Life and Living | Savvy Raj

October 20, 2022
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Self Management

10 Life Skills that you need to master.

1. Managing Changes

Change management is an important component of life skills. Often loneliness is felt at different phases of life
Overcome the fear of being alone. Life teaches many challenging lessons. But most of all know that nothing is permanent Change is the order of nature And if you ever find yourself at crossroads feeling deserted lonely or lost without any loved one , fear not, as there are many who may be feeling so amidst company.
Develop hobbies and a sense of purpose that you are passionate about. And you will never feel alone a single moment in your life .

2 Art of patience:
Everything has a time and reason. Like nature teaches us time and time again, nothing can be hurried without a repercussion. And all comes in course of time.

Cultivating Patience is the key to mastering burden of procarasitation by others.

3 Letting go . Let past go and do not dwell on it. Work to balance the holding back & the letting go with discretion and discernment.

4 Managing Expectations
The world does not owe you anything infact you owe it much.Managing people’s expectations and your own requires some clear boundary setting by you for your own sanity. Dont expect immediate results and ease up to master expectations.

5 People Management

All cannot be pleased by you and neither should you try pleasing all. Managing Self involves learning to say no when you feel it deeply. You cannot live a life pleasing others . Putting your health and self care on priority is a duty to the life within you. You have every right to be happy and healthy. Self care is never a selfish act.

6 Self Control & Self Discipline

Both help and aid you to progress towards Self control than to control all around you. You may not be able to control everything and every one’s behavior. But remember you are completely in charge of your own behavior.

7 Empathy :

Empathise with your problems but there is no need to over sympathize and feel sorry for your yourself. Accept that you may have emotionally weak moments which may drain you but know it moves on. So you dont need to stay there in your thoughts hurting yourself.
You may feel and go through bouts of tears envy anger jealousy and they can be at times to heal you through or counter productive for you depending on the intensity but these self pitying moments in your thoughts come as you are only human, but you have free will and intention on your side and it is duty and right, for you owe to yourself to let these go as they came and not drown yourself with these thoughts. So pull out yourself out of the down spiralling thought road.

8 Responsibility :

Being responsible includes making an effort to finish work entrusted in a timely manner as well as in an efficient manner. Strive to improve your potential. Know where, why, when, how and for what to use your own personal energy and strengthen yourself engaging and involving in worthwhile company and causes.

9 Moderation :

Moderation in behaviour
Your thoughts result in actions
Strive to cultivate a balanced approach in extreme circumstances which may seem truly challenging.
Express your opinions tactfully address the situation mindfully & he(artfully) as you integrate the wisdom of the heart and mind conciousness.

10 Resilience

Life is different for each of us. So move ahead knowing that every day challenges come for a reason that is best not revealed now . Have faith hope belief and trust in your being. There is always a reason why things happen the way they do . Do not give up hope in your failures as they are harbringers of hope and wisdom to create a more evolved you.

Remember every failure is a step to chisel and sculpt away to a better you.And most of all make your life worth living.

Savvy

October 19, 2022
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On Silence

Silence reveals the truths in time
Silence speaks volumes without a word
Silence is the recovery period between two breaths
Silence dwells in every moment waiting for acknowledgement.
Silence ensures the moments of discernment when emotions rule.
Silence hears the unspoken words and feels the unexpressed thoughts.
Silence hones the wisdom within
Respect the freedom of silence as much as the freedom for expression.

Savvy

October 18, 2022
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Life lessons

Sharing nuggets of wisdom by my mother

If we walk on a thorn slipper , however soft the pathway be, we will be in pain. Neither we nor the path or surroundings , only the thorns are the reason for our pain which do not let us enjoy the other beauties of journey.

The negativity in our mind are like thorny slippers. If we have negativity in our mind , whatever be the situation, the accumulated negativity will not let us enjoy & will make our life miserable for both us & others surrounding us.

Our mind has a habit of searching and storing such negativities, making a strong imprint in the brain. To come out of it is entirely on individual’s efforts .
Our thorny thoughts & the chain of memories it brings along has to be cut off by our intentional effort to remember the pleasant & positive thoughts that gives us joy.

Momentary change is also the capability of the mind if we intend.
After all everything is transient in this life. Pleasure or pain, how long it will last is not in our hands. But the effort to make each moment happy is something we can try.

Spoken words and harsh actions cannot be taken back. We have to be careful with the words we utter. Do not get carried away by the momentary emotion which will make us regret later.

Peace is what everyone seeks.
Sound will not come with one hand. No one is without fault. The sadness is everyone of us thinks we are perfect and others are faulty. There lies the problem.

Another way is putting ourselves in other’s places & think what I would have done in such situation. May be we may have behaved worst.

Letting go of the past should be a continuous process. If we want peace, mere knowledge is not enough, consistent practice is necessary.

If our vision is not clear the fault is not in the eyes or the visuals. Just cleaning the accumulated dirt on the glass will make everything clear. Start cleaning the tarnished memories.

Remove the spiky slippers, cut off the horns , fangs and claws that troubles you . Bring out the positivity and the goodness in you.

No one to be blamed. Destiny sometimes puts us in hard situations without our faults. But That too will pass in its own time.

Patience & faith are the need of the hour. Compassion & kindness we give ,will come back to us when we need them.

Remember the saying. Happiness is as inside job.

Live happily & peacefully.
Have a blessed life.

Anjana

October 17, 2022
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Memorable reads

Some times as you read you pause in reflection, to ponder over the memories and to sense the meaning just one more time …

Here is one such read …

There are perhaps no days of our childhood that we lived as fully as the days we think we left behind without living at all: the days we spent with a favourite book. Everything that filled others’ days, so it seems, but that we avoided as vulgar impediments to a sacred pleasure — the game for whose sake a friend came looking for us right at the most interesting paragraph; the bothersome bee or sunbeam that forced us to look up from the book, or change position; the treats we had been forced to bring along but that we left untouched on the bench next to us while above our head the sun grew weaker in the blue sky; the dinner we had to go home for, during which we had no thought except to escape upstairs and finish, as soon as we were done, the interrupted chapter — our reading should have kept us from perceiving all that as anything other than obtrusive demands, but on the contrary, it has graven into us such happy memories of these things (memories much more valuable to us now than what we were reading with such passion at the time) that if, today, we happen to leaf through the pages of these books of the past, it is only because they are the sole calendars we have left of those bygone days, and we turn their pages in the hope of seeing reflected there the houses and lakes which are no more.

Proust

https://www.brainpickings.org/2016/10/20/proust-on-reading/

Our readings leave an imprint in our souls… and how.

There are indelible and enduring marks on our mind and emotions.

October 16, 2022
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On Silence

Silence dwells in the spaces between the steps to access whenever.
Silence leads and the path appears.
Trust the lessons learned in silence.

Savvy

October 15, 2022
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Dancing Soul

There is something endearing about dancing with a partner, it’s the power to attract another magnetically and charmingly interact with another’s energy and spirit through dance movement.

A prerequisite to dancing well is one’s ability to take an emotional journey and open oneself and to share and connect to another’s energies .This is what engages the audience and keeps them enthralled. It’s beyond the physicality of steps, patterns, touch, or even the right dance hold or dance frame. It’s in the ability to dance with space, time, yet in complete awareness of one another’s heart of movement.

I had an opportunity to experience this just the other day when I witnessed all of this and more in Rohini (my mother’s friend actually) a family friend of many years .

I have known her to be a simple religious and a happy go lucky person who also may have been through much personal turmoil like so many others but yet has managed a cheerful disposition every time I met her.

Her characteristic sunny nature would never give away the strife behind the smile. The occasion was her 25 th wedding anniversary that I got invited to , and as we reached the venue the couple were at the dais, very understated , a picture of simplicity & composure.

The evening took off, with all their close friends having some wonderful and touching things to say about them both.

There was a small dance floor which soon got filled up with people who were initially hesitant As the music filled the air many more of us started getting into the groove and dancing. And then I saw her, it was her in her element, dancing from her heart and soul. It was fantastic to see her energetic dancing in full display for the all to see , Her ever calm and composed husband seemed mesmerized by all the fun moves she did .

In fact everyone was charmed by her passion and for that moment I realized just then that her joyful dancing soul had peeped out from the depths of it all.

Kudos to her for keeping the spirit of dancing alive in her through all these years .God bless!

Dancing from the heart always counts more than perfection of steps. And that’s the ultimate challenge… To keep the mind open, ready, receptive, giving and simple enough, to dare to step out of comfort zones.

My salute to this dancing soul !

Savvy Raj

October 14, 2022
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Seeing beyond looking

“The man doesn’t know that there is a snake underneath.

The woman doesn’t know that there is a stone crushing the man.

The woman thinks: “I am going to fall! And I can’t climb because the snake is going to bite me. Why can’t the man use a little
more strength and pull me up!”

The man thinks: “I am in so much pain! Yet I’m still pulling you as much as I can. Why don’t you try and climb a little harder!?”

The moral: You can’t see the pressure the other person is under, and the other person can’t see the pain you’re in.

This is life.

Whether it’s with work, family, feelings or friends, we can try to understand each other.

Learn to think differently, perhaps more clearly and communicate better. A little thought and patience goes a long way.”

Anonymous Writer

“God’s purpose for man is to acquire a seeing eye and an understanding heart.”

October 13, 2022
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There is always hope…

Sharing these inspiring lines…
You are not what happened to you
You are how you handle it.

What makes you handle life’s challenges well?
What is that in you that makes you bridge over troubled waters?
What makes you sail through your troubles?
It is your own faith, trust,belief and most importantly hope that keeps you alive.
For hope is unending!

October 12, 2022
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And life goes on…

Looking back at life’s challenges

If you were to see things

With the element of time

Yesterday it may have mattered a great deal.

Today things are different

Perceptions change altering our perspectives.

And we learn to see the bigger picture

And then we give and take.

And learn to receive and let go.

And life goes on!

Savvy

October 11, 2022
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Self Mastery

Self mastery is art of life living
In self control and self discipline
In discerning for the self
In dedicated focus
In balancing and regulating thoughts and emotions
On what matters most!

In the continuing battle
Between the heart and mind
Between feelings and logic
Of thoughts and emotions
Between expression of emotions
And restraint in rationality
Between thinking and doing
Often creating extreme experiences & situations.
If one can practice self control consistently…
One can master anything.

Savvy

October 10, 2022
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PEACE

In the midst of the moments…

So many ways to sense peace
In the serenity of tranquility
In the calm of quietude
In the stillness of silence.
In the repose of ease
In the joy of contentment.
In the bliss in this now.

Savvy

October 9, 2022
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To Dance…

Saw this post and I was struck by the truth of these words.

In fact what made me post this is that I have carried this exact feeling of being truly alive whenever I have danced.

In fact I had captured it years ago in a set of verses dedicated to dance and the way I feel about it .I had summarized it to this very same concept of being alive.

Am sure if there are other dancers reading this post they would agree,

“To dance is to be alive to this now… “

Savvy

October 8, 2022
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On Changes

Life presents new paths at every turn
Every now has new learnings.
The trick is to be present in this moment
To understand the evolving perspectives
To be one, with the changes that manifests
Be present. Be adaptable. Be receptive!

Savvy