We are bonded in a connection
By infinite fibers between us
Both visible & Invisible
At times tangible in the feeling
Some times palpable in the sensing
But it takes an acknowledgement
Of the beauty of us beyond the I.
Savvy
On Connectedness
Category Archives: freedom
Wind in the shell
We are all mere wind in a shell
Winding &unwinding
Our thoughts in every now
We are travellers shoring our souls
One beach to another
Evolving along the way…
Savvy
I wrote these lines as a response to a comment on my earlier post .I came across it today and felt it was just apt with the image above.
Happy Women’s Day
Stories from Life and Living
In this series I share stories that are thought provoking, inspiring, motivational or touching our lives in some way or the other.
Better late than never
My mom had a lot of problems. She did not sleep and she felt exhausted. She was irritable, grumpy, and bitter. She was always sick, until one day, suddenly, she changed.
The situation was the same, but she was different.
One day my dad said to her:
– I’ve been looking for a job for three months and I haven’t found anything, I’m going to have a few beers with friends.
My mom replied:
– It’s okay.
My brother said to her:
– Mom, I’m doing poorly in all subjects at the University …
My mom replied:
– Okay, you will recover, and if you don’t, well, you repeat the semester, but you pay the tuition.
My sister said to her:
– Mom, I hit the car.
My mom replied:
– Okay daughter, take it to the workshop, find how to pay and while they fix it, get around by bus or subway.
Her daughter-in-law said to her:
– Mother-in-law, I come to spend a few months with you.
My mom replied:
– Okay, settle in the living room couch and look for some blankets in the closet.
All of us at my mom’s house gathered worried to see these reactions.
We suspected that she had gone to the doctor and that she was prescribe some pills of “I don’t give a damn about 1000 mg.”
She would probably also be ingesting an overdose.
We then proposed to do an “intervention” to my mother to remove her from any possible addiction she had towards some anti-tantrum medication.
But what was not the surprise, when we all gathered around her and my mom explained:
“It took me a long time to realize that each person is responsible for their life, it took me years to discover that my anguish, my mortification, my depression, my courage, my insomnia and my stress, did not solve their problems but aggravated mine.
I am not responsible for the actions of others, but I am responsible for the reactions I express to that.
Therefore, I came to the conclusion that my duty to myself is to remain calm and let each one solve what corresponds to them.
I have taken courses in yoga, meditation, miracles, human development, mental hygiene, vibration and neurolinguistic programming, and in all of them, I found a common denominator: finally they all lead to the same point.
And, it is that I can only interfere with myself, you have all the necessary resources to solve your own lives.
I can only give you my advice if you ask me and it depends on you to follow it or not.
So, from now on, I cease to be: the receptacle of your responsibilities, the sack of your guilt, the laundress of your remorse, the advocate of your faults, the wall of your lamentations, the depositary of your duties, who should solve your problems or spare a tire every time to fulfill your responsibilities.
From now on, I declare all independent and self-sufficient adults.
Everyone at my mom’s house was speechless.
From that day on, the family began to function better, because everyone in the house knows exactly what it is that they need to do.
Author:
A HAPPY WOMAN!!( pls feel free to share)
Colours
Coloring all the way
Every flower speaks its truth
As much as every part of nature
Finding its own identity
Like day and night
Dusk and dawn
Colored through myriad hues of light
Creating hope and beauty of life
Nature says, in the most colorful way,
Flow through the day
Express your self uniquely along the way!
Happy Festival of Colors
Happy Holi!
Savvy
Possible
Dare to dream and walk on
Continue to persevere
In patience and passion
In faith and belief
In hope and trust
There is much good
You are meant to do
In your journey of life
Doubt not your ability
No matter the naysayers
For there will be plenty
Of those who will say so…
But very few who help
You do, what you do
In perseverance & patience
You create your purpose
And you find yourself
In possibilities.
It’s all possible because you know in your heart you can…
Savvy
Balancing Life
No matter how busy you think you are
There is always space to learn and understand more
Space to grow and evolve
And it all starts with a little shift in perspective.
A little rebalancing from the way things are…
Work & life
It often amazes me to see the adulation that certain people have for being the first to arrive and last to leave their workplace. I wonder if anyone has cared to check how their families feel about this?
Many on the so called respected and admired list, are people who are workaholics, burning out by the minute.
They are there, working beyond the call of duty perhaps out of personal passion, sense of ownership and responsibility or even perhaps because they feel they can’t afford to fail, may be even because it gives them an edge of pride to be known as some one who is committed.
However life is about balance and simply put, more of one leads to less of another. The trick is the wisdom of balance and steering clear of extremes.
To every workaholic out there here are few reflections…
☆Avoid stretching yourself too thin.You are already on razors edge and you are hurting one part of your life, if you continue to do what you do. Reclaim your life. Find other passions and take care of your health. Stay safe than sorry.
☆Your personal life is at stake and is also your responsibility.
☆Bringing home the money and comforts is just one half of the whole. Your family is best nurtured by your loving presence in their lives.
☆Your absence at home and family/ social affairs is missed at first and then adapted with along the way to a point of being indifferent to your presence in time. Because you are never there for them.
☆ At a certain point in life, lack of care and connection begins to show and no amount of money can be valued over time .
☆Money cannot buy love they say and it certainly becomes true, as people begin to use you for your money and you will never feel fulfilled and content after spending it.
☆Everything around you becomes materialistic to the point of manipulation and its your own doing as you threw in the money and comforts where ever and whenever your time was required or requested.
☆Relationships become meaningless without a sense of togetherness. Missing out time with another in the excuse of being busy for years will take a toll on personal life. People will get used to you not being around for them and then expecting them to be there for you when you need them is a selfish ask.
☆Your children will be affected by your continued absence . Your presence in their growing years is very important for their holistic well being. Your partner will be angry or isolated with you. And expecting things to be different as you continue your ways is not going to change anything.
☆However in recognizing the signs of workaholic and your choosing to balance different aspects of your life will start making a meaningful difference.
☆For starters acknowledge your value for your time and energy.
☆Speaking of your energy , if you have spent most of your day at work , how will you find yourself able to give more of you as you have exhausted yourself
☆Recognize where it’s slipping away and start to chalk out a balancing plan. It can transform your life and those around you.
☆Find moments that are solely yours and use it for your personal development.
☆Your career is only one part of your life. It helps you sustain your life but the relationships you have nourishes you. Without it you have no true sense of purpose.
☆If you are one of those who are thinking of grabbing opportunities and climbing the corporate ladder acknowledge that you may possibly often have an unsatisfactory family relationship at the end of it all.
☆Your passion for your work may begin to affect your health watch out early signs of strain and stress and care to take help .
Thankfully today the world is more aware of work week and many countries are Consciously doing something about it. How it affects productivity in time will be seen and how much it could contribute to work life balance, but it definitely is time reclaimed for family.
The truth is its about prioritization of what’s important for well-being in life. Personal and professional lives both are important and have demands that need your time. So balance is the key.
Savvy
Worth cultivating…
A skill is only a rumor until it becomes a muscle memory
But beyond the skills we choose to cultivate in life…
There are certainly abilities worth cultivating for a lifetime.
Ability to see the good in life.
Ability to respect the people for who they are.
Ability to acknowledge diversity of thoughts and opinions.
Ability to coexist in peace and harmony.
Ability to generate goodwill whenever we can.
Ability to laugh and bring humor in conversations.
Ability to dance in the rain
As much as move with a lightness of being.
We all have the ability to live life lovingly
All it needs is embodying in our lives.
Savvy
Gifts of feelings
In the myriad moments
And multitude of experiences
In life and living.
There is so much going on
Betwixt and between us all.
So much to live and care for…
Often unsaid words
& repressed feelings
Are brimming in the sensing
Emotions have their way
Of expressing themselves
At inopportune moments.
But if we choose to take time
We can channel our thoughts
In mindful awareness.
Perhaps our emotions
Can be our precious gift
To sense and balance the self.
We are blessed with all
That we need from nature
Let’s acknowledge our gifts.
Savvy
Love
Spreading Love
For love is power
That completes itself .
Spreading joy and healing
In circles of awareness
That transmute the soul
To recognise the heart of the soul!
Savvy
Stay Blessed
When I change my conversations
To include words of gratitude
To become more positive
To have words to thankfulness
In deep appreciation and conscious awareness
Of possibilities in the infinite potential
I begin to influence myself
To see beyond my limited self
I became conscious supportive and allowing
Of the positive changes
In and around me
This is the point of influence
That I can sense, resonance
In the echoes from within
That I hear in all of my being
A reverberation of the bless
Savvy
When Art Speaks…
Allowing the art to speak and acknowledging its flow is of essence, to sense and enjoy the art itself.
Learning to dance & dancing socially comes along with many lessons and learnings…
In any partner dancing its important to respond than simply react to the movement direction from the partner in the flow.
The cultivation of the ability of any dancers acknowledgement & appreciation of their dance partner or other dancers, differences in movement speed or artistry not merely as tolerable, brings on the required humility and grace in the dance.
This is in itself the essence of a rich and rewarding social dancing experience.
Savvy
Yes you can!
The simple way of enjoying life & living
Dance often as much as you can…
And yes you truly can !
Savvy
Being You!
Live every moment the best you can. Because You Can!
You have but one life … make it your best!
Savvy Raj
On learning
Our education leaves much room for improvement.
But consider these questions for a moment…
Why do you learn what you learn?
Ideally you learn because you are curious to know more and not because you have to finish a degree.
What is the reason for the learning?
Earlier at least in India the aspirations of parents were the reason of choice of what the course of learning would be . The options were limited and no one bothered to check whether the education even resonated with the learners.
How does it make you feel?
Have seen many sensing disconnect as they are pursuing careers in fields which have no connection with their earlier Education.
What way do you apply or use your learnings?
Often most of our prevalent education systems seems very transactional with marks and percentages with the purpose having no significance.
However degrees become meaningless if you do not use your learnings to make a positive difference.
Personally speaking
I believe to learn is to share and to share is to learn some more.
Savvy
On Happiness…
What if?
You are given an opportunity to travel to beautiful locales on work or pleasure ,in a country so far away from your own
Everything is wonderful and picturesque…
Yet, you are traveling along with people/ or paired with a person of completely different interests.
What if….
If you are a morning person and they are late risers
If you like walking and they like to rest more.
If you like to explore museums and art scenes and they have no interest in anything art
If you want to experience new culture by meeting new people and connecting with them than simply trying out food .
What if you want quick bites on the go and they like fancy dining experiences.
What if you want to start early and you are exasperated as they prefer late afternoon after a lazy lunch…
What if you are up and ready to go and they take a really long time to get ready 🤔
You like to capture experiences and rejoice in the memories and they have no particular interest in photography.
When you like to have a conversation freely and they are too busy or too silent, you often realise its better to remain silent unless spoken to even if there is company.
What would you do …
You make things right for you!
Let’s see, it’s not all that bad
You are in a new location….
You realise its better to have some company than traveling alone in some places at least.
You begin to appreciate the environment and yourself in it.
You appreciate others who are around.
You pay extra interest in people and places, the quirkiest, even the strangest and most peculiar things as much as the ordinary seem to matter somehow.
You try to find happiness in whatever you see.
You adapt to things as it comes.
You accept everything, as your life’s myriad moments.
You remember to focus on the positives acknowledge the good in them and move on…
After all
Happiness is in you!
And
Tommorow is another new day!
Savvy
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