It is not about what we are having or doing. It is about how we are feeling. It is about how we make others feel.
It is not about where or how we are staying It is about with whom we are staying.
It is not about where and what we have studied. It is about what we are speaking. It is about the tone of our talking.
It is not about the form or attire we are wearing. It is about the approach n attitude we are having.
We live not with the luxuries of life But with the state of our mind , our constant companion.
One word, or one stare has the power to change the whole state of mind, irrespective of the surrounding. Being aware n having the right attitude in this ever changing life and making them Positive ones is within one’s reach.
All it needs is the effort to make even the harsh moments to consoling & soothing moments with the right words n approach.
Yes. It needs a lot of training n conditioning to change the mind set, to walk the right path. Yet it is worth trying as it brings peace n happiness to self & others.
We are what we are With the possibilities for evolution Inside us all. And yet each arrives at their own time To the journey meant for them To carve a path that they are meant to. Life never claims to be fair Life is as is It is within us to know What to hold on to hone, or set free For nature is always in flow And true nature always finds its way.
In any organization When leadership listens Empathy is nurtured Safe space is created Conversations connect Teams bond in trustfulness Productivity rises In balanced motivation Both intrinsic & external Work becomes less dense In collaboration & cooperation Valuing diversity of potential Possibilities are explored Challenges gets simplified Structure becomes systems Protocols are in place Change is acknowledged In faith goodwill and trust That we are stronger together There is unity in diversity As respect becomes culture. Trust becomes the way.
There is a dance In every leaf and flower In every bud and bloom In every twig and tree In every turn and twist In every life in the living Of natures creation. There is grace of uniqueness Of patterns, of wisdom Beyond compare… All knowing, all pervading Magnificent Omnipresence. Amazing Nature Amazing Grace.
In this series I share stories that are thought provoking, inspiring, motivational or touching our lives in some way or the other.
Better late than never
My mom had a lot of problems. She did not sleep and she felt exhausted. She was irritable, grumpy, and bitter. She was always sick, until one day, suddenly, she changed.
The situation was the same, but she was different.
One day my dad said to her:
– I’ve been looking for a job for three months and I haven’t found anything, I’m going to have a few beers with friends.
My mom replied:
– It’s okay.
My brother said to her:
– Mom, I’m doing poorly in all subjects at the University …
My mom replied:
– Okay, you will recover, and if you don’t, well, you repeat the semester, but you pay the tuition.
My sister said to her:
– Mom, I hit the car.
My mom replied:
– Okay daughter, take it to the workshop, find how to pay and while they fix it, get around by bus or subway.
Her daughter-in-law said to her:
– Mother-in-law, I come to spend a few months with you.
My mom replied:
– Okay, settle in the living room couch and look for some blankets in the closet.
All of us at my mom’s house gathered worried to see these reactions.
We suspected that she had gone to the doctor and that she was prescribe some pills of “I don’t give a damn about 1000 mg.”
She would probably also be ingesting an overdose.
We then proposed to do an “intervention” to my mother to remove her from any possible addiction she had towards some anti-tantrum medication.
But what was not the surprise, when we all gathered around her and my mom explained:
“It took me a long time to realize that each person is responsible for their life, it took me years to discover that my anguish, my mortification, my depression, my courage, my insomnia and my stress, did not solve their problems but aggravated mine.
I am not responsible for the actions of others, but I am responsible for the reactions I express to that.
Therefore, I came to the conclusion that my duty to myself is to remain calm and let each one solve what corresponds to them.
I have taken courses in yoga, meditation, miracles, human development, mental hygiene, vibration and neurolinguistic programming, and in all of them, I found a common denominator: finally they all lead to the same point.
And, it is that I can only interfere with myself, you have all the necessary resources to solve your own lives.
I can only give you my advice if you ask me and it depends on you to follow it or not.
So, from now on, I cease to be: the receptacle of your responsibilities, the sack of your guilt, the laundress of your remorse, the advocate of your faults, the wall of your lamentations, the depositary of your duties, who should solve your problems or spare a tire every time to fulfill your responsibilities.
From now on, I declare all independent and self-sufficient adults.
Everyone at my mom’s house was speechless.
From that day on, the family began to function better, because everyone in the house knows exactly what it is that they need to do.
It’s all in the nurturing Plant a life in hope Nurture seeds of compassion Water it everyday with kind deeds Nourish the roots with care Enrich it with love for life What you plant in your heart becomes you And you reap what you sow
Now the question is what are you nurturing in this now ? And what do you want to nurture today?
There is always space to learn and understand more
Space to grow and evolve
And it all starts with a little shift in perspective.
A little rebalancing from the way things are…
Work & life
It often amazes me to see the adulation that certain people have for being the first to arrive and last to leave their workplace. I wonder if anyone has cared to check how their families feel about this?
Many on the so called respected and admired list, are people who are workaholics, burning out by the minute.
They are there, working beyond the call of duty perhaps out of personal passion, sense of ownership and responsibility or even perhaps because they feel they can’t afford to fail, may be even because it gives them an edge of pride to be known as some one who is committed.
However life is about balance and simply put, more of one leads to less of another. The trick is the wisdom of balance and steering clear of extremes.
To every workaholic out there here are few reflections…
☆Avoid stretching yourself too thin.You are already on razors edge and you are hurting one part of your life, if you continue to do what you do. Reclaim your life. Find other passions and take care of your health. Stay safe than sorry.
☆Your personal life is at stake and is also your responsibility.
☆Bringing home the money and comforts is just one half of the whole. Your family is best nurtured by your loving presence in their lives.
☆Your absence at home and family/ social affairs is missed at first and then adapted with along the way to a point of being indifferent to your presence in time. Because you are never there for them.
☆ At a certain point in life, lack of care and connection begins to show and no amount of money can be valued over time .
☆Money cannot buy love they say and it certainly becomes true, as people begin to use you for your money and you will never feel fulfilled and content after spending it.
☆Everything around you becomes materialistic to the point of manipulation and its your own doing as you threw in the money and comforts where ever and whenever your time was required or requested.
☆Relationships become meaningless without a sense of togetherness. Missing out time with another in the excuse of being busy for years will take a toll on personal life. People will get used to you not being around for them and then expecting them to be there for you when you need them is a selfish ask.
☆Your children will be affected by your continued absence . Your presence in their growing years is very important for their holistic well being. Your partner will be angry or isolated with you. And expecting things to be different as you continue your ways is not going to change anything.
☆However in recognizing the signs of workaholic and your choosing to balance different aspects of your life will start making a meaningful difference.
☆For starters acknowledge your value for your time and energy.
☆Speaking of your energy , if you have spent most of your day at work , how will you find yourself able to give more of you as you have exhausted yourself
☆Recognize where it’s slipping away and start to chalk out a balancing plan. It can transform your life and those around you.
☆Find moments that are solely yours and use it for your personal development.
☆Your career is only one part of your life. It helps you sustain your life but the relationships you have nourishes you. Without it you have no true sense of purpose.
☆If you are one of those who are thinking of grabbing opportunities and climbing the corporate ladder acknowledge that you may possibly often have an unsatisfactory family relationship at the end of it all.
☆Your passion for your work may begin to affect your health watch out early signs of strain and stress and care to take help .
Thankfully today the world is more aware of work week and many countries are Consciously doing something about it. How it affects productivity in time will be seen and how much it could contribute to work life balance, but it definitely is time reclaimed for family.
The truth is its about prioritization of what’s important for well-being in life. Personal and professional lives both are important and have demands that need your time. So balance is the key.
Strolling through the streets of Lanka at night, Hanuman was taken aback when he heard the chants of Sriram coming from a home.
They were not loud but whispers through the windows.
Hanuman wondered who could be chanting my Lord’s name in the city ruled by Ravan.
The house had a cluster of Tulsi plants outside and the walls had signs of Sri Hari.
Just then a man opened the front door and came out chanting the Holy Name.
The Sky was Starlit and it was couple of hours before Dawn.
The man offered water to the Tulsi plants, while performing a Circumbulation.
Hanuman hopped and stood before him, folding his hands.
The man introduced himself as Vibhishana, brother of Ravan.
Hanuman asked
“It baffles me: you are a devotee and a Noble Soul.
How on Earth you live among the Demons? “
Vibhishan smiled and said
“Just as the tongue lives in the mouth with thirty two teeth biting and grinding, around it, not only does the tongue remain untouched, it enjoys all the taste”.
The very food that sits and rolls on the tongue is chewed to a pulp by the teeth and yet this snaky little thing escapes unscathed.
Only time it is hurt is when we have a lapse of mindfulness.
Why?
Philosophically the chief difference is, flexibility.
The tongue’s flexibility is the key to its longevity.
That’s why it gets the taste while the teeth get Root canals and Cavities
They fall too or pulled out!.
But no one loses their tongue.
The tongue teaches…….
Others may grind and bite but you can still enjoy life if you are flexible.
Everything will hurt less, bother less if we loosen up a bit.. then an Avalanche of Peace and Joy is triggered.
If you want lasting Peace and Joy, learn from your tongue and live like it. Befriend it. Tame it. It has a great bearing on your relationship.
Savvy Raj 
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