You are given an opportunity to travel to beautiful locales on work or pleasure ,in a country so far away from your own Everything is wonderful and picturesque…
Yet, you are traveling along with people/ or paired with a person of completely different interests.
What if….
If you are a morning person and they are late risers
If you like walking and they like to rest more.
If you like to explore museums and art scenes and they have no interest in anything art
If you want to experience new culture by meeting new people and connecting with them than simply trying out food .
What if you want quick bites on the go and they like fancy dining experiences.
What if you want to start early and you are exasperated as they prefer late afternoon after a lazy lunch…
What if you are up and ready to go and they take a really long time to get ready 🤔
You like to capture experiences and rejoice in the memories and they have no particular interest in photography.
When you like to have a conversation freely and they are too busy or too silent, you often realise its better to remain silent unless spoken to even if there is company.
What would you do …
You make things right for you!
Let’s see, it’s not all that bad You are in a new location….
You realise its better to have some company than traveling alone in some places at least. You begin to appreciate the environment and yourself in it. You appreciate others who are around. You pay extra interest in people and places, the quirkiest, even the strangest and most peculiar things as much as the ordinary seem to matter somehow. You try to find happiness in whatever you see. You adapt to things as it comes. You accept everything, as your life’s myriad moments. You remember to focus on the positives acknowledge the good in them and move on…
Growth is a revelation To your own self So much of you Has outgrown the past The version of you That you would not relate In this now for life is changing As new versions of you Emerge in every moment You grow as you evolve.
Another inspiring story translation from tamil forward by my mother Anjana.
A gardener one day saw a bird’s nest in his garden. Out of curiosity he peeped inside and saw a few eggs laid inside it. Next day he was happy to see small tiny cracks on the eggshells. He realised th eggs are getting ready to hatch . His curiosity increased. For the he next few days , every day he will see the how the eggs are and happy to see the cracks getting bigger. His expectations kept on increasing. One day he saw the eggs moving and the little tiny birds were struggling inside to break open the wall and come out of their confined space . He felt sad for the birds as they have to struggle so much. He wanted to help them . So he softly made the cracks big enough to make their work easy. The next morning he went with lot of expectations to see the little birds out of the eggs without struggle. He was disappointed to see there was no change. It was same as he had kept the day before. For the next couple of days it went on. The eggs remained the same . There was no movement. Then one day he was shocked to see lot of ants all over the eggs and found all the tiny birds dead inside. His heart ached to see this . He was very sad. His friend who saw him asked the reason. When he told what had happened , his friend told, ” You are the reason for their death. Out of your love n expectation you killed them. “
“Me ? How?” “Yes , only you are responsible. When the little birds are ready to come out , their little wings and legs will move slowly giving it strength. It will break open the shell with the help of its beak n body. It is a natural process . If you had left it their way by now all the little ones must have come out and flew from their nest in a few days. A normal delivery would have happened. The gardener was shattered when he realised his folly. As parents we are doing the same to our children. We protect them with so much care and precautions to safe guard them from any pain or suffering. We fail to make them know the value of sweat, the worth of labour and the struggling path to success. We want to give them all ready in a platter. Our mentality is’ I’ve suffered a lot. My children should not’. We forget that our overprotective love will make them weak and some day when they face life with its realities , they will suffer. Let us make them walk the path and watch them grow as individuals with inner strength. When needed be there to guide. How long can they walk catching your fingers. Let them walk alone. Let them fall and learn to rise on their own. Let them make their own path . Watch them from a distance. Applaud them. This is not a bird’s story. It is a life lesson for our children.
Great things can come in little packages Like a Bonsai perhaps Standing majestic and magnificent No matter the proportions
But what does it endure to be? Life without freedom Is a life of constraints & restraints A life of arrested development
Is beauty winning over freedom to be Is the desire for aesthetics and a taste of experimentation more important than freedom for living life fully Stunting growth is no way beautiful Be it Shackles on feet with chains or tight shoes in the name of beauty On the other end there are many examples of prejudices of beauty working itself in society. Delibrate acts of elongating necks with chains of gold is considered a norm in some parts of the world Why is life so brutal to life In the name of beauty?
Whoever thinks being slow is a weakness Has not understood its power
In being able to slow down The propensity to think carefully To pay attention to detail To be mindful & cautious To work with precision Steadiness and thoroughness Increases manifold.
In slowing down, nature teaches Great lessons in letting go Like time cannot be contained Moments are meant to flow It’s own course Yet the strength of the slow Is in the ability to live the now Recognizing the value of life.
There is an art of the slow Where the senses activate And creativity enhances In thinking and reflecting In careful consideration Slow is challenging for some Yet slow can be earnest practice of mindfulness Slow begets a response than reaction Slow can be about building up gradually And exploring the possibilities Of the potential in this now.
Slow can be a deliberation In patience & perseverance With an effortless grace Such is the art of the slow.
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