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Secret of Success

Secret of success
A ten year old Japanese boy dreamt of becoming a judo champion. But he didn’t have his left hand. Judo is hard to learn even for a fittest person. What will this disabled boy do.

He went to many masters in vain. Atlast one master agreed. The training started. He taught him a single attack for days together. Months went by. The teacher didn’t teach him anything else. He was disheartened.
Master how this one attack is enough. Pl. Teach me more.
Master replied, you become expert in this one attack, that is enough.
He can’t disobey his master. The training continued.

The championship tournament started.
First round. A fully trained opponent n this boy who has learnt just one attack. The boy won to everyone’s surprise.

Second, third, he won till the semi finals. He won that too.

The finals. The opponent has won many championships. He felt pity n rediculance on seeing his one handed opponent. First round started. The boy couldn’t stand the champion’s attack. He fell down. All took pity on him and wanted to stop the competition.
The master said, no, he will fight the second round.
The champion became overconfident. He removed his helmet and started to fight with a little laid back attitude . The boy attacked the only way he knew with full force. The champion fell down. The boy won the championship. None, even the boy couldn’t believe what happened.

Later, the boy bowed his master and asked him how he won knowing one single attack.
Master smiled and said, two reasons for your success. One , you have mastered one of judo’s most powerfull attack. Second, there is only one way to defend this attack for the opponent. He has to catch your left hand, which in your case he can’t.. Your weakness became your strength and made you a champion.
The boy stood in wonder and bowed in reverence.
If we all know how to turn our weakness as our strength and learn to face life with its challanges success is not far. Life has given every individual a uniqueness. Use it wisely.

A translation of a Tamil forward by my mother Anjana


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When the truth tumbles…

Life as a couple

Has its own challenges

Yet what matters is trust

In a loving relationship.

Trust that makes you feel safe

That makes you sense security

And value for being you.

To be heard, & loved as you are.

Often expectations from one partner

To toe the line and accept everything

Brings in uncomfortable silences

Or unwanted arguments and conflicts

Breaking a relationship gradually.

Perhaps it is about negligence

Or lack of consideration & care

Perhaps it’s about lack of empathy

Or even inequality that creates a gap

That widens in time and cracks

The strongest of partners.

Compromise or need

May keep them staying together

Just existing not living a life.

The show goes on…

Until it one day becomes unbearable.

And the inevitable truth tumbles.

These words above are deeply interlinked in the flow of thoughts that arose after I read a translation by my mother from a Tamil quote forwarded on Social media.

Interesting to note it is from a divorced husband after 10 years of realization.

‘Don’t show your pride before your wife.
She came to you just believing in you
Not your relatives.

My property
My earnings
My will
Then who is she?
What is the meaning of her life with you?

Can’t she have her dreams, her  desires, to be fulfilled with you?

On reading this message

Something more rankled my mind

The question of expectations

To be fulfilled by the partner.

It’s never about needs

Being fulfilled by the other

But with one another.

In todays world

It’s about finding time

To be present in the now

With one another.

How many agree?

Savvy


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Every beat of heart…


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Flow

There is commitment in attachment

There is contentment in letting go

For then…

There is connectedness to all

In freedom of the flow.

Savvy


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Wordpower

I pray…

Let the words that pour

Make a meaningful difference

Let the thoughts that flow

From these words empower

To create a change for the better

Savvy


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Zen of Oneness

In the unison
Of the mind& body
Is the integrity
Of the Spirit & Soul

Oneness eases itself
In alignment
In the divinity
Is the state of zen


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Channelizing anger

Anger is a burning coal

Destroying the one holding it

Choose to be less worked up

And let go of the little things.

Life makes things better

Anger is a powerful emotion

That is unpredictable by nature

Expression is the first step

To channelize anger issues

Secondly choosing to shift attention

To focus on something positive

Helps to channelize the anger within

This helps in converting anger

To constructive behavior.

Thirdly conscious deep breathing

Ensuring a sense of calm

Adapting to change is another way

By doing a bit of rethinking

To find a new sense of perspective

Helps to see the reasoning well.

Anger may stem from deep resentment, held unexpressed for a very long time. Often it may surface in memory associations quite unexpectedly. Or it may be come from bitterness or unfairness meted out.

When angry, it is difficult to breathe, forget think. As all the pent up frustrations get mixed up with emotions and feelings causing an outburst.

Management of anger is difficult as you do not know when you are going to get angry next.

But tapping into mindful awareness, of the signs of anger and dispassionately working towards steps that channelize the feeling of anger in practical ways to release the pent up frustrations begins to help manage anger gradually.

There are many therapies for anger management but it’s important to find one that is suitable to you.

When was the last time you got angry?

How did you express it?

Did you feel bad after the episode of anger?

Do you remember the emotions that you went through when you were angry?

More importantly did you do anything about your anger?

Who doesn’t get angry I wonder. As anger is necessary evil as it is meant to be a vent for any built up steam.

Management of anger starts with acknowledgement and awareness of the issue at hand.

Personally walking, dancing painting writing and solitude top my ways of channelizing anger. I find myself calmer and relaxed and in a happier state post a dance session or after writing or creating an artwork.

I also like to do work that requires organisation like folding clothes arranging things to get me back to equilibrium.

How do you channelize your anger?

Savvy


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On teamwork

The challenge in building a team is not just about ones performance, but about sustainability, about  how  best the team can work together.

Then not just about working together  but about how much trust care and respect they have for each other that stands the test of times.

Savvy

There comes a time

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A matter of speech

There is always a learning
From every conversation
For it is a dialogue
Not a monologue…

Once I was having a conversation
With a well read corporate lawyer
In the depth of discussion
I casually said,
‘Anyways it’s fine’
And quickly, although polietly he says,
” Mam don’t get me wrong,
It’s not, ‘Anyways but anyway’
I thanked him for sharing without hesitation but in confidence.

While in formal situations of writing or speaking this is the proper way, in casual use of language Anyways works alright as well.

After all its just a matter of speech.

The choice of when to use it so, is yours to know and take…

Anyway now, I stand corrected.

I share this so anyone who also says ‘anyways’ in slang can self correct, if they choose to… for there is always room for a little self improvement.

After all…
We are what we learn
We are what we imbibe
We are what we share.

To learn is to share and to share is to learn some more.

Savvy


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The Dance of the Self Arranging Universe

How intriguing are the intersections in interconnects…

In synergy of the energy
Of the harmony in the synchrony
Of life and the living
Of spaces between the steps
The spectre of the spheres
The realms of the cosmos
From one to another dimensions
And what is beyond the known
The illusions in the making.

Yet to understand more
Is to acknowledge the dance
Of patterns of possibilities
Shape shifting formations
Arranging and rearranging
In the infinite potential.

Watch this spectre of the spheres, the dance of the planets Jupiter and Mars around the sun…

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On life

Life is born
Thoughts arise
Creativity spurts
Dreams envisioned
Passions pursued
In hope of dawn.
Yet night falls
Beween the dawns
Some dreams shatter
In the darkness unknown
While some see
The light of day!
And Life is bettered
Such is the circle of life
Flowing in a rhythm
Of its own making!
Every Life chalks it’s path in time
Arrives its meaning for itself
The journey is unparalleled
And uniquely carved.
Such is the very nature of life
And at every moment
One can’t help
But wonder…
Such is the wonder of life!

Savvy


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Humanity

A few musings…

Where is humanity in this now?

What does it take for humanity to thrive?

How does it continue to thrive?

Touched by the grace of gratitude

Appeased in the love for life

Moving beyond the self in inclusivity

In thoughts, words and deeds.

Humanity continues to thrive…

In moments of humility, kindness & compassion

In help, care, support & empathy

And yet it takes us all

Each and every one of us

To consistently sustain our humanity.

Savvy


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On Silence

Silence is the language of the mind in introspection.
It is the language of self analyzation .
It gives one time for self improvement.
The pauses in between can change the course of the situation.
It has many meanings.
Silence is so powerful

When the mind becomes still
Learning to silence even this silent language
Then it fills the soul
With bliss n harmony.
It becomes
A celebration of Silence.


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On purpose

Like every thing in the Universe
Has a reason to be…
Your purpose is intelligent
It is embedded in the flow
Such that it’s meant to be
To flow through you
Till you realize you are the flow
And you are enough for you!

Savvy