To all those who seek perfection in every little thing that they sometimes drive themselves and others crazy. Ease in and let go for a bit, see others as they are , not as you want them to be. We are all vulnerable beings. We are humans after all, let us be supportive and celebrate the power of humanity to overcome challenges that appear along the way. We are powerful in acknowledging our respective situation from where we are and working amicably towards finding resolutions. After all besides every thing else,the world needs humanity to overcome the challenges of being human.
As humans we are always exploring and discovering possibilities. Sometimes we understand much in no time, and take the right steps, and at other times we mis the bus.
Acknowledge the wins & the misses.
Every step missed is brimming with a lesson.
If we choose to pay attention every failure teaches us something.
On where we want to be,
On how far we are, from where we want to go.
Question is are we ready to acknowledge failure as a part of the learning process?
Every success can be attributed to the many experiences that may have had many lessons and the effort taken to succeed.
And if there is propensity and determination to take the effort, there are many pathways that lead us beyond failure.
I like this saying by Mary Ash, I came across recently which presents a fresh perspective on failure.
‘For every failure, there’s an alternative course of action. You just have to find it. When you come to a roadblock, take a detour.’
Here are six things you can do for balancing your emotions and feeling better.
1.Become Aware that you are reacting than responding in your anger is the first step
2.Counting backwards from 20 to 1.
3. Removing yourself from the place you are feeling angry even for a short while by going for a short walk helps settle your emotions.
4. Switch words is a technique to use feeling oriented words to create powerful change of emotions with imagery to manage anger.
For example a positive word like Happy can evoke different feelings.
Or words like ‘take it easy ‘can evoke a sense of ease.
5. Better still is taking to chanting mantras, or hearing your favorite upbeat music , or even Journaling.
6. If nothing else imagining ocean tides in a flow and breathing deeply, in and out even for a few minutes eases the tense body & mind.
Remember to acknowledge your emotions as there is more harm in suppression. As you find healthy pathways to manage your anger, you bring wellbeing into your life
In the course of my career over the years handling teams of various departments, people management became my forte while experiencing many instances which needed agility in communication.
Here are few pointers…
If you can help it thoroughly prepare yourself with research so that you are prepared to handle any objections well.
Try to choose when and where to have a difficult conversation.
Always start with a positive mindset and speak with concern without blaming .
Make sure you are clear about what you want to communicate. And deliver your stance clearly without any ambiguity.
Speak in the right tone as per the situation.
Listen actively well to acknowledge emotions and understand so you can respond than react.
If there is too much tension or another impasse it is alright to pause, take a short timely break to diffuse tension and then recoup
Be focussed on what you wish to communicate and steer the conversation if it veers off topic.
Be open to alternatives and perspectives and see if you can find common ground to stay flexible to foster collaboration.
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