As you go through daily life
Just care to remind yourself
That you are being watched over
And cared far.
This simple habit will bring
You immense peaceYou will transmit universal love.
Peace be with you
©Savvy Raj
A reminder
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Life Partners
Life teaches lessons in living
Not all are blessed with knowledge
Of where they are erring…
Most find out much later.
Perhaps that is the difference
Between a life lived
And a life lived well.
©Savvy Raj
Read this poignant life story share.
A GEM BY SAEED JAFFREY
DISCLAIMER: CERTAIN FACTS HERE MAY BE INACCURATE BUT THE ESSENCE OF THE PIECE IS STILL VERY MEANINGFUL ABOUT VALUING PARTNERS.
Saeed Jeffrey divorced Madhur Jaffrey for his second wife Jennifer. But this veteran actor has won the hearts with his heart-wrenching regret.
This came out, a few years after he left this world.
30-Jul-2019
From the diary of Sayed Jaffrey, the famous bollywood character actor:
I was 19 when I was married to Mehrunima who was 17. As I grew up, I was very fascinated by the british culture in colonial India. I learnt to speak English fluently, wear suits with grace, and developed impeccable etiquettes. But Mehrunima grew up to be my complete opposite – homely, a typical housewife. All my advices and admonishments couldn’t change her basic personality – an obedient wife, a doting mother and a good homemaker.
But she was not what I wanted. More I tried to change her, more we drifted apart. Gradually she metamorphosed from a cheerful affectionate young girl into a quiet insecure woman. Meanwhile I started getting attracted to a co-actor of mine who was all what I wanted in my wife.
After 10 years of marriage, l divorced Mehrunima, left my home and married my co- actor. I had ensured financial security of Mehrunima and my kids . For about 6-7 months everything went well. Then I started realising, my new wife was not caring and affectionate. She was only concerned about her beauty, her ambitions, her wants and desires. Sometimes I missed Mehrunima’s caring touch and concern for my welfare.
Life moved on . I and my new wife were 2 persons living in a house, not one soul living in a home. I never went back to find out what happened to Mehrunima and my kids.
After about 6 -7 years of my second marriage, I came across an article on a Madhur Jaffrey, an upcoming famous chef who had recently launched a book of her own recipes. The moment I looked at the picture of the smart elegant lady, I was stunned. It was Mehrunima. But how could it be ??? She had remarried and changed her maiden name too.
I was shooting abroad at that time. She lived in US now. I caught the next flight to US. I inquired about her where abouts and went to meet her. She refused to see me. My daughter who was 14, and son who was 12, told her they wanted to talk to me one last time. Her new husband was by her side. He was also my children’s legal father now.
To this date, I cannot forget what my children told me.
They told me that their new father knows the meaning of true love. He Broke Da Cage of Negativity. He accepted Mehrunima as she was and never tried to change her into what he himself was, because he loves her more than he loves himself. He let her evolve at her own pace and never tried to force his wishes on her. He accepted and enjoyed her person as it was. And she has bloomed into a confident loving affectionate self reliant lady today under her second husband’s selfless love and acceptance.
Where as I was full of selfishness, demands and unacceptance of her persona had crushed her and then in my selfishness had discarded her. Creating a Cage of Negativity.
The Greatest learning of my life-
You don’t change people you love, you love them as they are….
- Sayyed Jaffrey
Puzzles fit in Patience
The journey of creativity
Flourishes in the flow
Out of passionate awareness
Of the spaces between
Light to dark & dark to light.
For in betwixt these hours
Ideas birth & creativity grows.
In passionate perseverance
Puzzles fit in patience.
©Savvy Raj
Sometimes comments by readers become an inspiration for verses in a flow…. This was once such a flow.. I thank @KatieMiaFrederick for the inspiring comment. 🙏
Patience in Perseverance
Sometimes after we have done our very best
We need þatience as much as perseverance
Time heals it all they say
In throes of torment
We need to trust time to pass to a better moment.
We need patience in waiting.
©Savvy Raj
Be light
The day we learn
to be light
live in lightness
not take things so seriously
we truly start living.
After all the sun will rise
& set in its own course,
life will flow in the river of time, why not think of living it
cruising along knowing
nothing lasts forever.
©Savvy Raj
Time has all the answers
Morning Musings
How beautiful it would be
If good deeds prevailed in practice.
If altruistic ways can become a norm
A way of life and living
If healthy collaboration became a driving force.
Yet…
Any change is never easy.
To change anything
It has to permeate the psyche
Of the mind in acceptance.
Then there is transformation.
Nothing lasting happens by force
For force gives way to another mightier force in time
Trust time in patience & perseverance.
Everything happens in time.
Time shows the way
As time has all the answers.
©Savvy Raj
Transform the World
All matter is energy
And we are unique speckles of vibrations.
All resonating in the universality of life and living.
Trust you matter, more than you know
Believe you can and are making a difference
As you connect deeply in the universal flow
Tune in to reflect the truth of your being.
Every word every deed
Every step every move
Impacts the larger whole
Just as much as the world around you.
So start with who and what is around you
Sense your intuitive self talking to you
Telling much in all its subtlety.
Trust it, for it is abound
With the strength of the subtle energies.
Resonate joy, abundance, balance
Resonate love ,harmony and peace
For you have the power to transform your world.
©Savvy Raj
The Power of You
The Power of You
Little do you know of what you truly are…
Infact you are not privy to the powers vested in you.
Your Creator your Source Coder
Manifested you from infinite intelligence.
You have a heart to love and feel
You have the strength of your mind.
You have the power of choice and will
You have ability to visualize your intentions.
You can make your life good and empower others to live well.
Your challenges, your doubts your insecurities,
Are water under the bridge
If you really care to see…
You are more than enough to take on the world.
For you were meant to survive and thrive
Many a solar cycles in your lifetime.
Trust in every cell of your being
You are meant to be
All that you truly can be…
Stay hopeful and empower yourself and others
For hope is here to stay…
Stay on…
And always remember
To acknowledge the’ Power of You’
©Savvy Raj
Reflection: Tool for Personal Growth
As a Freelancer or a Self Employed Individual inspite of the independence and freedom to manage what you choose to do, there are often many challenges that test you on your journey.
Here are a few mindful ways to destress through your challenges using reflection for your personal growth.
Breath: Start the day by find time for your health. You can simply start by observing your breath. Witness it, moving in and out of the body. Sense your own breath. Check the speed and patterns in your breath. Are you breathing fast or slow? Are you able to hear the sounds of your breath? Our breathing sends many signals to us about our health, if we only care to observe.
Meditation. Reflect on your life as you go into a deeper state of being.You can choose your kind of meditation from the many practices of meditation options. Be it breath awareness through deep breathing, or mindful walking meditation or sound meditation. Be fully present in the Now.
Movement : Reflect on the positive ways you can use your body to reset and recharge your self. Choose to take a mindful and conscious walk. Sense everything in and around as you move with self awareness Reflect on your day and observe your thoughts. Many thoughts will vye for your attention. Let them come and go as you witness their unfolding. You will find much inspiration as you go. You will note your state of mind. You will have clarity of your emotional and mental health. You will sense the truths of your life.
Journalling.: Writing your thoughts is a good reflection tool that helps process and synthesise new information and life experiences. In fact it increases creative thinking and problem solving. As you reflect on your reactions and responses you will find greater clarity on your path.
Reading : A beautiful practice for any time that you can be inspired is by inculcating a habit of reading regularly. Choose a good book take time to read. You will find yourself charged with many inspirations to kickstart your day. It can be a contemplative practice for some deep thinking and self introspection and improvement.
Feedback : An opinion of another about you is their assimilated perception that they may voice out to you with or without your asking. Seeking honest feedback from trusted sources can help you course correct yourself. It is how you take the feedbacks you receive and what and how you focus on it that makes all the difference. Be aware that feedback is a valuable tool for self reflection and personal growth.
There are many tools for reflection like the above. However even acknowledging ones feelings and emotions helps in understanding more and managing stressful situations better.
Reflection practices can be inclusive and expansive. Besides silent contemplation and introspection while learning from mistakes, participating in a conversation, be it Group discussions, workshops can be an engaging practice for Self awareness.. They are also opportunities for self growth.
©Savvy Raj
6 Tips on Improving Emotional Health
Emotional Health & Intelligence
Your emotions are your friends. Sometimes you find them at war with each other. They need your understanding. They are your supportive vents of expression to take the pressure off and make you sense the pleasure of life.
Create a beautiful life by improving your emotional health. And develop your emotional intelligence. It helps you identify where your strengths are and where you need to work on.
Emotional intelligence gives you a headstart in managing not just your emotions but also an ability to understand and to even influence anothers emotions.
In leadership roles this gives you an edge in managing people and teams
So how can you begin to improve your Emotional Intelligence?
Start by cultivating empathy for life. See things from anothers perspective. It will increase your understanding and help build strong relationships.
Work on your communication skills by practice of listening actively and respectfully. It can positively impact the way you are perceived.
Practice self awareness to become more mindful of how you feel and how your own emotions affect your thoughts and actions.
Acknowledge stress and balance it well by being active by regularly walking or picking a sport, or even dancing.
Think positively about life by inculcating a positive attitude.
At the same time allow your self to seek feedback to understand where you are doing fine and how to improve further.
Emotions are part of being human. Working on your emotional health and developing your emotional intelligence can be a game changing skill in life.
©Savvy Raj
On Speaking
An essential skill in any job that requires talking & handling people is speaking well and communicating effectively.
Handling challenging questions during a speech can be effectively managed by a few practical and strategic ways using conflict resolution techniques.
Get yourself some time to think by
practicing listening actively when a question comes up and then repeating it in your own words to check if you have clarity on what is asked.
Acknowledge the questions with empathic voice and body language can ease and reduce tensions and help build the flow of communication.
Get yourself back into the arena
by reframing the questions to align with your context.
Using an assertive voice shows command over the context.
Always remembering the goal is not to score a point but or win an argument but to build and sustain a positive and respectful connection.
©Savvy Raj
Footprints
Leave footprints if you must .
On the sands of time in trust
Just remember ….
No footprint is permanent
All is a game
like the tides that tame
even the strongest surfer.
Eternal to all is time and nothing else
And sparking in the cosmos we are all just wayfarers.
Tread softly
Love authentically
Live lovingly
Behave empathically
Speak truthfully
Move consciously
Grow gratefully!
©Savvy Raj
Value Of Mistakes
When we mix little curd, the whole milk become curd which increases its value . We take butter by churning ,which is costlier than milk n curd. When we heat the butter it becomes Ghee (Clarified Butter) which is expensive than milk & curd.
The ordinary milk when curdled, churned n heated, its value increases as Ghee.
Grape juice is not expensive. When fermented it becomes the more expensive wine.
If u make a mistake it doesn’t mean you are bad or useless. Pressures and mistakes make a man better & more experienced.
Colombus made a mistake on his voyage. He lost his way which resulted in the discovery of America.
Alexander Fleming’s mistake resulted in the invention of life saving Penicilin.
Never let ur mistakes make u fall. Your failures will polish you. It helps you identify where you went wrong, which plan failed, which approach becomes wrong.
What we learn from our mistakes, will lead us to the right path, to success.
Translated from tamil by my mother Anjana.
Choose well
Choose well
You are way better, way more,
Than what you think & understand of you.
There is much that only you can choose to do.
Choose to live your life lovingly!
Choose to be purposeful!
Choose empathy than criticism.
Choose self respect and freedom to be.
The faster you understand yourself And accept being who you truly are,
And choose to better yourself to be the best version of yourself…
The closer you are to being truly happy!
©Savvy Raj
Why I write…
I write when I am charged with an idea an inspiration. Or perhaps when there is nothing else to do.
I write to balance my emotions whenever it needs equilibrium.
I write to flow with the moment with a thought that aligns, as it calls on me and as I write, at times emerges into a pattern, in prose or verse.
I write to understand better when thoughts overpower…overstimulate the mind.
I write to let go and send out all that comes to my mind which I feel and hope can make a positive difference, somewhere to someone reading me.
I write at times in deliberation too to process and synthesise new understandings.
I write to unshackle from the many convictions I may unknowingly hold. As I write they break loose from restrictive spaces and help to align my thoughts in the sifting.
I write to express the bounties of life that I’m blessed to enjoy in gratitude.
I write to sense the bliss of being… with all of me in the moment.
I write to express myself my way.
What makes you write?
©Savvy Raj
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