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Channelizing anger

Anger is a burning coal

Destroying the one holding it

Choose to be less worked up

And let go of the little things.

Life makes things better

Anger is a powerful emotion

That is unpredictable by nature

Expression is the first step

To channelize anger issues

Secondly choosing to shift attention

To focus on something positive

Helps to channelize the anger within

This helps in converting anger

To constructive behavior.

Thirdly conscious deep breathing

Ensuring a sense of calm

Adapting to change is another way

By doing a bit of rethinking

To find a new sense of perspective

Helps to see the reasoning well.

Anger may stem from deep resentment, held unexpressed for a very long time. Often it may surface in memory associations quite unexpectedly. Or it may be come from bitterness or unfairness meted out.

When angry, it is difficult to breathe, forget think. As all the pent up frustrations get mixed up with emotions and feelings causing an outburst.

Management of anger is difficult as you do not know when you are going to get angry next.

But tapping into mindful awareness, of the signs of anger and dispassionately working towards steps that channelize the feeling of anger in practical ways to release the pent up frustrations begins to help manage anger gradually.

There are many therapies for anger management but it’s important to find one that is suitable to you.

When was the last time you got angry?

How did you express it?

Did you feel bad after the episode of anger?

Do you remember the emotions that you went through when you were angry?

More importantly did you do anything about your anger?

Who doesn’t get angry I wonder. As anger is necessary evil as it is meant to be a vent for any built up steam.

Management of anger starts with acknowledgement and awareness of the issue at hand.

Personally walking, dancing painting writing and solitude top my ways of channelizing anger. I find myself calmer and relaxed and in a happier state post a dance session or after writing or creating an artwork.

I also like to do work that requires organisation like folding clothes arranging things to get me back to equilibrium.

How do you channelize your anger?

Savvy


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Keep the faith!

Every moment can bring
Its own share of challenges
Sometimes in situations beyond hope.
And you are left with decisions to make.

When unfairness is met
With hope and faith
Life turns around
Yes everyone is challenged

In one way or another
But the wisdom in the challenge
Is to use these challenges
As stepping stones
To your success.

Life is changing
Every minute
Life is never the same
Its ok to wait and lie a little low

You need to trust nature
To move and shift things
What was lost is gained again
What was your deepest pain
Becomes a point of pleasure

Change is the only constant
My friend
Move beyond these limitations
Of this now
There is so much more to envision
So much more to accomplish.

Life is meant to flow!

Savvy


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On Adapting


Every time you find yourself
In a bit of a tussle
You need to adapt to the situation

A little bit of flexibility
Goes a long way
Where you bend but do not break.


Like the reed of grass
That bows down with grace
In the wind of changes.

Like water that flows to fit in
Until it shapes unto & settles itself
Like a lithe cat that braces itself in a fall.


This ability  to turn adversity
On its toes and dance with it
Is a valuable  lifeskill.

This quality of adaptability
The way you adapt, adjust or modify
Says much about you as a person.


It speaks of your capacity
To be receptive to new ideas
And new ways of thinking

To step out of the box.
And perceive with fresh eyes.
Without prejudice.

To understand what is feasible
To be willing to respond  than react
To the changes, in flexibility.



And the ability to be non judgmental
Speaks of your unflappable nature.

In responding with composure.

Adaptability is a necessary skill
To overcome any situation in life
To adapt is to survive.


Savvy


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Making the most of it.

An interesting story share that conveys the importance of making the most of lifes difficult situations…. do read.

After 60 years of ideal married life , they had no secrets between each other. The wife’s only request was not to ask anything or open the wooden box she had kept in the attic. The husband respected that.

On her deathbed the wife told the husband ok. I want to tell u everything. Pl. Bring the box on the attic.

When he opened the box, there were 2 woollen dolls, his wife made and 10 lakhs. in cash.
The wife explained,when I came newly married to your house my grandmother gave a wise advice. She told never to argue with you for anything. If I’m angry she told me make a woolen doll which I was good at. I practiced that all these years.

Only 2 dolls. The husband was so happy he made his wife angry with him on only 2 occasions in theses 60 years.
What about the 10 lakhs? he asked.
Oh! That is the money I got by selling the other dolls I made.