Here is a little self reflection tool in understanding the self.
Think of yourself as a child, what age do you imagine yourself to be in?
Write down words that come to you when you think of your childhood?
Write down people or places that connect with the words you wrote
You will find yourself connecting the dots…
All of the expressed, repressed and suppressed emotions has much to do with who you become as an adult.
Much of what you felt, are feeling as an adult goes back to what you enjoyed or endured as a child..
Nature works with nurture to create your being.
Each of us have evolved from our experiences. Self reflection is a valuable tool to bring to awareness that however easy or difficult the childhood was, understanding that childhood is your past but the present is with you for you to carve. to make your future.
Today I am sharing a thought Provoker. This came as a social media forward. But it was thought worthy and I do have a few questions as well.
Speaking of relationships, have you felt drained out beyond compare?
Instead of feeling energetic after an interaction or a conversation, have you felt like when will it end?
When was the last time you felt a little too empty?
Do you stop giving, if you feel it is an unequal relationship and you feel pulled from all directions or due to habit or situation you continue to give as you do?
If you are a giver by nature, can you actually stop yourself at all?
It’s truly important to acknowledge your emotions and feelings. It helps to know your energy shifts.
A Stringed Existence
There is a lot of inextricable strings of emotions linked to relationships but if you are constantly feeling drained out and exhausted when with certain people, perhaps you need to check if you have over invested yourself. Be it in career as a workaholic or in family where your sense of self is feeling lost.
You have one life & it is your life…
Pause and take a breather and set yourself back on course.
While there are many kinds of people you meet. And it is really OK to be extra helpful, and give the best you can. In fact it energizes abundance to manifest in life… For when you give from a spring well of kindness, nature sets in motion, a share of kindness back to you in its own time.
Yet like many are energy givers, there are many energy takers. Often unknown to themselves they behave in a way that saps anothers energy when they are around you.
Do remember who ever you are with… Giving more or less will not have value. For less is not fulfilling and more is just excess and will never be utilised. But will certainly tilt your balance for sure.
In your actions too, exercise this wisdom and you will find yourself in a good space.
And most of all…
Choose your tribe well. It makes all the difference.
A writers soul emerges through the words written . A painters soul emanates from between the colours in the canvas The potters soul is afire in the fingers shaping the clay. The singers soul breathes in the sounds created by the voice. The dancers soul flows through in every movement in the moments.
The Soul is a restless wanderer It breathes free not in captivity, But in every movement of creation. It cannot be fathomed or even sensed Other than in the light of passion in the being. For then the soul shines in its own light For it has found its purpose of being.
How can any company worth its salt, create a culture of trust & transperency?
In finding the sweet spot Between Talent & HR Organization & Leadership.
It is important to note that in any top official company meetings, discussions on Finance, Strategy, HR must happen in cohort…
For they interconnect deeply as there is no one function, without the other’s inputs. Likewise impacts too needs to be every one’s responsibility. Profits or losses need shared accountability and responsibility across the organisations. An effective and efficient solution to problems to scaling any startup is not only about defining departmental charts & hierarchies and setting up processes early, but managing internal communication barriers.
Not an easy task at all for even with the best of leadership or protocols there is always a room for improvement due to human slack at work or professional differences.
Human potential cannot be contained in water tight compartments. In today’s world with accurate data analysis being the reliable source of truth, more than ever communication must flow seamlessly between departments and between leaders.
Strategy can go for a toss, if information is withheld between departments. And often the actions taken, find no solution because there never was clarity in the first place.
Questions comes to HR for hiring the right person with the right attitude and skills for the job. And then ensuring employees are supported consistently with necessary information. Any lack of productivity, be flagged early on, prevent slacking and waste of investor’s money.
Today nothing that happens in offices behind closed doors remains in closed doors. Like a forest fire it grows leaps and bounds adding different versions of the truths as fuel to the fire.
Meetings of top leaderships with management need to be honest and transparent early on. And likewise the leaders need for transperent connects with their teams is equally important. This mitigates errors of judgement from the start up stage. Every policy or process change needs to be documented and its impacts on strategy needs to be well thought of and discussed.
Companies that take a transparent collaborative approach at decision making stand a greater chance at success. Simply because every decision is an informed one… So the margin of error is reduced significantly.
A lot of startups present a contorted version of the growth early on, showing spikes necessary for funding… The game somewhere is to create a truth from the illusions for prospective investors and venture capitalists later on.
However they are so caught in the chase that without proper resources, as the company grows the integration of data of the various departments and it’s data synthesis becomes challenging in time.
When funding is raised, question is about hiring upwards, expanding or creating systems for data analysis for sustainable growth.
Systems create the necessary transperncy whereas strategic growth is about building trust in and outside the company. And HR & Finance play a responsibility and accountability, a significant role towards a culture of trust & transperncy.
Much of my article here is based on my observations as a Management Consultant over the years. Although every company is not the same, much of the situations faced by growing companies are similar…
What do you think?
How important is trust for creating transparency?
And how important is transparency in communication important to build trust?
More importantly what are the other ways of building trust and transparency?
Sometimes life makes you teach yourself many things…
Giving the benefit of doubt
There are many crossroads in life be it in a career with any organisation or in partnerships, or even personally between people or teams, where point of views are different and clash of perspectives on decisions are bound to occur.
Can you agree to disagree?
For most, it is challenging as its not always easy to come to terms with what affects you or makes you emotional. Yet learning ways to give the benefit of doubt, calls for development of strategic skills.
It is important to process any conflict of interest, you may have with others , first with your own self.
Check if you can find the root of your disagreement with a particular decision.
What is it that you are not aligned with?
Why are you feeling this way?
Empathic Perspectives
Then begin to imagine if you are able to bring empathy by setting aside your feelings on what you are yet unable to accept and think from the other persons perspective, does the view alter then? Does it change your thoughts a bit?
If you can alternatively, also think if you choose to agree, in the larger interest, does it benefit or can it make your team bond together.
Let’s also not discount the possibility of you having less information about the reasons for any decision taken.
Ultimately, whatever way you chose to think or act is your choice to take. But sometimes when it may seem impossible to make sense of things do remember, there is always more than what meets the eye!
My friend Destiny highlighted a comment of mine on her comment on my yesterdays post Sensing
It felt as if we exchanged a moment of poignant connection that jumped time. For in that one moment words touched heartsfields. where feelings are relatable. In empathy or synchrony…
It is certainly not something new, for it is something we all undergo as writers and readers. A connection, through mere words but that which feels you know… the spirit, and soul of the hand that pens the verses or the heart that emotes in the reading.
Where there are no rules that bound Where the music leads and you follow Where there is no end and no beginning All is in the flow as you sense you are the flow.
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