Your yesterday may have seemed very tough Your entire body may have taken a toll Your head and heart may have felt heavy Your eyes may have welled up in tears Your emotions choking you Your breathing may have been constricted Your muscles may have felt tight. Your steps laboured and dragging Perhaps a sense of resignment may have reigned all through the day…
Yes it may have been more than you could handle But handle you did For you are alive and kicking. Today your heart is lighter And you are breathing easy With a song on your lips And a dance in your steps Your body willing And in enthusiastic spirit Looking forward to another day To put in your very best And make it another great day!
The question is then, what is happening in you, one moment to another And what are you doing to alter the effects of the moment. And what actually alters everything. Simply put, your own thoughts And the power of your choice Choosing one thought over the other.
Trust life to show many colours every day but know you have the choice in how you choose see and perceive it.
Every day can be good or bad day… But it’s in the way you chose see it… That changes the day!
Continuing in a series on Life and Living … The subject of Beauty brings to mind its paradox As mentioned in my last article I would like to reflect on this with my readers and fellow writers and work in collaboration towards a certain consensus if attainable .
Here is a beautiful reflection of the thoughts of this reader who starts by visualizing in the vebalisation of the beauty in the elemental awareness of nature and culminates her standpoint in the beauty of nurture…
Of a mother and child and the beauty in a loving heart.
Thank you to my dear mother Anjana for your exemplary examples. Rest assured I certainly will be reading these lines often.
“Anything that pleases the eye is beautiful..How much exquisite or breath-taking the physical beauty may be… it’s just skin deep. Beyond that all is same.
A wise soul has this awareness. Though the elements may be the same, their arrangement makes the difference. But there is beauty in the wilderness too.
The dancing flames of fire, the eruptive flowing and glowing lava of the volcono, the blowing sand making patterns on the sands of deserts, the mystery that lies in the underground caves, in the depths of the oceans, in the vast space that surround us , there is beauty in everything. A thing of beauty is a joy for ever.
Above all beauty has a connection with love in the heart. Even the so assumed ugliest child looks beautiful to it’s mother. After all beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. Can anything be more beautiful than a compassionate and kind heart that sees goodness in all.”
The lines above have an sensitive emotive and reflective quality which is engagingly beautiful to me.
There is great wisdom in these two ways to live life lovingly. Both are pathways in the ebb and flow of life.
To see from nothingness Is to see possibilities ahead. To keep hope alive in your heart. Cultivate faith in patience and trust.
To sense gratitude even when you have everything, Is to know that there is much more than what is visible. You are a tiny speck of the magnificent whole. And no life is less or more important. And that every life plays a significant part.
In awareness there is heartfelt thankfulness in contentment for everything you already have.
As you cultivate these habits every day becomes incrementally better. Or perhaps you begin to understand gradually, the power of managing change rests within you. Stay patient Trust yourself. In thankfulness See the light You actually are.
An artist may give a shape to thoughts, its destiny is the result of the bubbles of thoughts in the connected flow.
Creativity is in each of us. We are blessed with much we are yet to understand.
Often we neglect the creative side in each of us and don’t find ourselves expressing it away, but tapping into it can open portals of yet unknown possibilities in each of us. And most of all gives us the courage to explore and embrace the unknown.
Sharing Words of wisdom … from my mother Anjana Radha… A beautiful thought for the day 🙂
‘The “Now” is a dot. in the line – of life. Without touching the dot we cannot connect the past to the future. Just Be in the Now to witness a beautiful connection.The NOW is always present . Like so many dots form a line so many’ Now’s shape life to a beautiful past and a hopeful future. Our conscious awareness gives it meaning and purpose.’ Enjoy the moment:)
Every one faces difficult people in their lives. And for some like service sectors, coaches, consultants and medics, their job has many moments of handling difficult people and tricky situations as well.
There are many types of difficult people
Like the pessimistic ones who always find what won’t work first for anything new. They have nothing positive to say or share. But always play the devils advocate.
Handling them can be extremely difficult in front of a team full of people but it is wise to acknowledge them and then reframe their perspectives with a positive positioning and interpretation to turn it around carefully.
Interestingly there are a lot many in the know it all category, with an attitude & arrogance of knowledge & experience to boot.
An effective way to tackle would be to appreciate them but ask them to share the data and facts associated with what they proclaim to ensure authenticity. It is also challenging but necessary to request for humility in these peer to peer conversations.
There are then those who are two sided who say nothing to your face but are habitual complainers. There is a need to understand the origin of of their doubts and worries and where they are coming from in order to work it out thereby creating a safe and secure atmosphere.
“Think of difficult people as sandpaper They may rub you and scratch you painfully but eventually you end up smooth and the sandpaper worn out… stay happy and enjoy life…” raymund salumbides
Difficult people are difficult to handle. But it’s not impossible or something to shy away from. Simply the handling needs discernment and care. And not everyone can handle difficult people. Tact, diplomacy, confidence, clarity of purpose and vision go a long way in handing difficult people and problems.
Great leaders know… It’s about listening, observing identifying and then empowering & developing middle managers to be great leaders of tommorow.
It’s about rewarding people for the right reasons. And understanding what gets people to work together.
And then creating and sustainable atmosphere for them to work well together.
It’s about finding time to understand the context of what is. And being able to not only envision the big picture but also project it with authenticity and powerfully so.
For in the many small moments of the day there appears many random tests for a leader.
Leadership is not about making everyone like each other. But about making them understand that it takes all of them to be a consistent and collaborative team players.
And most of all getting every one knowing why they are there and clarifying in simple words what the organization is trying to do.
There is a beautiful saying that goes…’ It’s not about having a team of stars But about having a star team’
Respect is an understanding Of another life right to be. To express and be acknowledged. Respect is deeply entwined in true humility . To be humble enough to accept that there is always something more to learn. To explore, know & acknowledge.
In my stints, as a Consultant & Mentor I have been privy to many interviews for Senior leadership positions I have noticed often enough that the decline of respect is directly proportional to higher job titles. And so is incline for the need for self respect. Let me explain, in the years of experience garnered over the years often there an increase in self – confidence so much so that the need to be seen as important takes over in conversations.
I witnessed an interview to hire a VP Human Resources by the CEO. The candidate was a lady in her 40s and the CEO interviewing her in his fifties. Age apart the interview exchange veered in the direction of Corporate Culture. In her steering the communication in the direction of her association with brands and people, throwing out top industry names than her personal achievements, she also began calling the CEO by name , without checking if it was fine by him. The fact was 250 employees of the company used to greet & address him respectfully and here this candidate, choose to address him directly by first name without a proper professional salutation ahead of the name.
While it was fine as she didn’t know anything about the culture of the company, it was a sign of lack of acknowledgement by the candidate of the cultural hierarchies and shows the inflexibility and rigidity to align with others. A sign of ego and need for value for self but lack of empathy for another.
So inspite of the candidate ticking other boxes on the requirements list she was rejected. Don’t get me wrong it was not because she did not care for professional salutations but more importantly because it was a sign of defiance to protocol and authority.
A team needs one leader and like too many cooks spoil the broth, too many non compliant leaders will wreck havoc in any organisation. For work is worship as the saying goes…and the ability to respect the work one does and the workplace that is inclusive becomes paramount in list of best work practices.
For even if the candidate had been onboarded the team would eventually sense a lack of cultural fitment in her soon. So no matter the degrees the education in reputed universities, the travel abroad and working in MNCs a simple life’skill of giving due respect wherever necessary is a valuable skill. For no ones loses anything by it. Actually respect given, is trust gained.
After all every part of the world has its unique culture practices, it would be good to be safe than sorry by treading with care & respecting and acknowledging the differences.
After all respect is not taking another for granted.
You must be logged in to post a comment.