Savvy Raj

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Care or control?

Care or Control?

I was in consultation with a middle age couple.

They started fighting right in front of me.

The upset husband said-

See doc….

I ‘Care’ so much for her & this is what I get in return.

To which the fuming wife replied-

He doesn’t care…
he just ‘Controls’!

The care from one person was perceived as control by another!

This made me think…šŸ¤”

What is Care and
What is Control?

How to identify them?

Soon

I received the answer.

I had an argument with my teenage daughter over a trivial disciplinery issue…

Harsh words were exchanged leaving both of us in tears…šŸ˜Ŗ

After sometime,

as our emotions settled down ,

We said sorry to each other…

My daughter hugged me and said-

Papa ,

You know why you got upset?

You were not upset because I did wrong.

but u were upset because

I didnt follow your instructions…

there is a big difference!

I was stunned with her mature thinking pattern.

I received my answer too…

I was trying to Control her under the disguise of Care…

that caused the conflict ….

If I really ‘Care’ for someone ,

I will not get upset or angry with that person…

I will keep searching different ways to help him…

If I am struggling in any relationship…

I need to closely observe

If there is any subtle Control hidden behind my apparent Care…_*

‘because

“Care is an expression of love

While Control is an expression of ego…

Control cuts…Care connects

Control hurts…Care heals.

Keep Caring for people

but dont Control them …

because

Often people are not wrong…

they are just ‘different’.

Keep Caring.

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Being as you are…

Your life is a gift.

Explore the best in you

Take charge of yourself!

Choose to know your strengths.

Than search for influencers outside

Choose authenticity, to be real

There is much within awaiting you

So much to simply be…

It is actually simpler to be yourself. There is something that each of us can do better than any other. So important then to listen to the inner voice and bravely obey that.

Savvy


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Power of Possibilities

Explore the Immense Power of Possibilities!

Hope lives on, in possibility

Joy is always a possibility

Love happens, its a possibility

Luck as well is a possibility

Try and try again in perseverance

When effort becomes a possibility

Success too becomes a possibility

Power to the arising possibilities.

Savvy


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CourageĀ matters.

Courage plays out in numerous ways
Sometimes as acts of dare
Changing the path of destiny
Sometimes it is the resilience to brave
All odds with humility and honour.

Sometimes it is courage that speaks boldly
Where voices are muffled in fear and favour
Othertimes courage bears it all in forbearance
Withholding in the wisdom of patience.

Whatever the path courage takes
When Courage speaks
There is bound to be a breakthrough
There is hope and faith
A belief in humanity
A deliverance in trust
To stand up against all odds
For a cause or a person or reason.
Speaks volumes of the spirit in the daring soul.

No act of dare is insignificant
For every act of courage
Leaves an everlasting imprint
Inspiring the aspiring
Encouraging and motivating
Improving and imploring life
To hope for the better.
That there is a light of dawn
After the plight of the night.

Savvy


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SYNCHRONICITY OF INTENTIONS

We are so caught up in the external knowledge, that we at times fail to connect with our inner awareness.

Conscious awareness is immense power in one’s hands.

Our thoughts are intentions, inseparable from everything that exists. But very often it is blocked with unnecessary anxiety, discontent or other negative emotions. Intentions as energy fields can be powerful, but the collective consciousness of intentions towards a larger good can be even more so.

We have the choice to choose wisely and create the beauty of synchronized creative patterns. Look around us and we can observe nature which blesses us when in the harmony of synchrony.

Each of us is uniquely blessed with the power to choose thoughts that can transform the life within us and around us for the better. This is the first step to touching lives beyond dimensions with the synchronicity of good intentions.

A prayer towards general goodwill is a good example of synchronicity of intentions.

After all, intention too is a form of prayer. And more the attunement to an intention more the chance of manifesting the energy of synchrony.

In every moment the choice of any thought and creative enterprise is, was and will always be with us …

Let’s care to choose well!

Savvy


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Honour and Respect

A Matter of Honouring the Self and Respecting Others.

“Nothing in Nature can be fully free without restricions or interdependence. Such is the way of Nature, like so is its creations. There can be free will for all, but care should be taken in its extension so it never suffocates others. All natural elements like Sun, Ocean confine to their own boundaries, in spite of being so potent and powerful. If they cross calamities can happen.”

I received these above reflections from my mother on reading my recent post On Freedom

This is an important aspect of freedom which is about respect for edges and spaces. Knowing your edges… is knowing your freedom ends at the tip of your fingers and toes. So honour your personal space… Beyond that there are boundaries to be respected.

On respecting another’s personal space

The term ā€œpersonal spaceā€ generally refers to the physical distance between two people in a social, family, or work environment. Think of your personal space as the air between your body and an invisible shield, or bubble, you have formed around yourself for any relationship.

Respect for personal space is an important life skill .
Although there are different norms in different cultures across the world . Any invasion of personal space is considered a threat to the freedom of the individual all over the world.

Dancing and Personal Space.

Speaking of partner dancing… in certain dances there are rules for a professional distance to be maintained between dancers so that they wont get in each others way, which technically makes perfect sense.

But rules are often broken and unfortunately that is also the reason where you feel uncomfortable dancing with some people over others.
The best connection amongst dancers are in those that respect the partnership and maintain the personal space in between as it helps them manuvere moves with ease.
Yet in life we often see people blatantly trampling on each others personal spaces.
Not only is it too close for comfort it is also an invasion of privacy and threatening in nature.

A few tips on respecting personal spaces.

Every person has different standards of physical and social contact . Some people run the risk of offending others as they have a pesky habit of touching or tapping people as they converse … it truly can be very irritating and in many cultures around the world it is considered rude and ill mannered. It is wise to avoid touching anyone you donā€™t know.

Always enter a room or office by knocking first. Respect anothers privacy as much as you would like another to respect your own.

Acknowledge others personal space on the road or in public spaces.While travelling make sure to keep your edges with you. Avoid flaying and flinging arms too much as you walk for it can get in anothers way.

It is rude to fling your arm around someoneā€™s shoulder or slap anyone on the back unless you know the person very well. Overt display of affection can be irritating as not everyone is comfortable with the physical touch.

It is good to understand every parent looks at parenting differently. Some think their infants can contract germs if touched by strangers. So avoid cuddling or fondling others children.

It is also important to speak to and show children how to protect their boundaries and respect the personal space of others.

Be close enough to hear and speak without whispering or shouting.While standing stay at least 4 feet away from a person unless you know him or her well. Avoiding treading on someone’s pathway.

At times invariably people get too close for comfort . Take note of cues.When someone leans away from you, you are probably in that personā€™s space that makes him or her uncomfortable. Take a step back.

If you walk into a cinema or theater that isnā€™t crowded, leave an extra seat between you and the next person. However, it is alright to sit next to someone if the room is crowded.

Often in situations of extreme eagerness to communicate with another boundaries are crossed. Avoid leaning over someone elseā€™s shoulder to read something unless invited. It is probably done in a harmless way Yet it almost amounts to taking another for granted.

It is truly bad manners to go through anyone elseā€™s personal belongings. Never do so! And never encourage such kind of behaviour in children or adults.
Many years ago I remember an incident where one of our family friend’s young daughter had picked up a habit of checking out handbags of their guests in front of them even as they were all together sitting, engaged in a conversation. Often it is necesssary for parents to stop their children right then and there instead of encouraging it by saying my child is simply curious and loves to play with new bags . It was a difficult situation to handle as no one would like it if someone went through their handbags even if it was a child.

Check if you can take your pets along while visiting friends houses. While you may see no reason to… it is prudent to do so as…your pets are pets only for you! It is necessary to remember not everyone is a pet owner and all do not feel likewise or can tolerate every thinÄ£ in the name of pets.
Your pet and its care is truly your own buisness.

It is wrong to cut in front of people in line.Patience is a great virtue. Respect queues. Respect system. Respect space.

Savvy


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Reach out…

Stretch your self…

to reach out…

a little more everyday šŸ™‚

Some day you will be thankful

How far you have reached!

Every moment is an opportunity

To reach out and grow

Evolve for the better

Be open to the unfolding life

Strech yourself a little more every day…

To accommodate

To acknowledge

To accept

You will find your strength

In flexibility

In adaptability

In your vulnerability

You will find new frontiers

That you paved along the way.

Trust yourself a little more

There is so much out there

If you are willing to see and learn

Reach out & truly care to share

The simple joys of being alive.

Savvy