Lightness of being
Sense the lightness of life
And you begin feeling lighter
And lighter in every now…
Enough to flap your wings
And express yourself
From where you are…
Savvy
Lightness of being
Category Archives: #adaptability
Then & Now
Then and now
Then I had manicured hands
Fingers always maintained
With perfectly painted nails 💅
Now I like them as they are
Functional and neatly cut.
Then I wore high heels
To make me feel more stylish
Now I have a style I call my own
High heels I no longer need or buy.
Then I was yet to experience life
Too sensitive to a fault…
Now I have come of my own
Upholding my health over stressors
Emboldened enough to stand by me.
And today, another solar cycle older
Wiser or not is left for you to say,
But this I know from living
Half way and more in life.
No matter the then & now
What is, is what matters.
In you, is what you need.
Life is what you make of it.
Every now is precious enough to fill it with gratitude.
Savvy
Learnings
Learning never ends
It grows new pathways
Awaiting your awareness
Discover the joy of learning
You will find your purpose.
Savvy
The mirror speaks
Has the fire died in me?
I ask, looking at the mirror
The mirror answered
Look again dear,
Perhaps you have missed
The simmering coal in your gaze
Like molten magma…
Perhaps tears you cried
haven’t dried as yet
Misting the view.
Am just a mirror dear
A reflection at best
But even a mirror cannot miss
The smoldering eyes of passion
The demeanor that speaks
Of resilience no matter
The ravages of time.
Yet the warrior in you burning bright.
The scars etched on your face
Are a testament of times
Of standing tall in adversity
As the storms passed by.
You ask, “Is the fire in you gone “
I say, I see them in all of you …
In your face and stance.
In all of your body, spirit and soul.
Speaking with all of you.
The fight is not over
As the day is not done.
I saw this line ‘the fire has died ‘ and I was inspired to write this poem.
Your thoughts are welcome .
Savvy Raj
So you are angry?
So you are angry?
Now what?
Do you think it is helping you ?
For anger never helps
It only hurts .
Here are six things you can do for balancing your emotions and feeling better.
1.Become Aware that you are reacting than responding in your anger is the first step
2.Counting backwards from 20 to 1.
3. Removing yourself from the place you are feeling angry even for a short while by going for a short walk helps settle your emotions.
4. Switch words is a technique to use feeling oriented words to create powerful change of emotions with imagery to manage anger.
For example a positive word like Happy can evoke different feelings.
Or words like ‘take it easy ‘can evoke a sense of ease.
5. Better still is taking to chanting mantras, or hearing your favorite upbeat music , or even Journaling.
6. If nothing else imagining ocean tides in a flow and breathing deeply, in and out even for a few minutes eases the tense body & mind.
Remember to acknowledge your emotions as there is more harm in suppression. As you find healthy pathways to manage your anger, you bring wellbeing into your life
Live life lovingly💙
Savvy Raj
How to manage a difficult conversation?
In the course of my career over the years handling teams of various departments, people management became my forte while experiencing many instances which needed agility in communication.
Here are few pointers…
If you can help it thoroughly prepare yourself with research so that you are prepared to handle any objections well.
Try to choose when and where to have a difficult conversation.
Always start with a positive mindset and speak with concern without blaming .
Make sure you are clear about what you want to communicate. And deliver your stance clearly without any ambiguity.
Speak in the right tone as per the situation.
Listen actively well to acknowledge emotions and understand so you can respond than react.
If there is too much tension or another impasse it is alright to pause, take a short timely break to diffuse tension and then recoup
Be focussed on what you wish to communicate and steer the conversation if it veers off topic.
Be open to alternatives and perspectives and see if you can find common ground to stay flexible to foster collaboration.
Resolve issues find win win solutions & clear issues.
Do you remember any instances of difficult conversations you have had? How did you manage it?
Savvy
6 Tips to Overcome Analysis Paralysis
On Analysis Paralysis
Some of the common Symptoms: Overthinking ,lack of focus, Stress ,Frustration, Racing thoughts .Indecisiveness in high pressure situations, Cognitive confusion. Tiredness Sleeplessness etc.
If you are feeling caught
In a swirl of thoughts & emotions
As if you are being engulfed
In a whirlwind of overthinking…
Perhaps about family & relationships
Or your career or finances etc
Where you feel stuck in a loop
Unable to take a decision
Or move forward with a solution.
It could be Analysis Paralysis.
While anyone of us may have experienced it, people with inflexible and fixed mindset often find themselves in this dilemma.
On the other hand people who are sensitive and empathy also find themselves unable to take a decision to move forward if it is going to upset another .
In fact Analysis Paralysis can create blockages for intuitive people and hence they need to understand it to address it.
If you are experiencing it now here are few solutions to manage it.
- Acknowledge with Self Awareness by scanning your entire body to sense what, when and where,and how often you are feeling this way.
- Address it by allowing yourself to be more flexible and open to new perspectives without fear.
- Stop trying to please one and all. Trust in your capabilities and know you are enough.
- Conquering your fear of failure by taking a small step towards that which seems impossible. Keep the faith in yourself and you can always pivot without unwanted pressure.
- Inculcating a practice of mindfulness regularly helps increase focus by creating present moment awareness.
- Choosing to slow down and avoid the pressures of multitasking help ease the cognitive challenges.
Thriving rich?
Being rich is living life exploring and discovering all your possibilities of your potential
Being rich is being able to realize the potential of you.
Being rich is being ready to sense the abundance that is.
Money is not necessarily the only factor for your worth.
Your worth is being all that you are.
You are rich in knowing your worth.
Be enriched in health wealth & prosperity but most of all be rich in the heart and mind.
In realization of the contentment of what you have, you are truly rich!
Savvy
On Commitment
An interesting quote on relationships I read this morning…
The relationship between commitment and doubt is by no means an antagonistic one. Commitment is healthiest when it’s not without doubt but in spite of doubt.
Rollo May
As I reflected on the above words a few thoughts came to me…
On life and relationships
Is there an interplay of doubt and commitment?
Is there commitment when in doubt?
What happens when doubt creeps in the committed?
Whenever they intersect there are conflicts
Whether at opposition or not
Both are in thoughts
Dashing from one extreme to another
At times contradicting at times rationalising
And returning back to apparent normalcy
When doubt dances in, commitment feels the burn
When commitment is strong, doubt rests on the back burner.
Have always felt there needs to be trust in a relationship as much as compromise else even the strongest of relationships fall apart.
What are your thoughts ? Do share.
What do you think?
I love to come back to these lines often. I think it sums up all of life and living
What do you think ?
Savvy
Top 5 Tips To Relieve Back Pain
Here are top 5 tips to relieve back pain.
1. Sit less duration in the same position. Avoid long duration of sitting or lying down, choose to walk and move more
2. Strengthen your spine with exercises and especially for back muscles .
3 Straighten your posture and align your spine whenever you find yourself slouching
4. Sleep well using the right kind of mattress . If you sleep sideways, support your back and hip alignment with pillows between your legs while sleeping.
5. Stretch and move often to make the back supple.
Take care of your back and it will have your back all of your life.
Savvy
Surf the waves
To swim and surface
Is daring the waves.
Like any ocean surfer knows
We are all equal before a wave.
While you may not be able to control everything
And learning curve may be steep
You adapt to ride the waves.
For waves are a part of the flow
In the cycle of life.
A wise leader knows
the highs and lows
Are part of the same flow.
Savvy
Handling Difficult People
If ever you are in a position where you are hurt and helpless and want to help yourself out of this situation check on your own behavior
Are you speaking and sharing more than you should?
Are you over explaining and try to match up to anothers expectations and not valuing your own strengths?
Are you defending yourself when the other person refuses to understand anothers perspective?
Are you too sensitive and taking things personally when actually the source of the issues or the problem is not you at all?
Often it is self awareness that is the first step towards bettering your life.
A self check to see your reactions is definitely a way to improving how you handle and manage difficult people in life.
Tbe way to make life favorable to you , is in living as if all is rigged in your favor.
Savvy
Fragility of life.
Life is like that
Fragile and fragmented
There is much left unsaid undone
There is much left incomplete
For we are not perfect beings
Fragility is a truth of our life
But life continues ….
However much we may think we have given our best
There is always an expectation
Some how somewhere
That is yet left unfulfilled
There is always something more
That we need to have done.
A battle we need to have fought
A voice we should have raised
A devil we need to have dared
And annihilated
It happens in one way or another.
But we can only learn
By living our life forward
And while unfortunately we cannot go and undo all the past
We certainly can empower ourself
To rise no matter the storms .
And right the wrongs in time.
Leaving the world a little better than before .
I wrote this as a heartfelt offering of support and encouragement in hope to those going through or remembering a traumatic past.
While life is fragile
Hope is here to stay .
Savvy
Perfectly Imperfect
We are what we are
As humans we are vulnerable beings, strengthened by our very vulnerability.
As for our notions of the nuances
As for our presumptions and prejudices
Along with our unique sense of self contrived our otherwise
We are only human we are capable of being humane.
We are alive & breathing in this now
And no matter the despair and frustration
No matter the weight of the world
No matter the fragmented existence
No matter our human fragility…
We carry on as we are
exploring & discovering
thriving and creating
history…
We are complete beings in our acknowledging incompleteness.
We are perfect beings with all our so called imperfections.
And we strive to do our best with what we have
If everything is complete and perfect then there would be no wonder to evolve us along…
As that’s what makes us who we are.
Savvy
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