Dreams are the guiding words of the soul. Why should I henceforth not love my dreams and not make their riddling images into objects of my daily consideration.’
What is the highest form of sportsmanship in a race? Runner #Ivan showed the world.
Kenyan runner Abel Mutai was a few meters away from the finish line but got confused by the track markings and thought he had completed the race. Spanish-speaking Ivan Fernandez was running behind him and realized that Abel was confused. Ivan started shouting at Abel to continue running, but Abel didn’t understand Spanish. Realizing that Abel didn’t understand, Fernandez pushed him towards the finish line.
A reporter who witnessed this asked Ivan, “Why did you do this?” Ivan replied, “My dream is that one day we can have a society where we push and help each other to win.”
The reporter pressed on, “But why did you let Kenya win?”
Ivan replied, “I didn’t let him win; he was going to win. The race was his.”
The reporter insisted, “But you could have won!”
Ivan looked at the reporter and said, “But what would be the merit of my victory? What would be the honor of this medal? What would my mother think of it?”
Values are passed from generation to generation. What values are we teaching our children? How much do we encourage others?
Most of us use others’ weaknesses to our advantage instead of helping them overcome those weaknesses. Ivan is a perfect example of how wrong this is.
How many of us align with Ivan’s actions?
In school and college life, when discussing competition, our son often asked questions like Ivan’s. Today, we learned a valuable lesson from an Olympic runner for our son’s questions.
Thank you, Ivan…
Thanks to Vignesh Janarthanan’s Facebook post
A wonderful share to motivate good values & goodwill in action.
In a group setting as a life coach it is important to balance power dynamics.
It is important to create a space of mutual respect and understanding.
Being inclusive creates an expansion of thoughts and ideas in openness tolerance and acceptance of new possibilities.
In a group setting it is important to hold space by balancing participation through inclusive ways like encouragement appreciation and rewarding contributions. This ensures the power dynamics are kept in check by empathic approach and moderation by allowing space for all to speak up, so as to prevent lopsided conversations.
Have you had any such experience as a team member ?
Do share your experiences of power dynamics at play in group setting.
She hadn’t been to school for four days because she was not feeling well.
When she went back to school, there were a lot of lessons taught.
To catch up on the lessons, she asked her best friend for her notes.
But her friend refused to give her the notes, saying she had to study them that evening.
Feeling dejected, she couldn’t get the notes copied.
Another girl came to her aid and gave her the notes, helping her out.
The girl was heartbroken that her best friend didn’t help her. She remembered all the times she had given chocolates and colored pencils to her friend.
Reflecting on this, she felt extremely sad and cried, becoming obsessed with the thought.
“Obsessed” means thinking about something repeatedly. She couldn’t stop thinking about her friend not giving her the notes.
She couldn’t eat lunch properly, came home, and sat quietly.
She couldn’t talk properly, watch TV, or laugh. She couldn’t sleep that night, thinking about it all the time. The next day was a school holiday, but she couldn’t enjoy it.
That day, her family went to a park. Her father put her on a swing and started pushing her. The swing went higher and higher, making her happy. She screamed joyfully, asking her dad not to push too hard. Her dad kept pushing, and after half an hour on the swing, she got down and played more games.
She forgot her anger and sadness towards her friend, feeling at peace.
That night, while sleeping, she reflected on the following points:
Point 1: It was wrong of her friend not to give her the notes. Why should she lose her happiness, appetite, and laughter over it?
Point 2: Maybe her friend genuinely needed to study and couldn’t give her the notes.
Point 3: Being angry at her friend made her distance herself from her loving parents.
Point 4: Constantly thinking about anger and irritation towards someone is torturous. It prevents us from doing anything else.
Point 5: Why didn’t she try to forget her anger for even five minutes? She felt excited while on the swing and forgot her anger. Why didn’t she think about getting out of the problem?
Reflecting on these points, she reached a conclusion.
Thinking negatively about anyone all the time will prevent you from being at peace. It drains our energy and makes us unable to enjoy life. Therefore, she decided to stay friendly and cheerful.
She woke up energetically, greeted her parents, took a bath and wore her uniform, ate her breakfast, packed her bag, and as she stepped out, sunlight shone on her face.
Her face looked brighter and more beautiful in the sunlight.
When our thoughts are good, our actions will be good. When our actions are good, our life will be good.
Building people up is a skill worth valuing and investing in. For great teams are not formed simply by hiring for roles. A whole lot of nurture and consistent care goes into team building. A strongly motivated & purpose driven team is empowering for any organisation no matter the odds.
Besides all the values and skill training imparted to a team there is one very important team builder that makes all the difference. The power of positive words, used and conveyed by the leaders, the appreciation, that is authentic, genuine hopeful and trustful. This is a game changer that drives home the message that we are together, no matter what.
One kind word changes the trajectory of the day.
Here are a few positive ways to communicate with your team.
Words that share genuine care and support :
How are you doing?
What are your challenges now?
How can I support your growth?
Words that create confidence and empowers:
I believe in you.
I trust your judgment.
Tell me more about what you think we should do?
Words that share appreciation for the effort and encouragement :
This calls for a celebration
Thank you
If you haven’t already do try incorporating these words in your conversations with your team from today and watch the power of these words unfold.
In seeing the sunny side of things than as partly cloudy
The way of seeing is a choice in our hands
Natural involuntary effects
An increase in dopomine
Sense of satisfaction
A boost in sertonin
Feeling of positivity
A practice of seeing all things with a positive attitude makes life more meaningful
Gratitude makes us recognize and value things we already have even more. That is how it brings a sense of abundance.
Seeing the positive side, focusing on the good in life journaling regularly and being thankful
Every day a practice of gratitude could include a variety of things that may feel right to you.
And of course you will have unexpected serendipitous moments that you can’t help feeling grateful for…
Today morning as I stepped to my terrace garden I saw a beautiful squirrel enjoying the food bowl and water bowl I have placed on the ledge there for birds. I watched with joy and happiness as this little guy munched and munched.
Feeling grateful for a great start my day… Feeling thankful the squirrel is feeding. Hope he is able to feed here every day.
Gratefulnness is a beautiful attitude with lasting effects through the day. Cultivate the attitude of Gratitude.
Take some time every day to improve your life with these self care tips…
1: Breathe fresh air and walk every day thinking good thoughts. Every time you become aware of negative self destructive talk, take a good breath to regulate your emotions.
2: Hydrate with plain water, it helps the body and mind stay healthy and balanced. To think well, the right amount of water is a necessity.
3 : Nourish yourself with wholesome food. Choose to eat more plant based food .
4: Create Art, draw, doodle, paint or sculpt or do craft work. Sing a song, hum for a while if you don’t sing, take a step and dance your heart out. Even if it is for a short while, it destresses you.
5: Write write and write some more. Journal your thoughts regularly. It takes the pressure of your mind.Write your everyday thoughts in a journal or post an article or maintain a blog about things you love…
Starting with these five tips can make way for a lighter you.
As a creative writer, I enjoy the juxtaposition of imagination and reality. For life experiences become my muse. But still it is advisable to be savvy when sharing with the world.
Why delegate work, when you can do it on your own. Because it is common sense that with growth, work increases you will need people to get things done. And without trusting people, you cannot build a team that you can trust. A huge part of delegation is about being accountable to get the work done well.
Successful delegation empowers a team. It is about finding the right person or team for the job. Mastering the art of delegation is rewarding in the long term for it develops and builds skills enhances productivity. It validates the values of collaboration and trust to the team hence improves the attitude at work in a team.
Moreover it improves the time management not only for you but for the team and the organisation thereby increasing productivity and this can help find balance in professional work and personal life.
Do you delegate with the right attitude and for the right reasons?
Savvy Raj 
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