How are you in this moment ?
Are you ok?
Every once in a while
Just ask yourself these simple questions.
And let yourself answer
As the thoughts flow
Jot them down
There is much healing
In the journaling of thoughts
In expressing your feelings
On paper or to another
In simply voicing it out
Giving a path to let the steam off.
Build yourself up with care
Connect with a deeper breath
And listen keen as you exhale.
As you externalize, you create space
And understand yourself more.
Savvy
Our body is a field of energy
Feed it well
Move with the energy
Make a choice
Eat with joy
With a purpose
To be aligned
To your best self.
Tune in to trust your being
And you will find yourself
Living in rhythm.
Savvy
So many masters with ideas…
Many motivating words around
On how to ace productivity
On how to get things done
And manage the chaos that reigns
When push comes to shove
Every thing takes a backseat
You simply need to steer
Racing against time for dear life
In the toughest times
Good habits come to rescue
Like discipline and dedication
Helps complete tasks at hand.
How have your habits helped rescue you ?
Savvy
On Analysis Paralysis
Some of the common Symptoms: Overthinking ,lack of focus, Stress ,Frustration, Racing thoughts .Indecisiveness in high pressure situations, Cognitive confusion. Tiredness Sleeplessness etc.
If you are feeling caught
In a swirl of thoughts & emotions
As if you are being engulfed
In a whirlwind of overthinking…
Perhaps about family & relationships
Or your career or finances etc
Where you feel stuck in a loop
Unable to take a decision
Or move forward with a solution.
It could be Analysis Paralysis.
While anyone of us may have experienced it, people with inflexible and fixed mindset often find themselves in this dilemma.
On the other hand people who are sensitive and empathy also find themselves unable to take a decision to move forward if it is going to upset another .
In fact Analysis Paralysis can create blockages for intuitive people and hence they need to understand it to address it.
If you are experiencing it now here are few solutions to manage it.
Sometimes a little pause or silence
Sometimes a little break from monotony
Can be a gamechanger
In the rut of routine
To unshackle the soul
And set the spirit free to imagine
And spark the creative fire within…
Wouldn’t you agree?
And I suppose how much of it all, is an answer each knows… in the journey of becoming.
In our life
There are all kinds of times
Life can seem unforgettable
With myriad memories…
All is transient
Sometimes it seems unforgivable
And yet…
When you don’t feel like forgiving
You give yourself the choice
For you can choose to forgive
If you do so…
Your life also evolves for the better
Choose to let go the unpleasant
For it makes no sense to hold on.
Change awaits to make a positive difference.
Choose well and in time.
Savvy
A beautiful read this morning came my way through a social media forward from my mother.
It’s truly meaningful.
The Final Whistle…
I was watching a local football match on a school ground.
I asked a boy sitting nearby, “What’s the score of your team?”
With a smile, the boy replied, “We are at 0, the opponents are at 3.”
I said, “Don’t lose hope, young man.”
The boy looked at me with a puzzled expression, as if questioning my understanding of his determination.
He then gave me a profound response:
“Why should I lose hope, uncle, when the referee hasn’t blown the final whistle yet?”
“I trust my team and my coach completely.”
“We will definitely win,” he said confidently and continued watching the game.
To my amazement, the match ended 5-4 in favor of the boy’s team.
As the victory was announced, the boy waved enthusiastically at me and left with a bright smile.
I was astonished, struck by his unwavering belief and confidence. His faith was so beautiful, so deep, it left me contemplating.
That night, as I returned home, his question kept resonating in my mind:
“Why should I lose hope when the final whistle hasn’t been blown?”
Life is like a game…
While we are still in it, why do we give up so often?
When our final whistle hasn’t sounded, why should we despair?
The truth is, many of us blow our own whistle prematurely.
We leave the field before the game is over.
But as long as life is with us, nothing is impossible.
Whether our time is half over, three-quarters over, or just beginning, that doesn’t matter.
What matters is that we don’t blow the whistle on ourselves before the time is up.
The referee of our game is God.
Have faith in Him and in yourself.
So, let’s remember that the final whistle hasn’t sounded yet,
and let’s enjoy every moment of life like an exciting game!
Life is now.
Question your emotion.
Every emotion you are feeling has a connection to an experience.
Here is a little exercise that can help you understand your emotions and feelings as well as shift perspectives to positive thinking.
As and when, you observe your emotions, ask yourself a few questions. And as the answers come to you, write it down in your own words.
Fear : A base instinct that sometimes gets the better of us and makes living difficult.
Ask yourself, what is this fear?
Then ask yourself, what can I do to get to step beyond this fear?
And how can I address this objectively? Write it down.
Shame : Question yourself why and where did you feel inadequate in meeting set expectations?
Then ask who has set the expectations and work how you can grow beyond this limiting experience in expectation.
Guilt : Ask yourself if you have inner conflicts of values that’s bothering you. Your guilt trips are often deeply connected to your actions that crossed over your ingrained values. Reflect on on understanding yourself.
Sadness : Often sadness has an unfulfilled expectation or loss attached. Question what they are and then work on inculcating a regular practice of journalling your feelings. Additionally find a way to connect with dear caring friend with a listening attitude and share from your heart. It helps.
Anxiety : Question the self to check if what makes you anxious is within your line of control. It will clarify whether worrying helps at all…and helps you attend to that which you can do something about
Envy : Going green with envy is all about your unmet goals or aspirations and unfulfilled desires. Question your self , can I make this envy work for me to acheive my personal goals. Can my envy motivate me instead .Refraining helps .
Frustration Question what do I can so deeply about that I feel this way.
What will I stand to lose and how can I go about future proofing or safeguarding it in my capacity for it .
Anger : Questioning the root cause of anger will often throw light on an invasion of personal space imagined or real.
Objective reflection helps understand what boundaries have been encroached or eroded upon.
The shift of perspectives through self reflection, gives you a moment of clarity . It makes you sense possibilities beyond the obvious. This shift of thinking bridges gaps between different cultures, generations, creates openness, restores relationships and renews hope if you care. For you begin to reframe and understand emotions and able to manage it better.
Savvy Raj
A Painting by Savvy Raj
Titled: Transcendence http://www.savvyraj.com
On Coaches & Coaching
At times just when a coach knows it’s progress the client wants to give up.
They may feel the changes are not enough or there may be other personal factors that may be inhibiting their success. It is important to acknowledge their emotions at the moment and celebrate small wins precisely showing how far they have come. As a coach being empathic & encouraging while being flexible and adaptable as you adjust strategies for the way forward aids and facilitates progress.
Often clients face doubt and overwhelm at some point or the other. It is important then to remind them of their why and guide them to stay on course.
Your thoughts are welcome.
©Savvy Raj
Sit down with your feelings
Like a good friend
Listen to it to understand
What it conveys to you
It works out for you.
Your emotions are not your enemy
They are your vent
They are your support systems
For the body to feel at ease
Be a good friend to you
And your emotions will thank you
As you thank them.
©Savvy Raj
Trustful Mentorship
The dynamics of mentor mentee relationship is one of trust and confidence.
Building trustful mentorship requires genuine love to help guide people for the better.
Besides the required skills and expertise, mentors having an inclusive, expansive and holistic approach while helping unique pathways for clients, adds to their repertoire to create trustful mentorship .
Clarity and integrity in communication & behaviour , excellent interpersonal skills and empathic attitude add value beyond the experience and expertise of the mentors.
It is important to acknowledge the influence a mentor can have on the mentees decisions be it at work or personal life.
Hence, a good understanding of ethics while handling conflicting opinions biases, & emotional triggers helps empower the mentee than exploit them.
After all, a mentor is someone who guides advice and supports along the way…
©Savvy Raj
(A bit more from my writings On Mentoring)
A story share
A young girl was studying in a school.
She hadn’t been to school for four days because she was not feeling well.
When she went back to school, there were a lot of lessons taught.
To catch up on the lessons, she asked her best friend for her notes.
But her friend refused to give her the notes, saying she had to study them that evening.
Feeling dejected, she couldn’t get the notes copied.
Another girl came to her aid and gave her the notes, helping her out.
The girl was heartbroken that her best friend didn’t help her. She remembered all the times she had given chocolates and colored pencils to her friend.
Reflecting on this, she felt extremely sad and cried, becoming obsessed with the thought.
“Obsessed” means thinking about something repeatedly. She couldn’t stop thinking about her friend not giving her the notes.
She couldn’t eat lunch properly, came home, and sat quietly.
She couldn’t talk properly, watch TV, or laugh. She couldn’t sleep that night, thinking about it all the time. The next day was a school holiday, but she couldn’t enjoy it.
That day, her family went to a park. Her father put her on a swing and started pushing her. The swing went higher and higher, making her happy. She screamed joyfully, asking her dad not to push too hard. Her dad kept pushing, and after half an hour on the swing, she got down and played more games.
She forgot her anger and sadness towards her friend, feeling at peace.
That night, while sleeping, she reflected on the following points:
Point 1: It was wrong of her friend not to give her the notes. Why should she lose her happiness, appetite, and laughter over it?
Point 2: Maybe her friend genuinely needed to study and couldn’t give her the notes.
Point 3: Being angry at her friend made her distance herself from her loving parents.
Point 4: Constantly thinking about anger and irritation towards someone is torturous. It prevents us from doing anything else.
Point 5: Why didn’t she try to forget her anger for even five minutes? She felt excited while on the swing and forgot her anger. Why didn’t she think about getting out of the problem?
Reflecting on these points, she reached a conclusion.
Thinking negatively about anyone all the time will prevent you from being at peace. It drains our energy and makes us unable to enjoy life. Therefore, she decided to stay friendly and cheerful.
She woke up energetically,
greeted her parents,
took a bath and wore her uniform,
ate her breakfast, packed her bag,
and as she stepped out, sunlight shone on her face.
Her face looked brighter and more beautiful in the sunlight.
When our thoughts are good, our actions will be good. When our actions are good, our life will be good.
A tamil story translated by AI
Empathy & Leadership
Empathic leaders find it easier to understand the challenges of their teams but they also need to be empathic to themselves to avoid burnout and manage their lives.
Stress Management for Leaders
If you are feeling stress beyond a level you can handle as a leader you need to introspect.
There could be many factors that build up the stress often without your own knowing. It can happen to anyone after all we are only human. And it would be good to acknowledge the importance of work life balance and self care.
Are you biting more than you can chew? To manage work stress as a leader, while delegating work check, if you are delegating tasks with clarity to the team.
Are you approachable and exercising patience in communication?
Are you checking if they have understood your requirements?
Are your mails, messages and your attitude, building people up?
Remember the way you chose to behave rubs off on people. While it’s only human to err and there could be good & bad days, being a leader is a responsiblity. For you have the power to influence and impact lives.
Likewise your actions beliefs and behaviour can affect your own health. Hence managing your own stressors empathically become paramount as a leader to get work done.
Every now and then tweaking your own approach, to the changing needs, being flexible and adaptable helps you and your team towards reducing work stress.
©Savvy Raj
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