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Life Partners

Life teaches lessons in living

Not all are blessed with knowledge

Of where they are erring…

Most find out much later.

Perhaps that is the difference

Between a life lived

And a life lived well.

©Savvy Raj

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A GEM BY SAEED JAFFREY

DISCLAIMER: CERTAIN FACTS HERE MAY BE INACCURATE BUT THE ESSENCE OF THE PIECE IS STILL VERY MEANINGFUL ABOUT VALUING PARTNERS.

Saeed Jeffrey divorced Madhur Jaffrey for his second wife Jennifer. But this veteran actor has won the hearts with his heart-wrenching regret.

This came out, a few years after he left this world.
30-Jul-2019

From the diary of Sayed Jaffrey, the famous bollywood character actor:

I was 19 when I was married to Mehrunima who was 17. As I grew up, I was very fascinated by the british culture in colonial India. I learnt to speak English fluently, wear suits with grace, and developed impeccable etiquettes. But Mehrunima grew up to be my complete opposite – homely, a typical housewife. All my advices and admonishments couldn’t change her basic personality – an obedient wife, a doting mother and a good homemaker.

But she was not what I wanted. More I tried to change her, more we drifted apart. Gradually she metamorphosed from a cheerful affectionate young girl into a quiet insecure woman. Meanwhile I started getting attracted to a co-actor of mine who was all what I wanted in my wife.

After 10 years of marriage, l divorced Mehrunima, left my home and married my co- actor. I had ensured financial security of Mehrunima and my kids . For about 6-7 months everything went well. Then I started realising, my new wife was not caring and affectionate. She was only concerned about her beauty, her ambitions, her wants and desires. Sometimes I missed Mehrunima’s caring touch and concern for my welfare.

Life moved on . I and my new wife were 2 persons living in a house, not one soul living in a home. I never went back to find out what happened to Mehrunima and my kids.
After about 6 -7 years of my second marriage, I came across an article on a Madhur Jaffrey, an upcoming famous chef who had recently launched a book of her own recipes. The moment I looked at the picture of the smart elegant lady, I was stunned. It was Mehrunima. But how could it be ??? She had remarried and changed her maiden name too.

I was shooting abroad at that time. She lived in US now. I caught the next flight to US. I inquired about her where abouts and went to meet her. She refused to see me. My daughter who was 14, and son who was 12, told her they wanted to talk to me one last time. Her new husband was by her side. He was also my children’s legal father now.
To this date, I cannot forget what my children told me.

They told me that their new father knows the meaning of true love. He Broke Da Cage of Negativity. He accepted Mehrunima as she was and never tried to change her into what he himself was, because he loves her more than he loves himself. He let her evolve at her own pace and never tried to force his wishes on her. He accepted and enjoyed her person as it was. And she has bloomed into a confident loving affectionate self reliant lady today under her second husband’s selfless love and acceptance.

Where as I was full of selfishness, demands and unacceptance of her persona had crushed her and then in my selfishness had discarded her. Creating a Cage of Negativity.

The Greatest learning of my life-

You don’t change people you love, you love them as they are….

  • Sayyed Jaffrey


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Verses in Faith

For me the art of poetry is…
A faith in the verses that flow.

And faith in the flow that finds its purpose,
For faith is all there is,
Without it nothing is.

©Savvy Raj


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For love is meant to be…

The world needs universal love

Keep your stock of love unlimited

Let it flow freely without doubt

Let it be inclusive & expansive

Know it will find its path

Back to you in infinite measure

Know love  is meant to be

©Savvy Raj


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Colours of the sky

Sharing my verses that was inspired by vivid thoughts on Oneness.

Colours of the spirit
Pouring from  the heart
Sensing the feelings
Evoking the emotions…

If every colour in the sky
Rained down on earth
If every colour of the rainbow
Poured itself out from the cup of life
Colouring the planet  in vibrance
The world may see these very colours
In the deepest core of the earth.
For as is above so is below…

Nature is abundant in its flow
In the river of time
Trust nature to paint in vividity
Splashing on the canvas of the earth
Painting  patterns in the fluidity…

The sky and land
The mind and body
The spirit and the soul
Aligning in the Oneness of the flow.

©Savvy Raj

Artwork prompted by me created by AI

#flow #savvyarts, #nature #confluence  #awareness #Oneness


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Aflame

Keep the flame burning bright
Rise up to the moment at hand
Have hope, feed the faith
For the day is not done

©Savvy Raj


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Time has all the answers

Morning Musings

How beautiful  it would  be
If good deeds prevailed in practice.
If altruistic ways can become  a norm
A way of life and living
If  healthy collaboration became a driving  force.
Yet…
Any change is never easy.

To change anything
It has to permeate the psyche
Of the mind in acceptance.
Then there is transformation.


Nothing lasting happens by force
For force gives way to another mightier force in time
Trust time in patience & perseverance.

Everything  happens in time.
Time shows the way
As time has all the answers.

©Savvy Raj


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On Kindness

Being rude is easy, it creates animosity.

Politeness comes from caring in goodwill.

Being angry is easy, it breaks down relationships.

Patience comes from perseverance of the being.

Being hostile is easy and hurts another.

Love is soulful and builds one another.

Being hateful is easy, it weakens the spirit.

Kindness emnates from the strength of the soul.

©Savvy Raj


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What is your state of mind today?

What is your state of mind today ?

Are you feeling expansive and inclusive

Then it’s a positive phase of growth mindset

And if you are feeling empty and mindless

Then perhaps you need space and & time to rebalance yourself.

If you feeling extremely creative and going out of the box in your thoughts and associations…

Then perhaps there is an exploration of the mind in expansiveness.

Ifr you are feeling small and narrow in thoughts

Perhaps there is introspection going on for a while

You need to simply rethink to understand your place in the big picture.

If you are feeling indifferent and dull

Then perhaps you need to sense some energy and enthusiasm in your life as you are exhausted or being absent minded.

If you are being very allowing and receptive to the idea of change, and new ways of transformation then you are in an open minded stage.

It is truly interesting  to see & sense the interconnects of the body, mind and spirit of being.

Savvy Raj


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Light of Hope

Whenever life feels a little too weary..

Lighten up your thoughts

Know tommorow is another day

And the sun is waiting to shine on.

©Savvy Raj


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On Actions

An action that builds confidence is better than inaction which arises from fear.

At times the action is a success, at times may be the action needs a new direction to be successful but action is better than no action.

Savvy


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On Mentoring

Work Life Balance &

Mentoring can be beneficial to both the Mentor and the mentee.

While helping in some realistic goal setting it puts things in perspective, A mentor offers emotional support in challenging situations for the mentees so they  can begin to identify the root of the problems and come up with solutions. Mentors aid them through coping strategies as well when things don’t happen on time.

Good mentors will help develop resilience and trust in one another thus enabling the bouncing back in difficult situations. And most of all bringing clarity on importance of  balancing work and other parts of life and relationships helps unload the feeling of overwhelm that many mentees may be experiencing.

But it is also equally important for Mentors to take care of their wellbeing. so that they can create  a positive experience through the process for themselves as much as their mentees.

©Savvy Raj


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Life the great teacher

If you feel like there is a setback

It is for you to understand

That growth is right behind

Rewarding you for your patience.

When you are challenged

You are learning from life…

After all life is the great teacher.

©Savvy Raj


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Reflection: Tool for Personal Growth

As a Freelancer or a Self Employed Individual inspite of the independence and freedom to manage what you choose to do, there are often many challenges that test you on your journey.

Here are a few mindful ways to destress through your challenges using reflection for your personal growth.

Breath: Start the day by find time for your health. You can simply start by observing your breath. Witness it, moving in and out of the body. Sense your own breath. Check the speed and patterns in your breath. Are you breathing fast or slow? Are you able to hear the sounds of your breath? Our breathing sends many signals to us about our health, if we only care to observe.

Meditation. Reflect on your life as you go into a deeper state of being.You can choose your kind of meditation from the many practices of meditation options. Be it breath awareness through deep breathing, or mindful walking meditation or sound meditation. Be fully present in the Now.

Movement : Reflect on the positive ways you can use your body to reset and recharge your self. Choose to take a mindful and conscious walk. Sense everything in and around as you move with self awareness Reflect on your day and observe your thoughts. Many thoughts will vye for your attention. Let them come and go as you witness their unfolding. You will find much inspiration as you go. You will note your state of mind. You will have clarity of your emotional and mental health. You will sense the truths of your life.

Journalling.: Writing your thoughts is a good reflection tool that helps process and synthesise new information and life experiences. In fact it increases creative thinking and problem solving. As you reflect on your reactions and responses you will find greater clarity on your path.

Reading : A beautiful practice for any time that you can be inspired is by inculcating a habit of reading regularly. Choose a good book take time to read. You will find yourself charged with many inspirations to kickstart your day. It can be a contemplative practice for some deep thinking and self introspection and improvement.

Feedback : An opinion of another about you is their assimilated perception that they may voice out to you with or without your asking. Seeking honest feedback from trusted sources can help you course correct yourself. It is how you take the feedbacks you receive and what and how you focus on it that makes all the difference. Be aware that feedback is a valuable tool for self reflection and personal growth.

There are many tools for reflection like the above. However even acknowledging ones feelings and emotions helps in understanding more and managing stressful situations better.

Reflection practices can be inclusive and expansive. Besides silent contemplation and introspection while learning from mistakes, participating in a conversation, be it Group discussions, workshops can be an engaging practice for Self awareness.. They are also opportunities for self growth.

©Savvy Raj


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Peace Heart

Cultivating inner peace
Begins with the awareness
Of your own breath


Just for a moment
Take a pause and reflect
On the inhaled breath

You cannot hold it much longer
You have to let it go.


Likewise to this
Think of all the conflicts
Of the storms raging within you
Think of burdens weighing you down


How long do you choose to carry them?
You have to let it go, one day or another
Why not now,? And live free
Sensing the lightness of being.


You have One life one heart.
Choose to live life with heartfelt peace.

©Savvy Raj


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Strength of Interconnects

Whoever made the movie “Avatar” knew this. The mycelium or mychrysis is a fungus that spreads underground, creating a communication network between all types of plants, a kind of internet that allows them not only to communicate, but also to take care of themselves, protect themselves, eat, to stock up on the water.
And when a tree is cut down from the forest, the mycelium informs a huge number of trees in the forest that one of them is dying, and all the other trees, through the mycelium, start tending to the remaining trunk to try to save that life.
They feed it with water, they protect it, because this dying log is part of the forest family.
Everything has a language.
It is a universal language.
We learn to reconnect with this non-verbal language, realizing that we are all part of one.
We are neither above nor below.
We are like children who still have a lot to learn from our older brothers, from the trees and forests and most of all from our Mother Earth…
It’s just amazing!!!
Respect to our Nature
Respect to our Mother Earth

This above forward is Courtesy – Krasi/Art.

Strength of the Interconnects

Trees teach us much

Every life has many lessons to share

If we only we have time to spare…

There is much going on beneath the earth

Which we take for granted

Let’s take a moment to care

To understand the differences

Between one life to another

As well as to understand

That we are part of the same source

Life manifests its magic in each of us

We are meant to survive and thrive

We are meant reach out and live

In the strength of the interconnects.

©Savvy Raj