If you feel like there is a setback
It is for you to understand
That growth is right behind
Rewarding you for your patience.
When you are challenged
You are learning from life…
After all life is the great teacher.
©Savvy Raj
Life the great teacher
Category Archives: life education
Reflection: Tool for Personal Growth
As a Freelancer or a Self Employed Individual inspite of the independence and freedom to manage what you choose to do, there are often many challenges that test you on your journey.
Here are a few mindful ways to destress through your challenges using reflection for your personal growth.
Breath: Start the day by find time for your health. You can simply start by observing your breath. Witness it, moving in and out of the body. Sense your own breath. Check the speed and patterns in your breath. Are you breathing fast or slow? Are you able to hear the sounds of your breath? Our breathing sends many signals to us about our health, if we only care to observe.
Meditation. Reflect on your life as you go into a deeper state of being.You can choose your kind of meditation from the many practices of meditation options. Be it breath awareness through deep breathing, or mindful walking meditation or sound meditation. Be fully present in the Now.
Movement : Reflect on the positive ways you can use your body to reset and recharge your self. Choose to take a mindful and conscious walk. Sense everything in and around as you move with self awareness Reflect on your day and observe your thoughts. Many thoughts will vye for your attention. Let them come and go as you witness their unfolding. You will find much inspiration as you go. You will note your state of mind. You will have clarity of your emotional and mental health. You will sense the truths of your life.
Journalling.: Writing your thoughts is a good reflection tool that helps process and synthesise new information and life experiences. In fact it increases creative thinking and problem solving. As you reflect on your reactions and responses you will find greater clarity on your path.
Reading : A beautiful practice for any time that you can be inspired is by inculcating a habit of reading regularly. Choose a good book take time to read. You will find yourself charged with many inspirations to kickstart your day. It can be a contemplative practice for some deep thinking and self introspection and improvement.
Feedback : An opinion of another about you is their assimilated perception that they may voice out to you with or without your asking. Seeking honest feedback from trusted sources can help you course correct yourself. It is how you take the feedbacks you receive and what and how you focus on it that makes all the difference. Be aware that feedback is a valuable tool for self reflection and personal growth.
There are many tools for reflection like the above. However even acknowledging ones feelings and emotions helps in understanding more and managing stressful situations better.
Reflection practices can be inclusive and expansive. Besides silent contemplation and introspection while learning from mistakes, participating in a conversation, be it Group discussions, workshops can be an engaging practice for Self awareness.. They are also opportunities for self growth.
©Savvy Raj
Your life your way
What is your lifestyle in this moment?
Are you listening to your body and what it is telling you?
Do you find time to invest in yourself?
Are you on your priority list?
Do you have a habit of putting others happiness and health ahead of yours?
Do you accommodate for everything and are perhaps less assertive and over tolerant?
The truth is you can never give from an empty vessel. Creating a beautiful life that you love is as important as for others. If there are gaps in your vessel of life,what will you share from?
Creating your own well-being in life is a responsiblity to yourself.
Ultimately it’s all about finding time to find yourself your way!
©Savvy Raj
Sustain yourself
How much of you do you give in any relationship?
Today I am sharing a thought Provoker. This came as a social media forward. But it was thought worthy and I do have a few questions as well.
Speaking of relationships, have you felt drained out beyond compare?
Instead of feeling energetic after an interaction or a conversation, have you felt like when will it end?
When was the last time you felt a little too empty?
Do you stop giving, if you feel it is an unequal relationship and you feel pulled from all directions or due to habit or situation you continue to give as you do?
If you are a giver by nature, can you actually stop yourself at all?
It’s truly important to acknowledge your emotions and feelings. It helps to know your energy shifts.
A Stringed Existence
There is a lot of inextricable strings of emotions linked to relationships but if you are constantly feeling drained out and exhausted when with certain people, perhaps you need to check if you have over invested yourself. Be it in career as a workaholic or in family where your sense of self is feeling lost.
You have one life & it is your life…
Pause and take a breather and set yourself back on course.
While there are many kinds of people you meet. And it is really OK to be extra helpful, and give the best you can. In fact it energizes abundance to manifest in life… For when you give from a spring well of kindness, nature sets in motion, a share of kindness back to you in its own time.
Yet like many are energy givers, there are many energy takers. Often unknown to themselves they behave in a way that saps anothers energy when they are around you.
Do remember who ever you are with… Giving more or less will not have value. For less is not fulfilling and more is just excess and will never be utilised. But will certainly tilt your balance for sure.
In your actions too, exercise this wisdom and you will find yourself in a good space.
And most of all…
Choose your tribe well. It makes all the difference.
©Savvy Raj
Boosting Self confidence
A few practical coaching tools for Self confidence.
Transform self belief.
Help the client identify what’s holding them back and to constructively transform the inner dialogue with positive words and affirmations.
Cultivate compassion
Nurturing the self in kindness and cultivating compassion fosters resilience and self worth.
Journaling,meditation,walking in reflection and exercising for better health is a way of acknowledging ones life.
Helping the client to improve from where they are without comparing with anothers journey is helpful in recognising their own accomplishments.
Building a circle of positive people who are supportive and encouraging because they believe in them , increases their self confidence.
©Savvy Raj
Value Of Mistakes
When we mix little curd, the whole milk become curd which increases its value . We take butter by churning ,which is costlier than milk n curd. When we heat the butter it becomes Ghee (Clarified Butter) which is expensive than milk & curd.
The ordinary milk when curdled, churned n heated, its value increases as Ghee.
Grape juice is not expensive. When fermented it becomes the more expensive wine.
If u make a mistake it doesn’t mean you are bad or useless. Pressures and mistakes make a man better & more experienced.
Colombus made a mistake on his voyage. He lost his way which resulted in the discovery of America.
Alexander Fleming’s mistake resulted in the invention of life saving Penicilin.
Never let ur mistakes make u fall. Your failures will polish you. It helps you identify where you went wrong, which plan failed, which approach becomes wrong.
What we learn from our mistakes, will lead us to the right path, to success.
Translated from tamil by my mother Anjana.
Action Matters
A simple kind act matters more than you can imagine. Sending ripples of kindness in the very deed…
Here are few ways to do something about it today
Share a heartfelt smile 😊
Speak kindly all through the day
Give something with all of your heart without any expectation of return
Let go and forgive an issue you held in your heart.
Teach something you know very well, to someone who needs it.
Donate a book, toy to a child.
Volunteer to help,someone today out of turn.
And last but not the least, remember to be kind to your own self.
Your one gesture may start a springwell of kind acts….
Very few contemplate on kindness as in having & sharing kindness. The truth is… there is much Wisdom in Kindness.
©Savvy Raj
Your Circle
A young entrepreneur I know, just does not seem to have the time or patience to listen to the employees. She says how can she find time to run the company if she has to hear them all…
Well it’s actually valid as her company has more than hundreds of people.
I have had many things to say about the issues, worries and problems that are of concern, but as her friend and confidante too, it is somewhat very challenging to get the messages across all the time.
Here I share a few of my observations as suggestions that may work for holistic development of any organisation.
It is very important…
To know your circle of people.
Those who work with you
Those who work for you.
To show genuine care & understanding.
Genuine appreciation and acknowledging people for their work without favouritism makes a huge difference.
In return
You as a leader understand much more
Of what motivates them
Or challenges them
And you begin to create
Possible ways to make a meaningful difference
And grow together.
And if by chance you sense a lack of common purpose
You know you need to be ready to draw a line,
And let them go, if need be.
But all the same it’s important to be aware of, and connect with your circle of people well.
What do you think?
©Savvy Raj
Wisdom of the Way
Learn the form, but seek the formless. Hear the soundless. Learn it all, then forget it all.Learn The Way, then find your own way.
The silent monk from the Forbidden kingdom
I love this wisdom of The Way
In trying to control
You realize in time
You never can have it all
In fact the more you try to do
You realize how unbalanced you are.
To find balance
You meet stillness in the listening
For it vibrates it’s own music.
Hear in silence and you sense it.
You don’t need to try too hard
What is meant to be found appears.
You don’t need to overstretch
You simply need to ease in to connect deeply.
©Savvy Raj
Light & Dark
A Painting By Savvy Raj
Light is only light as long as you can see it.
Else there at most the anticipation of light.
What you see as light
Is your choice
For it is your point of view
But if light is a sense
Of the tingling warmth
Or scorching heat
Or the tenderness of touch
Light is sensed in its glow
Then light is a feeling
In the sensing
Of its so called attributes
Associated by you.
Then it’s your point of sense
What you see
What you feel
What you sense
Is a dance of illusions
Of the perception
All within you!
So is light light?
And is dark dark at all?
It is all in you!
Cont’d
©Savvy Raj
How to find true freedom?
Freeing the body
Is to move without fear
Freeing the mind
Is to move beyond doubts
Freeing the heart
Is to hope beyond despair
Freeing the spirit
Is to sense the light in every now
Freeing the soul
Is to align to the purpose of being.
To find the flow
To free up space within
Is to let go resentment
Of trials and errors
Of judgements and assumptions
Freeing your breath
Is to sense life dance
In this now.
©Savvy Raj
Purpose of learning
The learning is introduced
In the reading or telling
The learning is beginning
In the teaching & watching
The learning is supported
In the coaching & mentoring
But the learning actually happens
In the involving & engaging.
And the learning is reinforced
In its applications and sharing.
Learning is a dance
Of the heart & mind
But when the spirit & soul
Connect in the learning
The purpose finds its path…
Savvy Raj
Bridge of Faith
Dare to leap
The leap of faith
For faith builds the bridge
A bridge built on preparation
To bridge the journey of life
Prepare to strengthen the bridge
Towards Success
©Savvy Raj
Coaching tips
As a life coach my experiences over the years with my clients comes with many learnings. As each life is unique and so are their circumstances. To get any further into coaching it’s important to understand where they are and for them to acknowledge it
Creating a safe space is a prerequisite.
There is a simple yet
empowering and activity that
can be used… Its called ‘What
makes my heart sing?
It is a powerful exploration
into what brings them joy and
fulfilment, it helps create safe
and supportive and active
listening space by building
trust
It’s quite simple to facilitate
Begin with introduction to
explain the activity. Ask them
to reflect on life moments, they
felt in a flow state or felt truly
alive_and iovful.
Then as a life coach you help
facilitate how these
experiences are interconnected
to their values and discuss
how they can begin to
incorporate more of this into
their lives
And finally also help them
create an action plan towards
the same.
©Savvy Raj
3 tips to adapt to unexpected Career changes.
Thoughts, make an impactful
difference. Choosing to think
positively makes dealing with
transitions, and adapting to the
changes easier
If you experience unexpected
challenging changes in your
career.
It’s good to acknowledge three
things
One, that it is a new
opportunity for new learnings
Welcome the possibilities.
Two, you can begin to apply
your unique combination of
skills and knowledge from your
previous experiences and bring
a fresh perspective wherever
you are. Explore your potential.
Three, that if things seem
difficult at first, you are paving
the road to resilience. Keep the
faith and stay patient .Times
change. Persevere
When you think of life in
plusses, every turn becomes a
beautiful path..
Savvy Raj 
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