Today I am sharing a thought Provoker. This came as a social media forward. But it was thought worthy and I do have a few questions as well.
Speaking of relationships, have you felt drained out beyond compare?
Instead of feeling energetic after an interaction or a conversation, have you felt like when will it end?
When was the last time you felt a little too empty?
Do you stop giving, if you feel it is an unequal relationship and you feel pulled from all directions or due to habit or situation you continue to give as you do?
If you are a giver by nature, can you actually stop yourself at all?
It’s truly important to acknowledge your emotions and feelings. It helps to know your energy shifts.
A Stringed Existence
There is a lot of inextricable strings of emotions linked to relationships but if you are constantly feeling drained out and exhausted when with certain people, perhaps you need to check if you have over invested yourself. Be it in career as a workaholic or in family where your sense of self is feeling lost.
You have one life & it is your life…
Pause and take a breather and set yourself back on course.
While there are many kinds of people you meet. And it is really OK to be extra helpful, and give the best you can. In fact it energizes abundance to manifest in life… For when you give from a spring well of kindness, nature sets in motion, a share of kindness back to you in its own time.
Yet like many are energy givers, there are many energy takers. Often unknown to themselves they behave in a way that saps anothers energy when they are around you.
Do remember who ever you are with… Giving more or less will not have value. For less is not fulfilling and more is just excess and will never be utilised. But will certainly tilt your balance for sure.
In your actions too, exercise this wisdom and you will find yourself in a good space.
And most of all…
Choose your tribe well. It makes all the difference.
When we mix little curd, the whole milk become curd which increases its value . We take butter by churning ,which is costlier than milk n curd. When we heat the butter it becomes Ghee (Clarified Butter) which is expensive than milk & curd.
The ordinary milk when curdled, churned n heated, its value increases as Ghee.
Grape juice is not expensive. When fermented it becomes the more expensive wine.
If u make a mistake it doesn’t mean you are bad or useless. Pressures and mistakes make a man better & more experienced.
Colombus made a mistake on his voyage. He lost his way which resulted in the discovery of America. Alexander Fleming’s mistake resulted in the invention of life saving Penicilin.
Never let ur mistakes make u fall. Your failures will polish you. It helps you identify where you went wrong, which plan failed, which approach becomes wrong.
What we learn from our mistakes, will lead us to the right path, to success.
When words propose in a flow That is persuading and all pervading No matter the rhyme or form It becomes poetry Creating a zen like feeling That makes you want to be In that state of awareness Inspite of knowing Everything moves on…
Have you ever been enticed by the eloquence of words?
Personally I have many favorites
But these profound words by Gibran deeply impacted me… Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
Infact all the lines that follow are equally poignant as well as profound.
So much wisdom in those words for life and living.
Which is your favorite piece of poetry? Do your remember those verses vividly ?
Freeing the body Is to move without fear Freeing the mind Is to move beyond doubts Freeing the heart Is to hope beyond despair Freeing the spirit Is to sense the light in every now Freeing the soul Is to align to the purpose of being. To find the flow To free up space within Is to let go resentment Of trials and errors Of judgements and assumptions Freeing your breath Is to sense life dance In this now.
In continuation to my earlier post on trust I share a few verses that flowed along…
Trust is the lifeline Between people That keeps hope alive In faith and belief That things will come through In trust life resurrects And success sustains In feeling fulfilled.
A lack of trust Erodes relationships Personal or professional For when trust is broken Efforts become meaningless For sense of purpose is lost Without trust Every thing crumbles… Until trust is gained Nothing matters.
When the going gets tough And life brings you on your knees When best laid plans are thwarted When crisis take you rock bottom When every door shuts And you turn towards hope You begin to understand life Challenges are your portals Creating pathways of change Your choices create your gateways For your own transformations
Soul knows more than you think…. Perhaps your perceptions need a new perspective. Trust your Soul It is aligning you to your purpose
Watch the window … And may be you need to pass through… Llfes uncertainties staring at your face For they toughen you up.
So see beyond what seems like a setback. Perhaps the window of opportunity is opening through them.
Do you sense love for yourself Do you feel respect for yourself Do you feel your sense of self esteem
Do you feel a sense of self worth
What is your self worth tied to? Is it your education Your fancy degrees Your knowledge Your partner? Or your beauty? Your abilities? Is it to your achievements? Your skills? Your bank balance? Or is it to your designation Your children Your home? Your cars? Your phone?
If you have answered yes honestly to any of the above please think again Work on your independence Free your mind free your heart Free yourself from chains Practice unshackling Try to detach your self worth From material things. Others cannot always be around We are born as unique beings We are complete in every way No one can latch on to us Nor should we latch on to another Self awareness is crucial For true self confidence Self Confidence creates self esteem Self esteem develops self worth Value the life you have Understand your truth Explore your potential You are worthy.
Unconference, the word piqued my curiosity for a while until I checked it up on the internet, only to find that the idea has gained tremendous momentum across the globe.
The idea of un-structuring the ingrained structure seemed interesting to say the least, in creating spaces and possibilities to honour the learning.
Suffice to say recently, when I came across an Unconference event in the local newspaper I decided I must make a visit.
The venue of this Unconference was the well known Symbiosis School of Liberal Arts in Pune. I reached just in time for the proceedings to untold.
A customary registration ensued and I was greeted by a few volunteers with a relaxed warm and welcoming attitude. Clearly, the Unconference had started right there.
The word Conference kind of stiffens people up. There is a formal attitude, a thick air of competition to perform at their very best. There are fees and strict rules to adhere to. There are super busy organisers scurrying through and tension is writ large on their faces and their bodies as well are stressed out with expectations of the outcome of the event. Suited men and women whizz through looking super important. And yes there would be a Chief Guest of honour and a coterie of important people who need VIP handling… Adherence to their whims and fancies and most importantly their speeches which may or may not be of interest to any. But all must endure as to get up and leave is an offence to the speaker.
On the contrary here, there was a prevalent free-spirited feeling in the first place that all were in it together. The sense of community always takes time to build so I stood in that room with a small group of people waiting for the (informal introductory practice,) the opening circle.
The Opening Circle :
Someone from the group had taken an initiative to design a pretty pattern made of flowers in the centre of the space and light a lamp there.
A few introductory rounds later which turned out to be icebreakers with a few games to let loose and get into the flow.
There was a board set up with a mention of few rooms and a time slot to boot. The participants were encouraged to choose to attend or conduct workshops or just wander around and network.
A few people got up to mention their workshops and claim their slot. On a moment’s impulse although I was not exactly in the right attire for a dance workshop I simply decided to go with the flow and offered a Dance connection workshop by me.
Encouraged by a decent number of participants I let the moment take the lead. As I began teaching I witnessed the flow of the energy in the exchange.
I spoke about the dance, hold, frame and positioning and started introducing them to partner dancing and some basic steps. Bit by bit people shed inhibitions as they were getting tuned into the moves.
The moment strangers began to hold hands and face one another… for many, there was harmony to be found in the mirror imaging. For after all the lead and follow were simply an extension of each other dancing as one unit.
The energy in the room turned up a notch with the Achy Breaky Heart country cha sounds of Billy Ray Cyrus for company.
All started sensing the tuning in to the rhthymic expression of music & movement with their partners at that moment.
After the dance workshop I asked what they felt in that moment and here is what they shared immediately…
1. Acknowledging another as they are 2. Being mindful of boundaries 2. Caring to confirm 3. Listening with Attention 4. Having patience 5. Sharing in authenticity 6. Allowing space for curiosity & growth 7. Behaving respectively 8. Being present & available 9. Respecting personal space 10.Valuing emotions in resonance 11.Holding space for perspectives 12. Showing care and offering comfort to another.
You may find a few empathic faces coming up in front of you after reading this… People who have been showing some or almost all of these signs.
Hold on to them. Learn from them Respect their ways… They have understood much about life and living and valuing the strength of the interconnects.
When you are exhausted and tired and you want to revive your mood play on
Music is therapeutic and the healing nature of sound energy can be tuned into to change your mood & manage emotions and lift your spirits.
Take some time to create an upbeat playlist that perks you up and engerizes you and get up from your chair to move arounda bit.
Take a short walk every once in a while. with some great music for company..It will bring a spring in your step and smile in your heart.
In fact for every part of the day, you can have a playlist of your own choice. Take time to create yours… if you haven’t already and do listen… The right music makes a powerful difference.
We are an ever growing circle Emerging through our words In the sharing we have grown We have eased into each other’s hearts We may not see one another ever But we have connected in mutual respect Of each others creativity. Though the power of words Comforted and understood Accepted and appreciated One another in our own little ways. For we all know the power of words That, one heartfelt word can change a day!
Thank you all for being here and hoping for a joyful journey ahead together for us all.
Someone asked me what spiritual growth means to me …
Here is what I spoke about in a nutshell
Harmony in mind body & spirit Integration in Self awareness Developing greater understanding & Empathy Humility & Kindness Humanity & Compassion.
Living in the lightness of being Acknowledging Grace in Gratitude Sensing true freedom to be…for the self and others. To flow with life in serenity. Sensing the joy in the ordinary.
It’s about acknowledging & sensing the space in around me
It’s about giving in the receiving and receiving in the giving
Witnessing the evolving patterns and freeing the self from limitations of the mind.
Evolving in the learnings, valuing the connection built in time. A mindful & heartful practice in conscious awareness. Letting go of unnecessary things Understanding the value Of the gift of life Making life meaningful. Living life lovingly!
And in knowing it’s so much more….
Please feel free to add what spiritual growth means to you?
Savvy Raj 
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