The dynamics of mentor mentee relationship is one of trust and confidence.
Building trustful mentorship requires genuine love to help guide people for the better.
Besides the required skills and expertise, mentors having an inclusive, expansive and holistic approach while helping unique pathways for clients, adds to their repertoire to create trustful mentorship .
Clarity and integrity in communication & behaviour , excellent interpersonal skills and empathic attitude add value beyond the experience and expertise of the mentors.
It is important to acknowledge the influence a mentor can have on the mentees decisions be it at work or personal life.
Hence, a good understanding of ethics while handling conflicting opinions biases, & emotional triggers helps empower the mentee than exploit them.
After all, a mentor is someone who guides advice and supports along the way…
Thankful for the internet technology, as it is a blessing key to be able to connect with anyone in any space and time. Gratitude for the good global connections built with this online key.
She hadn’t been to school for four days because she was not feeling well.
When she went back to school, there were a lot of lessons taught.
To catch up on the lessons, she asked her best friend for her notes.
But her friend refused to give her the notes, saying she had to study them that evening.
Feeling dejected, she couldn’t get the notes copied.
Another girl came to her aid and gave her the notes, helping her out.
The girl was heartbroken that her best friend didn’t help her. She remembered all the times she had given chocolates and colored pencils to her friend.
Reflecting on this, she felt extremely sad and cried, becoming obsessed with the thought.
“Obsessed” means thinking about something repeatedly. She couldn’t stop thinking about her friend not giving her the notes.
She couldn’t eat lunch properly, came home, and sat quietly.
She couldn’t talk properly, watch TV, or laugh. She couldn’t sleep that night, thinking about it all the time. The next day was a school holiday, but she couldn’t enjoy it.
That day, her family went to a park. Her father put her on a swing and started pushing her. The swing went higher and higher, making her happy. She screamed joyfully, asking her dad not to push too hard. Her dad kept pushing, and after half an hour on the swing, she got down and played more games.
She forgot her anger and sadness towards her friend, feeling at peace.
That night, while sleeping, she reflected on the following points:
Point 1: It was wrong of her friend not to give her the notes. Why should she lose her happiness, appetite, and laughter over it?
Point 2: Maybe her friend genuinely needed to study and couldn’t give her the notes.
Point 3: Being angry at her friend made her distance herself from her loving parents.
Point 4: Constantly thinking about anger and irritation towards someone is torturous. It prevents us from doing anything else.
Point 5: Why didn’t she try to forget her anger for even five minutes? She felt excited while on the swing and forgot her anger. Why didn’t she think about getting out of the problem?
Reflecting on these points, she reached a conclusion.
Thinking negatively about anyone all the time will prevent you from being at peace. It drains our energy and makes us unable to enjoy life. Therefore, she decided to stay friendly and cheerful.
She woke up energetically, greeted her parents, took a bath and wore her uniform, ate her breakfast, packed her bag, and as she stepped out, sunlight shone on her face.
Her face looked brighter and more beautiful in the sunlight.
When our thoughts are good, our actions will be good. When our actions are good, our life will be good.
Building people up is a skill worth valuing and investing in. For great teams are not formed simply by hiring for roles. A whole lot of nurture and consistent care goes into team building. A strongly motivated & purpose driven team is empowering for any organisation no matter the odds.
Besides all the values and skill training imparted to a team there is one very important team builder that makes all the difference. The power of positive words, used and conveyed by the leaders, the appreciation, that is authentic, genuine hopeful and trustful. This is a game changer that drives home the message that we are together, no matter what.
One kind word changes the trajectory of the day.
Here are a few positive ways to communicate with your team.
Words that share genuine care and support :
How are you doing?
What are your challenges now?
How can I support your growth?
Words that create confidence and empowers:
I believe in you.
I trust your judgment.
Tell me more about what you think we should do?
Words that share appreciation for the effort and encouragement :
This calls for a celebration
Thank you
If you haven’t already do try incorporating these words in your conversations with your team from today and watch the power of these words unfold.
In seeing the sunny side of things than as partly cloudy
The way of seeing is a choice in our hands
Natural involuntary effects
An increase in dopomine
Sense of satisfaction
A boost in sertonin
Feeling of positivity
A practice of seeing all things with a positive attitude makes life more meaningful
Gratitude makes us recognize and value things we already have even more. That is how it brings a sense of abundance.
Seeing the positive side, focusing on the good in life journaling regularly and being thankful
Every day a practice of gratitude could include a variety of things that may feel right to you.
And of course you will have unexpected serendipitous moments that you can’t help feeling grateful for…
Today morning as I stepped to my terrace garden I saw a beautiful squirrel enjoying the food bowl and water bowl I have placed on the ledge there for birds. I watched with joy and happiness as this little guy munched and munched.
Feeling grateful for a great start my day… Feeling thankful the squirrel is feeding. Hope he is able to feed here every day.
Gratefulnness is a beautiful attitude with lasting effects through the day. Cultivate the attitude of Gratitude.
Take some time every day to improve your life with these self care tips…
1: Breathe fresh air and walk every day thinking good thoughts. Every time you become aware of negative self destructive talk, take a good breath to regulate your emotions.
2: Hydrate with plain water, it helps the body and mind stay healthy and balanced. To think well, the right amount of water is a necessity.
3 : Nourish yourself with wholesome food. Choose to eat more plant based food .
4: Create Art, draw, doodle, paint or sculpt or do craft work. Sing a song, hum for a while if you don’t sing, take a step and dance your heart out. Even if it is for a short while, it destresses you.
5: Write write and write some more. Journal your thoughts regularly. It takes the pressure of your mind.Write your everyday thoughts in a journal or post an article or maintain a blog about things you love…
Starting with these five tips can make way for a lighter you.
Your emotions are your friends. Sometimes you find them at war with each other. They need your understanding. They are your supportive vents of expression to take the pressure off and make you sense the pleasure of life.
Create a beautiful life by improving your emotional health. And develop your emotional intelligence. It helps you identify where your strengths are and where you need to work on.
Emotional intelligence gives you a headstart in managing not just your emotions but also an ability to understand and to even influence anothers emotions.
In leadership roles this gives you an edge in managing people and teams
So how can you begin to improve your Emotional Intelligence?
Start by cultivating empathy for life. See things from anothers perspective. It will increase your understanding and help build strong relationships.
Work on your communication skills by practice of listening actively and respectfully. It can positively impact the way you are perceived.
Practice self awareness to become more mindful of how you feel and how your own emotions affect your thoughts and actions.
Acknowledge stress and balance it well by being active by regularly walking or picking a sport, or even dancing.
Think positively about life by inculcating a positive attitude.
At the same time allow your self to seek feedback to understand where you are doing fine and how to improve further.
Emotions are part of being human. Working on your emotional health and developing your emotional intelligence can be a game changing skill in life.
A few practical coaching tools for Self confidence.
Transform self belief. Help the client identify what’s holding them back and to constructively transform the inner dialogue with positive words and affirmations.
Cultivate compassion Nurturing the self in kindness and cultivating compassion fosters resilience and self worth.
Journaling,meditation,walking in reflection and exercising for better health is a way of acknowledging ones life.
Helping the client to improve from where they are without comparing with anothers journey is helpful in recognising their own accomplishments.
Building a circle of positive people who are supportive and encouraging because they believe in them , increases their self confidence.
An old man meets a young man who asks: “Do you remember me?” And the old man says no. Then the young man tells him he was his student, And the teacher asks: “What do you do, what do you do in life?” The young man answers: “Well, I became a teacher.” “ah, how good, like me?” Asks the old man. “Well, yes. In fact, I became a teacher because you inspired me to be like you.” The old man, curious, asks the young man at what time he decided to become a teacher. And the young man tells him the following story: “One day, a friend of mine, also a student, came in with a nice new watch, and I decided I wanted it. I stole it, I took it out of his pocket. Shortly after, my friend noticed the his watch was missing and immediately complained to our teacher, who was you. Then you addressed the class saying, ‘This student’s watch was stolen during classes today. Whoever stole it, please return it.’ I didn’t give it back because I didn’t want to. You closed the door and told us all to stand up and form a circle. You were going to search our pockets one by one until the watch was found. However, you told us to close our eyes, because you would only look for his watch if we all had our eyes closed. We did as instructed. You went from pocket to pocket, and when you went through my pocket, you found the watch and took it. You kept searching everyone’s pockets, and when you were done you said ‘open your eyes. We have the watch.’ You didn’t tell on me and you never mentioned the episode. You never said who stole the watch either. That day you saved my dignity forever. It was the most shameful day of my life. But this is also the day I decided not to become a thief, a bad person, etc. You never said anything, nor did you even scold me or take me aside to give me a moral lesson. I received your message clearly. Thanks to you, I understood what a real educator needs to do. Do you remember this episode, professor? The old professor answered, ‘Yes, I remember the situation with the stolen watch, which I was looking for in everyone’s pocket. I didn’t remember you, because I also closed my eyes while looking.’ This is the essence of teaching: If to correct you must humiliate; you don’t know how to teach “
It’s balmy weather It’s early morning The sun is moving In and out of the trees Traveling with me As I am walking… The chirping birds Awakening the world With hope fulness The wind is resting Perhaps still to awaken The clouds are clearing Heralding the light In the mighty tree A few yards from me I see a beautiful vision… Cont’d
Savvy Raj 
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