A few practical coaching tools for Self confidence.
Transform self belief. Help the client identify what’s holding them back and to constructively transform the inner dialogue with positive words and affirmations.
Cultivate compassion Nurturing the self in kindness and cultivating compassion fosters resilience and self worth.
Journaling,meditation,walking in reflection and exercising for better health is a way of acknowledging ones life.
Helping the client to improve from where they are without comparing with anothers journey is helpful in recognising their own accomplishments.
Building a circle of positive people who are supportive and encouraging because they believe in them , increases their self confidence.
When we mix little curd, the whole milk become curd which increases its value . We take butter by churning ,which is costlier than milk n curd. When we heat the butter it becomes Ghee (Clarified Butter) which is expensive than milk & curd.
The ordinary milk when curdled, churned n heated, its value increases as Ghee.
Grape juice is not expensive. When fermented it becomes the more expensive wine.
If u make a mistake it doesn’t mean you are bad or useless. Pressures and mistakes make a man better & more experienced.
Colombus made a mistake on his voyage. He lost his way which resulted in the discovery of America. Alexander Fleming’s mistake resulted in the invention of life saving Penicilin.
Never let ur mistakes make u fall. Your failures will polish you. It helps you identify where you went wrong, which plan failed, which approach becomes wrong.
What we learn from our mistakes, will lead us to the right path, to success.
A young entrepreneur I know, just does not seem to have the time or patience to listen to the employees. She says how can she find time to run the company if she has to hear them all…
Well it’s actually valid as her company has more than hundreds of people.
I have had many things to say about the issues, worries and problems that are of concern, but as her friend and confidante too, it is somewhat very challenging to get the messages across all the time.
Here I share a few of my observations as suggestions that may work for holistic development of any organisation.
It is very important…
To know your circle of people.
Those who work with you
Those who work for you.
To show genuine care & understanding.
Genuine appreciation and acknowledging people for their work without favouritism makes a huge difference.
In return
You as a leader understand much more
Of what motivates them
Or challenges them
And you begin to create
Possible ways to make a meaningful difference
And grow together.
And if by chance you sense a lack of common purpose
You know you need to be ready to draw a line,
And let them go, if need be.
But all the same it’s important to be aware of, and connect with your circle of people well.
Light is only light as long as you can see it. Else there at most the anticipation of light. What you see as light Is your choice For it is your point of view
But if light is a sense Of the tingling warmth Or scorching heat Or the tenderness of touch Light is sensed in its glow Then light is a feeling In the sensing Of its so called attributes Associated by you. Then it’s your point of sense
What you see What you feel What you sense Is a dance of illusions Of the perception All within you!
So is light light? And is dark dark at all? It is all in you!
Freeing the body Is to move without fear Freeing the mind Is to move beyond doubts Freeing the heart Is to hope beyond despair Freeing the spirit Is to sense the light in every now Freeing the soul Is to align to the purpose of being. To find the flow To free up space within Is to let go resentment Of trials and errors Of judgements and assumptions Freeing your breath Is to sense life dance In this now.
As a life coach my experiences over the years with my clients comes with many learnings. As each life is unique and so are their circumstances. To get any further into coaching it’s important to understand where they are and for them to acknowledge it
Creating a safe space is a prerequisite.
There is a simple yet empowering and activity that can be used… Its called ‘What makes my heart sing? It is a powerful exploration into what brings them joy and fulfilment, it helps create safe and supportive and active listening space by building trust It’s quite simple to facilitate Begin with introduction to explain the activity. Ask them to reflect on life moments, they felt in a flow state or felt truly alive_and iovful.
Then as a life coach you help facilitate how these experiences are interconnected to their values and discuss how they can begin to incorporate more of this into their lives And finally also help them create an action plan towards the same.
Thoughts, make an impactful difference. Choosing to think positively makes dealing with transitions, and adapting to the changes easier If you experience unexpected challenging changes in your career. It’s good to acknowledge three things One, that it is a new opportunity for new learnings Welcome the possibilities. Two, you can begin to apply your unique combination of skills and knowledge from your previous experiences and bring a fresh perspective wherever you are. Explore your potential.
Three, that if things seem difficult at first, you are paving the road to resilience. Keep the faith and stay patient .Times change. Persevere When you think of life in plusses, every turn becomes a beautiful path..
A writers soul emerges through the words written . A painters soul emanates from between the colours in the canvas The potters soul is afire in the fingers shaping the clay. The singers soul breathes in the sounds created by the voice. The dancers soul flows through in every movement in the moments.
The Soul is a restless wanderer It breathes free not in captivity, But in every movement of creation. It cannot be fathomed or even sensed Other than in the light of passion in the being. For then the soul shines in its own light For it has found its purpose of being.
You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you, And making you Spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee? You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea. The point is whatever is inside the cup, is what will spill out. Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you (which will happen), whatever is inside you will come out. It’s easy to fake it, until you get rattled. So, we have to ask ourselves, “What’s my cup?”
When life gets tough, what spills out? Joy, gratefulness, peace and humility? Or does anger, bitterness, harsh words and reactions come out?
You choose! Today let’s work towards filling our cups with gratitude, forgiveness, joy, words of affirmation, kindness gentleness and love for others.
Good Reminder for one and all. In making conscious choices. Filling my cup with gratitude Sensing joy and love Choosing forgiveness Expressions in gentleness And affirming in kindness For my choices matter... To me & the world around me. Savvy
Sometimes life makes you teach yourself many things…
Giving the benefit of doubt
There are many crossroads in life be it in a career with any organisation or in partnerships, or even personally between people or teams, where point of views are different and clash of perspectives on decisions are bound to occur.
Can you agree to disagree?
For most, it is challenging as its not always easy to come to terms with what affects you or makes you emotional. Yet learning ways to give the benefit of doubt, calls for development of strategic skills.
It is important to process any conflict of interest, you may have with others , first with your own self.
Check if you can find the root of your disagreement with a particular decision.
What is it that you are not aligned with?
Why are you feeling this way?
Empathic Perspectives
Then begin to imagine if you are able to bring empathy by setting aside your feelings on what you are yet unable to accept and think from the other persons perspective, does the view alter then? Does it change your thoughts a bit?
If you can alternatively, also think if you choose to agree, in the larger interest, does it benefit or can it make your team bond together.
Let’s also not discount the possibility of you having less information about the reasons for any decision taken.
Ultimately, whatever way you chose to think or act is your choice to take. But sometimes when it may seem impossible to make sense of things do remember, there is always more than what meets the eye!
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