.
So, from now on, I cease to be: the receptacle of your responsibilities, the sack of your guilt, the laundress of your remorse, the advocate of your faults, the wall of your lamentations, the depositary of your duties, who should solve your problems or spare a tire every time to fulfill your responsibilities.
From now on, I declare all independent and self-sufficient adults.
Everyone at my mom’s house was speechless.
From that day on, the family began to function better, because everyone in the house knows exactly what it is that they need to do.
Savvy Raj 
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