How are you in this moment ?
Are you ok?
Every once in a while
Just ask yourself these simple questions.
And let yourself answer
As the thoughts flow
Jot them down
There is much healing
In the journaling of thoughts
In expressing your feelings
On paper or to another
In simply voicing it out
Giving a path to let the steam off.
Build yourself up with care
Connect with a deeper breath
And listen keen as you exhale.
As you externalize, you create space
And understand yourself more.
Savvy
Bouncing ball
Think of any organization, like a bouncing ball. No two moments are alike Change is order of things. In such moments the leaders at the top need all the support they can get from their team. And for that clarity in communication be it timely updates , to them & to the team is equally paramount.
When the ball bounces are extreme, it could be many factors, like the winds of change that’s affecting it. Let’s call it external forces be it political, economic,global changes and more…
No one can predict things to the T but if risks are part of the buisness, then leadership needs both resilience from the entire team and quick decision taking to keep the company ‘ball balancing’ afloat.
In times of internal instability from unexpected forces within the company, affecting the state of buisness the leaders need more than just attention to detail to bring the dissenting fragments and solve crisis .
It’s a given that even in stable times there is always going to be that bounce in the ball think of it as the pulse in the heartbeat. Just that the force and velocity is a little more manageable . Acknowledging it as a part of risk management makes it more realistic than procrastinating from planning for it.
Whatever be the force, the torque generated decides the nature of impact it has. Being prepared and building the resilience muscle and creating a strong srategic team in easier times, helps in times of crisis management.
Embracing the changes is about understanding the experiences of highs and lows as a part of the journey. And most of all seeing the setbacks as an opportunity to bounce back stronger again.
What do you think ?
Savvy Raj
Hear to be heard
Value to be valued
Acknowledge.
It makes a world of difference in a ‘ever busy world’ that’s always checking time.
Giving time and energy to understand another with empathy will help shift perspectives for the better.
Savvy
On Analysis Paralysis
Some of the common Symptoms: Overthinking ,lack of focus, Stress ,Frustration, Racing thoughts .Indecisiveness in high pressure situations, Cognitive confusion. Tiredness Sleeplessness etc.
If you are feeling caught
In a swirl of thoughts & emotions
As if you are being engulfed
In a whirlwind of overthinking…
Perhaps about family & relationships
Or your career or finances etc
Where you feel stuck in a loop
Unable to take a decision
Or move forward with a solution.
It could be Analysis Paralysis.
While anyone of us may have experienced it, people with inflexible and fixed mindset often find themselves in this dilemma.
On the other hand people who are sensitive and empathy also find themselves unable to take a decision to move forward if it is going to upset another .
In fact Analysis Paralysis can create blockages for intuitive people and hence they need to understand it to address it.
If you are experiencing it now here are few solutions to manage it.
An interesting quote on relationships I read this morning…
The relationship between commitment and doubt is by no means an antagonistic one. Commitment is healthiest when it’s not without doubt but in spite of doubt.
Rollo May
As I reflected on the above words a few thoughts came to me…
On life and relationships
Is there an interplay of doubt and commitment?
Is there commitment when in doubt?
What happens when doubt creeps in the committed?
Whenever they intersect there are conflicts
Whether at opposition or not
Both are in thoughts
Dashing from one extreme to another
At times contradicting at times rationalising
And returning back to apparent normalcy
When doubt dances in, commitment feels the burn
When commitment is strong, doubt rests on the back burner.
Have always felt there needs to be trust in a relationship as much as compromise else even the strongest of relationships fall apart.
What are your thoughts ? Do share.
If ever you are in a position where you are hurt and helpless and want to help yourself out of this situation check on your own behavior
Are you speaking and sharing more than you should?
Are you over explaining and try to match up to anothers expectations and not valuing your own strengths?
Are you defending yourself when the other person refuses to understand anothers perspective?
Are you too sensitive and taking things personally when actually the source of the issues or the problem is not you at all?
Often it is self awareness that is the first step towards bettering your life.
A self check to see your reactions is definitely a way to improving how you handle and manage difficult people in life.
Tbe way to make life favorable to you , is in living as if all is rigged in your favor.
Savvy
On Coaches & Coaching
At times just when a coach knows it’s progress the client wants to give up.
They may feel the changes are not enough or there may be other personal factors that may be inhibiting their success. It is important to acknowledge their emotions at the moment and celebrate small wins precisely showing how far they have come. As a coach being empathic & encouraging while being flexible and adaptable as you adjust strategies for the way forward aids and facilitates progress.
Often clients face doubt and overwhelm at some point or the other. It is important then to remind them of their why and guide them to stay on course.
Your thoughts are welcome.
©Savvy Raj
Trustful Mentorship
The dynamics of mentor mentee relationship is one of trust and confidence.
Building trustful mentorship requires genuine love to help guide people for the better.
Besides the required skills and expertise, mentors having an inclusive, expansive and holistic approach while helping unique pathways for clients, adds to their repertoire to create trustful mentorship .
Clarity and integrity in communication & behaviour , excellent interpersonal skills and empathic attitude add value beyond the experience and expertise of the mentors.
It is important to acknowledge the influence a mentor can have on the mentees decisions be it at work or personal life.
Hence, a good understanding of ethics while handling conflicting opinions biases, & emotional triggers helps empower the mentee than exploit them.
After all, a mentor is someone who guides advice and supports along the way…
©Savvy Raj
(A bit more from my writings On Mentoring)
Empathy & Leadership
Empathic leaders find it easier to understand the challenges of their teams but they also need to be empathic to themselves to avoid burnout and manage their lives.
Stress Management for Leaders
If you are feeling stress beyond a level you can handle as a leader you need to introspect.
There could be many factors that build up the stress often without your own knowing. It can happen to anyone after all we are only human. And it would be good to acknowledge the importance of work life balance and self care.
Are you biting more than you can chew? To manage work stress as a leader, while delegating work check, if you are delegating tasks with clarity to the team.
Are you approachable and exercising patience in communication?
Are you checking if they have understood your requirements?
Are your mails, messages and your attitude, building people up?
Remember the way you chose to behave rubs off on people. While it’s only human to err and there could be good & bad days, being a leader is a responsiblity. For you have the power to influence and impact lives.
Likewise your actions beliefs and behaviour can affect your own health. Hence managing your own stressors empathically become paramount as a leader to get work done.
Every now and then tweaking your own approach, to the changing needs, being flexible and adaptable helps you and your team towards reducing work stress.
©Savvy Raj
Delegation and trust go hand in hand.
Why delegate work, when you can do it on your own. Because it is common sense that with growth, work increases you will need people to get things done. And without trusting people, you cannot build a team that you can trust. A huge part of delegation is about being accountable to get the work done well.
Successful delegation empowers a team. It is about finding the right person or team for the job. Mastering the art of delegation is rewarding in the long term for it develops and builds skills enhances productivity. It validates the values of collaboration and trust to the team hence improves the attitude at work in a team.
Moreover it improves the time management not only for you but for the team and the organisation thereby increasing productivity and this can help find balance in professional work and personal life.
Do you delegate with the right attitude and for the right reasons?
© Savvy Raj
An essential skill in any job that requires talking & handling people is speaking well and communicating effectively.
Handling challenging questions during a speech can be effectively managed by a few practical and strategic ways using conflict resolution techniques.
Get yourself some time to think by
practicing listening actively when a question comes up and then repeating it in your own words to check if you have clarity on what is asked.
Acknowledge the questions with empathic voice and body language can ease and reduce tensions and help build the flow of communication.
Get yourself back into the arena
by reframing the questions to align with your context.
Using an assertive voice shows command over the context.
Always remembering the goal is not to score a point but or win an argument but to build and sustain a positive and respectful connection.
©Savvy Raj
How much of you do you give in any relationship?
Today I am sharing a thought Provoker. This came as a social media forward. But it was thought worthy and I do have a few questions as well.
Speaking of relationships, have you felt drained out beyond compare?
Instead of feeling energetic after an interaction or a conversation, have you felt like when will it end?
When was the last time you felt a little too empty?
Do you stop giving, if you feel it is an unequal relationship and you feel pulled from all directions or due to habit or situation you continue to give as you do?
If you are a giver by nature, can you actually stop yourself at all?
It’s truly important to acknowledge your emotions and feelings. It helps to know your energy shifts.
A Stringed Existence
There is a lot of inextricable strings of emotions linked to relationships but if you are constantly feeling drained out and exhausted when with certain people, perhaps you need to check if you have over invested yourself. Be it in career as a workaholic or in family where your sense of self is feeling lost.
You have one life & it is your life…
Pause and take a breather and set yourself back on course.
While there are many kinds of people you meet. And it is really OK to be extra helpful, and give the best you can. In fact it energizes abundance to manifest in life… For when you give from a spring well of kindness, nature sets in motion, a share of kindness back to you in its own time.
Yet like many are energy givers, there are many energy takers. Often unknown to themselves they behave in a way that saps anothers energy when they are around you.
Do remember who ever you are with… Giving more or less will not have value. For less is not fulfilling and more is just excess and will never be utilised. But will certainly tilt your balance for sure.
In your actions too, exercise this wisdom and you will find yourself in a good space.
And most of all…
Choose your tribe well. It makes all the difference.
©Savvy Raj
If milk gets bad, it becomes yoghurt. Yoghurt is more valuable than milk. If it gets even worse, it turns to cheese. Cheese is more valuable than both yoghurt and milk.
And if grape juice turns sour, it transforms into wine, which is even more expensive than grape juice.
You are not bad because you made mistakes. Mistakes are the experiences that make you more valuable as a person.
Christopher Columbus made a navigational error that made him discover America.
Alexander Fleming’s mistake led him to invent Penicillin.
Don’t let your mistakes get you down. It is not practice that makes perfect. It is mistakes we learn from that makes perfect!
Loved this forward I received this morning, just had to share… So motivational. Our attitude turns circumstances around…
Stay hopeful and turn the misses around…
According to an old Native American legend, one day there was a big fire in the forest. All the animals fled in terror in all directions, because it was a very violent fire. Suddenly, the jaguar saw a hummingbird pass over his head, but in the opposite direction. The hummingbird flew towards the fire!
Whatever happened, he wouldn’t stop. Moments later, the jaguar saw him pass again, this time in the same direction as the jaguar was walking. He could observe this coming and going, until he decided to ask the bird about it, because it seemed very bizarre behavior.
“What are you doing, hummingbird?” he asked.
“I am going to the lake,” he answered, “I drink water with my beak and throw it on the fire to extinguish it.” The jaguar laughed. ‘Are you crazy? Do you really think that you can put out that big fire on your own with your very small beak?’
‘No,’ said the hummingbird, ‘I know I can’t. But the forest is my home. It feeds me, it shelters me and my family. I am very grateful for that. And I help the forest grow by pollinating its flowers. I am part of her and the forest is part of me. I know I can’t put out the fire, but I must do my part.’
At that moment, the forest spirits, who listened to the hummingbird, were moved by the bird and its devotion to the forest, miraculously they sent a torrential downpour, which put an end to the great fire.
The Native American grandmothers would occasionally tell this story to their grandchildren, then conclude with, “Do you want to attract miracles into your life? Do your part.”
“You have no responsibility to save the world or find the solutions to all problems—but to attend to your particular personal corner of the universe. As each person does that, the world saves itself.’”
If someone asks your help remember this story.
A lovely read I simply had to share. I am doing my bit…
Every bit matters!
In moments of loneliness
The tango of the mind & heart
May seem to overwhelm.
Choose to shift the narrative
Understand you can be alone
Without feeling lonely
Blame not your luck or fate
Find connects with your own self
Draw out the beauty of you.
Acknowledge your feelings
Allow your emotions to express
Draw your patterns of possibilities
Doodle, dance, sing or play
To express and let go.
The spirit of the soul revives.
Care to relish the moments
Of connects that you sense.
Remember you matter to you
Stop being hard on yourself
Start to discover your potential
Choose to know yourself
All of you body mind & spirit
Seek to sense the freedom to be
All that you want.
Do that which feels you
With or without company
Choose to carve your life
Choose to be in spaces
That makes you happy
Find ways to connect
Volunteer your time
For a cause that resonates
Sooner than later
You will find
Your kind of vibe
Somewhere somehow.
©Savvy Raj
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