Empathic leaders find it easier to understand the challenges of their teams but they also need to be empathic to themselves to avoid burnout and manage their lives.
Stress Management for Leaders
If you are feeling stress beyond a level you can handle as a leader you need to introspect.
There could be many factors that build up the stress often without your own knowing. It can happen to anyone after all we are only human. And it would be good to acknowledge the importance of work life balance and self care.
Are you biting more than you can chew? To manage work stress as a leader, while delegating work check, if you are delegating tasks with clarity to the team.
Are you approachable and exercising patience in communication?
Are you checking if they have understood your requirements?
Are your mails, messages and your attitude, building people up?
Remember the way you chose to behave rubs off on people. While it’s only human to err and there could be good & bad days, being a leader is a responsiblity. For you have the power to influence and impact lives.
Likewise your actions beliefs and behaviour can affect your own health. Hence managing your own stressors empathically become paramount as a leader to get work done.
Every now and then tweaking your own approach, to the changing needs, being flexible and adaptable helps you and your team towards reducing work stress.
As a creative writer, I enjoy the juxtaposition of imagination and reality. For life experiences become my muse. But still it is advisable to be savvy when sharing with the world.
Emerging patterns of nature are captivating indeed. For instance, be it waves or stripes or spirals, and more, nature patterns itself in synchrony.
In the waves of the ocean and the sand dunes, ripples in the pond, in the striking stripes of a zebra and the striped Zebra plant or even the striped flowers, their formation at the atomic and molecular levels may have a reason purpose in nature.
We as humans, find inspiration in nature and we are drawn to recognising these emerging patterns. It reminds us of the bigger picture, of the Oneness in the interconnects in life and living.
Yesterday, once again I heard of the bees being driven off their homes and then collecting the honey from their hive adulterating it with jaggery and selling it locally, it seems be a racket in urban cities. Smoking out the hives out for honey results in suffocating many of these bees.
How callous we are, truly there is nothing sweet about this kind of honey.
When you are in a position of influence especially as a coach, a trainer you are responsible to aid the development and building up of life. From the life coaching perspective there are many humane standards that help reach the set goals.
As a coach, respect and inclusion are significant for the success of your coaching. It is important to show ‘Respect’ not only for individual or team you are coaching by being unbiased and empathic of their abilities, but also for your time and effort as well as respect for the reason and need for coaching .
As for inclusiveness, without it you cannot build rapport as a coach. Inclusion is also about being attentive and open minded of diverse perspectives and opinions.
Over the decades, coaching individuals and groups as a Dance Educator & Trainer,and a Life Coach, I have had varied experiences of how being inclusive, empathic, open minded to listen and understand, sharing mutual respect has made a positive impact on the coaching process.
Both respect and inclusion can make a meaningful and lasting difference in the lives of those you coach.
Just watching how circling the brush creates beautiful circles and how leaves of green create itself out left by blobs of dark green colour with the sudden dipping of the sliding brush on to the paper. Almost felt like life blooming itself in unique ways like the different circles of colours and then the occasional highs and lows of life that ups and dips only to leave imprints of a life lived as memories for eternity… This simple technique gives great joy…💙 Loved it… Watch for joy and try it out!
Inculcating a habit of listening to music regularly, or even practicing music by learning to sing or playing an instrument, can improve your creativity.
Learning anything new can spark new neural pathways and bridge old learnings in associations to ignite unique creative expressions.
As far as music it is a holistic experience with benefits much beyond its entertainment factor. The right music can heal and regenerate cells in our body.
Music can be a healing medicine for the body, mind and spirit. Personally, like for many of you, I love many art forms, like music, dance and painting, writing and singing because they have an immensely positive effect on me. It makes me whole again, ready to face a new day… For instance, I am fond of different types of music at different times of the day…often I sense how refreshed I feel after listening or singing to them.
At home every once in a while my daughter and I find singing mashups of old and new songs together on the Karaoke very rejuvenating…One thing leads to another, humming or singing some melodies while going through the day, makes the moments feel light. I also find listening to gentle, soft instrumental music while painting very enjoyable.
What are your experiences with music?
When was the last time you heard your favorite songs?
When did you do something creative while listening to music?
Here is a ChatGPT Translation from an interesting Tamil forward.
One day, a cleaner who was tidying up an airplane found a book in the cockpit titled “How to Fly an Airplane – Part One.”
He opened the book. On the first page, it said, “Press the red button 🔴 to start the engine.” He sat in the pilot’s seat and pressed the red button, and the engine started!
He was very excited. He turned to the second page. It said, “Press the blue button 🔵 to move the airplane.” He did so, and the airplane started moving and began to speed up.
Now he wanted to fly. He turned to the third page. It said, “Press the green button 🟢 to make the airplane fly up.” He pressed the green button, and the airplane lifted off and started flying. He flew happily for 20 minutes.
Feeling very satisfied, he decided to land the airplane. He turned to the fourth page of the book.
That was it; he started to panic, his hands and feet trembling. The reason was, the fourth page said, “To learn how to land the airplane, purchase and read the second part of this book from the nearest bookstore.”
Moral: Don’t dive into something without fully understanding it.
Incomplete knowledge is not only dangerous but also hazardous⚠️
Like a new dawn, Trust new beginnings, Renew hope, renew effort Making it a day Full of positivity & possibilities. Step forward With grit & gratitude Each moment is special Miracles happen in any moment.
DISCLAIMER: CERTAIN FACTS HERE MAY BE INACCURATE BUT THE ESSENCE OF THE PIECE IS STILL VERY MEANINGFUL ABOUT VALUING PARTNERS.
Saeed Jeffrey divorced Madhur Jaffrey for his second wife Jennifer. But this veteran actor has won the hearts with his heart-wrenching regret.
This came out, a few years after he left this world. 30-Jul-2019
From the diary of Sayed Jaffrey, the famous bollywood character actor:
I was 19 when I was married to Mehrunima who was 17. As I grew up, I was very fascinated by the british culture in colonial India. I learnt to speak English fluently, wear suits with grace, and developed impeccable etiquettes. But Mehrunima grew up to be my complete opposite – homely, a typical housewife. All my advices and admonishments couldn’t change her basic personality – an obedient wife, a doting mother and a good homemaker.
But she was not what I wanted. More I tried to change her, more we drifted apart. Gradually she metamorphosed from a cheerful affectionate young girl into a quiet insecure woman. Meanwhile I started getting attracted to a co-actor of mine who was all what I wanted in my wife.
After 10 years of marriage, l divorced Mehrunima, left my home and married my co- actor. I had ensured financial security of Mehrunima and my kids . For about 6-7 months everything went well. Then I started realising, my new wife was not caring and affectionate. She was only concerned about her beauty, her ambitions, her wants and desires. Sometimes I missed Mehrunima’s caring touch and concern for my welfare.
Life moved on . I and my new wife were 2 persons living in a house, not one soul living in a home. I never went back to find out what happened to Mehrunima and my kids. After about 6 -7 years of my second marriage, I came across an article on a Madhur Jaffrey, an upcoming famous chef who had recently launched a book of her own recipes. The moment I looked at the picture of the smart elegant lady, I was stunned. It was Mehrunima. But how could it be ??? She had remarried and changed her maiden name too.
I was shooting abroad at that time. She lived in US now. I caught the next flight to US. I inquired about her where abouts and went to meet her. She refused to see me. My daughter who was 14, and son who was 12, told her they wanted to talk to me one last time. Her new husband was by her side. He was also my children’s legal father now. To this date, I cannot forget what my children told me.
They told me that their new father knows the meaning of true love. He Broke Da Cage of Negativity. He accepted Mehrunima as she was and never tried to change her into what he himself was, because he loves her more than he loves himself. He let her evolve at her own pace and never tried to force his wishes on her. He accepted and enjoyed her person as it was. And she has bloomed into a confident loving affectionate self reliant lady today under her second husband’s selfless love and acceptance.
Where as I was full of selfishness, demands and unacceptance of her persona had crushed her and then in my selfishness had discarded her. Creating a Cage of Negativity.
The Greatest learning of my life-
You don’t change people you love, you love them as they are….
The journey of creativity Flourishes in the flow Out of passionate awareness Of the spaces between Light to dark & dark to light. For in betwixt these hours Ideas birth & creativity grows. In passionate perseverance Puzzles fit in patience.
Sometimes comments by readers become an inspiration for verses in a flow…. This was once such a flow.. I thank @KatieMiaFrederick for the inspiring comment. 🙏
Savvy Raj 
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