A glimpse of the intangible
Is often visible through signs
Like the strength of the soul
Appears in true forgiveness
In letting go of fear of failure
In ability to start all over again
In letting go of negativity
In ability to center the self
In letting go of revenge mentality
In the ability to share kindness
In sensing the lightness of being
In awareness of the bigger picture.
The strength of the soul shines through.
Savvy
Our conditioning has a role to play in the way we see people and things around us. To trust is to dare into the unknown.
Just read this interesting article …
19 professionals walk through unknown villages for 3 days — without a single rupee | Pune News – The Indian Express
Amazing to read about these Braveheart who dared to experience first hand self-belief beyond fear…and who came back enriched with experiences.
Touching to read about the kindhearted people who came their way like saviours.
Pretty sure they may all have had some life altering experiences in one way or another.
Against all odds
Breaking the rut of routine
In forging new pathways
Beyond fear for survival
All preconceived notions fall
In the dare into the unknown.
Savvy Raj
On Coaches & Coaching
At times just when a coach knows it’s progress the client wants to give up.
They may feel the changes are not enough or there may be other personal factors that may be inhibiting their success. It is important to acknowledge their emotions at the moment and celebrate small wins precisely showing how far they have come. As a coach being empathic & encouraging while being flexible and adaptable as you adjust strategies for the way forward aids and facilitates progress.
Often clients face doubt and overwhelm at some point or the other. It is important then to remind them of their why and guide them to stay on course.
Your thoughts are welcome.
©Savvy Raj
I wrote this poem back in time after an unexpected opportunity to travel set me off across exploring unforgettable places and spaces on my own.
Yesterday as I was conversing with one of my earlier dance student and friend now, he somehow reminded me of this poem again , as he has been traveling the length and breadth of India on a bike, covering over 80% of India.
While I wait to see his photo shares and hear more from him about his experience in the journey.
Thought of sharing my verses again.
Travel On
If you are given an opportunity to take a journey
Take it, for you meet many versions of you.
Along the road.
Some you cherish, some cherish you.
Some that change you and some that you change.
Fear not the travel or the traveling…
For one thing is certain
You come away enriched and wiser in every journey.
Travel to liberate yourself
From self assumed notions
To see the light on the other side
There is much to unlearn and unbox
As you travel yield in to the insights
Travel every once in a while if opportunity arises,
Take the chance,
You are richer in your explorations much as your experiences.
Travel on …
©Savvy Raj
Trustful Mentorship
The dynamics of mentor mentee relationship is one of trust and confidence.
Building trustful mentorship requires genuine love to help guide people for the better.
Besides the required skills and expertise, mentors having an inclusive, expansive and holistic approach while helping unique pathways for clients, adds to their repertoire to create trustful mentorship .
Clarity and integrity in communication & behaviour , excellent interpersonal skills and empathic attitude add value beyond the experience and expertise of the mentors.
It is important to acknowledge the influence a mentor can have on the mentees decisions be it at work or personal life.
Hence, a good understanding of ethics while handling conflicting opinions biases, & emotional triggers helps empower the mentee than exploit them.
After all, a mentor is someone who guides advice and supports along the way…
©Savvy Raj
(A bit more from my writings On Mentoring)
Trust & Idea sharing
Building trust creates a rapport for greater communication.
Besides listening actively, addressing any issues and finding resolutions together immediately builds trust in a team. Being authentically approachable adds to the trust. Creating a transparent process and protocols for idea sharing helps. Showing appreciation for the ideas generated brings forth confidence to share more. Most importantly, giving credit where it is due by acknowledgements fosters trustful teams. Creating a responsive, cohesive and collaborative team requires transperncy in purpose.
©Savvy Raj
When you are in a position of influence especially as a coach, a trainer you are responsible to aid the development and building up of life. From the life coaching perspective there are many humane standards that help reach the set goals.
As a coach, respect and inclusion are significant for the success of your coaching. It is important to show ‘Respect’ not only for individual or team you are coaching by being unbiased and empathic of their abilities, but also for your time and effort as well as respect for the reason and need for coaching .
As for inclusiveness, without it you cannot build rapport as a coach. Inclusion is also about being attentive and open minded of diverse perspectives and opinions.
Over the decades, coaching individuals and groups as a Dance Educator & Trainer,and a Life Coach, I have had varied experiences of how being inclusive, empathic, open minded to listen and understand, sharing mutual respect has made a positive impact on the coaching process.
Both respect and inclusion can make a meaningful and lasting difference in the lives of those you coach.
What do you think? Do share.
©Savvy Raj
No one but you
Knows your true self
Empower your self
Create your life
Being yourself.
Be kinder, be connected
With yourself.
Allow to express your self.
Your truths in your voice
Makes you feel heard
Your voice with your words
Makes you understand
You are more than enough
To sense the light in you
Find out for yourself
With all of you
Who you truly are.
©Savvy Raj
Life teaches lessons in living
Not all are blessed with knowledge
Of where they are erring…
Most find out much later.
Perhaps that is the difference
Between a life lived
And a life lived well.
©Savvy Raj
Read this poignant life story share.
A GEM BY SAEED JAFFREY
DISCLAIMER: CERTAIN FACTS HERE MAY BE INACCURATE BUT THE ESSENCE OF THE PIECE IS STILL VERY MEANINGFUL ABOUT VALUING PARTNERS.
Saeed Jeffrey divorced Madhur Jaffrey for his second wife Jennifer. But this veteran actor has won the hearts with his heart-wrenching regret.
This came out, a few years after he left this world.
30-Jul-2019
From the diary of Sayed Jaffrey, the famous bollywood character actor:
I was 19 when I was married to Mehrunima who was 17. As I grew up, I was very fascinated by the british culture in colonial India. I learnt to speak English fluently, wear suits with grace, and developed impeccable etiquettes. But Mehrunima grew up to be my complete opposite – homely, a typical housewife. All my advices and admonishments couldn’t change her basic personality – an obedient wife, a doting mother and a good homemaker.
But she was not what I wanted. More I tried to change her, more we drifted apart. Gradually she metamorphosed from a cheerful affectionate young girl into a quiet insecure woman. Meanwhile I started getting attracted to a co-actor of mine who was all what I wanted in my wife.
After 10 years of marriage, l divorced Mehrunima, left my home and married my co- actor. I had ensured financial security of Mehrunima and my kids . For about 6-7 months everything went well. Then I started realising, my new wife was not caring and affectionate. She was only concerned about her beauty, her ambitions, her wants and desires. Sometimes I missed Mehrunima’s caring touch and concern for my welfare.
Life moved on . I and my new wife were 2 persons living in a house, not one soul living in a home. I never went back to find out what happened to Mehrunima and my kids.
After about 6 -7 years of my second marriage, I came across an article on a Madhur Jaffrey, an upcoming famous chef who had recently launched a book of her own recipes. The moment I looked at the picture of the smart elegant lady, I was stunned. It was Mehrunima. But how could it be ??? She had remarried and changed her maiden name too.
I was shooting abroad at that time. She lived in US now. I caught the next flight to US. I inquired about her where abouts and went to meet her. She refused to see me. My daughter who was 14, and son who was 12, told her they wanted to talk to me one last time. Her new husband was by her side. He was also my children’s legal father now.
To this date, I cannot forget what my children told me.
They told me that their new father knows the meaning of true love. He Broke Da Cage of Negativity. He accepted Mehrunima as she was and never tried to change her into what he himself was, because he loves her more than he loves himself. He let her evolve at her own pace and never tried to force his wishes on her. He accepted and enjoyed her person as it was. And she has bloomed into a confident loving affectionate self reliant lady today under her second husband’s selfless love and acceptance.
Where as I was full of selfishness, demands and unacceptance of her persona had crushed her and then in my selfishness had discarded her. Creating a Cage of Negativity.
The Greatest learning of my life-
You don’t change people you love, you love them as they are….
An action that builds confidence is better than inaction which arises from fear.
At times the action is a success, at times may be the action needs a new direction to be successful but action is better than no action.
Savvy
Tips to manage arising workplace conflicts.
Listen keen
Show interest
Show care
Have patience
For a new perspective
As another speaks.
Find space & time
To empathize
Understanding more
Beyond what is said
Therein lies answers
That helps resolve conflicts.
©Savvy Raj
Every life in this world
Is born with courage to thrive
And the courage to survive
It is a matter of recognising
And awakening to your courage
Courage has many facets
In you exists so many kinds of courage…
And each of us have different degrees of it.
There is courage is a dare that speaks to your truth
A dare that makes you confront
With the truth of you.
When was the last time you sensed courage?
Or lack of it in a certain situation? .
Courage that dares through physical challenges.
Enduring discomfort hurt
Or pain and even possible danger.
Then comes the emotional courage
To be able to confront
Your deepest fears and doubts
Having the ability to seek help
Express your inner feelings
Takes a great deal of courage too.
Not everyone can share their truths easily.
Have you ever been tongue tied and socially awkward?
Perhaps you need to work on being socially courageous.
Speaking with self confidence means assertive communication.
Connecting with people from all walks of life with ease.
Work on your voice and poise which helps in speaking publicly.
Have you sensed the need to learn more?
To educate yourself every now and then?
It is about being courageous to develop your intellectual strengths.
An ability to say’ I don’t know’ or admit’ I was wrong. ‘
Breaking the ego build up and allowing space to understand more
This also require the development of humility in great measures.
Somewhere deeply inter linked with morality and conscience.
In the ability to admit to mistakes to stand up for values and fight for rights
Upholding the principles with conviction & braving opposition.
Not many people find it easy to fight the odds. They give in.
To understand beyond the self calls for another type of courage
The empathically courageous will go beyond biases to get into the others persons perspective.
Empathy is a courage to sense the trials and tribulations of others.
Along with this is another kind of profound courage
An exploration of your own Spiritual truths.
This calls for conscious connections, remembering to honour your life, in and around you in every form.
Courage is an inner reserve
That actions from all of you
Your nature and nurture
Is unique so is your courage
And the way you are…
Explore what facets of courage has naturally become your strength in time.
And what facets do you need to build and develop in yourself.
Now when you think back of the many situations that you exemplified your courageous self.
Every thing you need is already within you
Waiting for you to trust yourself enough to recognize it.
Remember your courage is one of your many gifts of strength.
Acknowledge and use it wisely.
©Savvy Raj
Spirit of a woman
Unbreakable
Unshakable
Undeniable
Strength of a woman
Unstoppable
Unbelievable
Unflappable
Soul of a woman
Undefinable
Undauntable
Unboundable
Savvy Raj
©Savvy Raj
Borders marked on maps
In time get etched onto our minds
But our heart knows not borders
Hope the heart leads
For then, the way appears
To bond without being bound
To fly free like a bird.
Unbound…
©Savvy Raj
Sometimes comments to your posts can be a fodder for thoughts in synthesis…
I thank my good friend Fredrick from Katiemiafrederick.wordpress.com for the inspiring comment 🕊️🙏🕊️ on my yesterdays blog In flights of fancy /
A part of this poem began as a reply comment that turned into a post.
As a Life Coach one has the opportunity to positively impact and influence another life and its ripples can be felt miles around. It is huge responsibility.
Thriving as a Life Coach
Every life is unique and a life coach needs to keep ideating and integrating approaches and interventions that make way to transformative changes. It can challenge the very best.
To thrive as a life coach and be effective it is necessary…
Approachability : To be approachable and open to feedback, which helps to foster trust and respect within the clients
Patience : To empathize with others and understand their perspectives before offering solutions
Resilience : To adapt & to bounce back, no matter the challenges.To be able to bend and not break under pressure.
This calls for a great amount of emotional intelligence, consistency, creative thinking & resilience. A resilience that comes from experience and one that is honed in flexibility & adaptability.
What matters most is how a life coach can instill confidence and trust in another to make a meaningful difference.
©Savvy Raj
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