Every one faces difficult people in their lives. And for some like service sectors, coaches, consultants and medics, their job has many moments of handling difficult people and tricky situations as well.
There are many types of difficult people
Like the pessimistic ones who always find what won’t work first for anything new. They have nothing positive to say or share. But always play the devils advocate.
Handling them can be extremely difficult in front of a team full of people but it is wise to acknowledge them and then reframe their perspectives with a positive positioning and interpretation to turn it around carefully.
Interestingly there are a lot many in the know it all category, with an attitude & arrogance of knowledge & experience to boot.
An effective way to tackle would be to appreciate them but ask them to share the data and facts associated with what they proclaim to ensure authenticity. It is also challenging but necessary to request for humility in these peer to peer conversations.
There are then those who are two sided who say nothing to your face but are habitual complainers. There is a need to understand the origin of of their doubts and worries and where they are coming from in order to work it out thereby creating a safe and secure atmosphere.
“Think of difficult people as sandpaper They may rub you and scratch you painfully but eventually you end up smooth and the sandpaper worn out… stay happy and enjoy life…” raymund salumbides
Difficult people are difficult to handle. But it’s not impossible or something to shy away from. Simply the handling needs discernment and care. And not everyone can handle difficult people. Tact, diplomacy, confidence, clarity of purpose and vision go a long way in handing difficult people and problems.
When you arrive at being comfortable being yourself,and in front of others, your gifts will shine through and you will make a positive impact on this world.
Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent then the one derived from fear of punishment. Mahatma Gandhi
It’s easy to get caught up in seeking validation and approval from others, but the truth is that the only person you truly need to impress is yourself.
You are enough, just as you are, and your worth doesn’t depend on the opinions or actions of others. When you recognize your own value and believe in yourself, you can accomplish anything you set your mind to.
Learning to be comfortable in your own skin and trusting in your own abilities can take time, but it’s a journey worth taking.
When you focus on cultivating a positive relationship with yourself, you’ll find that you’re happier, more confident, and better equipped to handle life’s challenges. Remember, you don’t need anyone else’s approval or validation to be happy and fulfilled. You are enough, simply by existing as you are.
It’s common to fall into the trap of seeking validation and approval from others, but the reality is that your self-worth isn’t dependent on the opinions or actions of others. You are enough, and improving yourself from where you are, is the only thing that truly matters. By recognizing your own value and having faith in yourself, you can achieve anything you set your mind to.
Developing a positive relationship with yourself and being comfortable with who you are takes time, but it’s a worthwhile journey.
By prioritizing your own well-being and self-belief, you’ll discover a greater sense of happiness, confidence, and resilience.
Remember that your happiness and fulfillment don’t require external validation or approval.
We are bonded in a connection By infinite fibers between us Both visible & invisible At times tangible in the feeling Some times palpable in the sensing But it takes an acknowledgement Of the beauty of us beyond the I.
In an increasing uncertainty in a volatile times, it is important to work from strengths than weaknesses and embrace the flexibility of approach.
Work on self-improvement by understanding your personality, your skills, and responsibilities. Be open to feedback and ideas and avoid bracketing yourself into one type of person, so you can stretch yourself and be able to adapt to whatever the circumstances. This way, you can resolve a broader spectrum of situational challenges without self limiting beliefs blocks.
Become a competent leader who knows to surf through the tides of change and stay afloat.
Remember there is infinite power in possibilities in you
Decision is often the difference between greatness and mediocrity. In every man’s life there comes a time when he must search for a cause, a work, an ideal to which he can give himself. Whether he says ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ to the challenge will determine his future.”
Wilferd Peterson
A great motivational quote.
It opens up a few relevant questions on decisions and decision making.
How decisive are you about your life?
Do you take your decisions seriously?
Or do often you let/ want others take decisions for you.
Do you take time to make decisions?
Do you stand for your decisions and do your decisions stand the test of time?
There are different decision making styles based on how a problem is perceived.
A good decision begins with begins with identification and envisioning of the goal ,
Secondly it is important to collect all information so that you can weigh options and alternatives.
Next it is paramount to consider the consequences of the decision before taking the decision.
Once a decision is taken is necessary to be able to evaluate the decisions in time.
Worth thinking of how much a good decision in a moment has power of change life.
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