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On Nurturing :4
After writing a series of posts on the topic of Nurturing I found a lot of ideas floating out on Parenting and thus I am drawn to deciphder and draw the parellels in the the two…
I tossed the topic out to my mother who is currently visiting my brother and his family Besides the members of the family , it is home to two cats and a dog as pets. Life is certainly different there for her than with me here . My brother, a passionate animal lover is also an actively involved with Blue Cross of India. Rescue operations happen just about anytime and often at the middle of the night. And some hurt and disabled animals and birds eventually have known to have landed up at home as pets.
Nurturing comes naturally to him especially so for those hapless animals and birds . I have personally seen the amount of care and concern he and the volunteers at Blue Cross give without any expectation in return . Just a week back there was an adoption drive for more than a 100 puppies and by the end of the day all the puppies found a home .The contentment in those volunteers hearts must have been uncontained for sure.
In lieu with our topic nurturing I took the liberty of envisioning and including the perspectives of nurturing a pet as much as parenting a child by my sharing of the backstory of my brothers home which is always more like a zoo or a sanctuary to me. Just kidding bro😊
I am going to share my mothers perspective from such a backdrop… on Parenting and Nurturing .
Parenting and Nurturing.
Parenting and nurturing go hand in hand. Parenting needs more sternness while nurturing needs compassion and kindness.
Parent is a nature given blessed title and parenting is bliss and pain with growing responsibilities.
Whereas nurturing is the quality any one can develop on any living being. A plant well nurtured grows well. With kindness , compassion and love flowing from the heart one can nurture a plant to blossom into fruits, an animal in a healthy surrounding, helpless children and seniors to thrive in a dignified way .
Parenting is our duty towards our children . Nurturing them comes naturally. Parenting involves providing, caring, shaping their future with lot of disciplining. Parenting has a natural tendency to forgive their follies and wrong doings , will find an excuse for their wrong behavior and justify them.
Parenting cannot be done without nurturing whereas nurturing doesn’t need to be parenting. The reciprocation of parenting can be seen in the nurturing of parents by the children in their old age.
By nurturing one can increase other’s self worth, self value and increase their confidence level. It can bring joy to a miserable person . Nurturing is a divine quality any one can develop. It is the extension n expansion of parenting beyond self. It can best be selfless
Nurturing can be done in many levels. Physical nurturing is one thing, emotional n psychological nurturing also help a long way in sculpting better human beings.
Sometimes mere words of encouragement n appreciation of their deeds become vocal nurturing to perform better. Weaning away the weeds is also a part of good nurturing.
Nurturing can be time and place limited without possessiveness. Let going becomes easier whereas the feeling of parenting crosses these lines as the bond is life long till death do them part.
The name and nature may vary. But without parenting and nurturing qualities the world will not survive. They help the future generation to grow into better persons. The legacy will continue by all sometime, somewhere. They are the two sides of the same divine coin. Good parenting makes better human beings, good nurturing creates a better society and a better world.
Both will make the world smile.
What you nurture is important especially in your own nature.
Just remember in nurturing, what you choose to nurture, develops…
Choose wisely!
Savvy
On Nurturing : 3
Gamut of Nurturing : Mind body Integration
Nurturing is an integrated spectrum of experience and it is highly recommended in todays times of survival of the fittest to embalm the body spirit and soul.
What can be nurtured … well almost everything…
From a thought to an idea to a habit to a passion and more . When nurtured , in hope and goodwill there can be transformations in the transitioning of time .
Nurturing is a very vast ocean of unconditional love and support which can perhaps make the nurturer extremely compassionate and even exacting for the good of the nurtured . But perhaps the concept of nurturing needs to change as well with the changing sensibilities of time.
In such scenario as it presents itself nurturing needs a relook like a time stamp and check on where it is heading often keeping the iterations going to evolve further.
There is a dignity in nurturing
With understanding that arises
In patience tolerance and perseverance
Beyond an attitude of indifference
Nurture in trusting
Heart over mind
Or mind over heart
Is not the question at all …
Nurture in spirit and soul
With all of your being
In every communication
Or crisis confrontation
Nurture in conscious awareness
Accepting the interconnects
Acknowledging the interdependence
Arising to evolve in life and living.
Nurture knowing truth is eternal
In Spirit, knowing it is for you to kindle
In Empathy knowing you are because they are
In compassion sensing the suffering and pain.
Nurturing is not an on off act
It is a never ending journey
It is a lesson in unconditional love
It is a life time of learning in the caring.
To nurture is to arise to any occasion
In hope and goodwill
In strength of positivity
In light beyond passions.
Nurturing is an art of living
In bringing to light the hidden good
In surfacing with dignity and grace
In knowing the infinite truth of being.
Nurturing is in the unfolding resurrection
In transpiring to regeneration
As in such an reviving emergence
Life begets the vital resurgence.
To nurture is allow hope to permeate in all
To nurture is choose to better from before
To nurture is to raise the bar of accomodation
To nurture is to instill faith and bond in trust
To nurture is an emergence of a boundless bond.
A nurturing heart supports and nourishes
A nurturing nature provides care and comfort
A nurturer cultivates and lays the foundation for roots to grow strong and spread .
A nurturing soul is the key to a better future.
Savvy Raj
Contd
Follow your passion…find your purpose… fulfill your presence.
The highest motivation that can change the way we behave for the better is always intrinsic than external factors. There have been many research studies conducted to find out if we are influenced to perform better consistently through a system of rewards and punishments. Humans, are found to decrease performance in tasks where there is only materialistic gain as a reward,but fare consistently better where there is autonomy & encouragement towards a purpose. A purpose which aligns with their innate sensibilities.
This throws the conventional and traditional approach to getting work done, up for a toss. As it is exactly opposite to the viewpoint that humans can be manipulated to a large extent to achieve better results by the so-called carrot and stick methods .
In choosing to work harder at a task or a job with passion instead of needing to comply to it lets the being feels free enough to go beyond the box . As there is free will within a wider net of required structure the creative potentialities are given a free play and thus the individual moves closer to his authentic self . The joy of self-expression results in a need to share it with others out of sheer happiness .
Highest levels of happiness are in giving a larger meaning to life whether it is in involving oneself in activities helping another, in learning and growing with another , it could be in learning a new art form ,or even simply in dancing socially with a group of people , are all wonderful for your well-being& a healthy life. Even in the simple act of volunteering towards a good deed from the heart, can make one realize the true joys of sharing….and find meaning in one’s own lives .
What is that makes us love ourselves better when we give? Is it the satisfaction in the appreciation of that which we willingly share or is it on the innate need for doing a deed with a larger good in mind. or is it in the happiness of the other that results through the actions. Whatever it may be, just remember we are truly blessed and are our most authentic self in every expansive action that we choose to do!
Life and Living
The Circle of life
Plays on its game of being
Yin and yang hides and seeks
In perfect harmony
In perfect synchrony
In perfect balance.
Flowing with life and living
Yet as every being is endowed
A nature all its own
In a bid to discover the self
Man explores spaces and beyond
At times creates sometimes destroys
The very meaning of life itself
Yet manages to mark his time
Leaving soulprints in the sands of time.
Crossing many lunar and solar cycles
Having felt the extremes of nature
Of people and places.
Comes a call from within,to choose balance
And acknowledge the need to arrive
At an equilibrium of sorts
In life and living.
Having taken the world for granted
Both internal and external
Then wisened by experiences
With self and beyond
Man desire for balance is awakened
And resurrected in the passage
Of the night and day
Of life and living.
To live and learn
To sense and share
To dream and dare
To act and respond
To transform and transcend
Such is the nature of life and living …
Savvy
Boundless bond
Every once in a while you come across a share of some very beautiful thoughts that makes you gratefully pause and reflect on the wisdom in those words that have come by.
The following quote is sent by a very caring, thoughtful friend and supportive reader of my blogs and writings for the past few years and it sets me thinking…
“When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity – in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.”
~ Anne Morrow Lindbergh
A beautiful share that says so much in these words…
On life and relationships
On love and living
On fear and frenzy
On needs and wants
On obsessions and compulsions
On freedom & fluidity of movement
All a pattern in this dance of life.
We are often the very reason for pain for another by the way we behave and yet are so impatient and intolerant in our need for love and approval.
We desire forgiveness by others quickly for what we have done or said knowingly or unknowingly as we aren’t patient.
We want to untangle the knots in our stomach little wondering if the noose on anothers neck, through our words, has tightened the very breath of the being.
We want to be free but we want to cage the very expression of freedom of another in the name of love which are nothing but power games we play.
We think we own another and have the rigbt to demand of another, citing relationships in bonds of blood and brotherhood or an economic and financial control in dependence.
But how can we demand of another when we cannot be assured of our own next breath?
We can learn to be more allowing to accept.
We can learn to be caring not controlling.
We can learn to love than be lackadaisical of another’s needs.
We can learn to learn to be trustful.
We can learn to believe in evolving together.
We can learn to sense the wisdom in the challenges.
We can learn to trade our fears for faith.
We can learn to stop bullying another into submission.
We can learn to live and let live.
No one owns us and we certainly do not own another.
Savvy
# love #life #freedom #expression #boundlessbeing
Love shows the way!
The path of knowledge is never complete. There is always something more to learn and know more.
The path of action is often difficult to sustain as none can always be in continuous movement. There will be doubts and confusion in the trial and tribulations.
Move from love, acknowledge it in your being, let it be your guiding light in your actions!
The path of love shows the way of being, it flows naturally through us if we can accept ourselves as we truly are.
Make the path of love your way, make it show the way as it reflects its light of being and in that light… all is selfless and all pervading and complete.
Savvy
Dancing: Enriching life and living.
The trick is in the integration of such artistic pursuits into our everyday lives ,as most of us carry on with our life with little or no time to spare for a little self enrichment.
Happy New Year!
Savvy Raj 
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